Fertility Freedom

I struggled with infertility for many years before I was blessed with my wonderful daughter! And even afterwards.

Then I became empowered with understanding so many of the whys and how to thrive.

Even though I’m now past my fertility years I am able to still find amazing power in managing my hormones and understanding the how and why!

Join me today on Facebook as I dig into ways we can truly thrive and appreciate our fertility and hormones!

Black Pepper: The Cross

When we abandon all our vices…our control…our additions to sin, hurt, pain,and shame…we are left with…

His amazing power, love , grace, and mercy!

How can black pepper help you put your heart in His hands today?!

Sit…pray…write…tap…and oil up!

Many blessings always…

Kelly 🙂

***Traveling this weekend has me stepping back and reflecting on the beauty of life even more so than usual! Not taking for granted the little things, as well as humbling myself to His plans and His will always…especially with traveling!

Inner Beauty: Getting Past Porn

Last week I took a break from writing my book. Why? Because the next chapter is hard…it needed more reflection…it needed me digging deep into how to express the shame that surrounds the topic.

So many of us fall victim of being exposed to pornography at a very young age and then finding ourselves going to it even when we know it’s wrong. Each person who has fallen to it have a different story of why…..but there is a root of hurt, pain, trauma, insecurity…..and so much more!

What so many of us don’t realize is this is not just a mans problem……women who fall victim to it whether full out addiction of months or years, or those who are victims of continual exposure….well these women are hurting, comparing, and trying to figure out why?!

But the enemy gets to win and has us live in shame when we stay quiet and keep our sin in the dark.  So here I share with you the next chapter of the book, addressing how I was first exposed to it and why I continued to go to it from time to time in my life.

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Chapter 3

BROTHERS FRIEND: PERFECT PORN

I was about 8 or 9 years old hanging out with my about 6 or 7 year old brother and his best friend at the time.  We were at this friend’s house. I heard the boys laugh and have a strange look on their face as they came out of the bathroom.  I needed to go the restroom anyways so I went in.  There was the typical things you find in every bathroom including a magazine basket/rack.  Well I quickly realized what had them looking all weird.  There were several magazines in there with women wearing, well nothing.  It was my first time of being introduced to porn.  Of even knowing that there was even such a thing.

I found myself feeling drawn and compelled to continue to flip through the magazine even though I was done going pee.   I knew I shouldn’t be looking at it but I was morbidly curious of trying to figure out why these women were naked for all to see.  And then it started to feed the distorted lie in my mind from my previous experience of being touched and looked at by my friend’s brother as if I wasn’t a person.  And here there was confirmation that I wasn’t a person to be respected but a person to be looked at and used.  And thus began my belief that I had to look like these women to be truly loved.

This wasn’t my only exposer.  As I got older most of my brother’s friends fathers had these magazines.  There were some more intense and graphic than others.  I always found myself feeling morbidly and shamefully drawn to them.  I didn’t, but I did want to look at them.  Why, you might ask?  Why on earth would a girl want to look at other women?   Well: to compare and to judge!

All the while destroying my self-esteem even more.  It started to form in my mind that I must look a certain way to have any respect.  When I looked in the mirror I started to look at myself and compare what I saw from the pictures.  I also had other women in my life that didn’t have great body image health and that fed into me developing the body dysmorphia.

I struggled for years with going on and off to porn.  Why?  Again to judge and compare and feel even less about myself.

I had many boyfriends who even wanted to look at these magazines with me.  They rationalized it was art.  I allowed myself to be put into this situation of being used and abused and objectified.

When the internet became accessible in my late teens, early twenties, I would find myself doing searches when I felt my lowest about myself.  I was able to recognize quickly that when my dysmorphia was at its worst is when I was most vulnerable to be willing to look at porn in order to make myself feel even less about myself.

How did I break this cycle?  I met the man I was to marry.  He cherished me in the right way.  He respected me.  He never made me feel unloved or like I was an object.  Then I discovered when he was with the guys, he would do what guys would do, look at these things.  And I didn’t like it.  I didn’t like the idea that I was going to have to try to live up to what he saw in a magazine.  I let him know it didn’t make me feel cherished.  That was all it took for him.

