I started out this year with purposing myself to hop on to Facebook EVERY TUESDAY to provide support and service with a facebook live. I do this on my public page Kelly Frick: Connect as well as in two other groups: my private clients and my team of leaders.
What started out as me wanting to be super intentional and consistent in showing up for something…..has turned into an amazing transformation in my own health….we are talking my mental health…..and how it effects my physical health.
You see because of the traumas I experienced in my past….my fight, flight, freeze was always on hyper-alert. And dysmorphia definitely distorts that and makes it even more intense.
So my excuse factor for why I couldn’t do something, show up somewhere, and keep a schedule was always…well full of excuses.
Over the years with ministry and business I have worked more and more on this. But 3 years ago I made a commitment to myself that I had to truly think before I committed to something so I wouldn’t back out at the last minute. So that once I set a date, put something on the schedule or told someone I would be there…..I HAD TO DO IT!!!
It was hard at first…..because it is not that I didn’t want to be true to my word….but you have to understand…..trauma….particularly sexual abuses…..creates this distortion in the brain that EVERYTHING is a potential danger.
I wanted to once and for all be braver and start rewiring my brain to believe and KNOW it was okay to have an amazing ministry and business, to support women, to be the best version of myself.
And that is what I have done.
I have consistently been showing up EVERY TUESDAY for a Facebook Live…..and every week I schedule wellness calls with clients…..every month I provide a wellness workshop…..AND I DO NOT CANCEL ON MYSELF OR ON THEM!!!
What have you cancelled on that was due to your fight, flight, or freeze being in hyper alert?!
Sit with this….pray about it…..journal….tap….and oil up!
Many blessings always,
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There have been times in my past where I truly believed I was living in hell with my hormones…
Heck there are times I still feel that way…lol…
I started experiencing wonky-ness with my cycles early on…..by the time I was in the military my hormones, cycles, health was so wacky I had to be on bedrest usually the first 2 days of my period.
Because the military did not like this…..well they pretty much bullied me into getting on to the pill…..even though I was morally apposed to it…..I didn’t know what else to do. I felt stuck…..I felt conflicted.
I see my beautiful daughter and see how her hormones are looking like they are similar to mine…..BUT……the difference is she has tools and support that I didn’t have. She is able to recognize how her nutrition, exercise, sleep, stress, toxic load….and so much more effects her cycles.
Instead we want to welcome our hormones…say HELLO BEAUTIFUL YOU!
Because those hormones can actually play into the mental chatter that can contribute to the body distortions and food fears!
What is one thing you can do today to empower your hormone health….to want to say HELLO to them rather than “ah hell”…..!?
Sit with this….pray about it….journal about it…..tap about it…..then oil up!!!
Many blessings and hugs always,
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Today’s video…..I’m so tired….lol! How coffee has been effecting my hormones….what I’m doing to correct it….and a glimpse on a freebie for Saturday’s workshop!
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I absolutely love it when I am getting ready to plan out my Christmas shopping list and I receive amazing emails with great deals!!
Some years I am in a shop shop shop sort of mood….other years I am in a DIY mood….and there are some years I am just about gift cards!!! LOL….
This year I have been looking at some of my oils and goodies and thinking I really want to create some specialized goody bags and home made things with the oils.
I’m thinking bath salts, seasoned salts, lip balms, teas, baked goods, and so much more!
Well this morning I opened my email and saw that doTERRA has brought us their amazing BOGO deals again!!
This kicks off on MONDAY :)!!!
What’s super exciting is these deals are open to everyone but each day it is for 24-hours only and then a new special is released.
So this upcoming week with each BOGO…..I will share with you how I use that oil in my home and for my family’s whole health! I will even share some great gift giving ideas for that day’s BOGO!
If you don’t already have a doTERRA account now is truly the time to maximize on some great deals!
When you start your oils journey you want to really think about who you start with! Are they going to support you, educate you, provide you with wellness overviews and coaching!!
I will serve you and care for you!
