How’s your Love Tank!?

My darling daughter asked me this question a few weeks ago….”How’s your Love Tank?”

I have raised her on many concepts but one of them is being in touch with how we give and receive love…..ie: our Love Languages.  If you don’t know much about the 5 Love Languages you must check out Gary Chapman’s books….website.…everything by him!

Anyways….back on track…lol….

I realized…yes she was genuinely asking about me…..BUT she was also giving me a hint that HERS wasn’t doing so great!!!

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I was able to reflect and realize that since we had set some pretty amazing financial goals as a family for 2019……well I had been cutting corners in lots of ways…..and excited about all we had accomplished already in January…..BUT….

The problem was……

My daughters TOP…..we are talking HIGH SCORING……top Love Language is: GIFTS!!!

Now some may have a misconception that those who have GIFTS as their number one love language are materialist or they need big things…..or lots of things…..

nope….

what they need are those random…..unexpected….truly ‘thought of them’ sort of things…..

That means when I am doing my grocery shopping and I see a treat I KNOW SHE WOULD LOVE…..I should throw it into my cart…..

It means when I am at the office store and I see a silly sticky note pad that I know she would just light up about……I SHOULD GRAB IT….

These things added up would amount to truly only a few bucks a week…..

BUT I became too focused on our 2019 financial goals….and being purposefully intentional to get our new year off to an amazing start that I overlooked the fact that I went from doing little things like that each week to NOTHING…..for almost 4 weeks…..

You might ask: WHAT THE HECK DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH!?

Since our true full picture health is: mind, body, soul, spirit connected…..WELL….

IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH…..AND IT HAD EVERYTHING TO DO WITH MY DAUGHTERS HEALTH!

When our love tank is filled up….we are more resilient to our mental chatter…..

We are able to think clearer about our physical choices.  Things like higher vibration food…..movement and exercise that makes us feel alive.  Better sleep…..less stress…..a better armor to physical, environmental, and emotional toxins.

And these all feed into each other….it becomes a cycle of worthiness….a cycle of what we think….we do….it forms our choices….forms our belief system….and then feeds back into our thinking.

Now sometimes we have to be purposeful in our food, exercise, and sleep choices to help our mental thought process….sometimes we have to just DO IT…..so our mind can be helped….

But can you see how it is a cycle of which came first:  the better lifestyle choices or the better thinking…..that improved our health!?  I think its a combination of both….

Yesterday I shared a video on just that…..worthiness….mindfulness:

I was super proud of her boldness….and willing to be vulnerable…..to reach out and in a gentle way let me know she was feeling depleted…..especially with all the other pressures going on in her sweet young life!

We corrected it…..had some super fun spontaneous shopping days….of really just going and being together and having tea……grabbing a few goofy things from the dollar section of a few select stores…..and just filling each other up!

I also didn’t forget yesterday when I was grocery shopping to make sure and grab this cute little container with some chocolates in it…..she loves chocolate…and she loves little containers…cost me $2….so worth filling up her love tank!!

So my question for you is: Have you noticed a loved one who has been acting a bit different…..maybe not quite themselves….and you can’t quite figure out why?

Maybe their LOVE TANK needs to be filled!  Maybe their love tank is feeling a bit depleted.

Need some help figuring it out?

Here are some suggestions….

If a persons primary love language is words….and they seem to be more sensitive to your comments or suggestions recently…..it could be that you haven’t been giving specific encouragement recently to them.  You either have just made a general compliment or have just kept conversation at a minimal.

***Try diffusing Lavender to create calm connected communication.

If a persons primary love language is time……and they start complaining you guys don’t do anything together….or acts like you are rejecting them when they make a suggestion to do something….then they are needing some serious one-on-one time……give them some true uninterrupted eye contact…..a walk…a cuddle on the couch.

***Try diffusing Ylang Ylang…sometimes we take life too serious and we need to connect with our inner child to take TIME to truly connect with our playfulness.

If a persons primary love language is service…..and they start really acting irritated about the condition of the house….or displeasure of things not being done for them….then they need to be poured into by asking what task you can help them with….what would help them best that day….actions speak very loudly to this person.

***Try diffusing Motivate to connect with the desire to serve one another well.

If a persons primary love language is touch….now we are NOT talking sexual touch….this is totally affirming non-sexual touch…..cuddles, hugs, holding…..ironically if your loved one normally is the one who reaches out for hugs and cuddles but has been resisting, pulling away, or becoming clingy then their love tank needs some filling up.  Just so much as pausing in the middle of going about your routine can do wonders….grabbing them by the hands pausing and looking deeply into their eyes and say “can you use a hug?!….I would love to give you a hug!”  It expresses to that person your respect for permission to enter their space as well as your desire to fill up their tank.

***Try diffusing Passion to create that warm connection with each other.

And if you persons primary love language is gifts….and they start acting like they never get anything….or get what they want….seem pouty and you want to respond back, “do you know how fortunate you are?  How many other people, children would give to be in your shoes?  How many people go without?”…..PAUSE….DON’T SAY THESE THINGS…..because they aren’t trying to be selfish…heck they aren’t being selfish…..they truly just need to be filled up….and it can be as simple as something as having them pick out a plant….or bring home that little something you saw them eyeballing a few weeks ago….or surprising them with fries (a sure winner to my daughters heart!! lol)

***Try diffusing Frankincense to connect with the ultimate gift giving of Christ.

As always….take a moment to sit….pray…tap and oil up….

