The Gift of the Assumption

She said yes!

She said she was enough!

She lived a life that the was the best version of herself!

She was MARY! The amazing mother of Christ!

Today as Catholics we celebrate the feast of her Assumption into heaven.

Years ago it was also the day we selected to baptize our beautiful baby girl to dedicate her and wrap her into Mary’s mantle. Ironically it was also my husbands birth moms birthday.

My prayer is as life in the Catholic Church is in an upheaval of pain once again, that we turn to Mary for healing and hope.

A mother wraps her arms around us and holds us when we are sad, when we are angry, when we want to give up.

A mommy says, “It will be okay…..we will get through this…”

And a mommy even gets angry and weeps with us but reminds us of the compassion and mercy and forgiveness that needs to be given to all!

I head out the door to celebrate mass with my beautiful daughter knowing God has it! Our prayers are the most important. And our not giving up when evil tries so desperately to overcome this world.

May you each find the joy of the Assumption today instead of the pain of the fall….

May you each find the oil and tapping that will support your prayer and pain….

And may we all be united in hope and healing!

My hugs and prayers always!

Kelly

PS…..

How often do you say yes to you?!

How often do you say you are enough?!

How often do you truly live your authentic life?!

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Disordered: Mind, Body, Spirit

This was probably the hardest chapter to write so far!  Mostly because it is the area in my life that needs the most amount of healing still.  This is because it’s not just about me healing emotionally but because this involves a mental imbalance and it involves generational DNA.

I find it fitting and interesting that just this last week I had a trigger with dysmorphia.  I found myself obsessing, comparing, judging, and so much more.  Which reminded me: its a journey.  I MUST not give up.  I must not get lax.  I must not give into negative vibration.  AND I MUST continue to do the inner work to be the best version of myself to be that intentional disciple for others.

What was my trigger?  Social media selfies of friends.

I want others who don’t understand dysmorphia to maybe take a moment and see through our lenses for a moment and think before you post something.  And this is not just for us but for yourself as well.   Because every time we place ourselves out there to be looked at just for our physical flesh “accomplishments” we are making ourselves vulnerable to be coveted and lusted after.  Plus we are not building up the body of Christ by creating these temptations when we want to just vainly post our aesthetic accomplishments….

But please hear this…..this is not judgement…because I know some amazing people who post these selfies who truly don’t think they are doing harm….they think they are doing good….but let me help you see it from our lenses...

Dysmorphia sees:  I will never be that pretty….I am too fat….I will never be that thin….I am too short….I can’t go out with them because everyone will wonder why do they hang out with “her”…..I am ugly….there is something wrong with me…..I am not lovable….what did he/she mean by that comment?….

The mental chatter can be endless….

Those with dysmorphia do have a responsibility to minimize their triggers….but dear ones you do to!  We all have a responsibility as children of God to not lead anyone into sin….to not lead anyone deeper into their struggles.

So my challenge to you is to truly reflect before you post that selfie: is it going to draw your brothers and sisters in Christ closer to Him? or farther?  Is it going to draw YOU closer to Christ?  Is it helping or hindering your Christ walk?  Is it causing you to focus too much on your flesh and not enough on the spirit of your being?

May you all find this next chapter healing and full of hope….and may what I shared above cause us all to reflect in how we can truly be a better version of ourselves always….especially when it comes to being an intentional disciple!

My love, hugs, and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

chapter 11

CHAPTER 11: DISORDER

After speaking up it felt like I was finally free from being a magnet of sexual harassment and sexual grabs…..but very aware, actually hyper aware,  by this time in my life, the micro-looks of a pure look and a lustful look from ANY man.

I learned how to truly stay away from men, situations, and events that could make me feel vulnerable.  But by this time I was so self-conscience of my body that I still felt the need to “be perfect”  I just knew if I looked a particular way then maybe just maybe I wouldn’t attract the wrong men, I would love myself better, and I would finally find peace and freedom.

