#Me Too…

I am terrible with keeping up with what’s going on in the media, news, etc….  I have NO IDEA the who what where when why of the #me too.

What I do know is I saw it on a loved ones FB page and I chose to also share it.  After all, I know God has called me to make my life an open book for all.

Anyone who stumbles across my facebook page or here on this blog will learn 3 things about me:

  • I am passionate about empowering women.

  • I share about the connection of traumas and health.

  • I connect essential oils to ALL aspects of life: mind, body, soul, spirit.

 

 

 

I imagine the purpose of the #me too,  is to create awareness….I get it.

BUT….I think the #ME TOO….needs more!  It needs a voice, encouragement, details, action!

What do I mean?

I have learned over the years the more I talk openly about my sexual traumas, abuses, and choices (not every cruel detail, but not so vague as just a ME TOO)…..the more I speak about it… the more I heal.  Each time its a little different, depending on the circumstances, the person, will depend on the detail, the angle I recall.

Every time I am asked to speak at a women’s event to share my testimony.…it’s empowering…freeing.

Thus the enemy loses his clutches. His lies have less to no impact.  I am able to walk out from under the shadow of shame, feeling dirty, ugly, and so much more.

There are many things women CAN do to empower themselves to prevent and/or heal.

In addition to:

  • Prayer
  • Oils
  • Tapping
  • retreats
  • splankna
  • therapies

There are TWO things I think are absolutely a bedrock for women to feel empowered:

TOB:  The more a woman knows and understands the beauty of her human sexuality, the less likely she will fall for the lies to compromise her dignity.  When we are weakened in our mind about our body we are weakened in our spirit and body.  This makes us vulnerable to be used and abused.

BJJ: There is something very spiritual and empowering with this form of exercise, martial arts.  Short version you become VERY COMFORTABLE, EMPOWERED, IN THE UNCOMFORTABLE.

I have always loved intense workouts.  Having weight lifted since I was 18.  I love the  force of moving something; pushing my muscles and body in ways that I didn’t think possible.  I’ve loved the fluid stretching and core strength from Pilates.  I relish the stamina I receive from walking, biking, and when I use to run.  They have all gained me confidence in my mind body soul spirit journey of loving the body I’m in.  They have nurtured my healing and finding peace with my past….BUT….not ONE of them prepared me for protecting me.

I have taken defense classes and dabbled with other martial art modalities in the past….but NONE OF THEM….have what I believe BJJ has (in my opinion)….

When you train in BJJ: whether its with a video, a gym, with a gi, no gi, competition, no competition….each form of BJJ teaches you to find peace and confidence in being comfortable in the uncomfortable.

Let me explain….

you are laying on the mat, a person has you pinned….they are 2-3 times your size…sweat dripping on you…they are breathing heavy in your face….

you have a choice:

  • Panic, struggle, exhaust yourself…or…
  • pause…dig deep within to WAIT….find your opening….ESCAPE!

Because YOU CAN….YOU CAN DEFEAT GOLIATH!

It’s the same as the bible story….YOU OUTSMART THEM!

BJJ is not about brute force….it’s art….strategy….chess….

OWNING YOUR SPACE….confidence in your skin!!!!

When you combine TOB AND BJJ…

  • You can’t help but experience the amazing power of being A WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN!
  • You can’t help but heal from trauma.
  • you can’t help but empower yourself/armor yourself against hurt, pain, trauma.

This duo has something for every woman.  I love that they have been there for me through my healing. 

I am no where near where I would like to be with BJJ….heck I’ve been an “in and out” student of it for a little over a year now but I see the power of it.  I have to be mindful about my inflammation and go slower with it than I would like but I KNOW it’s amazing power (mind, body, soul, spirit) that I don’t want to give up on my BJJ journey.

I love that this duo is powerful for my daughter. 

My prayer is that she WILL NEVER…

be a woman posting #ME TOO!!!

How about you?  What’s going to be your #hashtag going to read?  #HOPE? #EMPOWERED? #HEALED? #BELOVED? #CHERISHED #NOT A VICTIM? #WARRIOR

Sit…pray…oil up…tap…..and connect to your amazing healing and health of your mind, body, soul, spirit journey!

hugs and prayers always dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

Fear Your Dreams

Pursuing dreams and goals, they can be scary.

