How’s your Love Tank!?

My darling daughter asked me this question a few weeks ago….”How’s your Love Tank?”

I have raised her on many concepts but one of them is being in touch with how we give and receive love…..ie: our Love Languages.  If you don’t know much about the 5 Love Languages you must check out Gary Chapman’s books….website.…everything by him!

Anyways….back on track…lol….

I realized…yes she was genuinely asking about me…..BUT she was also giving me a hint that HERS wasn’t doing so great!!!

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I was able to reflect and realize that since we had set some pretty amazing financial goals as a family for 2019……well I had been cutting corners in lots of ways…..and excited about all we had accomplished already in January…..BUT….

The problem was……

My daughters TOP…..we are talking HIGH SCORING……top Love Language is: GIFTS!!!

Now some may have a misconception that those who have GIFTS as their number one love language are materialist or they need big things…..or lots of things…..

nope….

what they need are those random…..unexpected….truly ‘thought of them’ sort of things…..

That means when I am doing my grocery shopping and I see a treat I KNOW SHE WOULD LOVE…..I should throw it into my cart…..

It means when I am at the office store and I see a silly sticky note pad that I know she would just light up about……I SHOULD GRAB IT….

These things added up would amount to truly only a few bucks a week…..

BUT I became too focused on our 2019 financial goals….and being purposefully intentional to get our new year off to an amazing start that I overlooked the fact that I went from doing little things like that each week to NOTHING…..for almost 4 weeks…..

You might ask: WHAT THE HECK DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH!?

Since our true full picture health is: mind, body, soul, spirit connected…..WELL….

IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH…..AND IT HAD EVERYTHING TO DO WITH MY DAUGHTERS HEALTH!

When our love tank is filled up….we are more resilient to our mental chatter…..

We are able to think clearer about our physical choices.  Things like higher vibration food…..movement and exercise that makes us feel alive.  Better sleep…..less stress…..a better armor to physical, environmental, and emotional toxins.

And these all feed into each other….it becomes a cycle of worthiness….a cycle of what we think….we do….it forms our choices….forms our belief system….and then feeds back into our thinking.

Now sometimes we have to be purposeful in our food, exercise, and sleep choices to help our mental thought process….sometimes we have to just DO IT…..so our mind can be helped….

But can you see how it is a cycle of which came first:  the better lifestyle choices or the better thinking…..that improved our health!?  I think its a combination of both….

Yesterday I shared a video on just that…..worthiness….mindfulness:

I was super proud of her boldness….and willing to be vulnerable…..to reach out and in a gentle way let me know she was feeling depleted…..especially with all the other pressures going on in her sweet young life!

We corrected it…..had some super fun spontaneous shopping days….of really just going and being together and having tea……grabbing a few goofy things from the dollar section of a few select stores…..and just filling each other up!

I also didn’t forget yesterday when I was grocery shopping to make sure and grab this cute little container with some chocolates in it…..she loves chocolate…and she loves little containers…cost me $2….so worth filling up her love tank!!

So my question for you is: Have you noticed a loved one who has been acting a bit different…..maybe not quite themselves….and you can’t quite figure out why?

Maybe their LOVE TANK needs to be filled!  Maybe their love tank is feeling a bit depleted.

Need some help figuring it out?

Here are some suggestions….

If a persons primary love language is words….and they seem to be more sensitive to your comments or suggestions recently…..it could be that you haven’t been giving specific encouragement recently to them.  You either have just made a general compliment or have just kept conversation at a minimal.

***Try diffusing Lavender to create calm connected communication.

If a persons primary love language is time……and they start complaining you guys don’t do anything together….or acts like you are rejecting them when they make a suggestion to do something….then they are needing some serious one-on-one time……give them some true uninterrupted eye contact…..a walk…a cuddle on the couch.

***Try diffusing Ylang Ylang…sometimes we take life too serious and we need to connect with our inner child to take TIME to truly connect with our playfulness.

If a persons primary love language is service…..and they start really acting irritated about the condition of the house….or displeasure of things not being done for them….then they need to be poured into by asking what task you can help them with….what would help them best that day….actions speak very loudly to this person.

***Try diffusing Motivate to connect with the desire to serve one another well.

If a persons primary love language is touch….now we are NOT talking sexual touch….this is totally affirming non-sexual touch…..cuddles, hugs, holding…..ironically if your loved one normally is the one who reaches out for hugs and cuddles but has been resisting, pulling away, or becoming clingy then their love tank needs some filling up.  Just so much as pausing in the middle of going about your routine can do wonders….grabbing them by the hands pausing and looking deeply into their eyes and say “can you use a hug?!….I would love to give you a hug!”  It expresses to that person your respect for permission to enter their space as well as your desire to fill up their tank.

***Try diffusing Passion to create that warm connection with each other.

And if you persons primary love language is gifts….and they start acting like they never get anything….or get what they want….seem pouty and you want to respond back, “do you know how fortunate you are?  How many other people, children would give to be in your shoes?  How many people go without?”…..PAUSE….DON’T SAY THESE THINGS…..because they aren’t trying to be selfish…heck they aren’t being selfish…..they truly just need to be filled up….and it can be as simple as something as having them pick out a plant….or bring home that little something you saw them eyeballing a few weeks ago….or surprising them with fries (a sure winner to my daughters heart!! lol)

***Try diffusing Frankincense to connect with the ultimate gift giving of Christ.

As always….take a moment to sit….pray…tap and oil up….

Many blessings and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

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Perfect {Parenting}

NOT!!!

Let’s just get that out of the way…..there is not one of us that is perfect at parenting…at anything!

I soooo struggle with being a parent sometimes.  Add to it that I homeschool….I doubt myself ALL the time…..what get’s me through it?

I know it is all LIES!  When I am connecting to God each and every day……throughout my day always…..I KNOW AND SEE the lies the enemy is trying to feed me!

I recently had a battle with once again doubting I was enough for my daughter when it came to her education.  Some suggestions were made and I found myself getting defensive.  But since I have been doing so much inner healing work I was able to recognize the two fold prong the enemy was trying to get to me with.

He was using a person I struggle with.  A beautiful amazing person who never ever says words of praise to me.  Now since my primary love language is WORDS I have to remind myself all the time that not everyone realizes and knows how to use words constructively.  Add to it this amazing person and I haven’t always had the greatest of a relationship.  It has been rocky but I know because of God we are at a much better place than ever before.

So the 2nd prong was the topic of homeschooling.   I hope you are seeing the same thing I was able to recognize.  The storm of hurt and doubt the enemy was trying to brew.  And it almost worked.  After the conversation I wanted to think: why am I not enough for this person, why can’t I EVER receive a compliment of what I have done with my daughter and her education.  Why….why….why….

But I stopped……I saw what he was doing.  He wanted me to create a spiritual disconnect with this person.  To undo all the work we have done.  I was able to see that I still had my own work to do within me…..in KNOWING I AM ENOUGH!  God commissioned me to be my daughter’s mom…..and HE KNOWS I AM ENOUGH!!

Today unfold the lies the enemy has been feeding you about your abilities, your relationships….and sweep him out…..take it to God……let HIM redeem the wounds.  Don’t allow the lies to wound you anymore and don’t let the lies wound your connection to others!

This is definitely something to sit with….pray about….journal about…go to the oils to help you connect to your emotions you are feeling and tap about it to release the negative energy….finally share about it…..whether here or with someone you trust.  Darkness can not live in the light!

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

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