THE WHEELS ON THE BUS

Come Holy Spirit fill the hearts of your faithful!

This last Sunday was Pentecost !  The disciples had locked themselves in the upper room for 10 days in prayer and anticipation for the Holy Spirit….their ADVOCATE….to come and be with them as they went out to bring Jesus’s teachings to ALL THE WORLD!

I’ve been really reflecting even more so recently on the word ADVOCATE.  I love how the Holy Spirit IS described as our advocate: ONE WHO SUPPORTS!  As a doTERRA ADVOCATE that is EXACTLY WHAT WE ARE CALLED TO BE: A SUPPORT!  We are to walk side by side and guide, coach, and teach others how to support their health the way God intended us to in a whole body way, with HIS gifts.  It’s truly why I LOVE doing what I do…..because at no time do I, as a coach, (or doTERRA for that matter) say that these oils are the end all be all…..but they are in cooperation with God’s design, plan.  They SUPPORT us in life’s physical and emotional struggles.

As I processed and completed through many chapters of my book recently, I yes could have done it with God alone, but I am grateful He has gifted me with the oils to support my humanness so I don’t have to try to lean on my will….so I can remember His WILL BE DONE!  These oils ALWAYS lead me back to HIM.  JUST LIKE THE HOLY SPIRIT ALWAYS LEADS US BACK TO JESUS AND THE FATHER!

Today’s chapter was a memory that I recall always being in the background of my mind but never clear, it had been suppressed for many years but through one of my Splankna sessions last year I discovered how much it had effected some of my lack of self love and self care.

May my journey bring peace and awareness on your own journey of healing and hope!

Many blessings and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

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Chapter 4:

THE WHEELS ON THE BUS

I grew up in a very small down of around 1000 people at the time.  To make it even more interesting that was the town I went to school and my parents had their business but we actually lived out in the country, the foothills of the mountains.  This was about a 15-20 minute drive from home to town, but by bus it was about an hour.  The school bus picked me and my brother up every morning at 6:30 or 6:45.

It was a given fact that the older you were the farther in the bus you were allowed to sit.  So when you’re 10 you didn’t have to sit way in the front and you were able to sit closer to the middle.  This meant you were able to sit closer to the “cool kids” aka: high schoolers.  At least that’s what I thought because they had all the interesting conversations.  They had the cool clothes.  They were just fun to listen to and watch.

There was one girl who had an older brother, so he sat in the back and she always was privy to the inside conversation.  I wanted to get to know them because I thought their house was cool and different whenever I saw it on the school route.

This girl was my age and we started to sit together to make the time go by faster.  We talked about school, friends, her brother and much more.  She was different, they (her and her brother) were different.  The more time I spent with her the more I realized there was something off about them.  But I didn’t really know how to put my finger on it, or what it was, after all I was only 10 when I met her and started to really get to know her that particular school year.

What I do remember is something weird happened one time on the bus that I don’t know how to fully explain how it even came about.  It makes me think of a frog in a boiling pot.  You know the saying that a frog if plunged into a pot of boiling water it would jump, but if you have it in water and gradually increase the water temperature it will adjust and eventually be boiled to death…..well parts of me have over the years wonder if that’s what was happening.  If my sense of curiosity with this girl and her brother and wanting to always know the scoop of what the “big kids” were doing and saying that I don’t even know how it came about where I remember one day sitting in the school bus seat and the next thing I know she was touching me in ways that I was NOT comfortable with.  I remember thinking how did we get here?  Was it because we always caught glimpses of the older kids making out and doing things very much in the public and scandalizing all of us.  Was this girl’s brother doing things with her that he shouldn’t be and this was her acting out?

All I know was I truly didn’t understand why she was touching me in places and in ways that was not natural or normal for our age, let alone being the same sex.  I once again froze.  I couldn’t get home fast enough.  I wanted to wash this experience out of my brain for forever.

I never sat with her again on the school bus.  I remember the next day her waving me to the seat to sit with her and me purposely sitting up in the very front seat with the 6 year olds right behind the bus driver.  I didn’t want to be near the cool kids anymore.

