How’s your Love Tank!?

My darling daughter asked me this question a few weeks ago….”How’s your Love Tank?”

I have raised her on many concepts but one of them is being in touch with how we give and receive love…..ie: our Love Languages.  If you don’t know much about the 5 Love Languages you must check out Gary Chapman’s books….website.…everything by him!

Anyways….back on track…lol….

I realized…yes she was genuinely asking about me…..BUT she was also giving me a hint that HERS wasn’t doing so great!!!

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I was able to reflect and realize that since we had set some pretty amazing financial goals as a family for 2019……well I had been cutting corners in lots of ways…..and excited about all we had accomplished already in January…..BUT….

The problem was……

My daughters TOP…..we are talking HIGH SCORING……top Love Language is: GIFTS!!!

Now some may have a misconception that those who have GIFTS as their number one love language are materialist or they need big things…..or lots of things…..

nope….

what they need are those random…..unexpected….truly ‘thought of them’ sort of things…..

That means when I am doing my grocery shopping and I see a treat I KNOW SHE WOULD LOVE…..I should throw it into my cart…..

It means when I am at the office store and I see a silly sticky note pad that I know she would just light up about……I SHOULD GRAB IT….

These things added up would amount to truly only a few bucks a week…..

BUT I became too focused on our 2019 financial goals….and being purposefully intentional to get our new year off to an amazing start that I overlooked the fact that I went from doing little things like that each week to NOTHING…..for almost 4 weeks…..

You might ask: WHAT THE HECK DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH!?

Since our true full picture health is: mind, body, soul, spirit connected…..WELL….

IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH…..AND IT HAD EVERYTHING TO DO WITH MY DAUGHTERS HEALTH!

When our love tank is filled up….we are more resilient to our mental chatter…..

We are able to think clearer about our physical choices.  Things like higher vibration food…..movement and exercise that makes us feel alive.  Better sleep…..less stress…..a better armor to physical, environmental, and emotional toxins.

And these all feed into each other….it becomes a cycle of worthiness….a cycle of what we think….we do….it forms our choices….forms our belief system….and then feeds back into our thinking.

Now sometimes we have to be purposeful in our food, exercise, and sleep choices to help our mental thought process….sometimes we have to just DO IT…..so our mind can be helped….

But can you see how it is a cycle of which came first:  the better lifestyle choices or the better thinking…..that improved our health!?  I think its a combination of both….

Yesterday I shared a video on just that…..worthiness….mindfulness:

I was super proud of her boldness….and willing to be vulnerable…..to reach out and in a gentle way let me know she was feeling depleted…..especially with all the other pressures going on in her sweet young life!

We corrected it…..had some super fun spontaneous shopping days….of really just going and being together and having tea……grabbing a few goofy things from the dollar section of a few select stores…..and just filling each other up!

I also didn’t forget yesterday when I was grocery shopping to make sure and grab this cute little container with some chocolates in it…..she loves chocolate…and she loves little containers…cost me $2….so worth filling up her love tank!!

So my question for you is: Have you noticed a loved one who has been acting a bit different…..maybe not quite themselves….and you can’t quite figure out why?

Maybe their LOVE TANK needs to be filled!  Maybe their love tank is feeling a bit depleted.

Need some help figuring it out?

Here are some suggestions….

If a persons primary love language is words….and they seem to be more sensitive to your comments or suggestions recently…..it could be that you haven’t been giving specific encouragement recently to them.  You either have just made a general compliment or have just kept conversation at a minimal.

***Try diffusing Lavender to create calm connected communication.

If a persons primary love language is time……and they start complaining you guys don’t do anything together….or acts like you are rejecting them when they make a suggestion to do something….then they are needing some serious one-on-one time……give them some true uninterrupted eye contact…..a walk…a cuddle on the couch.

***Try diffusing Ylang Ylang…sometimes we take life too serious and we need to connect with our inner child to take TIME to truly connect with our playfulness.

If a persons primary love language is service…..and they start really acting irritated about the condition of the house….or displeasure of things not being done for them….then they need to be poured into by asking what task you can help them with….what would help them best that day….actions speak very loudly to this person.

***Try diffusing Motivate to connect with the desire to serve one another well.

If a persons primary love language is touch….now we are NOT talking sexual touch….this is totally affirming non-sexual touch…..cuddles, hugs, holding…..ironically if your loved one normally is the one who reaches out for hugs and cuddles but has been resisting, pulling away, or becoming clingy then their love tank needs some filling up.  Just so much as pausing in the middle of going about your routine can do wonders….grabbing them by the hands pausing and looking deeply into their eyes and say “can you use a hug?!….I would love to give you a hug!”  It expresses to that person your respect for permission to enter their space as well as your desire to fill up their tank.