Then it dawned on me….I wasn’t making my own self feel cherished by looking at these same magazines and comparing myself.  I was not honoring my own self.

This brings us to the oils that can support you during this journey of healing and hope.  What has been your experience and exposure to porn!?  Have you experienced a similar situation, whether at a young age, older, once, twice, over the course of years, you too need healing and hope in this area?  Because this is trauma.  It is trauma to your entire senses.  It is trauma to be exposed to the distortion of the beauty of our bodies.

Oil Blend:  Forgive, Slim & Sassy, Cypress:

Forgive is the renewing blend.  Do you find yourself being critical of yourself?  With Forgive we are able to realize we deserve to be compassionate not only to others but to ourselves.  For the longest time I couldn’t forgive myself for falling into the lie that porn delivers to us: body freedom.  I needed to realize that judging and comparing myself was keeping me locked into anger and cynicism.

Slim & Sassy is about inner beauty.  I had to find self-acceptance.  I needed to learn how to truly embrace my body’s individual beauty.  I needed to quit criticizing and comparing myself.  I needed to find my worth and know that I was truly beautifully and wonderfully made.

Cypress is about Motion and Flow.  So many of us view the women in magazines (porn or other magazines) and expect ourselves to be “perfect”.  We judge ourselves that is the way we are supposed to look.  We fear we are not good enough, pretty enough.  We get stuck in believing these lies.  We must become open to trust that we are loved for us, not our body.  When we flex our limiting beliefs we are able to adapt and flow into the growth of how beautiful we are without the airbrush.

Slim & Sassy is the only one that is great for internal use, but in this situation it is even better with topical and aromatic use.  Cypress and Forgive are topical and aromatic oils.

TOPICAL USE:

Layer these oils on the creases of your elbow and the back of your neck.  Put Cypress first to start the flow of renewal of inner beauty.  Layer forgive next and then Slim & Sassy.

AROMATIC USE:

In a diffuser use 5 drops of each.

One final thought before we end in prayer.  You can also use tapping (EFT) as a way to help release the emotions of the traumas.  Use tapping in mediation, in prayer, or even on the go.  It is a powerful tool God has given to us to support us on this healing journey of hope!

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…every time I look at billboards, magazines, and movies help me to guard my eyes and not compare.  Help me to not feel drawn to seek out looking at the distortions of our beauty through porn found in movies, magazines, websites, or even books (romance books especially!).

I continue to thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  I ask you to shield my eyes and my heart to not seek out these distortions to compare and judge myself.

Dear guardian angel, I beg you to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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13 Reasons Why: Hope & Deep Blue

13 REASONS WHY

Have you watched this show!?  I never felt compelled when this show came out to watch it….mostly because I have been disappointed by every Netflix original thus far.  They ALWAYS have content too explicit for my taste.  I absolutely DO NOT like watching sexual scenes. It is such an affront to how beautifully wonderfully made we are.  It objectifies us and reduces GODS beautiful gift to us to something that is deemed as entertainment by the film/tv industry.

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I will try to stay on topic….lol….

I watched this show for 2 reasons:  a friend of my daughters watched it so I thought if I watched it I would have a way to continue to connect with her and have meaningful conversation.  And I knew if anything it would be something to blog about….lol.

Oh my goodness gracious.  I had NO IDEA what I was instore for.

This show rocked my world in a very good way.  Now I am truly not advocating to watch it.  As a matter of fact I think the writers and producers got a lot of things wrong….but I think they did get some things right.

So let’s cover what was wrong first:

Besides the beyond over use of language…..especially F***, it was sexually graphic.  It made me VERY uncomfortable especially the TWO RAPE SCENES!!!

There was NEVER an option or choice of hope portrayed for these kiddos because faith was NEVER mentioned…not even to mock Christianity.