Have you ever had an experience where you felt powerless, dishonored, and muddled?  That’s how I felt!

GINGER, GRAPEFRUIT, and PEPPERMINT:  Let’s take a look at how these three oils can bring back a person’s power, honor, and relief.

Ginger: This oil helps us take responsibility of knowing we are not powerless.  We may not have control over other people’s actions toward us but we don’t have to sit with a victim mentality.  We can gain power but taking actions to prevent it from happening again.

Grapefruit:  When a person has been violated, scandalized, shamed….there is a tendency to want to dishonor our body….to starve it, abuse it, or even hide behind food.  Grapefruit encourages us to have integrity and to truly love our body, no matter what.

Peppermint:  Our mind and our heart sometimes need a break from the pain of memories.  We are to not live in fear.  But we need to remember to not hide or escape the work of clearing out the emotional baggage of trauma.  Using peppermint can help us clear out the muddled pain and confusion, give us temporary relief to breath as we process the pain of a trauma or experience that isn’t so comfortable for us.

Create a blend with these three to put into water to enjoy sipping or diffuse 3 drops of each or place a drop of each with fractionated coconut oil to rub on your belly (your solar plexus) and the insides of your elbow, allowing your heart and body to embrace the powerful healing of honoring your body with taking back your power and moving past pain.

Tap as you Pray:

Heavenly father as I experience these oils, help me to bring to surface any experience that is from my past that I have ignored for too long.  An experience I may have tried to hide from, numb the pain, and grant me the strength now to be fully present in this healing, to appreciate my body and not hide it in shame.  Through your healing power I can do this.  I trust in you.  Amen

Fertility Freedom

I struggled with infertility for many years before I was blessed with my wonderful daughter! And even afterwards.

Then I became empowered with understanding so many of the whys and how to thrive.

Even though I’m now past my fertility years I am able to still find amazing power in managing my hormones and understanding the how and why!

Join me today on Facebook as I dig into ways we can truly thrive and appreciate our fertility and hormones!

Black Pepper: The Cross

When we abandon all our vices…our control…our additions to sin, hurt, pain,and shame…we are left with…

His amazing power, love , grace, and mercy!

How can black pepper help you put your heart in His hands today?!

Sit…pray…write…tap…and oil up!

Many blessings always…

Kelly 🙂

***Traveling this weekend has me stepping back and reflecting on the beauty of life even more so than usual! Not taking for granted the little things, as well as humbling myself to His plans and His will always…especially with traveling!

Knowledge & Transition: Rosemary

I’ve been reflecting a great deal this last month about WHY I am having flare ups, symptoms related to having Hashimoto’s/hypothyroidism

  • Brain Fog
  • Hair Loss
  • Fatigue
  • Nausea
  • Breathlessness when I try to even go for a walk!

Once upon a time I use to try to figure out what, nutritionally, am I doing wrong.  See that sentence and how backwards it is?  Instead I should have been thinking what can I do to nurture myself.  What am I doing RIGHT and what can I do to ADD for myself: nutritionally, mentally, physically, emotionally, and/or spiritually that my being is yearning for!  What can I ADD instead of subtract!

Now sometimes subtracting can be a good thing.  Saying NO to staying up late so my body can say YES to get up in the morning.  Saying no to trigger foods so my body and mind can say YES to clear thinking and no aches and pains!

And now being older (and hopefully wiser!) I am able to recognize my symptoms are related to something deeper….something that still needs unearthing on this healing and hope journey of health!

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It’s super funny for me because I had ROSEMARY ESSENTIAL OIL on my list to purchase and restock up on.  And in my email yesterday I delightfully ready that ROSEMARY was our free oil of the month! Yay FOR ME….and really for all ….

I have been able to recognize my body and spirits need for ROSEMARY’S SUPPORT even more so right now.  And here is why:

Rosemary helps us with a true sense of self of seeking out knowledge….to not stay in the dark of anything….especially when we are transitioning through life challenges of change.  Change of job, school, home, state…..change from victim to victorious!  Change from surviving to thriving!

Rosemary teaches us to be open to new experiences even the experience of reopening wounds of past hurts, traumas, pains….to have the close and heal properly!