Okay enough about BOGO’S now lets remember Thanksgiving is just 5 days away!!!
What are you feeling most thankful about today!?
I am feeling super grateful for family. My mom texted me last night. It said “keep dad in prayers, at hospital, water on heart.”
Now I am not a worrier….but it wasn’t a text I could just say “okay”…..and go to bed! Nope I asked if I could call….she said yes.
We visited…..I even got to visit with my dad……and all was good. I was able to go to sleep knowing all was truly okay. But it did have me reflect…..time is too fragile and too precious to take for granted.
I don’t take time and life for granted, but I know I can get caught up in the passion of living my life with my family and friends locally that I can be a “out of sight out of mind” sort of person.
This text and phone call also had me reflect on how some of my healing, health journey means I need to not avoid conversations or questions that truly need to be said or asked.
So I am Thankful for prompts like last night to remind me time is precious; don’t waste or avoid saying and doing the things that are super important!
What are you thankful for?!
Sit…..pray……journal…..tap and oil up!!
“The soul loves moderation in all things. Whenever the human body lacks measure, and eat and drinks or something like that unbalances it, the powers of the soul are wounded… So in all things let people maintain a proper balance”
– Hildegard of Bingen
I fell in love with St. Hildegard years ago. I knew she, along with a few other amazing females Saints would be the patron saints of my business and ministry.
I fell in love with St. Hildegard years ago. I knew she, along with a few other amazing females Saints would be the patron saints of my business and ministry.
I am reflecting tonight on all I am going to grow and learn about as I prepare for an adventure that will take me out of pocket for almost 3 weeks. I can’t wait to share more here.
What I’m especially excited about this adventure is how it is going to allow me to reflect, meditate, pray, and in sort of way retreat to focus on some of my personal and professional goals.
I’m going to take the opportunity to detox my mind, body, and soul. To detox from the clutter and chatter and unnecessary. To get back to simplicity of reflecting on what is truly my why and next steps of being that intentional disciple of life for me, my family, friends, everyone….
What is my why?
How can I make a difference?
One connection at a time.
One life at a time.
One drop at a time!
So I will be silent here for almost 3 weeks and will be back to share all I reflect on by November 3rd!
What is your why?
Do you need to unplug to rebalance your mind, body, soul health?
As I was reflecting on today’s readings I saw the theme of feasting…but not feasting on just any food!
We are to feast on wisdom….on true life: Christ!
When we do this then our moments of dryness in prayer and difficulty if life circumstances are more bearable because we have “life with in us!”!
Today reflect on what are you not only feeding your physical body but your spiritual body…..this is what will truly sustain you!
Many blessings and prayers always!
I’ve been so very aware of how beautiful and grown up my daughter is and looks recently. I think it is because she is the age I was when I started dating and when I started to really make choices that mucky-ed the water between the moments that were true abuse and the moments that were choices because of the abuses.
Yet I have such peace because I know with my entire being that no matter what life throws at me or at her GOD IS BIGGER than it all. So I truly don’t walk in fear anymore of anything!
I am able to truly experience the gift of JOY even in the midst of anything!
The next chapter of my book is the turning point of the story…..I MET MY AMAZING HUSBAND! Oh there were still abuses that unfortunately took place for several more years….but now I had hope. Hope that it would all end!
May this chapter provide healing and hope for you with your past abuses, traumas!
Many blessings and prayers always my dear one!!
PS….before you read the next chapter…..are you ready to start? Start a journey of healing and hope? There is some amazing deals I would love to share with you that will be ending on July 31st! That is right around the corner…so reach out and lets connect so I can share with you all the amazing FREEBIES you WILL receive with oils and coaching for this month only!
CHAPTER 9: A LIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DARKNESS
I was 18 when I met my husband. We met shortly after I had completed boot camp. I laugh to this day when I share the story of how upset I was with God for having introduced him to me so young. I had plans. I had my check off list of all I needed to do and accomplish before I was to meet the man I was to marry. But really when I look back at it, I was hiding from the possibility of a true relationship. I pretty much was at a place in life where I really wanted nothing more to do with men. I had actually only started to have a glimpse during boot camp of sexual harassment and pressures, but enough to pretty much decide I really wanted NOTHING more to do with men.
