Fertility Freedom

I struggled with infertility for many years before I was blessed with my wonderful daughter! And even afterwards.

Then I became empowered with understanding so many of the whys and how to thrive.

Even though I’m now past my fertility years I am able to still find amazing power in managing my hormones and understanding the how and why!

Join me today on Facebook as I dig into ways we can truly thrive and appreciate our fertility and hormones!

Black Pepper: The Cross

When we abandon all our vices…our control…our additions to sin, hurt, pain,and shame…we are left with…

His amazing power, love , grace, and mercy!

How can black pepper help you put your heart in His hands today?!

Sit…pray…write…tap…and oil up!

Many blessings always…

Kelly 🙂

***Traveling this weekend has me stepping back and reflecting on the beauty of life even more so than usual! Not taking for granted the little things, as well as humbling myself to His plans and His will always…especially with traveling!

SWIMMING in SHAME & ANGER

Isn’t it interesting how when you are working on things…either you have greater revelations or the enemy tries to come down on you!  Anymore when I find myself procrastinating about something I know it’s the enemy not wanting truth out there.  And when I am wrestling with something it is because I feel God’s prompting but I am trying to do it my way…..lol….

This last week was full of amazing graces and gifts….I had some amazing aha moments about business, family, faith, healing….so much.

I was visiting with a dear friend just yesterday and today about how sometimes when a person doesn’t deal with their emotions on something it is because they don’t want to address the emotions because it means they will have to feel those emotions.  And when you think you have already gone through something you don’t want to go through it again.

I have found that in order for me to be truly transparent and authentic with my sharing about this healing and hope through my sexual past of abuses and choices I had to be willing to truly put myself back into that place.  To relive it.  And that’s not fun.

It’s especially not fun for my poor husband, because that means I will be struggling with wanting to be warm and receptive to him.  But…..because of God’s amazing love, Jesus’s amazing mercy, and the Holy Spirits guiding hand I am able to see and understand I don’t have to separate and distance myself.  I can feel all I need to in order to share the fullness with you and still feel all the amazing love I have for myself and my husband….and truly celebrate how far I have come on this journey!

So with that being said….here is the next chapter of this amazing journey of healing and hope :)….

My you be blessed beyond measure….and find amazing hope and healing in your own journey….

chapter 2 blend

Chapter 2:

SWIMMING WITH SHAME & ANGER:

Do you have moments in your life that are so clear to your mind’s eye?  Moments where the background stuff is fuzzy, blurry, but other details within the same moment are crystal clear, and even seem in slow motion.  That is this memory.

This memory has ALWAYS had those distortions.  And with those distortions the enemy used it to start twisting my feelings of self-worth.

I remember it was summer, I was eight years old, and there were about 6 of us girls.  I can see the house.  It was a friend who lived in town but on the outskirts of town because they had open fields around them.  Her aunt who was her same age lived right next door.  I remember thinking how super cool to have family right next door to you, to go to anytime. I also thought it was kind of neat that her aunt was her same age.  I remember the layout of the house as us girls walked through the house: the living room, through the kitchen, to the den to get to the back yard where the above ground swimming pool was at.

I don’t remember why we were all together that hot summer afternoon.  Was it after bible camp?  Were we all just together just because?  Who knows!?  I do remember this young girls older, teen brother, was home.  As all of us came running into the house giggling and excited that we were going to change to play in the pool, he was there.  I don’t remember why and how he was able to convince us girls we needed help with our bathing suits, but he did and this is where the memories become razor sharp in some areas, slow motion in others, and blurry in the distance.

I remember being in the den my back to this tall young man, the sister off to the front of me as she is grabbing her towel and stuff and giggling with her aunt who is dropping things and grabbing things.  The other 3 girls were already out in the backyard.  I look out to the side and I see laughter and brightness, but it feels so dark and cold in this room.  I remember his hands taking forever to tie the strap at my neck and how his hands just lingered on my neck and back.  I don’t remember if I also had a clasp but I do remember his hands going down my back almost to my waist.