It teaches me to have clarity of mind, because it is important to push through the difficulties….and that I don’t want to walk in ignorance…especially with my faith and healing!

And finally it reminds me that confusion is truly from the enemy!  He doesn’t want us to clearly and confidently walk into transitions and change with clear and concise knowledge because if we do then he doesn’t have control over our thoughts…he can’t continue to deceive us, lie to us, cheat us out of an amazing life, or even “kill” us of our joy of the amazing truth of God’s amazing love and mercy.

Today reflect on:

  • What do you need clarity of?
  • What challenges have you had with learning?
  • Are you open to new experiences of whole healing?

Sit…write…pray…tap….and oil up!

Beyond blessings, hugs, and prayers always for each of you…

Kelly

Your Hope, Healing, & Oils Coach 

 

***I’ll have another chapter of the book out later this week….hopefully…lol!

Some newsworthy thoughts to mark your calendar about:

  • In honor of mothers, women, there will be a FACEBOOK LIVE class this month on Fertility/Hormone Health with the Top Ten Oils.

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  • I will be having an in-home class/presentation on the EMOTIONAL Care with the Top Ten Oils for anyone in the Georgetown/Austin area!

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  • My AromaTouch Therapy room is set back up ready to pamper any and all women wanting to enjoy some self-care/detoxing….men: this is a great MOTHERS DAY GIFT IDEA!!

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  • And finally: This month with doTERRA there are amazing gifts to be received with specific START UP kits….and amazing THROW in GIFTS FROM ME!

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So if you have been on the fence….this may just be the time to connect with me (email: kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com) and let’s have a great conversation…because I would LOVE to serve you with your hope and healing on your health and wellness journey!

Inner Beauty: Getting Past Porn

Last week I took a break from writing my book. Why? Because the next chapter is hard…it needed more reflection…it needed me digging deep into how to express the shame that surrounds the topic.

So many of us fall victim of being exposed to pornography at a very young age and then finding ourselves going to it even when we know it’s wrong. Each person who has fallen to it have a different story of why…..but there is a root of hurt, pain, trauma, insecurity…..and so much more!

What so many of us don’t realize is this is not just a mans problem……women who fall victim to it whether full out addiction of months or years, or those who are victims of continual exposure….well these women are hurting, comparing, and trying to figure out why?!

But the enemy gets to win and has us live in shame when we stay quiet and keep our sin in the dark.  So here I share with you the next chapter of the book, addressing how I was first exposed to it and why I continued to go to it from time to time in my life.

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Chapter 3

BROTHERS FRIEND: PERFECT PORN

I was about 8 or 9 years old hanging out with my about 6 or 7 year old brother and his best friend at the time.  We were at this friend’s house. I heard the boys laugh and have a strange look on their face as they came out of the bathroom.  I needed to go the restroom anyways so I went in.  There was the typical things you find in every bathroom including a magazine basket/rack.  Well I quickly realized what had them looking all weird.  There were several magazines in there with women wearing, well nothing.  It was my first time of being introduced to porn.  Of even knowing that there was even such a thing.

I found myself feeling drawn and compelled to continue to flip through the magazine even though I was done going pee.   I knew I shouldn’t be looking at it but I was morbidly curious of trying to figure out why these women were naked for all to see.  And then it started to feed the distorted lie in my mind from my previous experience of being touched and looked at by my friend’s brother as if I wasn’t a person.  And here there was confirmation that I wasn’t a person to be respected but a person to be looked at and used.  And thus began my belief that I had to look like these women to be truly loved.

This wasn’t my only exposer.  As I got older most of my brother’s friends fathers had these magazines.  There were some more intense and graphic than others.  I always found myself feeling morbidly and shamefully drawn to them.  I didn’t, but I did want to look at them.  Why, you might ask?  Why on earth would a girl want to look at other women?   Well: to compare and to judge!

All the while destroying my self-esteem even more.  It started to form in my mind that I must look a certain way to have any respect.  When I looked in the mirror I started to look at myself and compare what I saw from the pictures.  I also had other women in my life that didn’t have great body image health and that fed into me developing the body dysmorphia.