What I didn’t know was the years of being objectified had created a mental disconnect with my mind and body called dysmorphia. This actually took place at a young age.  There are many different factors that cause a young girl to develop dysmorphia at a young age.  This IS a mental condition that usually becomes obvious by the teen years.  A side note:  There is a huge difference between a girl just not liking what she sees in the mirror and moves on, versus dysmorphia.  With dysmorphia a girl looks in the mirror and doesn’t like what she sees and will go to extremes to change it.  Even avoid contact with others because she feels she is hideous looking.

I also experienced disordered eating.  Depending on how I felt I would eat to punish or not eat to punish myself.  If I did eat something that I deemed “wrong” or “too much” well then I would work out too much.  You see I wasn’t real keen on the throwing up part.  Don’t get me wrong if I felt I had eaten too too much….I would occasionally force myself to throw up but I knew too much about our health to know that the acid destroys the esophagus and destroys gut health, and so much more.  So my purge of choice was beating myself up at the gym for hours at a time.

Some women because of pain and trauma of sexual abuse hide behind weight I chose to hide behind punishment.  If I could master the chiseled body…the perfect diet…..I would then no longer be a victim of sexual distortions!  And that was the distortion in my own mind, heart and soul!

Do you find yourself obsessing over food? Exercise? Your Body?  Does this obsession take on a life of it’s own in your mind?  Do you sometimes wonder if it’s bigger than you?

Let’s take a look at the blend of: Serenity, Patchouli, Douglas Fir

Serenity:   Disorders….especially dysmorphia has a person’s mind not being quiet, being overactive in the negative chatter.  Serenity brings about tranquility.  It reconnects you with your inner self to find peace within.  It opens you up to acknowledge the imbalance and find space to reflect on your personal healing.

Patchouli:  Plain and simple dysmorphia is about body judgement.  There is such a deep need to find peace to be truly present in your body.  This oil is so amazing in releasing deep issues of judgement and feeling dirty from sexual abuse.  It is the oil of Physicality so it connects your body and spirit to become deeply united.  It opens you up to appreciate the magnificence of your body!

Douglas Fir:  There are many things in a girl’s life that can cause dysmorphia.  One of them is generational.  Having a mom or family member who has dysmorphia increases the likelihood of inheriting it.  Douglas fir is about generational wisdom.  When we have knowledge we can learn from the past.  We can break free from the destructive traditions and behaviors of our families past.  We can bring new life and new growth and healing into our own life as well as to those in our future.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Oh Heavenly Father….I know that I know that I know I AM MORE THAN THIS BODY….this BODY has served me so well….it loves me by holding me, carrying me through the day….breathing for me…beating for me…yet I am mean to it….I look at it and judge it….I compare it…..I hide it in shame…please break me free from the bondage of the past generations who did the same….break me of the pain of my abuse and how I view my body….help me to remember I AM NOT MY BODY…but most of all grant me peace to be truly present in this body and to love it fully as you love it…..AMEN.

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Truth & Trust = Hope & Healing

I’ve been having some symptoms with my physical health coming up recently but hey has been well….frustrating the daylights out of me!

So yesterday I was praying and asking God: what do I need to be doing? What oils have I not thought of? What emotion having I not tapped on? What have I not addressed?!

He gave me part of the answer yesterday but then told me wait….

I was like ugh…how long do I have to wait!!!!!

Then this morning as I was doing my morning prayers, reading the daily readings and gospel…..I open my email and see which two oils are the BOGO….and I about weeped with joy and peace.

Because HE knew that these were the two I literally needed!

We all want to hurry along healing but as many years as there is of hurts pains and trauma we have that many years of emotions to clear out. This doesn’t mean we stay stuck in the muck.

It means we are patient and loving to ourselves. It means we give ourselves grace. It means we walk with the truth that our yoke May feel heavy but His burden is light!

Soooo…

I got a bit well…personal… on my personal Facebook page today…lol…

I did this because…..

If there is anyone who you think can use this message of hope and healing through sexual trauma please share this and pass it along!

Maybe you know someone who could really use the encouragement and reminder of how beautifully wonderfully made they are!

Let’s spread hope and healing….because that is the way we are going to take our true health back. That is how we are going to connect our physical and emotional health and watch the fireworks of our health skyrocket!

Click this video to uncover the lies behind our sexual huts and traumas!

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And in this video I talk about the physical and emotional connection of Frankincense and Jasmine for our liver health!