I honestly do not know what or why within me knew it was wrong, that his touch wasn’t a touch of innocence or of helpfulness, but of lust, yet I knew it wasn’t an innocent touch.  Years later during a Splankna session with my dear friend Jennifer I was able to discover that this was probably when one of my first unholy vows that was made.

You might ask: how can an eight year old possible make an unholy vow? The unconscienced mind does many things to protect us.  What I do know is in that moment my innocence was stolen, it was forever altered.  My subconscious stored the fact that there are ways we are looked at and touched that are not holy; that can make us feel uncomfortable.  Ways that are full of lust and not love.  And that we have a choice of speaking up and speaking truth against the distortion, the wrong or we have a choice to remain silent, to shush the prickling gut sensation that is shouting THIS IS WRONG.

But I was eight!!!  And understanding fight, flight, and freeze wasn’t even remotely in my vocabulary of understanding yet.

So what unholy vow did I make?  What did I learn in my Splankna session many years later?

I learned I vowed that no one I loved would EVER feel this way, used and looked at as an object.  And when he slowly turned me around to adjust my straps and to make sure everything was snuggly in place I looked up at him and I saw pure anger and rage.  And that is when I took on his emotions of anger and rage, as well as the transfer emotions of my moms of shame and pain.

Remember we are all connected.  And within that moment all that my spirit and body already knew about my mom, but my brain did not, was absorbed thus my vow was sealed, and I didn’t even know it.

I remember clearly during that Splankna session the realization of having taken on my mom’s pain and shame; and the anger and disgust my spirit saw in that boy.  I was able to realize, as an adult, his anger and disgust was directed at me and himself.  His inner core was angry at robbing this young girl of her innocence and creating confusion for the satisfaction of his lust to just have a touch.

I also remember during that session how amazingly freeing it was to have the root revealed.  Free to release the emotions I had experienced and didn’t understand for so many years. The freedom to understand that I had taken on the emotions of others with my spirit and body.  I had believed the enemies lie that it was my burden to bare and if I NEVER wanted someone I loved to feel the same confusion, shame, pain, and anger I would keep my mouth shut.

This was the beginning of what would become 20 years of more exposures like this but so much worse.  I had no idea what my body and spirit was going to be going through over the course of 20 years, all I did know was: I wasn’t the same.  Yet, at 8 years old I knew something wasn’t right.

This was, also, probably the beginning of when I developed dysmorphia.  Dysmorphia is a brain disconnect of how we view and see ourselves in the mirror.  Dysmorphia is not just a girl wanting and wishing she looks different.  But a true disconnect in the brain from what is viewed in the mirror.  There are many triggers.  The 3 main ones are: 1. a trauma, usually sexual, that takes place at a young age, 2. A mother or female influence in your life that has a dislike/distorted view of their body, and 3. A chemical imbalance of specific hormones that don’t feed the brain the right messages.  I have all three of these triggers.  Which of the 3 came first I do not know, but I do know it is a continual blessing for me to look myself each day in the mirror and renounce the lie the enemy tries to throw out at me.  I have the honor to look myself in the mirror and see past the lies to the truth that God has planted there: I am enough!  I am beautifully wonderfully made.

This brings us to the oils that can support you during this journey of healing and hope.  If you have experienced a similar situation, whether at a young age, older, once, twice, over the course of years, you too need healing and hope through your sexual trauma.  Because this is trauma.  It is trauma to your entire senses.  It is trauma to know something isn’t right and yet feeling you have no control, no power, to do anything about it.

Oil Blend:  Grapefruit, Cilantro, Fennel

Grapefruit is the oil of honoring one’s body.  When a person who has been abused, especially a girl, her view of her body is forever distorted.  She doesn’t look at her body the same again.  It is distorted by the lens of the lust that was projected on her.  She starts judging her body and blaming it for betraying her.  Grapefruit comes in and encourages her to not be cruel to her body through extreme exercising, dieting, and distortions of the truth.

