Dysmophia: The Circus Mirror

Today I had an amazing opportunity to share, coach, and start supporting some amazing survivors of sex trafficking with my “You are more than your body!” workshop series.

Yes, you read that correct! These women were used and abused in ways that many of us can’t possibly imagine.

One of the many challenges they face and are needing to heal from is how they see themselves. How they see their body.

These women…more than anyone is at risk of dysmorphia…their bodies were treated as objects of use and abuse that they are at greater of this mental disorder.

But they are not the only ones at risk!

anyone is…

Did you know 1 in 50 women AND men have Dysmorphia?!

Tomorrow join me in Facebook at noon central to learn more about how Dysmorphia effects a person and what it looks like. Plus my personal journey with it!

Hope to see you tomorrow on Facebook!

Have an amazing evening and many blessings dear one!

Hugs and prayers always,

Kelly

September: Love equals Self-Care

I’ve been reflecting this weekend on what September has in store for me! There are sooo many amazing things I’m planning and have scheduled.

For starters, next week I will be providing a 4 part workshop series for women who have been rescued from sex trafficking. I have modified my “I am Enough” presentations to address their specific needs.

I am beyond thrilled to have been asked to come in and present and love on these ladies with empowerment tools like journaling, eft, and oils.

But we are also going to be digging into the deep stuff of healthy relationships with our body and food and even our mind. We will address topics like eating disorders, dysmorphia, orthorexia, and more. We will talk about how when our sexuality has been used and abuse how that effects us emotionally and why we are more susceptible to these mental disorders.

This has been interesting for me because it means I have to put myself back into the thick of when I felt my weakest and how I felt. It has me having to really dig into the dark parts of my mental disconnects and realize even some areas that well…..weren’t as healed as I thought.

But that’s also the amazing thing about this… it has me continually working on my healing so I can be that light and guide of hope and healing.

As I have been preparing…I realized even though I’ve done various workshops and presentations in the past on these topics I’ve never done an on-line event with it. And I need to….not just for me but for those who want to do private healing through some of this.

Sometimes we aren’t ready to be that open and vulnerable in a group of others….it needs to happen eventually…but it’s ok to give yourself grace to heal in your way….in your time….and with God loving you the entire time.

I will announce the date of the on-line mini-retreat soon.

But to give you a sneak peak of what to expect it’s a 4 part series/event:

1. The story of our body: how and why we are made.

  • Our stories
  • Healing, hope, health

2. The gift of self care through:

  • Baths, walks, massage
  • Podcasts, books, journaling
  • High vibration food and sleep

3. The Mirror: Saying I Love You!

  • Mental disconnects like eating disorders, dysmorphia, addictions
  • Emotions, hormones, what does this all mean? What are the roots?

4. Emotions: acknowledge, embrace, release, rewrite…

  • Understanding how all of the above are important.
  • How eft and essential oils support this healing journey.

I can’t wait to release the date and further details!!!

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Are you open and ready to start this amazing hope and healing journey with your health?

Are you open and ready to start you’re transformation?

Are you open and ready to start your self care this September?!

Reach out…message me….contact me on Facebook through messenger…..or email kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com comment and share below…..let’s connect!

I’m here waiting….I’m holding space for you….I’m praying for you…..because I know your are worth it…..I know you’re enough!

The question is do you know it?!

Hugs and prayers always!

Kelly

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The Gift of the Assumption

She said yes!

She said she was enough!

She lived a life that the was the best version of herself!

She was MARY! The amazing mother of Christ!

Today as Catholics we celebrate the feast of her Assumption into heaven.

Years ago it was also the day we selected to baptize our beautiful baby girl to dedicate her and wrap her into Mary’s mantle. Ironically it was also my husbands birth moms birthday.

My prayer is as life in the Catholic Church is in an upheaval of pain once again, that we turn to Mary for healing and hope.

A mother wraps her arms around us and holds us when we are sad, when we are angry, when we want to give up.

A mommy says, “It will be okay…..we will get through this…”

And a mommy even gets angry and weeps with us but reminds us of the compassion and mercy and forgiveness that needs to be given to all!

I head out the door to celebrate mass with my beautiful daughter knowing God has it! Our prayers are the most important. And our not giving up when evil tries so desperately to overcome this world.

May you each find the joy of the Assumption today instead of the pain of the fall….