***Try diffusing Passion to create that warm connection with each other.

And if you persons primary love language is gifts….and they start acting like they never get anything….or get what they want….seem pouty and you want to respond back, “do you know how fortunate you are?  How many other people, children would give to be in your shoes?  How many people go without?”…..PAUSE….DON’T SAY THESE THINGS…..because they aren’t trying to be selfish…heck they aren’t being selfish…..they truly just need to be filled up….and it can be as simple as something as having them pick out a plant….or bring home that little something you saw them eyeballing a few weeks ago….or surprising them with fries (a sure winner to my daughters heart!! lol)

***Try diffusing Frankincense to connect with the ultimate gift giving of Christ.

As always….take a moment to sit….pray…tap and oil up….

Many blessings and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

PS….

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PPS…

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Breathe into Protection

Today we take a break from our usual deep emotional 😭 connections of our health 😍!

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Instead we dive into some fun gift 🎁 making and giving 🎄ideas with OnGuard and Breathe!

And actually self care ideas (If you love the gift making ideas so much you want to make extra for yourself 🤗💧💜)!

Today’s BOGO is OnGuard/Breathe is for today only: Monday November 19, 2018!

Want them? Don’t hesitate to reach out to me today!

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These two oils are an amazing 😉 defense and offense for your health and wellness care!!

As always remember to…..

Pray….journal….tap….and oil up!

Many blessings and hugs always,

Kelly 

Balance: Retreat & Restore

“The soul loves moderation in all things. Whenever the human body lacks measure, and eat and drinks or something like that unbalances it, the powers of the soul are wounded… So in all things let people maintain a proper balance”

– Hildegard of Bingen

I fell in love with St. Hildegard years ago. I knew she, along with a few other amazing females Saints would be the patron saints of my business and ministry.

I am reflecting tonight on all I am going to grow and learn about as I prepare for an adventure that will take me out of pocket for almost 3 weeks. I can’t wait to share more here.

What I’m especially excited about this adventure is how it is going to allow me to reflect, meditate, pray, and in sort of way retreat to focus on some of my personal and professional goals.

I’m going to take the opportunity to detox my mind, body, and soul. To detox from the clutter and chatter and unnecessary. To get back to simplicity of reflecting on what is truly my why and next steps of being that intentional disciple of life for me, my family, friends, everyone….

What is my why?

How can I make a difference?

One connection at a time.

One life at a time.

One drop at a time!

So I will be silent here for almost 3 weeks and will be back to share all I reflect on by November 3rd!

What is your why?

Do you need to unplug to rebalance your mind, body, soul health?

Blessings,

Kelly 😘

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Holy Spirit: Show Me

The Holy Spirit is our first and number one advocate! The Holy Spirit is the example for us who are coaches, guides, advocates…to be that light and that support…..to never force or impose….only propose and pray!!!

Hope you’ll Join me today on Facebook for an amazing class full of fun and learning!!!

As always have an amazingly blessed day full of hope, healing and health!

And never forget: YOU ARE ENOUGH!

My hugs and prayers always…

Kelly

Disordered: Mind, Body, Spirit

This was probably the hardest chapter to write so far!  Mostly because it is the area in my life that needs the most amount of healing still.  This is because it’s not just about me healing emotionally but because this involves a mental imbalance and it involves generational DNA.

I find it fitting and interesting that just this last week I had a trigger with dysmorphia.  I found myself obsessing, comparing, judging, and so much more.  Which reminded me: its a journey.  I MUST not give up.  I must not get lax.  I must not give into negative vibration.  AND I MUST continue to do the inner work to be the best version of myself to be that intentional disciple for others.

What was my trigger?  Social media selfies of friends.

I want others who don’t understand dysmorphia to maybe take a moment and see through our lenses for a moment and think before you post something.  And this is not just for us but for yourself as well.   Because every time we place ourselves out there to be looked at just for our physical flesh “accomplishments” we are making ourselves vulnerable to be coveted and lusted after.  Plus we are not building up the body of Christ by creating these temptations when we want to just vainly post our aesthetic accomplishments….

But please hear this…..this is not judgement…because I know some amazing people who post these selfies who truly don’t think they are doing harm….they think they are doing good….but let me help you see it from our lenses...

