THE WHEELS ON THE BUS

Come Holy Spirit fill the hearts of your faithful!

This last Sunday was Pentecost !  The disciples had locked themselves in the upper room for 10 days in prayer and anticipation for the Holy Spirit….their ADVOCATE….to come and be with them as they went out to bring Jesus’s teachings to ALL THE WORLD!

I’ve been really reflecting even more so recently on the word ADVOCATE.  I love how the Holy Spirit IS described as our advocate: ONE WHO SUPPORTS!  As a doTERRA ADVOCATE that is EXACTLY WHAT WE ARE CALLED TO BE: A SUPPORT!  We are to walk side by side and guide, coach, and teach others how to support their health the way God intended us to in a whole body way, with HIS gifts.  It’s truly why I LOVE doing what I do…..because at no time do I, as a coach, (or doTERRA for that matter) say that these oils are the end all be all…..but they are in cooperation with God’s design, plan.  They SUPPORT us in life’s physical and emotional struggles.

As I processed and completed through many chapters of my book recently, I yes could have done it with God alone, but I am grateful He has gifted me with the oils to support my humanness so I don’t have to try to lean on my will….so I can remember His WILL BE DONE!  These oils ALWAYS lead me back to HIM.  JUST LIKE THE HOLY SPIRIT ALWAYS LEADS US BACK TO JESUS AND THE FATHER!

Today’s chapter was a memory that I recall always being in the background of my mind but never clear, it had been suppressed for many years but through one of my Splankna sessions last year I discovered how much it had effected some of my lack of self love and self care.

May my journey bring peace and awareness on your own journey of healing and hope!

Many blessings and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

chapter 4

 

Chapter 4:

THE WHEELS ON THE BUS

I grew up in a very small down of around 1000 people at the time.  To make it even more interesting that was the town I went to school and my parents had their business but we actually lived out in the country, the foothills of the mountains.  This was about a 15-20 minute drive from home to town, but by bus it was about an hour.  The school bus picked me and my brother up every morning at 6:30 or 6:45.

It was a given fact that the older you were the farther in the bus you were allowed to sit.  So when you’re 10 you didn’t have to sit way in the front and you were able to sit closer to the middle.  This meant you were able to sit closer to the “cool kids” aka: high schoolers.  At least that’s what I thought because they had all the interesting conversations.  They had the cool clothes.  They were just fun to listen to and watch.

There was one girl who had an older brother, so he sat in the back and she always was privy to the inside conversation.  I wanted to get to know them because I thought their house was cool and different whenever I saw it on the school route.

This girl was my age and we started to sit together to make the time go by faster.  We talked about school, friends, her brother and much more.  She was different, they (her and her brother) were different.  The more time I spent with her the more I realized there was something off about them.  But I didn’t really know how to put my finger on it, or what it was, after all I was only 10 when I met her and started to really get to know her that particular school year.

What I do remember is something weird happened one time on the bus that I don’t know how to fully explain how it even came about.  It makes me think of a frog in a boiling pot.  You know the saying that a frog if plunged into a pot of boiling water it would jump, but if you have it in water and gradually increase the water temperature it will adjust and eventually be boiled to death…..well parts of me have over the years wonder if that’s what was happening.  If my sense of curiosity with this girl and her brother and wanting to always know the scoop of what the “big kids” were doing and saying that I don’t even know how it came about where I remember one day sitting in the school bus seat and the next thing I know she was touching me in ways that I was NOT comfortable with.  I remember thinking how did we get here?  Was it because we always caught glimpses of the older kids making out and doing things very much in the public and scandalizing all of us.  Was this girl’s brother doing things with her that he shouldn’t be and this was her acting out?

All I know was I truly didn’t understand why she was touching me in places and in ways that was not natural or normal for our age, let alone being the same sex.  I once again froze.  I couldn’t get home fast enough.  I wanted to wash this experience out of my brain for forever.

I never sat with her again on the school bus.  I remember the next day her waving me to the seat to sit with her and me purposely sitting up in the very front seat with the 6 year olds right behind the bus driver.  I didn’t want to be near the cool kids anymore.