May you each find the oil and tapping that will support your prayer and pain….

And may we all be united in hope and healing!

My hugs and prayers always!

Kelly

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How often do you say you are enough?!

How often do you truly live your authentic life?!

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Back on Track…

I’ve been so very aware of how beautiful and grown up my daughter is and looks recently.  I think it is because she is the age I was when I started dating and when I started to really make choices that mucky-ed the water between the moments that were true abuse and the moments that were choices because of the abuses.

Yet I have such peace because I know with my entire being that no matter what life throws at me or at her GOD IS BIGGER than it all.  So I truly don’t walk in fear anymore of anything!

I am able to truly experience the gift of JOY even in the midst of anything!

The next chapter of my book is the turning point of the story…..I MET MY AMAZING HUSBAND!  Oh there were still abuses that unfortunately took place for several more years….but now I had hope.  Hope that it would all end!

May this chapter provide healing and hope for you with your past abuses, traumas!

Many blessings and prayers always my dear one!!

Kelly 🙂

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CHAPTER 9:  A LIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DARKNESS

I was 18 when I met my husband.  We met shortly after I had completed boot camp.  I laugh to this day when I share the story of how upset I was with God for having introduced him to me so young.  I had plans.  I had my check off list of all I needed to do and accomplish before I was to meet the man I was to marry.  But really when I look back at it, I was hiding from the possibility of a true relationship.  I pretty much was at a place in life where I really wanted nothing more to do with men.  I had actually only started to have a glimpse during boot camp of sexual harassment and pressures, but enough to pretty much decide I really wanted NOTHING more to do with men.

So when I met my husband and I knew he was who God intended for me, I was scared!  Somewhere deep down my spirit knew it meant I was going to have to do some internal work and I wasn’t ready for it.   The work started even earlier than I could have imagined.   My darling husband and I connected with deep conversations pretty early on.  We felt free to talk and debate just about everything.  So it wasn’t too surprising to me when he asked me about my 1st sexual experience.   When I described it to him, he is the one who validated I had been raped. It was freeing to hear it out loud what I thought was true but there was so much confusion within me that I just didn’t know.  I had so much shame and hurt.

He was the beginning of ME feeling whole and feeling cherished and protected, but it came with baggage as well.  I felt I had to prove I wasn’t broken goods; that he wasn’t going to be saddled with someone who couldn’t be a wife in all manners.  So once again I allowed boundaries to be crossed.  Now since he was not raised the same way I was about faith and waiting for marriage to experience certain things crossing boundaries was not an issue for him.  He was the first man I said yes to.  I knowingly crossed the line before marriage. And it created yet another layer of shame and fear.

Even though I had met my husband at 18 it didn’t mean I was all of a sudden free from abuse and pain.  Between the ages of 18-22 I experienced probably some of the most overt of sexual harassments, looks, and comments.  The unwritten rule in the military, at least what I was taught as a woman by other women, was to not create issues or ripples unless you were truly raped, touched, or groped you were to take it  and deal with it.  Yes they had sexual harassment policies put into place but it truly felt like a he said/she said type of situation.   So even though these were some of my worst years of experiencing sexual harassment they were also my best years because I had my husband.  No I didn’t share with him all I dealt with, mostly because I didn’t fully understand the extent of it.  By this point in my life I was so numbed to this type of treatment I usually brushed it off.  Or so I thought I was brushing it off.

Has your past experiences left you feeling fearful, hopeless, and rigid?

Let’s take a look at the blend of: Peppermint, Lemon, Orange

Peppermint:   When sexual harassment becomes something your body thinks is “normal” or can’t change, it can difficult to give into fear, to feel intense pain, to feel heavy hearted.  Peppermint reminds us we do have the strength to face emotional pain.  However we must not over use it to escape from the pain, we must process the emotions so we can open our hearts to optimism and hope.

Lemon: Joy is foreign to a person who has trauma to process.  It’s easy to get lost in despair and hopelessness when your body has been used and abused.  Lemon not only opens us up to feel joy again but creates a clarity to focus on the Light of our life experiences rather than the dark.

Wild Orange:  It can be easy to become rigid and lack a sense of humor after sexual harassment.  Walls can go up wondering if every joke, every hug, has a double or underlying meaning.  Wild Orange reminds us we can be playful, we can be spontaneous.  Not every hug or joke is tainted.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, open my heart to not view every experience as the potential of something bad….remind that when I am with my husband I can be free, I can enjoy myself, I can experience our intimate relationship without fear….AMEN!

