UNPLANNED: Hope, Healing, Health

Words cannot describe the pain…the sorrow….the utmost intense emotions I felt last night…

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Yet the excitement….the joy…..the peace and healing….

Actually there is another time I felt the same exhaustion from a movie…..the Passion by Mel Gibson.

Last night my family and I attended a “red carpet” event of Unplanned.  Our parish church organized a viewing of the movie before it was to be released today.

Actually it was a woman from our church, who organized this event, who is truly passionate about serving others and bringing about light to the world.

This was not an easy movie to watch, for many reasons.

One…I know Abby Johnson!  I’m not close intimate friends with her….but one of my dear friends is!  She attends our parish, she is on the parish counsel with my husband, and I have had the blessing to visit with her on a few occasions at different gathers.

She IS a warrior woman!

She is a beautiful example of what I share here all the time….and at workshops……and presentations……which is:

TELL YOUR STORY!

Get it out of you….don’t allow it to hold you in shame…..in bondage!

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None of us have a pretty bow wrapped story.  They are all varying shades of messy.  But when we hide them deep within us we are allowing the enemy to separate us from our most amazing, loving FATHER!

Abby Johnson was brave and bold to share her story to THE WORLD!  And that alone will continue to be her true healing path.

Being open and honest about your story is a powerful instrument….tool…..of healing.

It is a way to forgiveness……GOD ALREADY FORGIVES US AND LOVES US…..but sometimes we stay in bondage of pain and shame and hurt…..because we haven’t forgiven others…..or most likely we haven’t FORGIVEN OURSELVES.

That un-forgiveness can lead us to so much pain but most of all it can and will effect our health…..first our emotional health…..then our mental…..and finally our physical!

Because the body is an amazing creation!  Our body knows it’s connected to our mind, our heart, our spirit, our emotions.  It doesn’t try to separate all that we are made up of, as so many doctors or even us, try to do too often.

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For me this movie was moving beyond words…..and also very healing.  Knowing that the anniversary of the loss of my sweet precious Sam is this weekend, and the D&C that took place on the 1st…..well let’s just say lent is already a difficult time for me most years…..yet also healing and renewing…..but this movie definitely had me doing some ugly crying!

It had me reflect on my own path of life…..my own wounds……my own pain and choices.

I have always been a huge pro-lifer……but I use to not always be as loving and compassionate in how I approached the subject.

And after one of my rapes….even being a pro-lifer…..there was a brief moment of panic when I thought…..”what if I get pregnant?”…..

And finally my saddest thought that took me quite a bit to heal from was when I did loose my precious baby several years back……the shame I had of relief!

My husband and I had struggled for so many years to conceive our daughter and had fought super hard to try to have another. We had finally given into the peace of:  it was not meant to be.

Yet when our daughter was nearly 8 we discover we are pregnant, I was less than thrilled.  All of a sudden I was having to figure out how I was going to adjust to all the changes it was going to bring.  We had BIG plans that year….we had a routine.  WE WERE COMFORTABLE.

I should’ve been thrilled but I wasn’t.  I had just gotten my health back on track and here this precious baby growing inside of me was going to create havoc with all that.   I was selfish in my thoughts.  That’s not too harsh….it’s the truth.

My dearest of friends consoled me and comforted me.  She was with me through the whole journey.  She would ask me the nitty gritty questions….the hard questions.  And would remind me deep down what I really felt.  Which was that I REALLY DID WANT THIS BABY BUT I WAS AFRAID TO WANT IT!  Because what if…..!?

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And then WHAT IF DID HAPPEN……and I felt the immense amount of guilt and shame.  I blamed myself for waaay too long.  But luckily by that point in my journey I had my safe people that I could be vulnerable and honest with….like this friend…..and know I wouldn’t be judged for having human thoughts and feelings.

Many people will go to this movie because they support the cause…the message….the truth.

Many will NOT go to it because they don’t want to hear it.

Some will even waiver because it was given the rating of R…..which is hogwash….our daughters under 18 can go to have a legal abortion but not old enough to go to this movie!?

But I think EVERYONE SHOULD GO FOR THE REDEMPTION MESSAGE they will receive from it.

This movie is about so much more than exposing PLANNED PARENTHOOD……its truly about LOVE, FORGIVENESS, JOY, PEACE…..HEALING!

Have you had an ugly kind of cry recently?  I honestly think everyone should about 2-3 times a year….it’s cleansing for the soul….cleansing for the emotions…..and yes cleansing for the body!

Go to this movie….have an ugly cry…..sit with it…..pray about it…..tap and oil up……and see how it moves your emotions, mind, heart, soul, energy in a different direction!

Many blessings and hugs always dear ones,

Kelly 🙂

PS….

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To learn more….Unplanned premiers TODAY, March 29 at a theater near you.

