Console my Broken Heart

My heart is breaking.

I had so many things I wanted to share with all of you this Monday.  But I will save them for another day :).   Because there WILL be another day…lol.

Yesterday our parish priest shared how our Bishop is moving him to a different parish because he is needed there.  My heart breaks because we just got here.  I have truly fall in love with this priest in such a short four month period.  When he broke the news yesterday, my eyes welled….and I could barely speak about it during the day.  It created such a deep loss within me.  I went to Console and Bergamot to support me.

It had me pondering WHY!?  Why did I feel such loss?  And then it hit me….I HAD FULLY, VULNERABLY, WILLINGLY, FINALLY LET SOMEONE  INTO MY LIFE WITH NO GUARD, NO HESITATION!!! 

The realization that it hurt so deep was because I truly loved this man and all he has to give to his church, his congregation, with no reservation.  My wounds of past vulnerabilities had truly been healed.  And that gave me great joy.  

Then I had to remind myself to have that Godly detachment.  And again…I had accomplished that as well.  I was able to recognize that we cannot cling to things and people, only God is our true rock…..YET we are to love others with our WHOLE heart, mind, soul….this is not always easy…..right!?  Especially when we are wounded!

YET….I did it!  And that gave me amazing joy and peace!

So when you find yourself clinging to someone or something, reflect on why?  Give it to God.  And when you find yourself feeling great loss, give yourself the grace to to heal and move forward yet remember we must only cling to God!

As always….sit…pray…oil up…and tap through your day!!

Drops of blessings and hugs dear ones!

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

PS…..Last week was abundantly full with my darling daughters theater schedule and this week will be as well due to it being production week, so there will more than likely be only one posting this week, but who knows…lol.  I am also going to stop trying to figure out the right “formula” of when and what to write for you all because that’s not being true to me, thus not true to you all!  But more about that soon ;)……Til then….

Have an amazingly blessed week!

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Seductive Sugar

Sugar is such a mixed baggage of yuck!  And at this time of the year it makes it especially difficult to try and avoid for everyone.

So I am going to confess.  I was trying to figure out what to write tonight.  I don’t normally have a brain block.  Well life has been full (probably too full) and I was struggling with a thought.  I posted on FB idea suggestions.  And I received lots of great ideas.  And the one that really stuck out for me to write about tonight was SUGAR!

It is that time of the year that everyone is going to start really struggling with it.  It is going to be EVERYWHERE!

Now for me…

Growing up sugar was almost equated to “sin”, “evil”, “bad”.  My parents knew it wasn’t good for us but they just didn’t know how to really express it and reinforce it in a healthy way.  So for me unfortunately it was another thing that added to my baggage of dysmorphia and shame….especially if I chose to eat it away from them.

I fortunately don’t really crave sweet things.  My cravings are salty, creamy, cheesy….lol.  But I do love ice cream and chocolate.  And even though I will find some really great vegan and sugar free options just the sweetness can trigger me into feeling like I am doing something I am not suppose to be doing.

The problem with sugar period…set aside any of us who have an emotional tie to it….it physically IS addicting!  It messes with our hormones.  It messes with our insulin.  Which in return messes with our emotions.

How can we overcome any shame and “ick” with it!?  Keep it simple….especially this time of the year!  So many of us try to replace the candy and pies with alternatives that are “healthier” versions but they can still create emotional baggage.

Instead enjoy LOTS AND LOTS of fresh fruit and veggies!  I am totally serious.  The more we reach for these the better we will feel.  Don’t be afraid to enjoy all of these.  And truly keep it simple.   Just cut them up.  Crunch is wonderful and satisfying.  And its actually quite healing!  I also use lots of different essential oils to either soak my fruits and veggies in or just in my water to help me with cravings and add some fun flavors.

We can get stressed during this time of the year with family.  When our hormones and emotions are out of whack it can make things even worse.  It can cause us to feel even more shame, hurt, frustration….you name it!

Some tricks I use especially during the holidays but year round when it comes to sugar:

  • A note in my frig that says “what do I really want?!”
  • Lemon and orange essential oil at eye level in the pantry. 
  • Pausing to ask myself “what am I FEELING right now?”
  • Will I feel shame?
  • Drink 2 glasses of lemon/peppermint water instead.
  • Remind myself I love myself too much to go through the roller coaster ride.
  • Remind myself I love my family too much to put them through emotions.
  • Remind myself: I AM A TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT….to be honored and respected!

But the biggest and best thing to overcome sugars seduction….keep it out of the house!  We don’t have it in the house.  And anything we have that is made with natural sweeteners I ask the above questions to myself.