Many blessings and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

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BLACK FRIDAY: Warrior Women Empowering Tools

Having a teen daughter can sometimes be a challenge…lol!  I actually don’t find her teen-ness to be a challenge…..because I honestly love it…..

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BUT…..I do know that if we as mother’s aren’t even equipped ourselves it can be difficult to equip our daughters or other women in our life.

I think about how because of dysmorphia as a teen I truly didn’t have PEACE in my body.  I am naturally a CHEERful person but I allowed my mental disconnect to rob me of my PEACE and CHEER my whole teen years and young adult years.

There were so many factors that contributed to my disconnect about my body….about my self love…..one of the factors was my mom.  No fault of her own…..because she wasn’t equipped herself then she wasn’t able to properly equip me.

When I became pregnant with my daughter (before I even know she was a she) I purposed my entire being to nurture self love and positive self talk within me as she was developing and growing in my womb.

Because of this purposing….a seed was planted…..and a root took place.

Over the years watching and modeling PEACE AND CHEER within my own skin for my daughter has been key for her developing her own self-worth….her own confidence in her own skin…..her owning who she is and being proud of it!

It wasn’t easy but I knew it was important.

Regardless if a girl, young lady, woman develops or has dysmorphia I think with the media being so saturated with images of “perfection” our girls are at risk of not loving the beautiful bodies they were gifted.

How can you create a shift in your mindset of yourself….and for the women in your life?

Sit and pray about this……start a journal with your action plans…..tap about it to uncover any emotions that have been hidden….and then choose an oil to support the healing to fully embrace YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

Have an amazing blessed day….

hugs, prayers, blessings,

Kelly 😉

PS…

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“I Told You So!”

How many of you LOVE this statement!?!?!

I don’t know about you but it just makes me feel all sorts of warm and fuzzy inside when a person says this to me!  It really encourages me to want to open up to them and feel vulnerable.  It causes me to stop and think oh yes this person REALLY LOVES ME because “they told me so!”…..

NOT…..

Okay so I know that was all a bit passive aggressive…lol….but there is a point…

We live in a world where we are bombarded with EVERYONE’s opinion and EVERYONE is willing to speak (with their one mouth)….but NOT LISTEN (with their TWO ears!)…..

Recently a situation took place in my life that really rocked my world for about 20 minutes….but once it was all said and done….I realized the reason I was so shook up was….

  • Not because I was going to have to deal with the work the situation caused…
  • Not because of all the tapping and oiling up I was going to have to do to eleviate the negative experience….
  • Not because it happened at all….

No what rocked my world that truly brought me to tears was the FEAR of HEARING:

I TOLD YOU SO!!!

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I DID NOT want to hear those words come from people who claim to love me, in a time where I felt most emotional and vulnerable, when I NEEDED LOVE AND COMPASSION MOST!

What many of us don’t realize and don’t think about when those words are said is….

  • The person receiving that negative statement already is internally beating themselves up about whatever it is.
  • They already are reassessing how something could have been done differently.
  •  They are trying to process and heal possibly from an experience.
  • And they need love and support more than ever. 
  • They need to feel safe not scrutinized.

Now since we can’t prevent others, especially “loved” ones from using hurtful verbiage toward us we can do the next best things:

  • We can pray.
  • We can journal.
  • We can tap.
  • We can use specific oils.
  • And we can forgive: them and ourselves!

All of these release the negative emotions surrounded from the experience as well as the hurtful words.  It allows us to not hold those negative emotions, negative currents of energy to get locked into our physical body to cause any physical harm.

So what DID I DO!?

When the incident occurred the first emotion that popped into my head I started tapping on it right there at the location.  I didn’t care what people thought as they observed me.  What’s awesome about tapping is in a public situation you don’t have to do the full formula you can tap on specific spots.

After I tapped a round with my prayer, I selected an oil to help facilitate the tapping as well as bring my system back into balance and focus on the task at hand.

Through the next round of tapping… that is when I discovered my true fears from the situation….I was then able to concentrate my next round of tapping with that intention.

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As we enter into the Holiday’s, Thanksgiving being next week, there may be situations like this that come up.  And we may feel like our boundaries are being infringed on.

Because honestly I think….”I TOLD YOU SO”….is a lack of respect of boundaries….as well as unloving.

So since some people don’t know how to NOT VOMIT their junk on us…..WE MUST SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES….to protect ourselves….to protect our health and well being….OUR SPIRIT!

I recently posted on Facebook and on my YouTube about boundaries…..to learn more and to even do a round of tapping with me check them out here/below!!!

Empower yourself today, this week, next week, always…..to set healthy boundaries so you don’t have to fearing hearing the dreaded: I TOLD YOU SO!

As always….pray….journal….tap….and oil up!

Blessings, prayers and hugs…

Kelly 😉

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I’m here to serve and bless you when you are ready and open to start your own healing and hope journey with your whole health! I would love to be your guide…your coach….your mentor.

 

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