Fear No More…

I’ve been reflecting on WHY have I been PROCRASTINATING about what I said I was going to do two weeks ago…..start having you all be my accountability partners with writing this book…..THAT IS GOING TO BE SUCH A BLESSING for me, for you, for soooo many!

And the realization is….resistance, fear, vulnerability…and so much more!

Sometimes we resist what God is asking of us because the enemy has whispered lies of fear in our heads…..lies like: if you allow yourself to be that transparent you will be vulnerable to hurt, shame, pain, and so much more!  But those are LIES.

Now  recognize it could be as simple as laziness on my part….but I do know last week was super busy for me with my daughters theater stuff….and spring break this week….so I am able to recognize it’s not laziness….and it’s not a matter of not having the time….it was resistance….it was fear….it was realizing, even though I have shared SOOO much about myself to you all and to others….actually putting it into an order and reflecting on it and realizing all the little things I hadn’t remembered until I started to really do this….well it was a lot for me to handle.

THEN….I realized…..I was trying to live in MY WILL…..MY POWER…..and it was GOD who said for me to do this…..SO I NEED TO PLACE THIS IN HIS POWER….HIS WILL….and it will unfold as HE wants it to happen….and the continued healing it will produce will be profound!

Thus with NO FURTHER RESISTANCE….FEAR….OR SHAME….I bring you the INTRODUCTION of my story….the story that will one day….soon….be in a book :)….

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂


There are 3 profound moments in my life that stick out in my head that have contributed to the healing from my past sexual abuses and choices.

The first one was me driving back and forth to work each day for months listening to Christopher Wests, “Naked without Shame” book.  I had it on CD and I couldn’t get enough of what he was saying.  Even though there was so much of it that was truly beyond my comprehension because this was his very first teachings on theology of the body.  His first attempt to bring St. JPII teachings on how beautifully made we are and how our sexuality should be nurtured, respected, and loved, well it was lofty.  It wasn’t something very digestible.  Yet there was something within me that heard the truth.  There was something inside of me that felt all the shame, pain, hurt, and abuse melting away.  There was a freedom with these words and I wanted to know more.

The second profound moment would come over 10 years later.  A dear friend, Jennifer, asked me if for my Birthday gift she could give me a Splankna session.  She had been sharing with me about this for almost a year but I still didn’t fully grasp what it was.  I understood it had to do with dealing with healing, uncovering memories, etc.  But even after reading the book about it, I still wasn’t real clear on it.  I even had another friend, who is grounded in my faith of Catholicism help me to discern if it was something I should even do.  (More about Splankna in the end notes)  She was skeptical at first, which is what I was counting on, but after reading the book, she even said: it’s Christ centered, there is nothing I see wrong with it.  So I dived in and said yes to a session.

That first session of many many more to come unearthed a wound that I still had from the one time I did use my voice out loud and said NO to a sexual abuse situation and actually said something to others about it.  I really thought I had moved past that one. 

The second profound moment should really be broken into a two-fold because it was the session combined with essential oils that made me a believer.  After the session there were several oils that Jennifer recommended to help the healing process of that wound.  When I used those oils that day and throughout the rest of the week I had the most profound healing experience with the support of the oils in a way I had never felt before.

This is the thing, at that point I had been using essential oils for well over 5 years.  I knew their amazing physical support.  I had experimented with several different brands but I had NEVER experienced what I had experienced emotionally with an oil as I did with these oils.  That’s when I knew this brand (which ironically God had been planting a seed in me through this friend for about a year) was different.  It was truly truly going to provide the support I needed on this journey of healing: mind body soul spirit!

The third profound moment didn’t take nearly as long to experience, I believe it actually only took place about a year later when I attended a Healing the Whole person retreat with a totally different friend.  The second friend mentioned above, had attended this same retreat the year before and it had made such a profound impact on her and her life.  I personally thought I was going to learn more about the retreat and to be a vessel for others.  Oh wow my ignorance and even my silly pride of thinking God wasn’t going to show me exactly why I was there. 