I struggled for years with going on and off to porn.  Why?  Again to judge and compare and feel even less about myself.

I had many boyfriends who even wanted to look at these magazines with me.  They rationalized it was art.  I allowed myself to be put into this situation of being used and abused and objectified.

When the internet became accessible in my late teens, early twenties, I would find myself doing searches when I felt my lowest about myself.  I was able to recognize quickly that when my dysmorphia was at its worst is when I was most vulnerable to be willing to look at porn in order to make myself feel even less about myself.

How did I break this cycle?  I met the man I was to marry.  He cherished me in the right way.  He respected me.  He never made me feel unloved or like I was an object.  Then I discovered when he was with the guys, he would do what guys would do, look at these things.  And I didn’t like it.  I didn’t like the idea that I was going to have to try to live up to what he saw in a magazine.  I let him know it didn’t make me feel cherished.  That was all it took for him.

Then it dawned on me….I wasn’t making my own self feel cherished by looking at these same magazines and comparing myself.  I was not honoring my own self.

This brings us to the oils that can support you during this journey of healing and hope.  What has been your experience and exposure to porn!?  Have you experienced a similar situation, whether at a young age, older, once, twice, over the course of years, you too need healing and hope in this area?  Because this is trauma.  It is trauma to your entire senses.  It is trauma to be exposed to the distortion of the beauty of our bodies.

Oil Blend:  Forgive, Slim & Sassy, Cypress:

Forgive is the renewing blend.  Do you find yourself being critical of yourself?  With Forgive we are able to realize we deserve to be compassionate not only to others but to ourselves.  For the longest time I couldn’t forgive myself for falling into the lie that porn delivers to us: body freedom.  I needed to realize that judging and comparing myself was keeping me locked into anger and cynicism.

Slim & Sassy is about inner beauty.  I had to find self-acceptance.  I needed to learn how to truly embrace my body’s individual beauty.  I needed to quit criticizing and comparing myself.  I needed to find my worth and know that I was truly beautifully and wonderfully made.

Cypress is about Motion and Flow.  So many of us view the women in magazines (porn or other magazines) and expect ourselves to be “perfect”.  We judge ourselves that is the way we are supposed to look.  We fear we are not good enough, pretty enough.  We get stuck in believing these lies.  We must become open to trust that we are loved for us, not our body.  When we flex our limiting beliefs we are able to adapt and flow into the growth of how beautiful we are without the airbrush.

Slim & Sassy is the only one that is great for internal use, but in this situation it is even better with topical and aromatic use.  Cypress and Forgive are topical and aromatic oils.

TOPICAL USE:

Layer these oils on the creases of your elbow and the back of your neck.  Put Cypress first to start the flow of renewal of inner beauty.  Layer forgive next and then Slim & Sassy.

AROMATIC USE:

In a diffuser use 5 drops of each.

One final thought before we end in prayer.  You can also use tapping (EFT) as a way to help release the emotions of the traumas.  Use tapping in mediation, in prayer, or even on the go.  It is a powerful tool God has given to us to support us on this healing journey of hope!

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…every time I look at billboards, magazines, and movies help me to guard my eyes and not compare.  Help me to not feel drawn to seek out looking at the distortions of our beauty through porn found in movies, magazines, websites, or even books (romance books especially!).

I continue to thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  I ask you to shield my eyes and my heart to not seek out these distortions to compare and judge myself.

Dear guardian angel, I beg you to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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SINS OF THE FATHERS

I was laughing inside when I read my email on Sunday that the free oil this month was BREATHE!  How absolutely fitting because here I go with Chapter 1!

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Chapter 1: 

SINS OF THE FATHERS

Before I get into my own trauma I want to share with you: I do NOT blame my parents.  They did the best they could with what they did have.  They didn’t have resources and amazing things like Christopher West teaching Theology of the Body.  Because well honestly Saint Pope John Paul II’s Wednesday teachings were barely taking place.  And they were being sucked into the lie of the sexual revolution.  And as many good wonderful Catholics, they were taught to suppress, ignore, and hide your sexual desires. After all good Catholics, good Christians, didn’t think about our sexual health. Thus, HOW could sexual health, non-the-less true sexual understanding of how beautifully wonderfully made we are, even be understood!