I have moments when I find myself falling into the temptation of fear.  It tries to mask itself with all sorts of tricks but ultimately it is fear.

Fear:

  • I won’t reach my goal.
  • I am going to neglect my family.
  • I’m not going to meet my daughters needs.
  • I’m being selfish.
  • I’m going to mess it all up.

But then I STOP…I reach for several oils.  I first use Forgive while I tap and pray.  I have God remind me He placed these dreams and goals in my heart and head because its HIS mission that He has placed there.

By me reaching these goals, I will be breaking the doubt and bondage of generational junk.

  • God is teaching me this is my path for Him and this path WON’T create division between me and my daughter or husband. 
  • He is showing me I don’t have to fear dreams and goals! 
  • I don’t have to fear my family will be hurt or angry with me.
  • I don’t have to fear I’m not equipped because HE HAS equipped me.

I am blessed to have the two greatest cheerleaders: my daughter and husband.  They don’t doubt what God is calling me to do…..and they DON’T ever feel like I put anything before them!

As a family we pitch in to take care of the house, each other, and we each pursue our individual dreams and goals together!

After I have oiled up, tapped, and prayed through all that I feel: Peace…Serenity.  I am able to relate to the serenity prayer in a deeper more meaningful way.

What do you need to relinquish…to find your Peace and Serenity?!

Sit with this….oil up….tap….pray….connect :)….

Many blessings dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

 

Seasons of Change

Change is in the air!

I’ve been reflecting on this fall and how our schedules have been changing!  I’ve been loving the idea of sitting on the couch, reading, writing, and drinking a cup of tea as I plan out all the fun Thanksgiving and Christmas plans, gifts, etc!  Which has me thinking…if I love sitting back in the evening checking up on reading blogs, Facebook, emails, and the newest magazine that came in the mail……well then you all probably do too ;)…..

We all make transitions, changes, and the key and challenge is to honor it.  To not force it but to also not ignore it.

I have realized I want to shift from writing in the mornings to writing in the evenings.  To shift from Wednesday and Saturday morning to Monday and Thursday evening.  Who knows it might be just right for this season in my life….in your life :)…..

I could buckle with fear and say to myself, “But everyone has gotten use to my routine of Wednesday and Saturday morning?  Will they want to read Monday and Thursday evening?”  “Will I lose you all?”  BUT THAT IS FEAR…..and I don’t live in the fear realm.

After all I would propose that the reason why anyone reads what I write is because they see the authenticity behind my words.  They hear my heart.  They feel my passion.  Well if I am transitioning in when I feel passionate about what I write then that is when I should write….correct?!  And if I force a writing schedule that doesn’t work for me anymore and is lacking authenticity, heart, and passion….well then I have lost my voice and I will lose you anyways!

So starting next week my postings will come out Monday and Thursday evenings!  Perfect for beginning our weeks and wrapping up our week to prep for some amazing family time for the weekends!

I think I will also be transitioning my Facebook Live’s….but that’s for another day to ponder….lol….

What have you been wrestling with as this fall season has fully arrived and is shifting our perspectives and schedules?!  Is there something you’ve been putting off to do?  Or something you have been wanting to change but been afraid to because it may upset someone?  It may feel weird?  Or it may be out of character of you?

Instead embrace the change!  Change allows our spirit to shift.  Allows our minds to sharpen.  And allows our bodies to be challenged.   Finally it opens our soul to the possibilities of soaring!

As always remember to always take a moment each day to….

…sit…pray…oil up…..and tap….:)

Many drops of blessings dear beloved ones….

~Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

PS….Wednesday evening 7:30 pm join me on Facebook at Kelly Frick:Connect for a Live event Connecting the Drops of our whole health: mind, body, soul, spirit through the amazing support of essential oils!

 

Forgiveness {love}

There was a time in my past when I made a choice to allow words….hurt feelings…..to come between me and God!

How?

Because of how I internalized a conversation and allowed the negative lies to spin I chose to drink many many glasses of wine throughout the day.  Even knowing it would effect my health….even knowing it would prevent me from getting to Mass!

Now I could have stayed in that pain….those lies…and beat myself up even more with shame….and more lies from the Enemy….instead I picked myself up.  I turned to my amazing loving FATHER and asked for forgiveness….which I knew He already gave me….and I forgave myself.  That was the biggie!