Have you ever had an experience where you felt powerless, dishonored, and muddled?  That’s how I felt!

GINGER, GRAPEFRUIT, and PEPPERMINT:  Let’s take a look at how these three oils can bring back a person’s power, honor, and relief.

Ginger: This oil helps us take responsibility of knowing we are not powerless.  We may not have control over other people’s actions toward us but we don’t have to sit with a victim mentality.  We can gain power but taking actions to prevent it from happening again.

Grapefruit:  When a person has been violated, scandalized, shamed….there is a tendency to want to dishonor our body….to starve it, abuse it, or even hide behind food.  Grapefruit encourages us to have integrity and to truly love our body, no matter what.

Peppermint:  Our mind and our heart sometimes need a break from the pain of memories.  We are to not live in fear.  But we need to remember to not hide or escape the work of clearing out the emotional baggage of trauma.  Using peppermint can help us clear out the muddled pain and confusion, give us temporary relief to breath as we process the pain of a trauma or experience that isn’t so comfortable for us.

Create a blend with these three to put into water to enjoy sipping or diffuse 3 drops of each or place a drop of each with fractionated coconut oil to rub on your belly (your solar plexus) and the insides of your elbow, allowing your heart and body to embrace the powerful healing of honoring your body with taking back your power and moving past pain.

Tap as you Pray:

Heavenly father as I experience these oils, help me to bring to surface any experience that is from my past that I have ignored for too long.  An experience I may have tried to hide from, numb the pain, and grant me the strength now to be fully present in this healing, to appreciate my body and not hide it in shame.  Through your healing power I can do this.  I trust in you.  Amen

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Black Pepper: The Cross

When we abandon all our vices…our control…our additions to sin, hurt, pain,and shame…we are left with…

His amazing power, love , grace, and mercy!

How can black pepper help you put your heart in His hands today?!

Sit…pray…write…tap…and oil up!

Many blessings always…

Kelly 🙂

***Traveling this weekend has me stepping back and reflecting on the beauty of life even more so than usual! Not taking for granted the little things, as well as humbling myself to His plans and His will always…especially with traveling!

Fear No More…

I’ve been reflecting on WHY have I been PROCRASTINATING about what I said I was going to do two weeks ago…..start having you all be my accountability partners with writing this book…..THAT IS GOING TO BE SUCH A BLESSING for me, for you, for soooo many!

And the realization is….resistance, fear, vulnerability…and so much more!

Sometimes we resist what God is asking of us because the enemy has whispered lies of fear in our heads…..lies like: if you allow yourself to be that transparent you will be vulnerable to hurt, shame, pain, and so much more!  But those are LIES.

Now  recognize it could be as simple as laziness on my part….but I do know last week was super busy for me with my daughters theater stuff….and spring break this week….so I am able to recognize it’s not laziness….and it’s not a matter of not having the time….it was resistance….it was fear….it was realizing, even though I have shared SOOO much about myself to you all and to others….actually putting it into an order and reflecting on it and realizing all the little things I hadn’t remembered until I started to really do this….well it was a lot for me to handle.

THEN….I realized…..I was trying to live in MY WILL…..MY POWER…..and it was GOD who said for me to do this…..SO I NEED TO PLACE THIS IN HIS POWER….HIS WILL….and it will unfold as HE wants it to happen….and the continued healing it will produce will be profound!

Thus with NO FURTHER RESISTANCE….FEAR….OR SHAME….I bring you the INTRODUCTION of my story….the story that will one day….soon….be in a book :)….

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

Introduction

There are 3 profound moments in my life that stick out in my head that have contributed to the healing from my past sexual abuses and choices.

The first one was me driving back and forth to work each day for months listening to Christopher Wests, “Naked without Shame” book.  I had it on CD and I couldn’t get enough of what he was saying.  Even though there was so much of it that was truly beyond my comprehension because this was his very first teachings on theology of the body.  His first attempt to bring St. JPII teachings on how beautifully made we are and how our sexuality should be nurtured, respected, and loved, well it was lofty.  It wasn’t something very digestible.  Yet there was something within me that heard the truth.  There was something inside of me that felt all the shame, pain, hurt, and abuse melting away.  There was a freedom with these words and I wanted to know more.