When I first showed up to the retreat as we were checking in and being greeted by the retreat team I am staring straight at a very familiar face.  This was odd to me because I was attending this retreat NOT in the town I lived in at the time.  I was attending it miles and miles and miles away for the whole purpose to have anonymity.  I blog, I present, I do lots of things in the public, I am not afraid to share my life and story but I felt like I was supposed to be somewhere where no one knew me to have this weekend.  Well obviously God had other plans.

Then when I saw some of the other participants who were attending I was convinced I knew why I was supposed to be there.  I am sure at this point God was truly laughing at me.  But also surrounding me with ALL the angels and saints to hold me for the doozy I would feel and experience that weekend.

As the weekend unfolded I started to see clearly why I was there.  I started to see the pain, the anger, the hurt, but most of all the FEAR that the enemy had held me under for more years than I could count.  I had no idea I was so consumed by fear and all the names and colors fear was hiding and masquerading under until this beautiful soul sister, who I knew from my hometown, helped me see it clearly that weekend.

At the end of that weekend when Dr. Bob asked if anyone would like to come up to share any testimony about their experience I felt the Holy Spirit nudge me, I felt Jesus holding my hand, and I heard God say “Bring it to the Light”. 

Those three profound moments, events, gave me the courage to see, hear, feel, and speak the truth: That I had experienced sexual abuse over a span of about 20 years in one form or another.  And that I WAS BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  That my sexuality was to become un-distorted by my traumas.  That I had a right to stare the enemy in the eye and say: no more, you will not feed me anymore lies.

This book is about that journey.  I pray you will join me on this joyous journey.  Because trust me that is what it is.  I am not saying it won’t hurt from time to time, but the freedom to see the mark is too great of a delight to pass up.  To find freedom in your sexuality and heal is so profound that it’s worth some of the growing pains.  Because through that pain you find power.

I tried to figure out how I was to write this for so long.  Then God showed me clearly how to do this.  Each chapter will be dedicated to a specific experience or event that shaped and molded my distorted image of my sexuality.  Experiences that distorted my love for myself.  That distorted how God designed us to be. These will be the main ones that have impacted my self-worth in my head and heart.  It’s not all of them, I am sure, but they are truly the ones that I know layered the development of my distorted love of self and my sexuality.   Within each chapter I will share hope and healing.  I will include Saints, scriptures, and essential oils that can support that particular abuse situation.

Before we begin let’s understand the definition of sexual abuse.  How many of us think of all the horrific things only?  But did you know sexual abuse is: lude looks, sexual harassment, rape, pornography, exposure to sexual content at too early of an age, unwanted touches, unwanted sexual talk, and so much more.  If any of this has happened to you, you have experienced sexual abuse! 

Rest assured this book is not going to be about graphic descriptions of what took place.  It is about providing the right kind of details to create understanding of why any of us need to heal and feel whole from this sort of situation, trauma, and abuse. 

We were made for so much more than glossy prints, for others sexual lustful desires, and selfish acts of take.  A take that can be done physically, emotionally, mentally, and or spiritually.

Finally my greatest desire with this book is bring out the light of truth of what true sexual freedom is.  And to stomp out the lies the enemy whispers in our ears to keep us in the dark.  The lies of shame, the lies that we are dirty, the lies that our bodies are broken.  Be that light with me by using your voice to shout at the mountain top: I WAS MADE FOR MORE.  To shout in a building: I AM BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  And to shout while sitting: MY SEXUALITY IS A GIFT FROM GOD.

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Are you ready to start a whole Hope Healing Health journey?!

When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  

My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick 

There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!

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Relax: Just Do It


I wanted to share with you all this week about my daughter wanting to know more about our families history and all the crazy and tragic things she has been uncovering and discovering….yet I find myself totally distracted because of all I have put upon my plate!