Yes our liver health! We hold anger in our liver! When we have trauma….we have anger! We must cleanse that out!

Let’s heal! Let’s spread hope! Let’s shine! Let’s be the best version of ourselves so we can be the intentional disciples God created us to be!!!

What is holding you back from your healing?

Sit…pray…..write….tap….and oil up!

Then let’s talk! I want to serve and bless you on this journey!!

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Many hugs, blessings, and prayers….ALWAYS!!!

Kelly 🤗💧💜

Hope or Hurt?!

God is sooooo amazing!  I’m not a typical blogger….I don’t schedule things out….I loosely write down what I want to share….but I let the holy spirit lead me.

And it’s been the same way with writing this book as well.  I have purposed myself to show up each week to write a bit more between all else I am writing and doing.  So I didn’t schedule out or know when this chapter would fall….and it is just further confirmation on how beautiful God’s healing power is when we live in HIS WILL versus our will.  Because this chapter has fallen on its anniversary.  He has revealed to me the next layer of healing that is so profound and amazing.  I shouldn’t be surprised anymore when things like this happen…because they happen all the time to me…..and I’m not so much surprised as I am just in awe as HIS AMAZING GRACE OF HEALING AND HOPE!

May this chapter provide healing and hope for you with your past abuses, traumas!

Many blessings and prayers always my dear one!!

Kelly 🙂

chapter 8

CHAPTER 8: NEW HOPE OR MORE HURT

NEW BOYFRIEND/NEW HOPE:…..It was my senior year, boyfriend #2 was graduated and for the most part: out of the picture.  Besides there was a new boy in town.  He was a year younger than me but he was intriguing.  He was an artist, more sensitive, and had a magnetism that I found alluring.  As I got to know him it didn’t matter to me that he did drugs.  After all it was only pot and a little bit of acid. What harm could that really be, right?!  I rationalized this was what made him so creative and good with his art.   It didn’t matter he was into porn.  He was able to convince me that it was only another form of “art” and that there was beauty in the magazines.  I fell for it!!!  I was so confused on boundaries at this point in my life because after all I wasn’t having sexual intercourse so surely I was still a virgin, therefore I couldn’t possibly be doing anything wrong.   I didn’t know how to talk to my parents because really they didn’t know how to talk to me about the beauty of our sexuality.  They didn’t have TOB (Theology of the Body) to teach me.

This new boyfriend was good to me when he wasn’t high. He was tender and loving, when he wasn’t high.  I thought this was a good thing.  It was when he was high or trying to make a score that things weren’t always smooth.  One time I got in trouble and yelled at for his pot blowing away while we were out at a park.  The very next day was when I felt I couldn’t say no when he decided to push the boundaries past what we had set.  And he wasn’t going to take no for an answer after all I owed him for his pot blowing away.  Now at this point in life I couldn’t discern if it was or wasn’t rape because after all I was broken goods.

Has your past experiences made you feel like “broken” goods?  Made you feel like since you’ve allowed certain boundaries to be crossed you don’t have a right to say no to the next boundary?!

Let’s take a look at the blend of: SPEARMINT, GINGER, CITRUS BLISS

SPEARMINT: when a person has been raped there is a very deep need to have courage to speak up.  To make a stand against the wrong that was done to them.  There is a need for clarity and conviction in speaking up for themselves.

GINGER: rape can cause a victim mentality that can paralyze a person into hiding.  Ginger releases the warrior within you to address the limiting belief that you are a victim.

CITRUS BLISS: When your body has been used and violated there is a strong temptation to give up on truly living.  We need to restore our confidence, live abundantly, find the magic in living again.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, lead me to scripture that reminds me that I AM NOT A VICTIM…..I HAVE A VOICE…..AND THIS LIFE IS MAGICAL BECAUSE YOU CREATED IT FOR ME!  I know that your word, the bible, is your personal love letters to us and that it is where I can go for peace, hope, healing…..today I will let you lead me to the words that are going to help me on this journey.  In your most precious love and mercy…thank you….AMEN!

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Sabotaging Self-Love

When was a time in my past I truly felt comfortable in my own skin? Didn’t feel shame from traumas and choices?