What is your relationship with sugar?

Sit with this….pray about it…write….oil…and tap….I am truly serious :)!  This seductive “drug” needs all the tools in our tool bag to resist.

Oh but finally…..if you do give into it…..don’t shame yourself….love yourself….give yourself grace and know that you can start all over that very moment!!!!

Because GOD LOVES US NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Many drops of blessings and prayers dear one!

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

PS…would you like some help overcoming your sugar temptations and other wellness goals….message me on Facebook or contact me from the “services & appointment” tab.  I would love to serve and support you!

 

 

 

Healing Crusader

Through this healing journey I have read many different healing stories: physical, spiritual, emotional… about Hashimoto’s, traumas, abuses….

Many of these warriors of healing are fallen away Catholics. 

This is unbearably sad for me.

There are many who leave other denominations as well.  But these are many of the reasons I have heard:

  • I didn’t have a personal relationship with Christ.
  • I didn’t feel welcomed.
  • It was too black and white.
  • There was judgment.
  • I didn’t feel accepted.

The list goes on….

And it breaks my heart!

I’ve been described as:

“She’s not your typical Catholic.” and “You won’t believe she’s Catholic.”

This is funny to me…but it’s true….and it’s also sad…..sad to me that more people haven’t encountered and/or experienced an Evangelical Catholic.  It’s sad to me that wounds, hurts, and differences have kept Catholics away or even driven them away.

The Catholic Church is not perfect…not by any means. No faith is!!! And this is NOT AN EXCUSE FOR ANY CHURCH TO BE ABUSIVE TO THEIR PARISHIONERS!

For me the Catholic Church  has a richness and depth and beauty that I can’t imagine being without it in my life.

Now you might be thinking I have never been hurt by the church or had a bad experience; so I can’t possibly know.  But actually I HAVE had plenty…

  • A priest once told me to come back to confession when I had real sins to confess.
  • Another ended confessions before I had my turn and said he didn’t have time for me…literally.
  • I have felt the tongue lashing of a parishioner telling me my daughter (then 3 years old) was not a “good girl” during mass.
  • I have experienced the politics that take place when working for the church.
  • I have observed and been on the receiving end of individuals in ministry (lay and priests) not conduct themselves with honor and dignity.

And more….

BUT this is the thing….this happens EVERYWHERE….with EVERY CHURCH!!!

Why!?

Because they are all ran by man.  And we are ALL flawed…sinners…human!  WE ARE ALL WOUNDED!!!

I wish I could look each and every wounded person in the eye ….who has left the church….hold them and say:

  • I AM SOOO SORRY WE DID NOT NURTURE YOU, FEED YOU, PROTECT YOU LOVE YOU ENOUGH!
  • I am SO SORRY your hurt was so great that you felt you had to flee.
  • I am SO SORRY that you felt you would not be heard.
  • I am SO SORRY you felt you couldn’t seek out someone else within the church to provide you comfort, encouragement, love, mercy….

I know I can’t change the past for these wounded but I pray they/you will one day be able to face the traumas and hurts felt from the Catholic Church.  I pray they/you find healing and peace.  I pray they/you have the personal relationship with Christ they/you sought after.  I pray they/you are being an instrumental disciple as He has called us all to be!

Today,  if you have left the Catholic Church, or left church period, I pray you take a moment to sit with your “why’s”.  Reflect within and ask:  Am I ready to heal from this wound?  Am I ready to break free from this bondage of pain?  Am I ready to be ALL HE CREATED ME TO BE!?  Some oils that can help you through this are: Console, Forgive, Hope, Deep Blue, Peace.

As always…sit…pray…oil up…..and tap about this….:)

Many drops of blessings dear beloved ones….

~Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

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Enough Already…

I am enough!!!

I will have to probably repeat that mantra…my affirmation…FOR THE REST OF  MY LIFE!!!

It is my weak link…my access point for the enemy.

It’s not that I don’t know it…I DO!!!

It’s not that I don’t feel it…I DO!!!

It’s not that I don’t believe it…I DO….most of the time….

And there in-lies the problem…my weak point…my access point where the enemy whispers his disgusting lies!!!

I had a difficult hour last week when the whole day had been beautiful, wonderful….then….in a blink of an eye… all came crashing down on me.  It was my amazing wise, 40-year-old-stuck-in-a-14-year-old-body, daughter that had me reflect on what was really going on internally.

We talked about hormones…periods…emotions.  Her statements and questions were basically directed to the fact that: just because I don’t still have a period my body system still has hormones.  She was right.