It’s all good things….they are not bad….but it could easily become an overwhelm…..BUT instead I realized it was part of God’s amazing plan…

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So much that even as I write this realizing that the BOGO for today of AromaTouch/Marjoram is actually a perfect duo of oils to talk about in reference to my darling daughters question….so here it goes!

I had been on the phone earlier last week sharing with a friend about the history of my aunt (one of my mom’s sisters) and the circumstances surrounding her death  many many years ago…when I was around 10 or 12….I don’t fully recall at the moment…


I didn’t think much of it…..until my daughter asked me….while driving to her acting class….  “So is there anything else I should know about our family?”  I paused and asked her what did she mean?

She referenced the phone conversation…..and I realized she HAD actually been paying attention….which I didn’t care…..but I also realized I once again had ASSUMED she knew why her grandma was so passionate about her non-profit: SANCTUARY ZONE.

So I had to explain to her that my aunt, one of grandma’s sisters, had been shot and killed by her ex-husband one New Year’s Eve night many years ago and that one of my cousins had been in the home when it happened.  I had to explain that the reason why they were divorced was due to his drinking and abuse.  And that grandma’s non-profit was to honor her sister by providing a safe haven as well as many other services for women, children, families who are trying to leave, heal, and recover from abusive relationships.

It was a bit for my daughter to process.  So why did she say: is there anything else?!  Well just a few weeks before, due to other conversations and inquiring from her, my husband finally shared with her the events surrounding his own mothers death when he was a very young child.

So needless to say she was curious IF THERE WAS ANYTHING ELSE SHE SHOULD KNOW!!!

This week I’ve been involved with a campaign for health and wellness professionals of really spreading the message of Health and Hope through Facebook lives.  I’ve also been busy with sharing and educating about the BOGO deals doTERRA is promoting this week.  In addition to teaching a protocol class for daughters homeschool group….and well just keeping up with everyday life like house, hubby, cooking, lessons, clients…..you know trying to be ALL I CAN BE…..lol!

So yesterday’s BOGO was Peace and Balance…..today is AromaTouch and Marjoram.  Those of you who are not familiar with doTERRA….well 2 times a year, usually, they do a week where a person (current customers and those wanting to start up) can snag these great deals to buy one oil and get one free.  Now this is an amazing chance for current members to stock up on oils at crazy deals….and the same for newbies.

What I love about the BOGO’s is it never fails that, just like the readings of the day, they end up being exactly what we need at that moment and didn’t even realize it!

So…with yesterday’s PEACE and BALANCE…..the names truly describe what they bring and support within a person’s body and spirit.  For my darling daughter….she can find peace in knowing that, yes, her family history is kind of crazy, it has lots of sorrow, but it also has great blessings that have come from those sorrows.  That when we sit with our amazing Lord, HE WILL provide the peace we need to process events in our lives, in our past, and HE WILL help us find BALANCE with our emotions and even our schedules (aka me this week!)….

As for today’s BOGO oils…AromaTouch and Marjoram…..well these two just build on yesterday’s in that once we have our peace and balance within, we can start to relax (AromaTouch) in the body and the mind.  We can find comfort to open our heart to connect (Marjoram) with our family members, even those of past.  We can find intimacy and connection to their pain and trust that GOD will redeem it!

I can’t wait to see what tomorrow through Saturday’s BOGOs have in store because I know they will continue to enlighten me and grow me into the amazing disciple GOD has created me to be….has created EACH OF US TO BE!  I also love seeing how each of them can support my daughter, my husband, my clients….everyone!!!

Do you have things in your life that you need to surround yourself with some PEACE and BALANCE? 

Do you need to open yourself up to RELAX and CONNECT to the higher power of GOD’S AMAZING LOVE!?


May you all have an amazingly wonderful WEDNESDAY!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,


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This is an amazing week to start up and snag these BOGO deals!