So when I met my husband and I knew he was who God intended for me, I was scared! Somewhere deep down my spirit knew it meant I was going to have to do some internal work and I wasn’t ready for it. The work started even earlier than I could have imagined. My darling husband and I connected with deep conversations pretty early on. We felt free to talk and debate just about everything. So it wasn’t too surprising to me when he asked me about my 1st sexual experience. When I described it to him, he is the one who validated I had been raped. It was freeing to hear it out loud what I thought was true but there was so much confusion within me that I just didn’t know. I had so much shame and hurt.
He was the beginning of ME feeling whole and feeling cherished and protected, but it came with baggage as well. I felt I had to prove I wasn’t broken goods; that he wasn’t going to be saddled with someone who couldn’t be a wife in all manners. So once again I allowed boundaries to be crossed. Now since he was not raised the same way I was about faith and waiting for marriage to experience certain things crossing boundaries was not an issue for him. He was the first man I said yes to. I knowingly crossed the line before marriage. And it created yet another layer of shame and fear.
Even though I had met my husband at 18 it didn’t mean I was all of a sudden free from abuse and pain. Between the ages of 18-22 I experienced probably some of the most overt of sexual harassments, looks, and comments. The unwritten rule in the military, at least what I was taught as a woman by other women, was to not create issues or ripples unless you were truly raped, touched, or groped you were to take it and deal with it. Yes they had sexual harassment policies put into place but it truly felt like a he said/she said type of situation. So even though these were some of my worst years of experiencing sexual harassment they were also my best years because I had my husband. No I didn’t share with him all I dealt with, mostly because I didn’t fully understand the extent of it. By this point in my life I was so numbed to this type of treatment I usually brushed it off. Or so I thought I was brushing it off.
Has your past experiences left you feeling fearful, hopeless, and rigid?
Let’s take a look at the blend of: Peppermint, Lemon, Orange
Peppermint: When sexual harassment becomes something your body thinks is “normal” or can’t change, it can difficult to give into fear, to feel intense pain, to feel heavy hearted. Peppermint reminds us we do have the strength to face emotional pain. However we must not over use it to escape from the pain, we must process the emotions so we can open our hearts to optimism and hope.
Lemon: Joy is foreign to a person who has trauma to process. It’s easy to get lost in despair and hopelessness when your body has been used and abused. Lemon not only opens us up to feel joy again but creates a clarity to focus on the Light of our life experiences rather than the dark.
Wild Orange: It can be easy to become rigid and lack a sense of humor after sexual harassment. Walls can go up wondering if every joke, every hug, has a double or underlying meaning. Wild Orange reminds us we can be playful, we can be spontaneous. Not every hug or joke is tainted.
Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points. These are especially powerful oils to tap with. They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.
Heavenly Father, open my heart to not view every experience as the potential of something bad….remind that when I am with my husband I can be free, I can enjoy myself, I can experience our intimate relationship without fear….AMEN!
Are you ready to start Hope & Healing in your physical, mental, and spiritual Health journey?! I am here to bless and serve you!
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Come Holy Spirit fill the hearts of your faithful!
This last Sunday was Pentecost ! The disciples had locked themselves in the upper room for 10 days in prayer and anticipation for the Holy Spirit….their ADVOCATE….to come and be with them as they went out to bring Jesus’s teachings to ALL THE WORLD!
I’ve been really reflecting even more so recently on the word ADVOCATE. I love how the Holy Spirit IS described as our advocate: ONE WHO SUPPORTS! As a doTERRA ADVOCATE that is EXACTLY WHAT WE ARE CALLED TO BE: A SUPPORT! We are to walk side by side and guide, coach, and teach others how to support their health the way God intended us to in a whole body way, with HIS gifts. It’s truly why I LOVE doing what I do…..because at no time do I, as a coach, (or doTERRA for that matter) say that these oils are the end all be all…..but they are in cooperation with God’s design, plan. They SUPPORT us in life’s physical and emotional struggles.