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Truth & Trust = Hope & Healing

I’ve been having some symptoms with my physical health coming up recently but hey has been well….frustrating the daylights out of me!

So yesterday I was praying and asking God: what do I need to be doing? What oils have I not thought of? What emotion having I not tapped on? What have I not addressed?!

He gave me part of the answer yesterday but then told me wait….

I was like ugh…how long do I have to wait!!!!!

Then this morning as I was doing my morning prayers, reading the daily readings and gospel…..I open my email and see which two oils are the BOGO….and I about weeped with joy and peace.

Because HE knew that these were the two I literally needed!

We all want to hurry along healing but as many years as there is of hurts pains and trauma we have that many years of emotions to clear out. This doesn’t mean we stay stuck in the muck.

It means we are patient and loving to ourselves. It means we give ourselves grace. It means we walk with the truth that our yoke May feel heavy but His burden is light!

Soooo…

I got a bit well…personal… on my personal Facebook page today…lol…

I did this because…..

If there is anyone who you think can use this message of hope and healing through sexual trauma please share this and pass it along!

Maybe you know someone who could really use the encouragement and reminder of how beautifully wonderfully made they are!

Let’s spread hope and healing….because that is the way we are going to take our true health back. That is how we are going to connect our physical and emotional health and watch the fireworks of our health skyrocket!

Click this video to uncover the lies behind our sexual huts and traumas!

Are you open to start? Go to my.doterra.com/kellyfrick or private message me on Facebook at Kelly Frick: Connect or email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com

And in this video I talk about the physical and emotional connection of Frankincense and Jasmine for our liver health!

Yes our liver health! We hold anger in our liver! When we have trauma….we have anger! We must cleanse that out!

Let’s heal! Let’s spread hope! Let’s shine! Let’s be the best version of ourselves so we can be the intentional disciples God created us to be!!!

What is holding you back from your healing?

Sit…pray…..write….tap….and oil up!

Then let’s talk! I want to serve and bless you on this journey!!

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Many hugs, blessings, and prayers….ALWAYS!!!

Kelly 🤗💧💜

THE WHEELS ON THE BUS

Come Holy Spirit fill the hearts of your faithful!

This last Sunday was Pentecost !  The disciples had locked themselves in the upper room for 10 days in prayer and anticipation for the Holy Spirit….their ADVOCATE….to come and be with them as they went out to bring Jesus’s teachings to ALL THE WORLD!

I’ve been really reflecting even more so recently on the word ADVOCATE.  I love how the Holy Spirit IS described as our advocate: ONE WHO SUPPORTS!  As a doTERRA ADVOCATE that is EXACTLY WHAT WE ARE CALLED TO BE: A SUPPORT!  We are to walk side by side and guide, coach, and teach others how to support their health the way God intended us to in a whole body way, with HIS gifts.  It’s truly why I LOVE doing what I do…..because at no time do I, as a coach, (or doTERRA for that matter) say that these oils are the end all be all…..but they are in cooperation with God’s design, plan.  They SUPPORT us in life’s physical and emotional struggles.

As I processed and completed through many chapters of my book recently, I yes could have done it with God alone, but I am grateful He has gifted me with the oils to support my humanness so I don’t have to try to lean on my will….so I can remember His WILL BE DONE!  These oils ALWAYS lead me back to HIM.  JUST LIKE THE HOLY SPIRIT ALWAYS LEADS US BACK TO JESUS AND THE FATHER!

Today’s chapter was a memory that I recall always being in the background of my mind but never clear, it had been suppressed for many years but through one of my Splankna sessions last year I discovered how much it had effected some of my lack of self love and self care.

May my journey bring peace and awareness on your own journey of healing and hope!

Many blessings and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

chapter 4

 

Chapter 4:

THE WHEELS ON THE BUS

I grew up in a very small down of around 1000 people at the time.  To make it even more interesting that was the town I went to school and my parents had their business but we actually lived out in the country, the foothills of the mountains.  This was about a 15-20 minute drive from home to town, but by bus it was about an hour.  The school bus picked me and my brother up every morning at 6:30 or 6:45.