Have I ever NOT compared myself?

What are the causes/roots?

These are all questions I really dug into about a year ago on my healing journey.  As I was connecting the pieces to the beautiful puzzle of me, I have had to realize…..this journey is ALWAYS….it will ALWAYS BE WORK…..and that’s ok!

Because I am willing to work on connecting my body-spirit health I am able to recognize all the times in the past when I was sabotaging my healing.  When I was sabotaging self-love.  When I was believing the lies of shame and ugliness.

So here is something to reflect on when you have said you were going to do something…make a change (lose weight, stop drinking, spend less, avoid sugar, be patient….the list goes on)…..and you find yourself “failing”….I want you to think about who doesn’t want you to succeed?

Who wants you to continue to sabotage your healing…..your connected health?

Then take it to God….tap with HIM about it!  Renounce the lies of the enemy and find GODS AMAZING HEALING LOVE!

Sit…pray….write…oil up…tap….share….

Hugs and blessings dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 😉

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{Weight} Stop

I don’t weigh myself!  I shared this fact last week.  So why do I not weigh myself (anymore)!?

The last time I did was in February; and it had been about 6 months before that.  It was the most unloving thing I had done in a long time.  I had felt “bullied” into doing it.  My darling husband didn’t realize his suggestion of me weighing myself for my health journey to track my thyroid health was actually a terrible idea.  He thought it would be helpful if I knew a reference point.  But he didn’t realize how much of a trigger weighing myself is for the dysmorphia.

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I have found freedom and a sort of kinship to two other amazing women who have created a voice to empower other women.  BeautyBeyondBone (blogger) and Maddy Moon (blogger, podcast-er, personal development coach).  They both provide amazing inspiration and hope to women all over within their given gifts and talents.

They have each shared in the past how they know they don’t want to weigh themselves.  They realize how destructive it is for them in their self-love.  I am there.  I have not seen a conventional/traditional doc in so long that I haven’t had to be weighed.   Now I feel empowered and strong enough to know how I would handle the institution if a doc asks me to get on a scale.

I will first ask if it is necessary.  I will be upfront about the dysmorphia and would rather not be weighed.  If they feel it is necessary I will let them know I will only be weighed if I step on it backwards and I don’t want to see the number nor be told the number.

I AM MORE THAN THAT NUMBER!!!

Some may say well then you haven’t overcome!?  Are you really free!?  But this is the thing…..when we KNOW ourselves and we continue to journey on our living in God’s will we learn even more about ourselves.  Because of the fall we all have an area (or two or more) in our life where we struggle, where  we need to be vigilant.  I am free from the pain and burden of dysmorphia because I DO AVOID TRIGGERS.  I am aware of what could be potential triggers and I don’t tempt the line.

Do you struggle with the number you see on the scale?

Stop weighing your value or worth based on the number you see on the scale.  God doesn’t care about that number and neither should you.

Sit with this…..pray about it….journal about it….

Let’s oil up and tap about this!

Using grapefruit essential oil:  diffuse or put on your pressure points or even on your tapping fingers…..however you feel grapefruit is going to be most supportive. This is the oil of honoring your body.

Now start your set up:

Karate chop spot: Even though I feel anxious about my weight (or fill in what it is about the scale or your weight that you feel most emotional about, be as specific as possible), I completely and totally love and accept myself. (3 times)

Let your heart guide you through the sequence tapping words of bringing to surface the emotions of it.

When I have checked in after 5 rounds, whenever I tap, I like to do a round of tapping thanking God.  So I may end with something like, “Thank you Lord for how beautifully wonderfully made I am!”

Many blessings, prayers, and hugs dear beloved ones!

~Kelly 🙂

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Terrific {Triggers}

I was reading an email the other week from Dr. Isabelle Wentz.  She was sharing about her healing journey.  It use to be difficult for her to look at pictures of herself being too thin while she was getting to the root cause of her Hoshimoto’s.

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It was interesting for me because for the longest time the opposite was true for me.  My thyroid storm didn’t just trigger my genes for the Hashimoto’s it became a trigger for my dysmorphia.  Something I had worked really hard to put into its own “remission”.   It was brought back into full force.