Cilantro is the oil of releasing control.  When we make unholy vows we are saying extremes like: NEVER, EVER, and that’s the window for the enemy to play, because I has us become obsessed or attached to patterns or toxic thinking.  We don’t release the trauma that has been buried deep into our mind, body, heart, soul.  Cilantro releases our mental strain to bring to the light our true self.  We are able to shed the trap of the lies the enemy has been whispering into our ears.

Fennel is the oil of responsibility.  Abuse and trauma is NEVER the fault of the victim, the receiver, but we do have responsibility of how it dictates our life.  We can become disconnected to our natural signals.  Weakened sense of self and a lack of passion for life.  Fennel reminds us to not go to food to numb the pain, or to go to extremes, such as, eating disorders to “disappear” because we want to hide in shame.

These oils are all great for internal (I only advocate internal use with doTERRA oils), topically, and aromatically.

INTERNALLY USE:

Each of these are great in water or culinary dishes.  A drop of Grapefruit and Fennel make a wonderful refreshing water.  A drop of Cilantro is great in guacamole or in a salad dressing.

TOPICAL USE:

Place one drop of each in your palm with some fractionated coconut oil.  Rub together cup your hands together, bring to your nose and inhale a deep breath.  Experience the scents together.  Feel them enter into your cells, your mind, and your spirit. Do this 3 times.  I always like putting the remainder of the oils on the bottom of my feet and on any body part I feel is holding onto negative emotions that day.  Usually I know this by what body part I feel drawn to rub the oils on.  Examples would be my adrenals, my heart, my thyroid and even my breasts.

AROMATIC USE:

In a diffuser use one drop of Cilantro, 5 of Grapefruit, 1-3 of Fennel.

One final thought before we end in prayer.  You can also use tapping (EFT) as a way to help release the emotions of the traumas.  Use tapping in mediation, in prayer, or even on the go.  It is a powerful tool God has given to us to support us on this healing journey of hope!

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…every time someone in my past has looked at me or touched me in lust rather than love…..I release them from my pain, my hurt, my anger.  By releasing them I am opening myself up to greater healing….I am opening myself up to release the trauma that has been buried with in my very soul. Through opening myself up to forgiveness I am reconnecting myself to be passionate about life.  I am taking responsibility of NOT let this trauma, abuse, experience to dictate my take and love of life.

I continue to thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  And when I look into the mirror and only see the lies the enemy tries to sell me, I thank you for the Holy Spirit’s constant vigilance in encouraging me and revealing the truth to me.

I end this prayer with asking my guardian angel to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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“My God, My God…”

I had an “aha” moment as I was sitting down to write some more on my book!

Which by the way….I am sooo sorry I didn’t get a posting out last week!  Lots of amazing life taking place but unfortunately couldn’t sit still enough to share about it! But I will soon….I promise!

March 28 2018

So back to the book….

I was reflecting on my desires to share my story with each chapter.  Within each chapter I will share a wound of my sexual history: an abuse and/or a choice.  The chapter will then also have a bible scripture or saint quote to help anyone with that type of healing as well as an oils blend to support that area in your life….and heck mine!

Which as any writer knows….trying to figure out any order, flow, rhythm with writing….fluidity….well can be a challenge sometimes.  At least for me…..because I have to sometimes see the connections the strands of ideas in my head before I write them down.  There are many times I have written and rewritten things in my head before I even get them down on paper to start the process of 2-10 more edits!

Then it hit me…..that’s what I said this blogging this year was going to be for!  Right!?  I was going to just start spending my mornings writing my book and sharing the parts as they come here on this blog.  And it will all work itself out!

So why oh why have I still hesitated to get it out…..I’ve shared with you parts….pieces…..you all know my heart if you have read any of my blog posts.  So why!?

I think it being holy week is a perfect answer to my why.  Particularly Sunday’s Psalm….  “My God, My God why have you forsaken me!