She sensed I needed ClaryCalm and Serenity.  I laughed cause I don’t really like the smell of ClaryCalm.  Its too floral for me.  But if there is anything I have learned about the essential oils when we don’t really like a smell….especially if we have a negative reaction to it….it may mean our body REALLY needs it!

My daughter was soooooo right….

It stirred up emotions of continual healing from losing Sam.  Sam should’ve been born 6 years ago around this time.

A year later I needed a hysterectomy.  Therefore, present day I don’t experience the beautiful signals our beautiful female bodies will naturally share with us about our hormonal cycle.  Before the hysterectomy I charted my bio-markers.  This allowed me to see my estrogen build up and rise, then drop off.   Actually for me I was able to see the dysfunction of being estrogen dominant.

Our bodies are beautifully made.  They are continually talking to us.  Our bodies share with us how to take care of them, how to be healthy and strong.  Yet, I don’t have that ability anymore.  Even though my hormones are still doing something inside.  I don’t have the bio-markers to guide me anymore.

This is a reminder that I won’t carry any more children.  How can I possibly be enough for my hubby…my daughter…for God…oh the lies our enemy tries to fill in our heads.

The monthly blend, ClaryCalm, is the oil of vulnerability.  NO WONDER why I DON’T like the smell of it!!!

Who likes to feel vulnerable….IT MEANS WEAKNESS…..but that is a LIE!!!

What it really means is being open to true warmth and love in relationship.

My daughter had wisdom with this oil that she didn’t even know or understand.  But her spirit knew….and her connection and bond to me was supporting me and sharing with me what I needed to know to support myself and to continue the healing process.

This blend helps release emotional tension from the ovaries; to release suffering and dread.  We as women tend to have this surround our periods.  but since I don’t receive a period I have this build up of hormonal emotions that I don’t have bio-signals for anymore.

This can cause me to want to be even more guarded and closed.  Add to it loss, past traumas with men, and shame….but….that’s the beauty of continual healing…

God reminded me through my precious 14 year old that ClaryCalm is what I need to support myself.  I need to continue to grow in vulnerability, grow in healing, grow in knowing I AM ENOUGH.

I WILL learn a new way to monitor my hormones and with patience I will find a balance.  After all God has shown me so many other things through essential oils, tapping, plant based living, and so much more….I KNOW He will help me find a new way to find my hormonal rhythm…naturally…HIS WAY!!!

Do you struggle with feeling enough?  Do you need to open yourself up to vulnerability?  Hormonal balance? 

Seek out God’s rhythm for you!

He will remind you just HOW ENOUGH YOU REALLY ARE!!!

Sit…pray…journal…oil up….tap…and most important seek God through all of it!

As we connect one drop at a time to WHOLE health….mind body soul spirit…

you have my hugs and blessings always…

Kelly 🙂

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

#Me Too…

I am terrible with keeping up with what’s going on in the media, news, etc….  I have NO IDEA the who what where when why of the #me too.

What I do know is I saw it on a loved ones FB page and I chose to also share it.  After all, I know God has called me to make my life an open book for all.

Anyone who stumbles across my facebook page or here on this blog will learn 3 things about me:

  • I am passionate about empowering women.

  • I share about the connection of traumas and health.

  • I connect essential oils to ALL aspects of life: mind, body, soul, spirit.

 

 

 

I imagine the purpose of the #me too,  is to create awareness….I get it.

BUT….I think the #ME TOO….needs more!  It needs a voice, encouragement, details, action!

What do I mean?

I have learned over the years the more I talk openly about my sexual traumas, abuses, and choices (not every cruel detail, but not so vague as just a ME TOO)…..the more I speak about it… the more I heal.  Each time its a little different, depending on the circumstances, the person, will depend on the detail, the angle I recall.

Every time I am asked to speak at a women’s event to share my testimony.…it’s empowering…freeing.

Thus the enemy loses his clutches. His lies have less to no impact.  I am able to walk out from under the shadow of shame, feeling dirty, ugly, and so much more.

There are many things women CAN do to empower themselves to prevent and/or heal.

In addition to:

  • Prayer
  • Oils
  • Tapping
  • retreats
  • splankna
  • therapies

There are TWO things I think are absolutely a bedrock for women to feel empowered:

TOB:  The more a woman knows and understands the beauty of her human sexuality, the less likely she will fall for the lies to compromise her dignity.  When we are weakened in our mind about our body we are weakened in our spirit and body.  This makes us vulnerable to be used and abused.

BJJ: There is something very spiritual and empowering with this form of exercise, martial arts.  Short version you become VERY COMFORTABLE, EMPOWERED, IN THE UNCOMFORTABLE.