It was a given fact that the older you were the farther in the bus you were allowed to sit.  So when you’re 10 you didn’t have to sit way in the front and you were able to sit closer to the middle.  This meant you were able to sit closer to the “cool kids” aka: high schoolers.  At least that’s what I thought because they had all the interesting conversations.  They had the cool clothes.  They were just fun to listen to and watch.

There was one girl who had an older brother, so he sat in the back and she always was privy to the inside conversation.  I wanted to get to know them because I thought their house was cool and different whenever I saw it on the school route.

This girl was my age and we started to sit together to make the time go by faster.  We talked about school, friends, her brother and much more.  She was different, they (her and her brother) were different.  The more time I spent with her the more I realized there was something off about them.  But I didn’t really know how to put my finger on it, or what it was, after all I was only 10 when I met her and started to really get to know her that particular school year.

What I do remember is something weird happened one time on the bus that I don’t know how to fully explain how it even came about.  It makes me think of a frog in a boiling pot.  You know the saying that a frog if plunged into a pot of boiling water it would jump, but if you have it in water and gradually increase the water temperature it will adjust and eventually be boiled to death…..well parts of me have over the years wonder if that’s what was happening.  If my sense of curiosity with this girl and her brother and wanting to always know the scoop of what the “big kids” were doing and saying that I don’t even know how it came about where I remember one day sitting in the school bus seat and the next thing I know she was touching me in ways that I was NOT comfortable with.  I remember thinking how did we get here?  Was it because we always caught glimpses of the older kids making out and doing things very much in the public and scandalizing all of us.  Was this girl’s brother doing things with her that he shouldn’t be and this was her acting out?

All I know was I truly didn’t understand why she was touching me in places and in ways that was not natural or normal for our age, let alone being the same sex.  I once again froze.  I couldn’t get home fast enough.  I wanted to wash this experience out of my brain for forever.

I never sat with her again on the school bus.  I remember the next day her waving me to the seat to sit with her and me purposely sitting up in the very front seat with the 6 year olds right behind the bus driver.  I didn’t want to be near the cool kids anymore.

Have you ever had an experience where you felt powerless, dishonored, and muddled?  That’s how I felt!

GINGER, GRAPEFRUIT, and PEPPERMINT:  Let’s take a look at how these three oils can bring back a person’s power, honor, and relief.

Ginger: This oil helps us take responsibility of knowing we are not powerless.  We may not have control over other people’s actions toward us but we don’t have to sit with a victim mentality.  We can gain power but taking actions to prevent it from happening again.

Grapefruit:  When a person has been violated, scandalized, shamed….there is a tendency to want to dishonor our body….to starve it, abuse it, or even hide behind food.  Grapefruit encourages us to have integrity and to truly love our body, no matter what.

Peppermint:  Our mind and our heart sometimes need a break from the pain of memories.  We are to not live in fear.  But we need to remember to not hide or escape the work of clearing out the emotional baggage of trauma.  Using peppermint can help us clear out the muddled pain and confusion, give us temporary relief to breath as we process the pain of a trauma or experience that isn’t so comfortable for us.

Create a blend with these three to put into water to enjoy sipping or diffuse 3 drops of each or place a drop of each with fractionated coconut oil to rub on your belly (your solar plexus) and the insides of your elbow, allowing your heart and body to embrace the powerful healing of honoring your body with taking back your power and moving past pain.

Tap as you Pray:

Heavenly father as I experience these oils, help me to bring to surface any experience that is from my past that I have ignored for too long.  An experience I may have tried to hide from, numb the pain, and grant me the strength now to be fully present in this healing, to appreciate my body and not hide it in shame.  Through your healing power I can do this.  I trust in you.  Amen

Inner Beauty: Getting Past Porn

Last week I took a break from writing my book. Why? Because the next chapter is hard…it needed more reflection…it needed me digging deep into how to express the shame that surrounds the topic.

So many of us fall victim of being exposed to pornography at a very young age and then finding ourselves going to it even when we know it’s wrong. Each person who has fallen to it have a different story of why…..but there is a root of hurt, pain, trauma, insecurity…..and so much more!

What so many of us don’t realize is this is not just a mans problem……women who fall victim to it whether full out addiction of months or years, or those who are victims of continual exposure….well these women are hurting, comparing, and trying to figure out why?!

But the enemy gets to win and has us live in shame when we stay quiet and keep our sin in the dark.  So here I share with you the next chapter of the book, addressing how I was first exposed to it and why I continued to go to it from time to time in my life.