Are you ready to start a whole health journey?! When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to connect first with a phone call or Zoom call? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

Why: Melaleuca?

I look at my beautiful little lady and I ask God:

  • Why does she have to suffer cramps the way I did?
  • Why does she have to experience emotional turmoil?
  • Why is she sensitive to so many of the same foods I am?
  • Why?

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I sit and ponder: How can I help my daughter be whole and healed.  And instead of beating myself up… I realize I AM helping her!

  • I am teaching her how to take care of herself nutritionally.
  • How to eat what helps her instead of hurts her.
  • I am teaching her to take things to God when she becomes overwhelmed with everyday life.
  • I am teaching her to support herself: emotionally and physically with essential oils.

It has me wonder if God in all His amazing wonder, glory, and wisdom, introduced Melaleuca to me sooo many years ago because He knew I would eventually see the physical and emotional connection of this oil that my daughter would need.

Melaleuca, aka tea tree oil, was our 1st oil to ever try because of a skin ailment my daughter had at the age of five.  Melaleuca boosted and supported her immune system to help her skin repair and eliminated the problem.

In hindsight I think it did more than that.  God knowing my daughters sensitive spiritual nature, knew she would need the emotional support from this oil as well.

This is the oil of “energetic boundaries”!

My daughter is super good about not allowing others to invade her energy space.  She may come across as aloof and even dismissive but I have always respected and admired this quality of hers.  It’s not that she doesn’t care about others, it’s actually that she feels so deeply that this oil supports her gut instinct to protect her boundaries.  She doesn’t get sucked into others toxic thoughts, energy, drama, unhealthy relationships and so much more!

With that I smile and marvel at God…because once again He provided the answers to questions I didn’t fully understand so many years ago.

He provided an oil that would support my daughter not only physically but emotionally.  Thus equipping her to continue the beautiful life work of helping heal the family tree, to break the bondage of sins and wounds.

Do you have a toxic relationship that needs to be purified?  Toxic relationship in your own family?

Sit….pray…..write….oil up and tap away “vampire” energy today!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

***This MONTH ONLY….those who are already in my oils family are part of the special oils club who will receive this oil free with certain purchases….BUT I want you to have the same opportunity… so if you want Melaleuca for free too…connect with me!!!  Let’s get your energetic boundaries strong too!

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Are you ready to start with me & join my oils family ;)?!  Check out my website at http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up with me.  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to connect first with a phone call or Zoom call? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

13 Reasons Why: Hope & Deep Blue


Have you watched this show!?  I never felt compelled when this show came out to watch it….mostly because I have been disappointed by every Netflix original thus far.  They ALWAYS have content too explicit for my taste.  I absolutely DO NOT like watching sexual scenes. It is such an affront to how beautifully wonderfully made we are.  It objectifies us and reduces GODS beautiful gift to us to something that is deemed as entertainment by the film/tv industry.

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I will try to stay on topic….lol….

I watched this show for 2 reasons:  a friend of my daughters watched it so I thought if I watched it I would have a way to continue to connect with her and have meaningful conversation.  And I knew if anything it would be something to blog about….lol.

Oh my goodness gracious.  I had NO IDEA what I was instore for.

This show rocked my world in a very good way.  Now I am truly not advocating to watch it.  As a matter of fact I think the writers and producers got a lot of things wrong….but I think they did get some things right.

So let’s cover what was wrong first:

Besides the beyond over use of language…..especially F***, it was sexually graphic.  It made me VERY uncomfortable especially the TWO RAPE SCENES!!!

There was NEVER an option or choice of hope portrayed for these kiddos because faith was NEVER mentioned…not even to mock Christianity.

What was right…..and why it rocked my world…

This young girl becomes the target of sexual abuse (touches, pats, leers, groping, comments, and rape) all because of a terrible picture taken in the wrong “light of angling” that portrayed her as “not a good girl”. 