I have always loved intense workouts.  Having weight lifted since I was 18.  I love the  force of moving something; pushing my muscles and body in ways that I didn’t think possible.  I’ve loved the fluid stretching and core strength from Pilates.  I relish the stamina I receive from walking, biking, and when I use to run.  They have all gained me confidence in my mind body soul spirit journey of loving the body I’m in.  They have nurtured my healing and finding peace with my past….BUT….not ONE of them prepared me for protecting me.

I have taken defense classes and dabbled with other martial art modalities in the past….but NONE OF THEM….have what I believe BJJ has (in my opinion)….

When you train in BJJ: whether its with a video, a gym, with a gi, no gi, competition, no competition….each form of BJJ teaches you to find peace and confidence in being comfortable in the uncomfortable.

Let me explain….

you are laying on the mat, a person has you pinned….they are 2-3 times your size…sweat dripping on you…they are breathing heavy in your face….

you have a choice:

  • Panic, struggle, exhaust yourself…or…
  • pause…dig deep within to WAIT….find your opening….ESCAPE!

Because YOU CAN….YOU CAN DEFEAT GOLIATH!

It’s the same as the bible story….YOU OUTSMART THEM!

BJJ is not about brute force….it’s art….strategy….chess….

OWNING YOUR SPACE….confidence in your skin!!!!

When you combine TOB AND BJJ…

  • You can’t help but experience the amazing power of being A WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN!
  • You can’t help but heal from trauma.
  • you can’t help but empower yourself/armor yourself against hurt, pain, trauma.

This duo has something for every woman.  I love that they have been there for me through my healing. 

I am no where near where I would like to be with BJJ….heck I’ve been an “in and out” student of it for a little over a year now but I see the power of it.  I have to be mindful about my inflammation and go slower with it than I would like but I KNOW it’s amazing power (mind, body, soul, spirit) that I don’t want to give up on my BJJ journey.

I love that this duo is powerful for my daughter. 

My prayer is that she WILL NEVER…

be a woman posting #ME TOO!!!

How about you?  What’s going to be your #hashtag going to read?  #HOPE? #EMPOWERED? #HEALED? #BELOVED? #CHERISHED #NOT A VICTIM? #WARRIOR

Sit…pray…oil up…tap…..and connect to your amazing healing and health of your mind, body, soul, spirit journey!

hugs and prayers always dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

Fear Your Dreams

Pursuing dreams and goals, they can be scary.

I have moments when I find myself falling into the temptation of fear.  It tries to mask itself with all sorts of tricks but ultimately it is fear.

Fear:

  • I won’t reach my goal.
  • I am going to neglect my family.
  • I’m not going to meet my daughters needs.
  • I’m being selfish.
  • I’m going to mess it all up.

But then I STOP…I reach for several oils.  I first use Forgive while I tap and pray.  I have God remind me He placed these dreams and goals in my heart and head because its HIS mission that He has placed there.

By me reaching these goals, I will be breaking the doubt and bondage of generational junk.

  • God is teaching me this is my path for Him and this path WON’T create division between me and my daughter or husband. 
  • He is showing me I don’t have to fear dreams and goals! 
  • I don’t have to fear my family will be hurt or angry with me.
  • I don’t have to fear I’m not equipped because HE HAS equipped me.

I am blessed to have the two greatest cheerleaders: my daughter and husband.  They don’t doubt what God is calling me to do…..and they DON’T ever feel like I put anything before them!

As a family we pitch in to take care of the house, each other, and we each pursue our individual dreams and goals together!

After I have oiled up, tapped, and prayed through all that I feel: Peace…Serenity.  I am able to relate to the serenity prayer in a deeper more meaningful way.

What do you need to relinquish…to find your Peace and Serenity?!

Sit with this….oil up….tap….pray….connect :)….

Many blessings dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

 

Seasons of Change

Change is in the air!

I’ve been reflecting on this fall and how our schedules have been changing!  I’ve been loving the idea of sitting on the couch, reading, writing, and drinking a cup of tea as I plan out all the fun Thanksgiving and Christmas plans, gifts, etc!  Which has me thinking…if I love sitting back in the evening checking up on reading blogs, Facebook, emails, and the newest magazine that came in the mail……well then you all probably do too ;)…..

We all make transitions, changes, and the key and challenge is to honor it.  To not force it but to also not ignore it.

I have realized I want to shift from writing in the mornings to writing in the evenings.  To shift from Wednesday and Saturday morning to Monday and Thursday evening.  Who knows it might be just right for this season in my life….in your life :)…..