In the past I would have taken it to confession but would have still beat myself up over it.  Well that is allowing the enemy to win.  He wants us to forget that our heavenly FATHER forgives us…..loves us….has open arms for us.  You see when we stay stuck in our own shame, hurt, pain….then we repeat the action, the sin, the negative…..and we create more shame…more hurt….more pain….and then we believe the lie that we are not redeemable!  AND WE ARE!!!

Next time you find yourself beating yourself up over:  too much spending, overeating, missing church, too much drinking…..STOP…..give it directly to GOD…..confess to it…..be honest out loud to yourself and to God……and CONNECT to HIS AMAZING LOVE AND GRACE!!!

Sit…pray…write…oil up…tap it away…

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Perfect {Parenting}

NOT!!!

Let’s just get that out of the way…..there is not one of us that is perfect at parenting…at anything!

I soooo struggle with being a parent sometimes.  Add to it that I homeschool….I doubt myself ALL the time…..what get’s me through it?

I know it is all LIES!  When I am connecting to God each and every day……throughout my day always…..I KNOW AND SEE the lies the enemy is trying to feed me!

I recently had a battle with once again doubting I was enough for my daughter when it came to her education.  Some suggestions were made and I found myself getting defensive.  But since I have been doing so much inner healing work I was able to recognize the two fold prong the enemy was trying to get to me with.

He was using a person I struggle with.  A beautiful amazing person who never ever says words of praise to me.  Now since my primary love language is WORDS I have to remind myself all the time that not everyone realizes and knows how to use words constructively.  Add to it this amazing person and I haven’t always had the greatest of a relationship.  It has been rocky but I know because of God we are at a much better place than ever before.

So the 2nd prong was the topic of homeschooling.   I hope you are seeing the same thing I was able to recognize.  The storm of hurt and doubt the enemy was trying to brew.  And it almost worked.  After the conversation I wanted to think: why am I not enough for this person, why can’t I EVER receive a compliment of what I have done with my daughter and her education.  Why….why….why….

But I stopped……I saw what he was doing.  He wanted me to create a spiritual disconnect with this person.  To undo all the work we have done.  I was able to see that I still had my own work to do within me…..in KNOWING I AM ENOUGH!  God commissioned me to be my daughter’s mom…..and HE KNOWS I AM ENOUGH!!

Today unfold the lies the enemy has been feeding you about your abilities, your relationships….and sweep him out…..take it to God……let HIM redeem the wounds.  Don’t allow the lies to wound you anymore and don’t let the lies wound your connection to others!

This is definitely something to sit with….pray about….journal about…go to the oils to help you connect to your emotions you are feeling and tap about it to release the negative energy….finally share about it…..whether here or with someone you trust.  Darkness can not live in the light!

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

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Yoga {yoked}

What if God was trying to speak to other cultures to be YOKED to HIM!?

What If HE was trying to show them movement…breathing to be fully connected to HIM.

What if it got hijacked?

God creates only good.

We know through scientific proof that yoga movements and breathing are very good.   There are other practices that are similar though that can be just as beneficial.  Without creating a confusion.

I know I have shared about this topic before….but after having watched the Bible Health series it had me pondering again about this topic.  I watched/listened to a great webinar awhile back from Dr. Eric Z in whether or not Christians should practice Yoga.  It was very compelling.

And through some of my own continued research God has been so gracious with guiding me to understand that when we talk about yoga that there is a difference in Yoga vs. yoga (notice capitalized vs. lowercase).   I think where the problem gets in the way is when we go to a class do we know the foundation the roots of the instructor….what is their intent in teaching us?

Since we are all connected spiritually then how can another’s beliefs and spirit NOT effect us if we don’t armor ourselves.

So this is the conclusion and insight I have come to this subject.  I personally can’t practice yoga.  I know how to do meditative moves and pilates that provide the same calm within.  One of the things that really resonated with me that Dr. Eric Z had shared was would I want to be the one to lead someone away from Christ.  I hold firmly to this truth.  Everything I do, I adhere to this thought, not out of fear but out of great love.  So even if I KNEW within my very being that my yoga practice was me giving God glory and honor…..would a struggling Christian know this and be led toward Yoga vs. yoga.