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Chapter 3

BROTHERS FRIEND: PERFECT PORN

I was about 8 or 9 years old hanging out with my about 6 or 7 year old brother and his best friend at the time.  We were at this friend’s house. I heard the boys laugh and have a strange look on their face as they came out of the bathroom.  I needed to go the restroom anyways so I went in.  There was the typical things you find in every bathroom including a magazine basket/rack.  Well I quickly realized what had them looking all weird.  There were several magazines in there with women wearing, well nothing.  It was my first time of being introduced to porn.  Of even knowing that there was even such a thing.

I found myself feeling drawn and compelled to continue to flip through the magazine even though I was done going pee.   I knew I shouldn’t be looking at it but I was morbidly curious of trying to figure out why these women were naked for all to see.  And then it started to feed the distorted lie in my mind from my previous experience of being touched and looked at by my friend’s brother as if I wasn’t a person.  And here there was confirmation that I wasn’t a person to be respected but a person to be looked at and used.  And thus began my belief that I had to look like these women to be truly loved.

This wasn’t my only exposer.  As I got older most of my brother’s friends fathers had these magazines.  There were some more intense and graphic than others.  I always found myself feeling morbidly and shamefully drawn to them.  I didn’t, but I did want to look at them.  Why, you might ask?  Why on earth would a girl want to look at other women?   Well: to compare and to judge!

All the while destroying my self-esteem even more.  It started to form in my mind that I must look a certain way to have any respect.  When I looked in the mirror I started to look at myself and compare what I saw from the pictures.  I also had other women in my life that didn’t have great body image health and that fed into me developing the body dysmorphia.

I struggled for years with going on and off to porn.  Why?  Again to judge and compare and feel even less about myself.

I had many boyfriends who even wanted to look at these magazines with me.  They rationalized it was art.  I allowed myself to be put into this situation of being used and abused and objectified.

When the internet became accessible in my late teens, early twenties, I would find myself doing searches when I felt my lowest about myself.  I was able to recognize quickly that when my dysmorphia was at its worst is when I was most vulnerable to be willing to look at porn in order to make myself feel even less about myself.

How did I break this cycle?  I met the man I was to marry.  He cherished me in the right way.  He respected me.  He never made me feel unloved or like I was an object.  Then I discovered when he was with the guys, he would do what guys would do, look at these things.  And I didn’t like it.  I didn’t like the idea that I was going to have to try to live up to what he saw in a magazine.  I let him know it didn’t make me feel cherished.  That was all it took for him.

Then it dawned on me….I wasn’t making my own self feel cherished by looking at these same magazines and comparing myself.  I was not honoring my own self.

This brings us to the oils that can support you during this journey of healing and hope.  What has been your experience and exposure to porn!?  Have you experienced a similar situation, whether at a young age, older, once, twice, over the course of years, you too need healing and hope in this area?  Because this is trauma.  It is trauma to your entire senses.  It is trauma to be exposed to the distortion of the beauty of our bodies.

Oil Blend:  Forgive, Slim & Sassy, Cypress:

Forgive is the renewing blend.  Do you find yourself being critical of yourself?  With Forgive we are able to realize we deserve to be compassionate not only to others but to ourselves.  For the longest time I couldn’t forgive myself for falling into the lie that porn delivers to us: body freedom.  I needed to realize that judging and comparing myself was keeping me locked into anger and cynicism.

Slim & Sassy is about inner beauty.  I had to find self-acceptance.  I needed to learn how to truly embrace my body’s individual beauty.  I needed to quit criticizing and comparing myself.  I needed to find my worth and know that I was truly beautifully and wonderfully made.

Cypress is about Motion and Flow.  So many of us view the women in magazines (porn or other magazines) and expect ourselves to be “perfect”.  We judge ourselves that is the way we are supposed to look.  We fear we are not good enough, pretty enough.  We get stuck in believing these lies.  We must become open to trust that we are loved for us, not our body.  When we flex our limiting beliefs we are able to adapt and flow into the growth of how beautiful we are without the airbrush.

Slim & Sassy is the only one that is great for internal use, but in this situation it is even better with topical and aromatic use.  Cypress and Forgive are topical and aromatic oils.

TOPICAL USE:

Layer these oils on the creases of your elbow and the back of your neck.  Put Cypress first to start the flow of renewal of inner beauty.  Layer forgive next and then Slim & Sassy.