I could buckle with fear and say to myself, “But everyone has gotten use to my routine of Wednesday and Saturday morning?  Will they want to read Monday and Thursday evening?”  “Will I lose you all?”  BUT THAT IS FEAR…..and I don’t live in the fear realm.

After all I would propose that the reason why anyone reads what I write is because they see the authenticity behind my words.  They hear my heart.  They feel my passion.  Well if I am transitioning in when I feel passionate about what I write then that is when I should write….correct?!  And if I force a writing schedule that doesn’t work for me anymore and is lacking authenticity, heart, and passion….well then I have lost my voice and I will lose you anyways!

So starting next week my postings will come out Monday and Thursday evenings!  Perfect for beginning our weeks and wrapping up our week to prep for some amazing family time for the weekends!

I think I will also be transitioning my Facebook Live’s….but that’s for another day to ponder….lol….

What have you been wrestling with as this fall season has fully arrived and is shifting our perspectives and schedules?!  Is there something you’ve been putting off to do?  Or something you have been wanting to change but been afraid to because it may upset someone?  It may feel weird?  Or it may be out of character of you?

Instead embrace the change!  Change allows our spirit to shift.  Allows our minds to sharpen.  And allows our bodies to be challenged.   Finally it opens our soul to the possibilities of soaring!

As always remember to always take a moment each day to….

…sit…pray…oil up…..and tap….:)

Many drops of blessings dear beloved ones….

~Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

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Forgiveness {love}

There was a time in my past when I made a choice to allow words….hurt feelings…..to come between me and God!

How?

Because of how I internalized a conversation and allowed the negative lies to spin I chose to drink many many glasses of wine throughout the day.  Even knowing it would effect my health….even knowing it would prevent me from getting to Mass!

Now I could have stayed in that pain….those lies…and beat myself up even more with shame….and more lies from the Enemy….instead I picked myself up.  I turned to my amazing loving FATHER and asked for forgiveness….which I knew He already gave me….and I forgave myself.  That was the biggie!

In the past I would have taken it to confession but would have still beat myself up over it.  Well that is allowing the enemy to win.  He wants us to forget that our heavenly FATHER forgives us…..loves us….has open arms for us.  You see when we stay stuck in our own shame, hurt, pain….then we repeat the action, the sin, the negative…..and we create more shame…more hurt….more pain….and then we believe the lie that we are not redeemable!  AND WE ARE!!!

Next time you find yourself beating yourself up over:  too much spending, overeating, missing church, too much drinking…..STOP…..give it directly to GOD…..confess to it…..be honest out loud to yourself and to God……and CONNECT to HIS AMAZING LOVE AND GRACE!!!

Sit…pray…write…oil up…tap it away…

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Perfect {Parenting}

NOT!!!

Let’s just get that out of the way…..there is not one of us that is perfect at parenting…at anything!

I soooo struggle with being a parent sometimes.  Add to it that I homeschool….I doubt myself ALL the time…..what get’s me through it?

I know it is all LIES!  When I am connecting to God each and every day……throughout my day always…..I KNOW AND SEE the lies the enemy is trying to feed me!

I recently had a battle with once again doubting I was enough for my daughter when it came to her education.  Some suggestions were made and I found myself getting defensive.  But since I have been doing so much inner healing work I was able to recognize the two fold prong the enemy was trying to get to me with.

He was using a person I struggle with.  A beautiful amazing person who never ever says words of praise to me.  Now since my primary love language is WORDS I have to remind myself all the time that not everyone realizes and knows how to use words constructively.  Add to it this amazing person and I haven’t always had the greatest of a relationship.  It has been rocky but I know because of God we are at a much better place than ever before.

So the 2nd prong was the topic of homeschooling.   I hope you are seeing the same thing I was able to recognize.  The storm of hurt and doubt the enemy was trying to brew.  And it almost worked.  After the conversation I wanted to think: why am I not enough for this person, why can’t I EVER receive a compliment of what I have done with my daughter and her education.  Why….why….why….

But I stopped……I saw what he was doing.  He wanted me to create a spiritual disconnect with this person.  To undo all the work we have done.  I was able to see that I still had my own work to do within me…..in KNOWING I AM ENOUGH!  God commissioned me to be my daughter’s mom…..and HE KNOWS I AM ENOUGH!!

Today unfold the lies the enemy has been feeding you about your abilities, your relationships….and sweep him out…..take it to God……let HIM redeem the wounds.  Don’t allow the lies to wound you anymore and don’t let the lies wound your connection to others!

This is definitely something to sit with….pray about….journal about…go to the oils to help you connect to your emotions you are feeling and tap about it to release the negative energy….finally share about it…..whether here or with someone you trust.  Darkness can not live in the light!

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

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