As I processed and completed through many chapters of my book recently, I yes could have done it with God alone, but I am grateful He has gifted me with the oils to support my humanness so I don’t have to try to lean on my will….so I can remember His WILL BE DONE! These oils ALWAYS lead me back to HIM. JUST LIKE THE HOLY SPIRIT ALWAYS LEADS US BACK TO JESUS AND THE FATHER!
Today’s chapter was a memory that I recall always being in the background of my mind but never clear, it had been suppressed for many years but through one of my Splankna sessions last year I discovered how much it had effected some of my lack of self love and self care.
May my journey bring peace and awareness on your own journey of healing and hope!
Many blessings and prayers always!
THE WHEELS ON THE BUS
I grew up in a very small down of around 1000 people at the time. To make it even more interesting that was the town I went to school and my parents had their business but we actually lived out in the country, the foothills of the mountains. This was about a 15-20 minute drive from home to town, but by bus it was about an hour. The school bus picked me and my brother up every morning at 6:30 or 6:45.
It was a given fact that the older you were the farther in the bus you were allowed to sit. So when you’re 10 you didn’t have to sit way in the front and you were able to sit closer to the middle. This meant you were able to sit closer to the “cool kids” aka: high schoolers. At least that’s what I thought because they had all the interesting conversations. They had the cool clothes. They were just fun to listen to and watch.
There was one girl who had an older brother, so he sat in the back and she always was privy to the inside conversation. I wanted to get to know them because I thought their house was cool and different whenever I saw it on the school route.
This girl was my age and we started to sit together to make the time go by faster. We talked about school, friends, her brother and much more. She was different, they (her and her brother) were different. The more time I spent with her the more I realized there was something off about them. But I didn’t really know how to put my finger on it, or what it was, after all I was only 10 when I met her and started to really get to know her that particular school year.
What I do remember is something weird happened one time on the bus that I don’t know how to fully explain how it even came about. It makes me think of a frog in a boiling pot. You know the saying that a frog if plunged into a pot of boiling water it would jump, but if you have it in water and gradually increase the water temperature it will adjust and eventually be boiled to death…..well parts of me have over the years wonder if that’s what was happening. If my sense of curiosity with this girl and her brother and wanting to always know the scoop of what the “big kids” were doing and saying that I don’t even know how it came about where I remember one day sitting in the school bus seat and the next thing I know she was touching me in ways that I was NOT comfortable with. I remember thinking how did we get here? Was it because we always caught glimpses of the older kids making out and doing things very much in the public and scandalizing all of us. Was this girl’s brother doing things with her that he shouldn’t be and this was her acting out?
All I know was I truly didn’t understand why she was touching me in places and in ways that was not natural or normal for our age, let alone being the same sex. I once again froze. I couldn’t get home fast enough. I wanted to wash this experience out of my brain for forever.
I never sat with her again on the school bus. I remember the next day her waving me to the seat to sit with her and me purposely sitting up in the very front seat with the 6 year olds right behind the bus driver. I didn’t want to be near the cool kids anymore.
Have you ever had an experience where you felt powerless, dishonored, and muddled? That’s how I felt!
GINGER, GRAPEFRUIT, and PEPPERMINT: Let’s take a look at how these three oils can bring back a person’s power, honor, and relief.
Ginger: This oil helps us take responsibility of knowing we are not powerless. We may not have control over other people’s actions toward us but we don’t have to sit with a victim mentality. We can gain power but taking actions to prevent it from happening again.
Grapefruit: When a person has been violated, scandalized, shamed….there is a tendency to want to dishonor our body….to starve it, abuse it, or even hide behind food. Grapefruit encourages us to have integrity and to truly love our body, no matter what.