This show was able to eloquently show how continual layers of being treating like a sexual object impacts a person profoundly to finally feel like nothing….to feel unworthy….to feel shame….to freeze in moments when we should fight or flight…..to question our own worth.

It showed how well intended adults sometimes don’t think about their wording and put blame on the victim, which causes even more doubt and shame.

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My best suggestion to parents if they are curious about this show is watch the extra episode which is 30 minutes it explains the show and why they developed it the way they did.  I think these topics are important to address with our kiddos I just think that this show really missed out on the Christian element!

Now… this is why I loved and hated this show….and why it rocked my world She was me!  And if it weren’t for my faith….I may have felt the same hopelessness she felt.

By the time I was this girls age I had already endured so many pats, leers, and more that I was numb to it all.  After all the 70’s and 80’s were all about sexual expression, freedom, revolution right!?  So it was believed a girl should feel flattered that men and boys “noticing” her right?!

This show not only provide great research for me but it also provided continual healing.  But I am an adult.  My concern for some young girls who watch this show is it could re-traumatize them or even scandalize them.  But that is just my opinion. And that is for their parents to hopefully get involved and decide if it is something they should watch, watch with them, and discuss especially if their teen has already watched it.


It seems like I use the HOPE oil a lot….lol…..but I really love how it can truly lift a person out of feelings of overwhelm, loss, and so much more.  I paired it with DEEP BLUE during this time to soothe the wounds (the flash backs) it was provoking.  I was very grateful to have the support of these 2 oils….and many others!

Have you watched 13 REASONS WHY?

What were your thoughts?

Do you have a similar experience?

Sit….pray….journal…oil up…tap….and connect with me about it!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

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Hurt turns to Hope

The frozen, numb, zombie look on her face stopped me cold with my meal prep.

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I looked at my darling daughter and I asked her what was wrong.  She looked at me and said, “I didn’t know”.  I asked her what she meant.  “I didn’t know that’s what an abortion was.”  Now I felt sucker punched.

Ugh….you see I just assumed (huge mistake here) since we have always participated in Pro-Life marches, events, presentations, etc…..and I talk openly about the topic that my 14 year old knew and understood what it was all about.

I asked her what she thought an abortion was.  She stated she knew it was taking of a life but she had never really processed or thought about how it was taken or that it was painful (for both involved: the child and the mother).


How this even all came about was we were visiting about  my excitement for our family to have the opportunity to participate in the Rally for Life this Saturday in Austin.  And then to hear Abby Johnson speak on Feb 1 about her conversion story.  She once upon a time had worked for Planned Parenthood.  Her testimony is about having had to assist and watch on the sonogram an abortion procedure.  This is what forever changed her world.   What I had read on Abby’s website opened my daughter’s eyes to the reality of it.

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This broke my heart because I realized it was another layer of innocence she no longer has, yet I am also glad it was me who she had the moment with, so she could process it out.

It has given us some amazing conversations and profound moments.  She sees how ugly it is but is still too young to truly grasp that these beautiful women are just as much a victim as their child that was taken from their womb.  They are victims of the lies the enemy whispered in their ears, their heads, their hearts…convincing them this was their only choice.

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We have had the chance to really discuss the different types of lies the enemy may say to these precious women of God to convince them to take a life.  It has been tough but it has also been good, because I can see in my daughters eyes how deeply disturbed she is about it, yet also how very concerned and compassionate she feels toward the women.  And that is important.  Too many times we get caught up in the fight to save a life that we forget to love these women who are hurting too!

Highlight Oils: CONSOLE AND HOPE

 I chose console and hope to support my daughter through this.

Console: Comforts and eases burdens; guides a person toward rest within our emotions.

*My daughter really needed to be unburdened by this traumatic awareness of what an abortion is.

Hope: Even though Console also has Ylang Ylang and Frankincense, as well, Hope has Bergamot.