AROMATIC USE:

In a diffuser use 5 drops of each.

One final thought before we end in prayer.  You can also use tapping (EFT) as a way to help release the emotions of the traumas.  Use tapping in mediation, in prayer, or even on the go.  It is a powerful tool God has given to us to support us on this healing journey of hope!

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…every time I look at billboards, magazines, and movies help me to guard my eyes and not compare.  Help me to not feel drawn to seek out looking at the distortions of our beauty through porn found in movies, magazines, websites, or even books (romance books especially!).

I continue to thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  I ask you to shield my eyes and my heart to not seek out these distortions to compare and judge myself.

Dear guardian angel, I beg you to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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SWIMMING in SHAME & ANGER

Isn’t it interesting how when you are working on things…either you have greater revelations or the enemy tries to come down on you!  Anymore when I find myself procrastinating about something I know it’s the enemy not wanting truth out there.  And when I am wrestling with something it is because I feel God’s prompting but I am trying to do it my way…..lol….

This last week was full of amazing graces and gifts….I had some amazing aha moments about business, family, faith, healing….so much.

I was visiting with a dear friend just yesterday and today about how sometimes when a person doesn’t deal with their emotions on something it is because they don’t want to address the emotions because it means they will have to feel those emotions.  And when you think you have already gone through something you don’t want to go through it again.

I have found that in order for me to be truly transparent and authentic with my sharing about this healing and hope through my sexual past of abuses and choices I had to be willing to truly put myself back into that place.  To relive it.  And that’s not fun.

It’s especially not fun for my poor husband, because that means I will be struggling with wanting to be warm and receptive to him.  But…..because of God’s amazing love, Jesus’s amazing mercy, and the Holy Spirits guiding hand I am able to see and understand I don’t have to separate and distance myself.  I can feel all I need to in order to share the fullness with you and still feel all the amazing love I have for myself and my husband….and truly celebrate how far I have come on this journey!

So with that being said….here is the next chapter of this amazing journey of healing and hope :)….

My you be blessed beyond measure….and find amazing hope and healing in your own journey….

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Chapter 2:

SWIMMING WITH SHAME & ANGER:

Do you have moments in your life that are so clear to your mind’s eye?  Moments where the background stuff is fuzzy, blurry, but other details within the same moment are crystal clear, and even seem in slow motion.  That is this memory.

This memory has ALWAYS had those distortions.  And with those distortions the enemy used it to start twisting my feelings of self-worth.

I remember it was summer, I was eight years old, and there were about 6 of us girls.  I can see the house.  It was a friend who lived in town but on the outskirts of town because they had open fields around them.  Her aunt who was her same age lived right next door.  I remember thinking how super cool to have family right next door to you, to go to anytime. I also thought it was kind of neat that her aunt was her same age.  I remember the layout of the house as us girls walked through the house: the living room, through the kitchen, to the den to get to the back yard where the above ground swimming pool was at.

I don’t remember why we were all together that hot summer afternoon.  Was it after bible camp?  Were we all just together just because?  Who knows!?  I do remember this young girls older, teen brother, was home.  As all of us came running into the house giggling and excited that we were going to change to play in the pool, he was there.  I don’t remember why and how he was able to convince us girls we needed help with our bathing suits, but he did and this is where the memories become razor sharp in some areas, slow motion in others, and blurry in the distance.

I remember being in the den my back to this tall young man, the sister off to the front of me as she is grabbing her towel and stuff and giggling with her aunt who is dropping things and grabbing things.  The other 3 girls were already out in the backyard.  I look out to the side and I see laughter and brightness, but it feels so dark and cold in this room.  I remember his hands taking forever to tie the strap at my neck and how his hands just lingered on my neck and back.  I don’t remember if I also had a clasp but I do remember his hands going down my back almost to my waist.

I honestly do not know what or why within me knew it was wrong, that his touch wasn’t a touch of innocence or of helpfulness, but of lust, yet I knew it wasn’t an innocent touch.  Years later during a Splankna session with my dear friend Jennifer I was able to discover that this was probably when one of my first unholy vows that was made.