The second profound moment would come over 10 years later.  A dear friend, Jennifer, asked me if for my Birthday gift she could give me a Splankna session.  She had been sharing with me about this for almost a year but I still didn’t fully grasp what it was.  I understood it had to do with dealing with healing, uncovering memories, etc.  But even after reading the book about it, I still wasn’t real clear on it.  I even had another friend, who is grounded in my faith of Catholicism help me to discern if it was something I should even do.  (More about Splankna in the end notes)  She was skeptical at first, which is what I was counting on, but after reading the book, she even said: it’s Christ centered, there is nothing I see wrong with it.  So I dived in and said yes to a session.

That first session of many many more to come unearthed a wound that I still had from the one time I did use my voice out loud and said NO to a sexual abuse situation and actually said something to others about it.  I really thought I had moved past that one. 

The second profound moment should really be broken into a two-fold because it was the session combined with essential oils that made me a believer.  After the session there were several oils that Jennifer recommended to help the healing process of that wound.  When I used those oils that day and throughout the rest of the week I had the most profound healing experience with the support of the oils in a way I had never felt before.

This is the thing, at that point I had been using essential oils for well over 5 years.  I knew their amazing physical support.  I had experimented with several different brands but I had NEVER experienced what I had experienced emotionally with an oil as I did with these oils.  That’s when I knew this brand (which ironically God had been planting a seed in me through this friend for about a year) was different.  It was truly truly going to provide the support I needed on this journey of healing: mind body soul spirit!

The third profound moment didn’t take nearly as long to experience, I believe it actually only took place about a year later when I attended a Healing the Whole person retreat with a totally different friend.  The second friend mentioned above, had attended this same retreat the year before and it had made such a profound impact on her and her life.  I personally thought I was going to learn more about the retreat and to be a vessel for others.  Oh wow my ignorance and even my silly pride of thinking God wasn’t going to show me exactly why I was there. 

When I first showed up to the retreat as we were checking in and being greeted by the retreat team I am staring straight at a very familiar face.  This was odd to me because I was attending this retreat NOT in the town I lived in at the time.  I was attending it miles and miles and miles away for the whole purpose to have anonymity.  I blog, I present, I do lots of things in the public, I am not afraid to share my life and story but I felt like I was supposed to be somewhere where no one knew me to have this weekend.  Well obviously God had other plans.

Then when I saw some of the other participants who were attending I was convinced I knew why I was supposed to be there.  I am sure at this point God was truly laughing at me.  But also surrounding me with ALL the angels and saints to hold me for the doozy I would feel and experience that weekend.

As the weekend unfolded I started to see clearly why I was there.  I started to see the pain, the anger, the hurt, but most of all the FEAR that the enemy had held me under for more years than I could count.  I had no idea I was so consumed by fear and all the names and colors fear was hiding and masquerading under until this beautiful soul sister, who I knew from my hometown, helped me see it clearly that weekend.

At the end of that weekend when Dr. Bob asked if anyone would like to come up to share any testimony about their experience I felt the Holy Spirit nudge me, I felt Jesus holding my hand, and I heard God say “Bring it to the Light”. 

Those three profound moments, events, gave me the courage to see, hear, feel, and speak the truth: That I had experienced sexual abuse over a span of about 20 years in one form or another.  And that I WAS BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  That my sexuality was to become un-distorted by my traumas.  That I had a right to stare the enemy in the eye and say: no more, you will not feed me anymore lies.

This book is about that journey.  I pray you will join me on this joyous journey.  Because trust me that is what it is.  I am not saying it won’t hurt from time to time, but the freedom to see the mark is too great of a delight to pass up.  To find freedom in your sexuality and heal is so profound that it’s worth some of the growing pains.  Because through that pain you find power.