Now let’s be clear…..I do not feel that way…..anymore!   I never actually felt that way through any of my sexual abuses, I actually felt it was me……my fault…..my flaw that attracted such use and abuse.  For others to see me as an object to be “toyed” with.

BUT…..there have been times as an adult as I have been going through this healing journey that I have had to get real and truly get angry.  Angry for the little girl in me who had her innocence robbed.  Anger and hurt that God didn’t just jump in….after all couldn’t he have?!

By me getting REAL with my emotions….my anger…..my fear….I was FINALLY having a TRUE relationship WITH MY MOST AMAZING GOD!  A God who HAS NOT ABANDONED ME.  A GOD who was right there beside me, holding me, weeping for me, knowing that each of these men were HIS creation just as I was.  They too were made in the image and likeness of Him…..yet they were NOT honoring the temple within them.  They were giving into sin.  They were listening to the whispers of the enemy.  Thus missing the mark of holiness.

Yet….all they need to do is repent and they too can be set free.  Which means I pray they have or do repent.  Because each of them deserve, just as much as I do, to see God in all His amazing glory and beauty up in heaven one day.  To be able to partake in the Feast of the Lamb!

But this is the kicker:  I do not rely on my peace and my healing and my hope to be in their repentance.  I released ALL of them years ago!  I pray for them regularly and have found amazing love in my heart for them.

So this holy week as we enter tomorrow into the Last Supper, Good Friday, Holy Saturday, then Resurrection Sunday (Easter)……

I ask you: What is your cry to the Lord!? 

Have you gotten REAL with Him, just as Jesus did on the cross!?

When you do….then you will TRULY have a relationship….communion….a connection that is profound!

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

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Fear No More…

I’ve been reflecting on WHY have I been PROCRASTINATING about what I said I was going to do two weeks ago…..start having you all be my accountability partners with writing this book…..THAT IS GOING TO BE SUCH A BLESSING for me, for you, for soooo many!

And the realization is….resistance, fear, vulnerability…and so much more!

Sometimes we resist what God is asking of us because the enemy has whispered lies of fear in our heads…..lies like: if you allow yourself to be that transparent you will be vulnerable to hurt, shame, pain, and so much more!  But those are LIES.

Now  recognize it could be as simple as laziness on my part….but I do know last week was super busy for me with my daughters theater stuff….and spring break this week….so I am able to recognize it’s not laziness….and it’s not a matter of not having the time….it was resistance….it was fear….it was realizing, even though I have shared SOOO much about myself to you all and to others….actually putting it into an order and reflecting on it and realizing all the little things I hadn’t remembered until I started to really do this….well it was a lot for me to handle.

THEN….I realized…..I was trying to live in MY WILL…..MY POWER…..and it was GOD who said for me to do this…..SO I NEED TO PLACE THIS IN HIS POWER….HIS WILL….and it will unfold as HE wants it to happen….and the continued healing it will produce will be profound!

Thus with NO FURTHER RESISTANCE….FEAR….OR SHAME….I bring you the INTRODUCTION of my story….the story that will one day….soon….be in a book :)….

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

Introduction

There are 3 profound moments in my life that stick out in my head that have contributed to the healing from my past sexual abuses and choices.

The first one was me driving back and forth to work each day for months listening to Christopher Wests, “Naked without Shame” book.  I had it on CD and I couldn’t get enough of what he was saying.  Even though there was so much of it that was truly beyond my comprehension because this was his very first teachings on theology of the body.  His first attempt to bring St. JPII teachings on how beautifully made we are and how our sexuality should be nurtured, respected, and loved, well it was lofty.  It wasn’t something very digestible.  Yet there was something within me that heard the truth.  There was something inside of me that felt all the shame, pain, hurt, and abuse melting away.  There was a freedom with these words and I wanted to know more.