The funny thing is “yoga” has become so vogue and popular that many of us forget that some of these moves are good old fashioned stretch moves we have done since we were little.  But the term “yoga” is more trendy.  And there in lies the concern.  There have been many great saints, popes, theologians who have pressed upon us to heed caution about somethings.

It’s all so very interesting because it can all be so confusing.

What I do know is that each of us have a different journey with God.  And I firmly believe that when we stay CONNECTED to His guiding, leading, and whispers…..then we know…WE KNOW…when something is going to bring us closer to HIM or possibly lead others away from HIM.

So today CONNECT with HIM on a topic you have wrestled with…..and sit with HIM….HEAR WHAT HE HAS TO SAY….not what the world has to say.  And remember to utilize the tools He gives us from the earth through the essential oils.  Find which one is going to open your mind and create space for you to hear HIS voice in the area you wrestle with.

Sit with this…pray about it…write about it…oil up…tap away…

Many hugs and blessings dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 😉

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Funky Freedom

I was in a funk the week before last and I wasn’t sure why….

Then it dawned on me….it was coming up on the anniversary of my grandmothers death.

This is what I remember about that day….

I remember my hubby leaving out of town for the week due to work.  I remember my daughter and I having a latte date at Barnes and Nobles when I saw I had missed a call from my dad.  And I remember giving him a call back when I got home……and starting a load of laundry while I packed up knowing I was going to travel 4-5 hours that day to be with my dad and help him with all he needed to do.

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My grandmother died on my military service anniversary date.  Why is this important: she was Navy as well…..she and I were kindred spirits in sooo many ways.

Over the last few years I often find myself laughing when I do something because I realize how much like her I am!

I didn’t grow up spending hours and hours talking and baking with her but I always felt amazing love and acceptance from her.  I was able to be me.  I never felt like I had to prove anything to her.  I never got a lecture or a disappointed look about anything.  And if I entered her kitchen when she was cooking (which everyone else was always promptly kicked out) I never was chastised for being in the kitchen.

Now if you understand the prongs and complexity of Hashimotos, there is amazing studies, research, and evidence about how complicated Hashimotos is in how it is linked to our emotions and traumatic events.

My grandmothers death was the 3rd traumatic event my body endured in a 16-18 month period.  And I am able to understand it better today why her death was the tipping point of my thyroid storm.

My grandmother was my ONE SAFE person.

SHE LOVED ME AND ACCEPTED ME FOR ME!!!

I was always safe with her.  I never had to worry about harsh words form her or teasing or anything negative.  I truly don’t have a single negative memory with her.

I believe the little girl inside of me that was still needing to figure out how to heal from other traumas that were not revealing themselves yet…..well that little girl within felt panic…felt lost…..felt the rug pulled out from under her.

That little girl’s security blanket was gone…..so her body didn’t feel safe and went into disarray!

Even as I sit here writing this I feel amazing warmth thinking of her and profound loss because I realized everything I  am writing is so true.  This amazing light-bulb of realization and connecting the dots is profound, illuminating, and freeing!

Have you had an enlightened moment about a trauma in your life?  Have you had a moment to add just one more piece to the puzzle of your health?!  And have you found freedom in these realizations….revelations!?

Sit with this….pray about this…journal about it…..oil up and tap about it!

Today I’m oiling up with Console, Peace, and Cheer as I tap my thanks for having had a safe person in my life and still loving myself through others ways they can be hurtful through their words!

What are you going to oil up with and tap about!?

Many blessings, hugs, and prayers dear beloved ones!

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Tap away your Triggers

I’ve been tapping with Essential Oils for about 6 months now!

I probably have been doing this even longer than I realize.  You too have been in away probably been tapping without even realizing!  How often do you hold your temples when you feel pressure in your head?  Press your fingers to your upper lip?  put your hand on your collar bone?  Do you ever feel yourself pressing those places and feeling relief or trying to find relief?

There are many ways to practice and experience EFT (tapping for short).  There is a sequence but there is also short cuts when in the moment and not having the time for a full sequence.  Furthermore, tapping doesn’t have to be just about a negative emotion needing to be released.  It can also be about appreciation and thankfulness.  It can be part of prayer.

To learn more about EFT and the science behind it check out the Tapping Solutions site.  It’s a very informative site.  And full of great info, especially for beginners.