You might ask: how can an eight year old possible make an unholy vow? The unconscienced mind does many things to protect us.  What I do know is in that moment my innocence was stolen, it was forever altered.  My subconscious stored the fact that there are ways we are looked at and touched that are not holy; that can make us feel uncomfortable.  Ways that are full of lust and not love.  And that we have a choice of speaking up and speaking truth against the distortion, the wrong or we have a choice to remain silent, to shush the prickling gut sensation that is shouting THIS IS WRONG.

But I was eight!!!  And understanding fight, flight, and freeze wasn’t even remotely in my vocabulary of understanding yet.

So what unholy vow did I make?  What did I learn in my Splankna session many years later?

I learned I vowed that no one I loved would EVER feel this way, used and looked at as an object.  And when he slowly turned me around to adjust my straps and to make sure everything was snuggly in place I looked up at him and I saw pure anger and rage.  And that is when I took on his emotions of anger and rage, as well as the transfer emotions of my moms of shame and pain.

Remember we are all connected.  And within that moment all that my spirit and body already knew about my mom, but my brain did not, was absorbed thus my vow was sealed, and I didn’t even know it.

I remember clearly during that Splankna session the realization of having taken on my mom’s pain and shame; and the anger and disgust my spirit saw in that boy.  I was able to realize, as an adult, his anger and disgust was directed at me and himself.  His inner core was angry at robbing this young girl of her innocence and creating confusion for the satisfaction of his lust to just have a touch.

I also remember during that session how amazingly freeing it was to have the root revealed.  Free to release the emotions I had experienced and didn’t understand for so many years. The freedom to understand that I had taken on the emotions of others with my spirit and body.  I had believed the enemies lie that it was my burden to bare and if I NEVER wanted someone I loved to feel the same confusion, shame, pain, and anger I would keep my mouth shut.

This was the beginning of what would become 20 years of more exposures like this but so much worse.  I had no idea what my body and spirit was going to be going through over the course of 20 years, all I did know was: I wasn’t the same.  Yet, at 8 years old I knew something wasn’t right.

This was, also, probably the beginning of when I developed dysmorphia.  Dysmorphia is a brain disconnect of how we view and see ourselves in the mirror.  Dysmorphia is not just a girl wanting and wishing she looks different.  But a true disconnect in the brain from what is viewed in the mirror.  There are many triggers.  The 3 main ones are: 1. a trauma, usually sexual, that takes place at a young age, 2. A mother or female influence in your life that has a dislike/distorted view of their body, and 3. A chemical imbalance of specific hormones that don’t feed the brain the right messages.  I have all three of these triggers.  Which of the 3 came first I do not know, but I do know it is a continual blessing for me to look myself each day in the mirror and renounce the lie the enemy tries to throw out at me.  I have the honor to look myself in the mirror and see past the lies to the truth that God has planted there: I am enough!  I am beautifully wonderfully made.

This brings us to the oils that can support you during this journey of healing and hope.  If you have experienced a similar situation, whether at a young age, older, once, twice, over the course of years, you too need healing and hope through your sexual trauma.  Because this is trauma.  It is trauma to your entire senses.  It is trauma to know something isn’t right and yet feeling you have no control, no power, to do anything about it.

Oil Blend:  Grapefruit, Cilantro, Fennel

Grapefruit is the oil of honoring one’s body.  When a person who has been abused, especially a girl, her view of her body is forever distorted.  She doesn’t look at her body the same again.  It is distorted by the lens of the lust that was projected on her.  She starts judging her body and blaming it for betraying her.  Grapefruit comes in and encourages her to not be cruel to her body through extreme exercising, dieting, and distortions of the truth.

Cilantro is the oil of releasing control.  When we make unholy vows we are saying extremes like: NEVER, EVER, and that’s the window for the enemy to play, because I has us become obsessed or attached to patterns or toxic thinking.  We don’t release the trauma that has been buried deep into our mind, body, heart, soul.  Cilantro releases our mental strain to bring to the light our true self.  We are able to shed the trap of the lies the enemy has been whispering into our ears.

Fennel is the oil of responsibility.  Abuse and trauma is NEVER the fault of the victim, the receiver, but we do have responsibility of how it dictates our life.  We can become disconnected to our natural signals.  Weakened sense of self and a lack of passion for life.  Fennel reminds us to not go to food to numb the pain, or to go to extremes, such as, eating disorders to “disappear” because we want to hide in shame.

These oils are all great for internal (I only advocate internal use with doTERRA oils), topically, and aromatically.