Peppermint: Our mind and our heart sometimes need a break from the pain of memories. We are to not live in fear. But we need to remember to not hide or escape the work of clearing out the emotional baggage of trauma. Using peppermint can help us clear out the muddled pain and confusion, give us temporary relief to breath as we process the pain of a trauma or experience that isn’t so comfortable for us.
Create a blend with these three to put into water to enjoy sipping or diffuse 3 drops of each or place a drop of each with fractionated coconut oil to rub on your belly (your solar plexus) and the insides of your elbow, allowing your heart and body to embrace the powerful healing of honoring your body with taking back your power and moving past pain.
Tap as you Pray:
Heavenly father as I experience these oils, help me to bring to surface any experience that is from my past that I have ignored for too long. An experience I may have tried to hide from, numb the pain, and grant me the strength now to be fully present in this healing, to appreciate my body and not hide it in shame. Through your healing power I can do this. I trust in you. Amen
- Brain Fog
- Hair Loss
- Breathlessness when I try to even go for a walk!
Once upon a time I use to try to figure out what, nutritionally, am I doing wrong. See that sentence and how backwards it is? Instead I should have been thinking what can I do to nurture myself. What am I doing RIGHT and what can I do to ADD for myself: nutritionally, mentally, physically, emotionally, and/or spiritually that my being is yearning for! What can I ADD instead of subtract!
Now sometimes subtracting can be a good thing. Saying NO to staying up late so my body can say YES to get up in the morning. Saying no to trigger foods so my body and mind can say YES to clear thinking and no aches and pains!
And now being older (and hopefully wiser!) I am able to recognize my symptoms are related to something deeper….something that still needs unearthing on this healing and hope journey of health!
It’s super funny for me because I had ROSEMARY ESSENTIAL OIL on my list to purchase and restock up on. And in my email yesterday I delightfully ready that ROSEMARY was our free oil of the month! Yay FOR ME….and really for all ….
I have been able to recognize my body and spirits need for ROSEMARY’S SUPPORT even more so right now. And here is why:
Rosemary helps us with a true sense of self of seeking out knowledge….to not stay in the dark of anything….especially when we are transitioning through life challenges of change. Change of job, school, home, state…..change from victim to victorious! Change from surviving to thriving!
Rosemary teaches us to be open to new experiences even the experience of reopening wounds of past hurts, traumas, pains….to have the close and heal properly!
It teaches me to have clarity of mind, because it is important to push through the difficulties….and that I don’t want to walk in ignorance…especially with my faith and healing!
And finally it reminds me that confusion is truly from the enemy! He doesn’t want us to clearly and confidently walk into transitions and change with clear and concise knowledge because if we do then he doesn’t have control over our thoughts…he can’t continue to deceive us, lie to us, cheat us out of an amazing life, or even “kill” us of our joy of the amazing truth of God’s amazing love and mercy.
Today reflect on:
- What do you need clarity of?
- What challenges have you had with learning?
- Are you open to new experiences of whole healing?
Sit…write…pray…tap….and oil up!
Beyond blessings, hugs, and prayers always for each of you…
***I’ll have another chapter of the book out later this week….hopefully…lol!
Some newsworthy thoughts to mark your calendar about:
- In honor of mothers, women, there will be a FACEBOOK LIVE class this month on Fertility/Hormone Health with the Top Ten Oils.
- I will be having an in-home class/presentation on the EMOTIONAL Care with the Top Ten Oils for anyone in the Georgetown/Austin area!
- My AromaTouch Therapy room is set back up ready to pamper any and all women wanting to enjoy some self-care/detoxing….men: this is a great MOTHERS DAY GIFT IDEA!!
- And finally: This month with doTERRA there are amazing gifts to be received with specific START UP kits….and amazing THROW in GIFTS FROM ME!
So if you have been on the fence….this may just be the time to connect with me (email: email@example.com) and let’s have a great conversation…because I would LOVE to serve you with your hope and healing on your health and wellness journey!