There can be so many sources out there that practice and teach others about EFT.  For me making sure I have a Christian perspective was very important.   When we start dealing with energy work and healing it is important that the person I am learning from and getting info from is Christ centered.

How does Essential Oils fit into this picture!?

Essential oils are supportive with physical issues and very effective for emotional problems as well.  Essential Oils are energy….we are energy!   There is plenty of evidence and backing to help us understand that Essential Oils do provide emotional release and support in healing.

So if Essential Oils can help us release emotions locked up inside of us and tapping releases emotions locked up inside of us via the meridian points…..then why wouldn’t we combine the two together!

Here is a basic understanding about how to combine the two together.

Once you have acknowledged the emotion you are struggling with rate your discontent, your angst with this emotion.  Pick the oil that is going to address that emotion.  You can diffuse that oil while you tap or put the oil on the tapping points or at the very least on your finger tips that you will be tapping with.

Now you are going to focus on what this emotion is.  This doesn’t mean you stew on it, it means you are going to bring it to the conscience, acknowledge that it is there rather than stuffing it down.

Then you do your set up statement.  It can be as simple as, “Even though I feel (fill in blank), I completely and totally love and accept myself.”  This is said 3 times while tapping on the karate chop point.  Now you are ready to start doing the sequence through all the points (The Tapping Solution has a fabulous 2 minute video about the points).  By the time you have done 5 rounds you need to assess if your emotion has decreased, if you feel energy having opened up and flowing better.  Some signs that things are shifting is if you find yourself yawning a lot, if you actually feel emotions welling up and crying, your body starts to relax, and so many other ways.  Tapping is a chance for you to really check in with yourself and start noticing all these little ways your body tries to talk to you!

Don’t have any emotions to clear out?  Or don’t think you do?!  Then just began each day with:  Thank you, thank you, thank you Lord for another beautiful day!  Thank you for creating me to be wonderfully beautifully made!

What are your thoughts about EFT?  Do you think it is something you would be open to for your healing and thriving!?  Sit with this….pray about this….tap about it :)….journal about it….share your thoughts with me!

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones!

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Self-Care {Sensational Surprises}

This last week I had to give myself some AMAZING grace and space of not putting any pressure on myself to blog.  The desire was there…..ideas….thoughts….swirled in my head….in my heart.

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BUT….I needed to not force it to happen….I had to be present in all that I was doing….all that was essential for the week:

  • Connecting Darling Daughter to her new CC (Classical Conversations) group.
  • Starting our lessons back up.
  • Daughters Lit. Book Club.
  • Daughters fellowship night.
  • My parenting/teaching equipping workshop.
  • Creating a rhythm and norm to our schedule.
  • And the biggest….SLEEP!!!

AND….I have no idea if and when I am going to be able to get back into a routine with blogging.  I loved being able to be consistent with Wednesday and Saturday.  It had a beautiful rhythm for me.  And I am sure it will once again but for now I need to write when I can!  Especially as I develop some amazing projects and programs for my coaching practice with the focus of Essential Oils.

So with that being said….I MUST share with you some AMAZING things going on this week with ESSENTIAL OILS!!!  doTERRA is having a BOGO week.  I absolutely LOVE BOGO weeks……they are crazy…..but exhilarating!

Why?

Because each day is different.  I have NO IDEA what the featured oil is going to be as well as the FREE oil.   It gives me the chance to read more about the two oils….and learn even more about these oils.  Especially how I may be able to use that oil in a different way.  ESPECIALLY since I have been learning how to use and share ways to use our oils in an even more profound way….through acupressure points and tapping points.  I love connecting these beautiful gifts of essential oils with my self-care/transformation/wellness coaching.

I promise I WILL BE writing more about that soon.

But til then you all have an amazing rest of your Sunday!  Don’t forget to check out my FACEBOOK PAGE and FACEBOOK GROUP.  I will be posting about these BOGO oils each day.  I look forward to connecting with you there…..AND HERE!!!

Tonight take a moment to reflect on WHAT are your SELF-CARE and WELLNESS goals?  Are you ready to take your SELF-LOVE to the next level!?

Sit with this…..pray about this….journal about this…..contact and connect with me!  I am ready to HEAR YOUR STORY…..to help you map out your self-care and wellness through the support of Essential Oils!

Many blessings my dear followers…family….friends…

~Kelly Frick 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

 

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