The second profound moment would come over 10 years later.  A dear friend, Jennifer, asked me if for my Birthday gift she could give me a Splankna session.  She had been sharing with me about this for almost a year but I still didn’t fully grasp what it was.  I understood it had to do with dealing with healing, uncovering memories, etc.  But even after reading the book about it, I still wasn’t real clear on it.  I even had another friend, who is grounded in my faith of Catholicism help me to discern if it was something I should even do.  (More about Splankna in the end notes)  She was skeptical at first, which is what I was counting on, but after reading the book, she even said: it’s Christ centered, there is nothing I see wrong with it.  So I dived in and said yes to a session.

That first session of many many more to come unearthed a wound that I still had from the one time I did use my voice out loud and said NO to a sexual abuse situation and actually said something to others about it.  I really thought I had moved past that one. 

The second profound moment should really be broken into a two-fold because it was the session combined with essential oils that made me a believer.  After the session there were several oils that Jennifer recommended to help the healing process of that wound.  When I used those oils that day and throughout the rest of the week I had the most profound healing experience with the support of the oils in a way I had never felt before.

This is the thing, at that point I had been using essential oils for well over 5 years.  I knew their amazing physical support.  I had experimented with several different brands but I had NEVER experienced what I had experienced emotionally with an oil as I did with these oils.  That’s when I knew this brand (which ironically God had been planting a seed in me through this friend for about a year) was different.  It was truly truly going to provide the support I needed on this journey of healing: mind body soul spirit!

The third profound moment didn’t take nearly as long to experience, I believe it actually only took place about a year later when I attended a Healing the Whole person retreat with a totally different friend.  The second friend mentioned above, had attended this same retreat the year before and it had made such a profound impact on her and her life.  I personally thought I was going to learn more about the retreat and to be a vessel for others.  Oh wow my ignorance and even my silly pride of thinking God wasn’t going to show me exactly why I was there. 

When I first showed up to the retreat as we were checking in and being greeted by the retreat team I am staring straight at a very familiar face.  This was odd to me because I was attending this retreat NOT in the town I lived in at the time.  I was attending it miles and miles and miles away for the whole purpose to have anonymity.  I blog, I present, I do lots of things in the public, I am not afraid to share my life and story but I felt like I was supposed to be somewhere where no one knew me to have this weekend.  Well obviously God had other plans.

Then when I saw some of the other participants who were attending I was convinced I knew why I was supposed to be there.  I am sure at this point God was truly laughing at me.  But also surrounding me with ALL the angels and saints to hold me for the doozy I would feel and experience that weekend.

As the weekend unfolded I started to see clearly why I was there.  I started to see the pain, the anger, the hurt, but most of all the FEAR that the enemy had held me under for more years than I could count.  I had no idea I was so consumed by fear and all the names and colors fear was hiding and masquerading under until this beautiful soul sister, who I knew from my hometown, helped me see it clearly that weekend.

At the end of that weekend when Dr. Bob asked if anyone would like to come up to share any testimony about their experience I felt the Holy Spirit nudge me, I felt Jesus holding my hand, and I heard God say “Bring it to the Light”. 

Those three profound moments, events, gave me the courage to see, hear, feel, and speak the truth: That I had experienced sexual abuse over a span of about 20 years in one form or another.  And that I WAS BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  That my sexuality was to become un-distorted by my traumas.  That I had a right to stare the enemy in the eye and say: no more, you will not feed me anymore lies.

This book is about that journey.  I pray you will join me on this joyous journey.  Because trust me that is what it is.  I am not saying it won’t hurt from time to time, but the freedom to see the mark is too great of a delight to pass up.  To find freedom in your sexuality and heal is so profound that it’s worth some of the growing pains.  Because through that pain you find power.

I tried to figure out how I was to write this for so long.  Then God showed me clearly how to do this.  Each chapter will be dedicated to a specific experience or event that shaped and molded my distorted image of my sexuality.  Experiences that distorted my love for myself.  That distorted how God designed us to be. These will be the main ones that have impacted my self-worth in my head and heart.  It’s not all of them, I am sure, but they are truly the ones that I know layered the development of my distorted love of self and my sexuality.   Within each chapter I will share hope and healing.  I will include Saints, scriptures, and essential oils that can support that particular abuse situation.