INTERNALLY USE:

Each of these are great in water or culinary dishes.  A drop of Grapefruit and Fennel make a wonderful refreshing water.  A drop of Cilantro is great in guacamole or in a salad dressing.

TOPICAL USE:

Place one drop of each in your palm with some fractionated coconut oil.  Rub together cup your hands together, bring to your nose and inhale a deep breath.  Experience the scents together.  Feel them enter into your cells, your mind, and your spirit. Do this 3 times.  I always like putting the remainder of the oils on the bottom of my feet and on any body part I feel is holding onto negative emotions that day.  Usually I know this by what body part I feel drawn to rub the oils on.  Examples would be my adrenals, my heart, my thyroid and even my breasts.

AROMATIC USE:

In a diffuser use one drop of Cilantro, 5 of Grapefruit, 1-3 of Fennel.

One final thought before we end in prayer.  You can also use tapping (EFT) as a way to help release the emotions of the traumas.  Use tapping in mediation, in prayer, or even on the go.  It is a powerful tool God has given to us to support us on this healing journey of hope!

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…every time someone in my past has looked at me or touched me in lust rather than love…..I release them from my pain, my hurt, my anger.  By releasing them I am opening myself up to greater healing….I am opening myself up to release the trauma that has been buried with in my very soul. Through opening myself up to forgiveness I am reconnecting myself to be passionate about life.  I am taking responsibility of NOT let this trauma, abuse, experience to dictate my take and love of life.

I continue to thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  And when I look into the mirror and only see the lies the enemy tries to sell me, I thank you for the Holy Spirit’s constant vigilance in encouraging me and revealing the truth to me.

I end this prayer with asking my guardian angel to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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Anger: God or Sin?

Anger can sometimes be a huge motivator.  We are not talking about the vengeful anger that is driven by sin….but the anger that is actually from God.  The anger that has us pause and want to have a voice for the innocent within this world.  The anger that turns us to not be silent about grave wrongs and injustices.

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God has pressed upon my heart for many years to write a book.  But He didn’t give me direction.  I trusted that my not starting it wasn’t because I wasn’t motivated or lazy it was because I didn’t have its purpose, its passion, laid out yet.

Then last month He revealed to me EXACTLY the outline…..even got the introduction written.  I realized that He had been fine tuning me, disciplining me in showing up to write through this blog.  He also showed me how many blog writers end up taking part of what they have written over the years to turn into a book.  As well as many bloggers purposefully using their blog to be their “first draft” of their book to fine tune and get it to the final piece of art.

Needless to say I wasn’t fully heeding His words about the using this blog to fine tune my book….I was still trying to live in my will of thinking I needed to work on this book on the side, while writing here different yet similar content.

Then 2 things happened this week:

  1. Realizing that in a way, you all are my accountability partners of making sure I get this message of Hope and Healing out there.

And….

  1. A horrible evil took place to someone I dearly love that saddened my heart so severely that I found myself weeping for almost 24 hours off and on…..and I still find myself weeping….

But now…..I’m angry!  I am angry the way God wants me to be…..angry to take action.

So what does taking action mean for me:  Using my voice to share MY STORY!

My story of sexual brokenness and distortion through my abuses, rapes, and own choices.  By me being silent and not getting off my butt to write this book I am as the quote goes…. “the only way for evil to conquer (win) is for good men to do nothing….”  Or something like that…..I am terrible with quotes :)…..

So starting next week…..and who knows how often, but I am convicted to share with you each week a chapter of the book….so a chapter maybe spread out through several days…..I am not sure yet…..I guess it just depends on how long each chapter is.  Since I have the introduction already written I will probably start with that next week…..

But I do know there will be life stuff going on in the middle of things I will want to still share so I will probably post those in-between as well…..and I will distinguish in the title or in the first line which it is…..but my focus will be the book and getting this message out there for women to be empowered!

With that……

Do you know someone who has been hurt, abused, raped…..the innocence of their sexuality distorted and used for evil?  If so…..please share with them this blog to help them walk through the healing process.  Encourage them to find help: professional, spiritual, personal.  Be an ear for them!  And don’t ask too many questions….just be that rock for them….and get them to talk to you…to someone!

Please have an amazingly blessed day.  And when you find GOD convicting you about something, feeling anger toward an evil, don’t let it become a sin, instead let it become your motivation to be the change of HOPE in this world!

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

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