*My daughter really needed to feel the optimism of this oil.  She feels so deeply for others.  Hope oil helps her feel connected to God in knowing that HE DOES REDEEM ALL!!!

That was my week of reality…what about you!?

Sit…pray….journal….tap….and oil up!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

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Are you ready to join my oils family ;)?!  Check out my website at http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up with me.  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to connect first with a phone call or Zoom call? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

Essential Disciple

I’m back!!!

And Oh my goodness gracious God has given me some focus and vision with this blog that I am super excited to share with you all…..so forgive me if this one ends up being a bit longer than usual…lol…

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It’s so interesting to me all the different ways this simple blog has changed, grown, developed and rippled.  How the theme, the direction, and content has changed over the years.  But one thing remains: It is a personal account of my life journey.  God definitely purposed me so many years ago to start this blog to create hope, to spread good ripples.

Whether it was sharing about my losses, my challenges, my health, my joys, simple topics, or complex topics….it has always been what is currently going on in my life, how it is effecting me and my family and how I can maybe help someone who is wrestling with similar experiences.

With all that being said…..I have always shared with you all what I am thinking…even when it comes to changes with this blog….and why.  It’s funny because I know some bloggers are about content and information; they don’t share the process of their changes, their format, etc….they just do it!  But since I am here about my journey and building relationship with you well I’m going to share what’s going on in my thoughts even about this blog…lol.

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I am feeling very called to have several sections so to speak… to bridge and connect what’s going on in my life…to scripture, essential oils, etc.  I am wanting to be an intentional disciple for and with you on this amazing life journey.

Because this is the thing…for every personal account I share…

There IS a scripture I find that draws me closer to God.  There IS an essential oil or two or three or more…..that support me and my family.  And for every situation I see more and more more how our physical and emotional and spiritual health are connected.

I am hoping that by my continual sharing of my personal life here with you and connecting it to God’s word and God’s gift of essential oils (as well as other sources and modalities) that you too will desire to be an intentional disciple in your faith walk, your WHOLE life, YOUR WHOLE HEALTH: mind, body, soul, spirit!

Finally, hold on for a ride because the things I have been journaling about, healing about, and life experiences of recent has me really going deep.  Which means I am going to be taking you all on an amazing journey if you’ll join me for 2018!

Let’s just say….TOB (Theology of the Body), our beautiful sexuality, sexual healing, what’s been going on in the media and many tough topics are going to be addressed here.  I am super excited to share!

So hold on tight cause the conversation I just recently had with my darling daughter was deep, sad, and truly amazing.

Today reflect on what do you need healing from?  What are you wanting to really dig deep into for 2018?

Sit…pray….journal….tap….and oil up!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

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Are you ready to join my oils family ;)?!  Check out my website at http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up with me.  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to schedule to talk first? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

Seductive Sugar

Sugar is such a mixed baggage of yuck!  And at this time of the year it makes it especially difficult to try and avoid for everyone.

So I am going to confess.  I was trying to figure out what to write tonight.  I don’t normally have a brain block.  Well life has been full (probably too full) and I was struggling with a thought.  I posted on FB idea suggestions.  And I received lots of great ideas.  And the one that really stuck out for me to write about tonight was SUGAR!

It is that time of the year that everyone is going to start really struggling with it.  It is going to be EVERYWHERE!

Now for me…

Growing up sugar was almost equated to “sin”, “evil”, “bad”.  My parents knew it wasn’t good for us but they just didn’t know how to really express it and reinforce it in a healthy way.  So for me unfortunately it was another thing that added to my baggage of dysmorphia and shame….especially if I chose to eat it away from them.

I fortunately don’t really crave sweet things.  My cravings are salty, creamy, cheesy….lol.  But I do love ice cream and chocolate.  And even though I will find some really great vegan and sugar free options just the sweetness can trigger me into feeling like I am doing something I am not suppose to be doing.