Dysmorphia sees:  I will never be that pretty….I am too fat….I will never be that thin….I am too short….I can’t go out with them because everyone will wonder why do they hang out with “her”…..I am ugly….there is something wrong with me…..I am not lovable….what did he/she mean by that comment?….

The mental chatter can be endless….

Those with dysmorphia do have a responsibility to minimize their triggers….but dear ones you do to!  We all have a responsibility as children of God to not lead anyone into sin….to not lead anyone deeper into their struggles.

So my challenge to you is to truly reflect before you post that selfie: is it going to draw your brothers and sisters in Christ closer to Him? or farther?  Is it going to draw YOU closer to Christ?  Is it helping or hindering your Christ walk?  Is it causing you to focus too much on your flesh and not enough on the spirit of your being?

May you all find this next chapter healing and full of hope….and may what I shared above cause us all to reflect in how we can truly be a better version of ourselves always….especially when it comes to being an intentional disciple!

My love, hugs, and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

chapter 11

CHAPTER 11: DISORDER

After speaking up it felt like I was finally free from being a magnet of sexual harassment and sexual grabs…..but very aware, actually hyper aware,  by this time in my life, the micro-looks of a pure look and a lustful look from ANY man.

I learned how to truly stay away from men, situations, and events that could make me feel vulnerable.  But by this time I was so self-conscience of my body that I still felt the need to “be perfect”  I just knew if I looked a particular way then maybe just maybe I wouldn’t attract the wrong men, I would love myself better, and I would finally find peace and freedom.

What I didn’t know was the years of being objectified had created a mental disconnect with my mind and body called dysmorphia. This actually took place at a young age.  There are many different factors that cause a young girl to develop dysmorphia at a young age.  This IS a mental condition that usually becomes obvious by the teen years.  A side note:  There is a huge difference between a girl just not liking what she sees in the mirror and moves on, versus dysmorphia.  With dysmorphia a girl looks in the mirror and doesn’t like what she sees and will go to extremes to change it.  Even avoid contact with others because she feels she is hideous looking.

I also experienced disordered eating.  Depending on how I felt I would eat to punish or not eat to punish myself.  If I did eat something that I deemed “wrong” or “too much” well then I would work out too much.  You see I wasn’t real keen on the throwing up part.  Don’t get me wrong if I felt I had eaten too too much….I would occasionally force myself to throw up but I knew too much about our health to know that the acid destroys the esophagus and destroys gut health, and so much more.  So my purge of choice was beating myself up at the gym for hours at a time.

Some women because of pain and trauma of sexual abuse hide behind weight I chose to hide behind punishment.  If I could master the chiseled body…the perfect diet…..I would then no longer be a victim of sexual distortions!  And that was the distortion in my own mind, heart and soul!

Do you find yourself obsessing over food? Exercise? Your Body?  Does this obsession take on a life of it’s own in your mind?  Do you sometimes wonder if it’s bigger than you?

Let’s take a look at the blend of: Serenity, Patchouli, Douglas Fir

Serenity:   Disorders….especially dysmorphia has a person’s mind not being quiet, being overactive in the negative chatter.  Serenity brings about tranquility.  It reconnects you with your inner self to find peace within.  It opens you up to acknowledge the imbalance and find space to reflect on your personal healing.

Patchouli:  Plain and simple dysmorphia is about body judgement.  There is such a deep need to find peace to be truly present in your body.  This oil is so amazing in releasing deep issues of judgement and feeling dirty from sexual abuse.  It is the oil of Physicality so it connects your body and spirit to become deeply united.  It opens you up to appreciate the magnificence of your body!

Douglas Fir:  There are many things in a girl’s life that can cause dysmorphia.  One of them is generational.  Having a mom or family member who has dysmorphia increases the likelihood of inheriting it.  Douglas fir is about generational wisdom.  When we have knowledge we can learn from the past.  We can break free from the destructive traditions and behaviors of our families past.  We can bring new life and new growth and healing into our own life as well as to those in our future.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Oh Heavenly Father….I know that I know that I know I AM MORE THAN THIS BODY….this BODY has served me so well….it loves me by holding me, carrying me through the day….breathing for me…beating for me…yet I am mean to it….I look at it and judge it….I compare it…..I hide it in shame…please break me free from the bondage of the past generations who did the same….break me of the pain of my abuse and how I view my body….help me to remember I AM NOT MY BODY…but most of all grant me peace to be truly present in this body and to love it fully as you love it…..AMEN.

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