What was right…..and why it rocked my world…

This young girl becomes the target of sexual abuse (touches, pats, leers, groping, comments, and rape) all because of a terrible picture taken in the wrong “light of angling” that portrayed her as “not a good girl”. 

This show was able to eloquently show how continual layers of being treating like a sexual object impacts a person profoundly to finally feel like nothing….to feel unworthy….to feel shame….to freeze in moments when we should fight or flight…..to question our own worth.

It showed how well intended adults sometimes don’t think about their wording and put blame on the victim, which causes even more doubt and shame.

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My best suggestion to parents if they are curious about this show is watch the extra episode which is 30 minutes it explains the show and why they developed it the way they did.  I think these topics are important to address with our kiddos I just think that this show really missed out on the Christian element!

Now… this is why I loved and hated this show….and why it rocked my world.  She was me!  And if it weren’t for my faith….I may have felt the same hopelessness she felt.

By the time I was this girls age I had already endured so many pats, leers, and more that I was numb to it all.  After all the 70’s and 80’s were all about sexual expression, freedom, revolution right!?  So it was believed a girl should feel flattered that men and boys “noticing” her right?!

This show not only provide great research for me but it also provided continual healing.  But I am an adult.  My concern for some young girls who watch this show is it could re-traumatize them or even scandalize them.  But that is just my opinion. And that is for their parents to hopefully get involved and decide if it is something they should watch, watch with them, and discuss especially if their teen has already watched it.

HOPE and DEEP BLUE

It seems like I use the HOPE oil a lot….lol…..but I really love how it can truly lift a person out of feelings of overwhelm, loss, and so much more.  I paired it with DEEP BLUE during this time to soothe the wounds (the flash backs) it was provoking.  I was very grateful to have the support of these 2 oils….and many others!

Have you watched 13 REASONS WHY?

What were your thoughts?

Do you have a similar experience?

Sit….pray….journal…oil up…tap….and connect with me about it!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

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Console my Broken Heart

My heart is breaking.

I had so many things I wanted to share with all of you this Monday.  But I will save them for another day :).   Because there WILL be another day…lol.

Yesterday our parish priest shared how our Bishop is moving him to a different parish because he is needed there.  My heart breaks because we just got here.  I have truly fall in love with this priest in such a short four month period.  When he broke the news yesterday, my eyes welled….and I could barely speak about it during the day.  It created such a deep loss within me.  I went to Console and Bergamot to support me.

It had me pondering WHY!?  Why did I feel such loss?  And then it hit me….I HAD FULLY, VULNERABLY, WILLINGLY, FINALLY LET SOMEONE  INTO MY LIFE WITH NO GUARD, NO HESITATION!!! 

The realization that it hurt so deep was because I truly loved this man and all he has to give to his church, his congregation, with no reservation.  My wounds of past vulnerabilities had truly been healed.  And that gave me great joy.  

Then I had to remind myself to have that Godly detachment.  And again…I had accomplished that as well.  I was able to recognize that we cannot cling to things and people, only God is our true rock…..YET we are to love others with our WHOLE heart, mind, soul….this is not always easy…..right!?  Especially when we are wounded!

YET….I did it!  And that gave me amazing joy and peace!

So when you find yourself clinging to someone or something, reflect on why?  Give it to God.  And when you find yourself feeling great loss, give yourself the grace to to heal and move forward yet remember we must only cling to God!

As always….sit…pray…oil up…and tap through your day!!

Drops of blessings and hugs dear ones!

~Kelly 🙂

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PS…..Last week was abundantly full with my darling daughters theater schedule and this week will be as well due to it being production week, so there will more than likely be only one posting this week, but who knows…lol.  I am also going to stop trying to figure out the right “formula” of when and what to write for you all because that’s not being true to me, thus not true to you all!  But more about that soon ;)……Til then….

Have an amazingly blessed week!