Before we begin let’s understand the definition of sexual abuse.  How many of us think of all the horrific things only?  But did you know sexual abuse is: lude looks, sexual harassment, rape, pornography, exposure to sexual content at too early of an age, unwanted touches, unwanted sexual talk, and so much more.  If any of this has happened to you, you have experienced sexual abuse! 

Rest assured this book is not going to be about graphic descriptions of what took place.  It is about providing the right kind of details to create understanding of why any of us need to heal and feel whole from this sort of situation, trauma, and abuse. 

We were made for so much more than glossy prints, for others sexual lustful desires, and selfish acts of take.  A take that can be done physically, emotionally, mentally, and or spiritually.

Finally my greatest desire with this book is bring out the light of truth of what true sexual freedom is.  And to stomp out the lies the enemy whispers in our ears to keep us in the dark.  The lies of shame, the lies that we are dirty, the lies that our bodies are broken.  Be that light with me by using your voice to shout at the mountain top: I WAS MADE FOR MORE.  To shout in a building: I AM BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  And to shout while sitting: MY SEXUALITY IS A GIFT FROM GOD.

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Are you ready to start a whole Hope Healing Health journey?!

When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  

My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick 

There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!

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#Me Too…

I am terrible with keeping up with what’s going on in the media, news, etc….  I have NO IDEA the who what where when why of the #me too.

What I do know is I saw it on a loved ones FB page and I chose to also share it.  After all, I know God has called me to make my life an open book for all.

Anyone who stumbles across my facebook page or here on this blog will learn 3 things about me:

  • I am passionate about empowering women.

  • I share about the connection of traumas and health.

  • I connect essential oils to ALL aspects of life: mind, body, soul, spirit.

 

 

 

I imagine the purpose of the #me too,  is to create awareness….I get it.

BUT….I think the #ME TOO….needs more!  It needs a voice, encouragement, details, action!

What do I mean?

I have learned over the years the more I talk openly about my sexual traumas, abuses, and choices (not every cruel detail, but not so vague as just a ME TOO)…..the more I speak about it… the more I heal.  Each time its a little different, depending on the circumstances, the person, will depend on the detail, the angle I recall.

Every time I am asked to speak at a women’s event to share my testimony.…it’s empowering…freeing.

Thus the enemy loses his clutches. His lies have less to no impact.  I am able to walk out from under the shadow of shame, feeling dirty, ugly, and so much more.

There are many things women CAN do to empower themselves to prevent and/or heal.

In addition to:

  • Prayer
  • Oils
  • Tapping
  • retreats
  • splankna
  • therapies

There are TWO things I think are absolutely a bedrock for women to feel empowered:

TOB:  The more a woman knows and understands the beauty of her human sexuality, the less likely she will fall for the lies to compromise her dignity.  When we are weakened in our mind about our body we are weakened in our spirit and body.  This makes us vulnerable to be used and abused.

BJJ: There is something very spiritual and empowering with this form of exercise, martial arts.  Short version you become VERY COMFORTABLE, EMPOWERED, IN THE UNCOMFORTABLE.

I have always loved intense workouts.  Having weight lifted since I was 18.  I love the  force of moving something; pushing my muscles and body in ways that I didn’t think possible.  I’ve loved the fluid stretching and core strength from Pilates.  I relish the stamina I receive from walking, biking, and when I use to run.  They have all gained me confidence in my mind body soul spirit journey of loving the body I’m in.  They have nurtured my healing and finding peace with my past….BUT….not ONE of them prepared me for protecting me.

I have taken defense classes and dabbled with other martial art modalities in the past….but NONE OF THEM….have what I believe BJJ has (in my opinion)….

When you train in BJJ: whether its with a video, a gym, with a gi, no gi, competition, no competition….each form of BJJ teaches you to find peace and confidence in being comfortable in the uncomfortable.