Then you compound it with their own traumas, wounds, distortions, and missing the mark of what Eros and our sexuality is really all about, it was a recipe for disaster.  But I am not here to tell their story.  It is not mine to tell.  Yet their story did have an impact on my life.  Therefore sharing this part is important to understand because their story does matter.  Stories they hadn’t even shared with me until I was much older.  Now I do believe there is a time and a place in sharing our stories with our children.  I also believe there is a matter of the extent of the information.  But there is a problem when we don’t share our journey with our children.  We think if we don’t talk about it, well it won’t affect or impact another person, but it does.

A baby in the womb hears, feels, senses EVERYTHING!  Our spirits are connected.  So my mind may not have known what my father was struggling with but my spirit knew.   It impacted me.   My mom may have thought she was shielding me from the ugliness of how evil had touched her in a profound way by not sharing it.  But my spirit new and it impacted me.

Again I say, because my parents didn’t have the equipment of TOB (Theology of the Body) to help them remember how beautifully wonderfully made they were, they chose to believe the lies from the enemy that they were ugly, they should hide in shame, they should NEVER speak about their sins, their wounds, their experiences to their children because that will cause sin within them.  And that is exactly how the enemy likes it.  He likes our hurts, pains, and sin to be in the dark.  Therefore when we don’t communicate (communion), we divide.  Think of Adam and Eve.

Now let’s take a journey with an oil blend to help you on your own healing and hope journey of sexual abuse, trauma, and/or past choices of sin.

BLEND: Patchouli, Eucalyptus, Lemon

Patchouli is the oil of physicality.  It reminds us to become fully present in our physical body.  It aims to connect our spirit with our body, to appreciate our body.   We can’t get more disconnected with our spirit and our body than through sexual trauma and sin.  If anything we have a raging battle within us to not connect because when we connect we will hurt, we will sin.

Eucalyptus is the oil of wellness.  This oil encourages us to be responsible for our health.  This means our spiritual health as well.  Do you ever find yourself feeling a shortness of breath or a tightening in your chest when you have a flashback of a trauma?  Do you find the same sensation when you think of all the missed mark choices you made concerning your sexual health?  Those are promptings of your spirit to stop hiding from your sexual health and start healing.  To seek out the hope and promise Christ gave us.

Lemon is the oil of Focus.  The only way we can truly heal is to be mentally present.  Lemon strengthens us to calm our fears of not feeling good enough.  It will cleanse your negative talk of feeling tainted and dirty.

Two great ways to use this blend is topically or aromatically.  You can just use the diffuser alone for inhalation, but when you use them topically as I am going to share, you will experience them in both ways: topically and aromatically.

Place one drop of each in your palm with some fractionated coconut oil.  Rub together cup your hands together, bring to your nose and inhale a deep breath.  Experience the scents together.  Feel them enter into your cells, your mind, and your spirit. Do this 3 times.  I always like putting the remainder of the oils on the bottom of my feet and on any body part I feel is holding onto negative emotions that day.  Usually I know this by what body part I feel drawn to rub the oils on.  Examples would be my adrenals, my heart, my thyroid and even my breasts.

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…what trauma or past sexual choice have I made that I need to bring to the light, that I need to become fully present into my body and spirit to bring about true healing.  Help me to be responsible with my health and cleanse me of all my negative talk.  Help me to have the courage to visit with my parents and ask them about their sexual past if I don’t know anything about it.  The more I bring my stuff to the light and encourage them to bring their stuff to the light, the more I will defeat the enemy.

Thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  Thank you for the Holy Spirit’s constant prompting and guiding me on this journey.

I end with asking my guardian angel to continue to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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Are you ready to start a  Hope &  Healing in your physical, mental, and spiritual Health journey?!

When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  

My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick 

There are several great ways to start!  Let’s schedule a welcome call with you and get you some FREE welcome goodies mailed right away!

Want to know more?

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