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DEFINING MOMENTS

Sexual Traumas

Infertility

Miscarriages

Grandmother’s Death

Autoimmunity Issues

These all have been my focus to empower women to:

LOVE THEMSELVES

TO BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES

TO CARE FOR THEMSELVES

I finished a book recently that is a unique….a totally different way of looking at Hashimoto’s.  Most of the books out there approach it from the nutritional and lifestyle aspect of it.  There are some really great ones out there.  But NONE of them came from the aspect of healing from traumas.  Reading this book was like reading bits and pieces of my own life.  And you know what…..there is actually some studies out there showing the correlation…..basically what so many of us who have been diagnosed with Hashimoto’s have…..we are all connected in some common topics.  Topics like personality, traumas, etc.  I found this beyond fascinating.

But the one connection that compelled me the most was the correlation to sexual trauma.  There is a HUGE statistic showing this to be in the history of  most Hashimoto’s cases.

So when you hear sexual trauma what do you think!?

Rape….molestation…..harassment…..trafficking…..we think the really ugly obvious evils of it!  But what about the pat on the butt from a family member.  The too long linger of hands down a back from a “friend”.  The hug that presses in, in such a way that you feel like you need a shower.  What about the boyfriend convincing you that there is something wrong with you if you don’t do “some” things in the relationship.  What about the date who says you please me or I will take you home.  What about the generational abuse or sin you didn’t even know about that your spirit knew and was absorbing.

A sexual trauma is an affront on our true sexuality….how we were made and created to be!

The beauty of our sexuality has been under fire…..under attack from day one….literally….Adam and Eve.   Because of that we don’t see how the subtle “little things” really are lies….they ARE big things.

I remember so many moments in my life that I KNEW within me I was being “sexually assaulted” but the world viewed as just harmless pats, or humor, or part of the “real world”…..those are lies!  Because for every lie I believed led to me keeping my voice quiet…which led to what many view as “real rape”…..but rape is an assault on our sexuality.  Which let me to not loving myself…..and not making so great of choices…..which led to greater shame….which left me vulnerable to further sexual assaults….sexual traumas…..

Which brings me back to WOW…..if this beautiful little butterfly organ sitting on my vocal cords is trying to make a noise it must be for a reason!  How many women are afraid to speak up and even about a lude joke out of fear of offending someone or being considered a prude?!  I was one of those.  And that is wrong….we must stand up and say NO to any sexual offense.  And we know what they are!

So my defining moments of my health journey is definetly linked ot my history of sexual traumas and choices over the span of 20 years and I KNOW it is related to my health.  My beautiful butterfly finally said: enough….I will not be quiet anymore…..enough of the shame…..enough of the neglect….enough of the silence……

And thus my beautiful butterfly spoke: through my body….so my spirit could be heard and heal!

What is your butterfly saying to you!?

Sit…pray…write…oil up…tap…

Hugs and blessings dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Forgiveness {love}

There was a time in my past when I made a choice to allow words….hurt feelings…..to come between me and God!

How?

Because of how I internalized a conversation and allowed the negative lies to spin I chose to drink many many glasses of wine throughout the day.  Even knowing it would effect my health….even knowing it would prevent me from getting to Mass!

Now I could have stayed in that pain….those lies…and beat myself up even more with shame….and more lies from the Enemy….instead I picked myself up.  I turned to my amazing loving FATHER and asked for forgiveness….which I knew He already gave me….and I forgave myself.  That was the biggie!

In the past I would have taken it to confession but would have still beat myself up over it.  Well that is allowing the enemy to win.  He wants us to forget that our heavenly FATHER forgives us…..loves us….has open arms for us.  You see when we stay stuck in our own shame, hurt, pain….then we repeat the action, the sin, the negative…..and we create more shame…more hurt….more pain….and then we believe the lie that we are not redeemable!  AND WE ARE!!!

Next time you find yourself beating yourself up over:  too much spending, overeating, missing church, too much drinking…..STOP…..give it directly to GOD…..confess to it…..be honest out loud to yourself and to God……and CONNECT to HIS AMAZING LOVE AND GRACE!!!

Sit…pray…write…oil up…tap it away…

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

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