Let me explain….

you are laying on the mat, a person has you pinned….they are 2-3 times your size…sweat dripping on you…they are breathing heavy in your face….

you have a choice:

  • Panic, struggle, exhaust yourself…or…
  • pause…dig deep within to WAIT….find your opening….ESCAPE!

Because YOU CAN….YOU CAN DEFEAT GOLIATH!

It’s the same as the bible story….YOU OUTSMART THEM!

BJJ is not about brute force….it’s art….strategy….chess….

OWNING YOUR SPACE….confidence in your skin!!!!

When you combine TOB AND BJJ…

  • You can’t help but experience the amazing power of being A WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN!
  • You can’t help but heal from trauma.
  • you can’t help but empower yourself/armor yourself against hurt, pain, trauma.

This duo has something for every woman.  I love that they have been there for me through my healing. 

I am no where near where I would like to be with BJJ….heck I’ve been an “in and out” student of it for a little over a year now but I see the power of it.  I have to be mindful about my inflammation and go slower with it than I would like but I KNOW it’s amazing power (mind, body, soul, spirit) that I don’t want to give up on my BJJ journey.

I love that this duo is powerful for my daughter. 

My prayer is that she WILL NEVER…

be a woman posting #ME TOO!!!

How about you?  What’s going to be your #hashtag going to read?  #HOPE? #EMPOWERED? #HEALED? #BELOVED? #CHERISHED #NOT A VICTIM? #WARRIOR

Sit…pray…oil up…tap…..and connect to your amazing healing and health of your mind, body, soul, spirit journey!

hugs and prayers always dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

Coaches need coaches too!

This week I attended a fabulous 3 days of learning, growing and supporting with other homeschooling parents.  It gives us like minded parents/educators to continue to grow and nurture our learning to be all we are made to be for our kiddos.

The speaker/presenter was amazing.  She tried to say she was a teacher but she is so much more.  She radiated all the qualities of a transformation speaker.

we weren’t even there for 30 minutes and I felt enveloped with amazing love, acceptance, and joy to be there.

Then the cold water was thrown on my face.  OK not literally, figuratively.  This amazing leader had us move into different group circles.  We got situated. I sat, I scanned the faces, just becoming familiar with my new surrounding.  Then in my view, a view I would not be able to avoid because she was just to the left of the speaker, was the most stunning chiseled woman/mom.  She truly could’ve just come from a photo shoot.  I’m not talking a waif like thin body.  I’m talking about a strong defined muscled body.  A body that could be in a fitness competition.  She was petite, beautiful, and EVERYTHING I struggled with, coveted for so many years because of the dismorphia.

I’m not going to lie.  It was difficult to give my full attention to the speaker.  It was in those first moments I had to first renounce many negative emotions.  But then I experienced amazing light and peace.

I remembered she too is a child of God.  And she too probably has a struggle, maybe even a struggle with something right now so I lifted her in prayer.

I also remembered I must honor and respect the dismorphic brain.  It doesn’t mean to constantly live under the label but to not think it just goes away.  Just because I don’t have a trigger moment for months and months doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be vigilant and caring for myself.

I had to coach my own self in a way that I recently coached someone else.  I visualized: what if I did look like that?  Would I be any happier than I am right now?  Would I have greater peace and love of self?   With amazing clarity the answer was NO.

I was able to remember this physical body is not my identity.  This body is temporary.

I felt IMMORTELLE in the sense that I TRULY LOVE THE SKIN I AM IN!

I coach others to transform their lives with self care and self love.  I advocate whole health wellness of mind body soul through the support of essential oils.  And I too still need coaching.

We ALL need coaching.   Heck every profession needs their own professional help/support .  Doctors need doctors.  Police need policing.  Financial advisers need advising.  Moms need moms.  Coaches need coaches.

Transformation is about continual growth.  Engaging your whole self into learning, inspiring, motivating…..being.

Do you need coaching?  Do you need transforming?

Sit with this…..pray about this…..journal about this…..share/connect with me about this…..

Many blessings and hugs my dear followers……friends…..family….