It had taken me years to finally not believe the lies the enemy was whispering in my ear about me not being beautiful and worthy, of not being skinny enough, not strong enough, not muscular enough.  He played on my wounds and shame from being sexually victimized a large part of my childhood into my early adult years.

I thought I had broken free from the lies but then when my thyroid storm took place and my body dropped down to 97 pounds I couldn’t be happier,or so I thought.  I had to get really honest with myself when I was first on my true healing journey.  I was able to remember when I was 97 pounds thinking “ooo maybe I can get to 95….maybe 90.”  What the heck?!

So when I went to my friend, a nutrition coach to help me figure out why I couldn’t sleep, why I was so tired, why some days I was sleeping 12-14 hours, why I was putting on weight, and why I felt crazy.  I knew I wasn’t really wanting to solve the problem of all the symptoms.  I just wanted to be 97 pounds again.

I remember early in my healing from Hashimoto’s journey, I would get so frustrated and think, “Well hell if I  am going to have symptoms I would would rather feel like crap at 97 pounds versus feeling like crap at 117 or 125 pounds.”

I actually don’t know what my weight is today and that is a story I will save for next week :)….

I have clarity now when I see my healthy vibrant body.  I see what it has gone through.  And how much it has healed: mind, body, soul, spirit.  My body deserves my love and respect.

I have been reading an amazing book: “You’re Not Crazy And You’re Not Alone: Losing the Victim, Finding Your Sense of Humor, and Learning to Love Yourself Through Hashimoto’s”, by Stacey Robbins.  A quote that really resonates with me today is:  “I care more about my adrenals now than the size of my thighs!”

That is so true.

Do I still get triggers!?  Absolutely.  The enemy doesn’t rest.  He desires for me to turn away from God and how better to try to do that than to take my past traumas, twist it into a mental disconnect, twist it with a thyroid condition, and try to convince me that I am not beautiful just as I am.

But now when I have a trigger I stop, renounce the lie and fill myself with the Holy Spirits strength.  I find the Essential Oil that relates to the emotions I am feeling and I then practice EFT, tapping.  I tap it away!

I give thanks to God for all these amazing gifts He has provide for me, for all of us, to help us learn how to continually battle the enemy.

Now, when I see a woman with legs that I may find myself coveting (whether super thin or beautifully thick and chiseled) I stop and bless her.  Then renounce, oil up, and tap.

On Saturday I’ll share a self care routine of oils and tapping.  How to help support yourself through triggers.  Until then reflect on what are your triggers?

How can you support yourself to not give into the lies?  Sit with it….pray about it….journal about it…..share with me about it!

Many blessings and hugs always dear beloved ones!

Kelly 🙂

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Self Love with Breathe

Breathe in how beautifully….wonderfully made you are!

Did you know that when you are struggling with letting go of grief and pain you are feeling unloved!  And self love is sometimes the hardest to find.

Why?

We hold on to:

  • sadness
  • grief
  • despair
  • distrust

Today I challenge you to to find the courage to be fully open to:

  • embrace life
  • care for yourself
  • love yourself

How can you BREATHE in how amazingly beautiful and wonderful you are?  How can you  BREATHE in LOVE OF SELF today?!

Sit with this…..pray about it….journal about it….share and connect with me in the comments below!!!

Blessings and hugs dear followers…family…friends…

~Kelly 🙂

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Self Love with Lavender

Do you ever feel:

  • Unlovable?
  • Unimportant?
  • Unheard?
  • Rejected?
  • Fear of being yourself?!?

Why are we so cruel to ourselves?  Why do we not love ourselves to see how amazing we are!?  Why do we not see how important we are?!  Why do we even reject ourselves?!  And why oh why do we fear being ourselves?!

I love how Lavender Essential Oil supports all these and so much more!  When I use Lavender I am reminded to relax and see I am important.  I am able to remember that my voice must be heard.  I am able to look in the mirror and remember: YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEAR!!

How do you need to love yourself better with Lavender?! Using your voice? Being yourself? Knowing you’re important?

Sit with this….pray about this….write about this….share/connect with me below in the comments!

Many blessings dear followers…friends….family….

~Kelly 😉

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