I tried to figure out how I was to write this for so long.  Then God showed me clearly how to do this.  Each chapter will be dedicated to a specific experience or event that shaped and molded my distorted image of my sexuality.  Experiences that distorted my love for myself.  That distorted how God designed us to be. These will be the main ones that have impacted my self-worth in my head and heart.  It’s not all of them, I am sure, but they are truly the ones that I know layered the development of my distorted love of self and my sexuality.   Within each chapter I will share hope and healing.  I will include Saints, scriptures, and essential oils that can support that particular abuse situation.

Before we begin let’s understand the definition of sexual abuse.  How many of us think of all the horrific things only?  But did you know sexual abuse is: lude looks, sexual harassment, rape, pornography, exposure to sexual content at too early of an age, unwanted touches, unwanted sexual talk, and so much more.  If any of this has happened to you, you have experienced sexual abuse! 

Rest assured this book is not going to be about graphic descriptions of what took place.  It is about providing the right kind of details to create understanding of why any of us need to heal and feel whole from this sort of situation, trauma, and abuse. 

We were made for so much more than glossy prints, for others sexual lustful desires, and selfish acts of take.  A take that can be done physically, emotionally, mentally, and or spiritually.

Finally my greatest desire with this book is bring out the light of truth of what true sexual freedom is.  And to stomp out the lies the enemy whispers in our ears to keep us in the dark.  The lies of shame, the lies that we are dirty, the lies that our bodies are broken.  Be that light with me by using your voice to shout at the mountain top: I WAS MADE FOR MORE.  To shout in a building: I AM BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  And to shout while sitting: MY SEXUALITY IS A GIFT FROM GOD.

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Are you ready to start a whole Hope Healing Health journey?!

When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  

My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick 

There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!

Want to know more?

Email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com

Relax: Just Do It

Today…this week…is AMAZING…ABUNDANT….AND….ABSOLUTELY FULL!

I wanted to share with you all this week about my daughter wanting to know more about our families history and all the crazy and tragic things she has been uncovering and discovering….yet I find myself totally distracted because of all I have put upon my plate!

It’s all good things….they are not bad….but it could easily become an overwhelm…..BUT instead I realized it was part of God’s amazing plan…

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So much that even as I write this realizing that the BOGO for today of AromaTouch/Marjoram is actually a perfect duo of oils to talk about in reference to my darling daughters question….so here it goes!

I had been on the phone earlier last week sharing with a friend about the history of my aunt (one of my mom’s sisters) and the circumstances surrounding her death  many many years ago…when I was around 10 or 12….I don’t fully recall at the moment…

Anyhoo….

I didn’t think much of it…..until my daughter asked me….while driving to her acting class….  “So is there anything else I should know about our family?”  I paused and asked her what did she mean?

She referenced the phone conversation…..and I realized she HAD actually been paying attention….which I didn’t care…..but I also realized I once again had ASSUMED she knew why her grandma was so passionate about her non-profit: SANCTUARY ZONE.

So I had to explain to her that my aunt, one of grandma’s sisters, had been shot and killed by her ex-husband one New Year’s Eve night many years ago and that one of my cousins had been in the home when it happened.  I had to explain that the reason why they were divorced was due to his drinking and abuse.  And that grandma’s non-profit was to honor her sister by providing a safe haven as well as many other services for women, children, families who are trying to leave, heal, and recover from abusive relationships.

It was a bit for my daughter to process.  So why did she say: is there anything else?!  Well just a few weeks before, due to other conversations and inquiring from her, my husband finally shared with her the events surrounding his own mothers death when he was a very young child.

So needless to say she was curious IF THERE WAS ANYTHING ELSE SHE SHOULD KNOW!!!

This week I’ve been involved with a campaign for health and wellness professionals of really spreading the message of Health and Hope through Facebook lives.  I’ve also been busy with sharing and educating about the BOGO deals doTERRA is promoting this week.  In addition to teaching a protocol class for daughters homeschool group….and well just keeping up with everyday life like house, hubby, cooking, lessons, clients…..you know trying to be ALL I CAN BE…..lol!

So yesterday’s BOGO was Peace and Balance…..today is AromaTouch and Marjoram.  Those of you who are not familiar with doTERRA….well 2 times a year, usually, they do a week where a person (current customers and those wanting to start up) can snag these great deals to buy one oil and get one free.  Now this is an amazing chance for current members to stock up on oils at crazy deals….and the same for newbies.