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Careless or Carefree..

I was visiting with my spiritual director awhile back……working on some more stuff with my healing journey.

I was expressing how I finally realized a few gaps that needed to be filled with my healing……how I was able to truly see the correlation between my sexual abuses and my dysmorphia and even my current health of hashimoto’s.   It was a really great moment and reflection.

It was interesting because if there is anything I have learned this last 2 years is that even when you think you have “worked” through something…..forgiven someone…..healed from something……if you don’t continue to do the work (like building muscles)…..your guard will go down and you will become weak again.

But it can also be a moment of amazing realization about something because you have been working so hard…..and then you wake up one morning with this clear clear insight….and your body has to breakdown just one more time in order to break through that ceiling to the next level.

That’s what this was like.

I was sharing how as I had been preparing for my presentations about raising a daughter with THEOLOGY OF THE BODY….encompassing modesty, abuses, rape, dysmorphia, love of self…..freedom…….

I realized the little girl in me needed to truly truly feel the full emotion of anger, hurt, pain, loss……

So as I was trying to explain some of what I had been recently struggling with to my spiritual director…….I also expressed how I know much of my struggle is related and wrapped together.  The reason why I am so passionate about modesty cannot be denied that it is related to having been raped and sexually abused through my childhood.  (Now those who have not watched or listened to my testimony on FB…..please know it WAS NOT MY FATHER!!)…….I have the most amazing loving, nurturing father…..my sexual abuses were  friends of my brother, boyfriends, personal friends, a teacher, and co-workers.

Anyways….all of that mixed in with the dysmorphia has always been a balancing act for me……I truly have forgiven and have come to love all my offenders……

But I found myself in two areas still struggling….with my mom and with other women.

The mom realization didn’t actually come until just recently and I will share more about that next week.

But other women!  I couldn’t figure out why I still fell short on judging other women on what they wore.  Trying desperately to love them where they are at.  To not make assumptions of what they wore and why they wore it…..after all our culture has been grooming us for decades now to become more and more comfortable with walking around naked.

And then my spiritual director said something so profound that it created the greatest amount of healing and peace….I JUST HAD TO SHARE IT WITH YOU ALL!!!

His words  touched me to the core….

He shared that maybe….what if….the mental and spiritual struggle I am having with women is careless vs. carefree!

When I see women walking around not as modest as I believe they should be, it could very well be my spirit yelling out, “How can you be so careless with this precious gift you have been given?  Have you had that gift ever violated and treated as an object? Would you really walk around in that if you had?”  HOW CAN YOU BE SO CARELESS…..

And then the other part of my spirit is crying out….”WHY CAN’T I BE SO CAREFREE!”  “Why do I care so much about being modest, why can’t I just put an outfit on for once and not over analyze what I am wearing and why am I wearing it!?  Why can’t I feel “normal”?  And why did I have to experience such abuses!?”

It had me totally break through so many inner barriers…..it was so freeing because what he said resonated through me in such a way that my body literally shook with a vibration, a pulse, that had me seeing colors with amazing bright light!

NO I AM NOT CRAZY…I am free!  I am free to live out fully how I was CAREFULLY CREATED….without feeling careless or a carefree that I  might feel is reckless.

It was interesting because it had me going through my clothes ONCE AGAIN….lol….(I am sure my husband is going to be convinced I don’t want to own any clothing!)……

But over the course of the last 5 weeks when I open a drawer to grab something I reflect, “Do I own this piece because I feel like the beautiful woman of God created me to be…..or am I trying to hide myself?”  I have been honest and real with myself….realizing that I was at another level of my healing that was allowing me to break away another layer of that shame…..to unveil the beautiful warrior woman  GOD created me to be!

My thoughts I want you to consider:  What do you find yourself hiding from?  Do you feel others around you are being careless or carefree about things that matter?  And what about yourself?   Sit with that….pray about it….write about it…..find freedom from it!!

Many blessings and hugs my dear readers….family…friends….

~Kelly 🙂

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