To see the trailer and find the nearest theater visit https://www.unplannedfilm.com

For resources on post-abortive counseling and support visit http://hopeafterabortion.com

For other resources and ways to find assistance with a crisis pregnancy in your area visit

http://www.priestsforlife.org/crisis.html

If you would like to know about 40 Days for Life visit https://40daysforlife.com

For more information about Abby’s ministry, And Then There Were None, which helps abortion worker get out of the industry visit https://abortionworker.com

 

Sexual Abuse: Evil Within

This morning I boldly went on my personal Facebook page to speak out and up about how we need to UNITE in prayer for the victims of the sexual abuses and rapes that have taken place in the Church….specifically the Catholic Church….

I say boldly because….I think many of us sometimes don’t want to talk about such uncomfortable topics….especially SEXUAL ABUSE…..RAPE….and CLERGY….

So it was bold for me because I have NO IDEA what kind of feed back and kickback it will create…..what I do know is I HAD TO LISTEN TO THE PROMPTING OF THE HOLY SPIRIT….which was to SPEAK UP!

Too many of us are afraid of speaking up about hot topics out of fear of offending…..heck really and truly that is what happens to those of us who have been sexually abused and/or raped…..we are afraid of offending those who are OFFENDING US…..

I stayed in silence for so long….that it manifested in my physical health.

Thus this has been my prayer… for us to all be united in prayer for these victims…..for us to pray they have true restorative healing….so that they are able to see how beautifully wonderfully made they are…and that the more they speak up and out loud about their pain….their wounds….ALL THE EVIL that was done to them….TRUE HEALING WILL TAKE PLACE!!!

Make a commitment to intercede, advocate, surrogate for these victims through your prayers, tapping and oils……yes all of that can and will strengthen their healing…..their spirit…..because remember WE ARE ALL CONNECTED SPIRITUALLY!  How else can a person feel another persons pain countries away!?

Here is what I shared on FB this morning:

Also check out Bishop Robert Barron’s amazing Q&A about the abuses….it is powerful…encouraging….and reminding us WHAT is truly behind this: EVIL:

Join me in bringing about Hope and Healing to ALL who have been victims of sexual abuse/rape!

Many blessings and prayers always my dear one!

~Kelly

Healing Crusader

Through this healing journey I have read many different healing stories: physical, spiritual, emotional… about Hashimoto’s, traumas, abuses….

Many of these warriors of healing are fallen away Catholics. 

This is unbearably sad for me.

There are many who leave other denominations as well.  But these are many of the reasons I have heard:

  • I didn’t have a personal relationship with Christ.
  • I didn’t feel welcomed.
  • It was too black and white.
  • There was judgment.
  • I didn’t feel accepted.

The list goes on….

And it breaks my heart!

I’ve been described as:

“She’s not your typical Catholic.” and “You won’t believe she’s Catholic.”

This is funny to me…but it’s true….and it’s also sad…..sad to me that more people haven’t encountered and/or experienced an Evangelical Catholic.  It’s sad to me that wounds, hurts, and differences have kept Catholics away or even driven them away.

The Catholic Church is not perfect…not by any means. No faith is!!! And this is NOT AN EXCUSE FOR ANY CHURCH TO BE ABUSIVE TO THEIR PARISHIONERS!

For me the Catholic Church  has a richness and depth and beauty that I can’t imagine being without it in my life.

Now you might be thinking I have never been hurt by the church or had a bad experience; so I can’t possibly know.  But actually I HAVE had plenty…

  • A priest once told me to come back to confession when I had real sins to confess.
  • Another ended confessions before I had my turn and said he didn’t have time for me…literally.
  • I have felt the tongue lashing of a parishioner telling me my daughter (then 3 years old) was not a “good girl” during mass.
  • I have experienced the politics that take place when working for the church.
  • I have observed and been on the receiving end of individuals in ministry (lay and priests) not conduct themselves with honor and dignity.

And more….

BUT this is the thing….this happens EVERYWHERE….with EVERY CHURCH!!!

Why!?

Because they are all ran by man.  And we are ALL flawed…sinners…human!  WE ARE ALL WOUNDED!!!

I wish I could look each and every wounded person in the eye ….who has left the church….hold them and say:

  • I AM SOOO SORRY WE DID NOT NURTURE YOU, FEED YOU, PROTECT YOU LOVE YOU ENOUGH!
  • I am SO SORRY your hurt was so great that you felt you had to flee.
  • I am SO SORRY that you felt you would not be heard.
  • I am SO SORRY you felt you couldn’t seek out someone else within the church to provide you comfort, encouragement, love, mercy….

I know I can’t change the past for these wounded but I pray they/you will one day be able to face the traumas and hurts felt from the Catholic Church.  I pray they/you find healing and peace.  I pray they/you have the personal relationship with Christ they/you sought after.  I pray they/you are being an instrumental disciple as He has called us all to be!

Today,  if you have left the Catholic Church, or left church period, I pray you take a moment to sit with your “why’s”.  Reflect within and ask:  Am I ready to heal from this wound?  Am I ready to break free from this bondage of pain?  Am I ready to be ALL HE CREATED ME TO BE!?  Some oils that can help you through this are: Console, Forgive, Hope, Deep Blue, Peace.

As always…sit…pray…oil up…..and tap about this….:)

Many drops of blessings dear beloved ones….

~Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

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