What I love about the BOGO’s is it never fails that, just like the readings of the day, they end up being exactly what we need at that moment and didn’t even realize it!

So…with yesterday’s PEACE and BALANCE…..the names truly describe what they bring and support within a person’s body and spirit.  For my darling daughter….she can find peace in knowing that, yes, her family history is kind of crazy, it has lots of sorrow, but it also has great blessings that have come from those sorrows.  That when we sit with our amazing Lord, HE WILL provide the peace we need to process events in our lives, in our past, and HE WILL help us find BALANCE with our emotions and even our schedules (aka me this week!)….

As for today’s BOGO oils…AromaTouch and Marjoram…..well these two just build on yesterday’s in that once we have our peace and balance within, we can start to relax (AromaTouch) in the body and the mind.  We can find comfort to open our heart to connect (Marjoram) with our family members, even those of past.  We can find intimacy and connection to their pain and trust that GOD will redeem it!

I can’t wait to see what tomorrow through Saturday’s BOGOs have in store because I know they will continue to enlighten me and grow me into the amazing disciple GOD has created me to be….has created EACH OF US TO BE!  I also love seeing how each of them can support my daughter, my husband, my clients….everyone!!!

Do you have things in your life that you need to surround yourself with some PEACE and BALANCE? 

Do you need to open yourself up to RELAX and CONNECT to the higher power of GOD’S AMAZING LOVE!?

Remember in ALL THINGS…HE DOES MAKE THEM GOOD!

May you all have an amazingly wonderful WEDNESDAY!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 

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This is an amazing week to start up and snag these BOGO deals!

Are you ready to start a whole health journey?! When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to connect first with a phone call or Zoom call? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

Why: Melaleuca?

I look at my beautiful little lady and I ask God:

  • Why does she have to suffer cramps the way I did?
  • Why does she have to experience emotional turmoil?
  • Why is she sensitive to so many of the same foods I am?
  • Why?

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I sit and ponder: How can I help my daughter be whole and healed.  And instead of beating myself up… I realize I AM helping her!

  • I am teaching her how to take care of herself nutritionally.
  • How to eat what helps her instead of hurts her.
  • I am teaching her to take things to God when she becomes overwhelmed with everyday life.
  • I am teaching her to support herself: emotionally and physically with essential oils.

It has me wonder if God in all His amazing wonder, glory, and wisdom, introduced Melaleuca to me sooo many years ago because He knew I would eventually see the physical and emotional connection of this oil that my daughter would need.

Melaleuca, aka tea tree oil, was our 1st oil to ever try because of a skin ailment my daughter had at the age of five.  Melaleuca boosted and supported her immune system to help her skin repair and eliminated the problem.

In hindsight I think it did more than that.  God knowing my daughters sensitive spiritual nature, knew she would need the emotional support from this oil as well.

This is the oil of “energetic boundaries”!

My daughter is super good about not allowing others to invade her energy space.  She may come across as aloof and even dismissive but I have always respected and admired this quality of hers.  It’s not that she doesn’t care about others, it’s actually that she feels so deeply that this oil supports her gut instinct to protect her boundaries.  She doesn’t get sucked into others toxic thoughts, energy, drama, unhealthy relationships and so much more!

With that I smile and marvel at God…because once again He provided the answers to questions I didn’t fully understand so many years ago.

He provided an oil that would support my daughter not only physically but emotionally.  Thus equipping her to continue the beautiful life work of helping heal the family tree, to break the bondage of sins and wounds.

Do you have a toxic relationship that needs to be purified?  Toxic relationship in your own family?

Sit….pray…..write….oil up and tap away “vampire” energy today!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

***This MONTH ONLY….those who are already in my oils family are part of the special oils club who will receive this oil free with certain purchases….BUT I want you to have the same opportunity… so if you want Melaleuca for free too…connect with me!!!  Let’s get your energetic boundaries strong too!

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Are you ready to start with me & join my oils family ;)?!  Check out my website at http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up with me.  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to connect first with a phone call or Zoom call? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

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