The problem with sugar period…set aside any of us who have an emotional tie to it….it physically IS addicting!  It messes with our hormones.  It messes with our insulin.  Which in return messes with our emotions.

How can we overcome any shame and “ick” with it!?  Keep it simple….especially this time of the year!  So many of us try to replace the candy and pies with alternatives that are “healthier” versions but they can still create emotional baggage.

Instead enjoy LOTS AND LOTS of fresh fruit and veggies!  I am totally serious.  The more we reach for these the better we will feel.  Don’t be afraid to enjoy all of these.  And truly keep it simple.   Just cut them up.  Crunch is wonderful and satisfying.  And its actually quite healing!  I also use lots of different essential oils to either soak my fruits and veggies in or just in my water to help me with cravings and add some fun flavors.

We can get stressed during this time of the year with family.  When our hormones and emotions are out of whack it can make things even worse.  It can cause us to feel even more shame, hurt, frustration….you name it!

Some tricks I use especially during the holidays but year round when it comes to sugar:

  • A note in my frig that says “what do I really want?!”
  • Lemon and orange essential oil at eye level in the pantry. 
  • Pausing to ask myself “what am I FEELING right now?”
  • Will I feel shame?
  • Drink 2 glasses of lemon/peppermint water instead.
  • Remind myself I love myself too much to go through the roller coaster ride.
  • Remind myself I love my family too much to put them through emotions.
  • Remind myself: I AM A TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT….to be honored and respected!

But the biggest and best thing to overcome sugars seduction….keep it out of the house!  We don’t have it in the house.  And anything we have that is made with natural sweeteners I ask the above questions to myself.

What is your relationship with sugar?

Sit with this….pray about it…write….oil…and tap….I am truly serious :)!  This seductive “drug” needs all the tools in our tool bag to resist.

Oh but finally…..if you do give into it…..don’t shame yourself….love yourself….give yourself grace and know that you can start all over that very moment!!!!


Many drops of blessings and prayers dear one!

Kelly 😉


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Healing Crusader

Through this healing journey I have read many different healing stories: physical, spiritual, emotional… about Hashimoto’s, traumas, abuses….

Many of these warriors of healing are fallen away Catholics. 

This is unbearably sad for me.

There are many who leave other denominations as well.  But these are many of the reasons I have heard:

  • I didn’t have a personal relationship with Christ.
  • I didn’t feel welcomed.
  • It was too black and white.
  • There was judgment.
  • I didn’t feel accepted.

The list goes on….

And it breaks my heart!

I’ve been described as:

“She’s not your typical Catholic.” and “You won’t believe she’s Catholic.”

This is funny to me…but it’s true….and it’s also sad…..sad to me that more people haven’t encountered and/or experienced an Evangelical Catholic.  It’s sad to me that wounds, hurts, and differences have kept Catholics away or even driven them away.

The Catholic Church is not perfect…not by any means. No faith is!!! And this is NOT AN EXCUSE FOR ANY CHURCH TO BE ABUSIVE TO THEIR PARISHIONERS!

For me the Catholic Church  has a richness and depth and beauty that I can’t imagine being without it in my life.

Now you might be thinking I have never been hurt by the church or had a bad experience; so I can’t possibly know.  But actually I HAVE had plenty…

  • A priest once told me to come back to confession when I had real sins to confess.
  • Another ended confessions before I had my turn and said he didn’t have time for me…literally.
  • I have felt the tongue lashing of a parishioner telling me my daughter (then 3 years old) was not a “good girl” during mass.
  • I have experienced the politics that take place when working for the church.
  • I have observed and been on the receiving end of individuals in ministry (lay and priests) not conduct themselves with honor and dignity.

And more….

BUT this is the thing….this happens EVERYWHERE….with EVERY CHURCH!!!


Because they are all ran by man.  And we are ALL flawed…sinners…human!  WE ARE ALL WOUNDED!!!

I wish I could look each and every wounded person in the eye ….who has left the church….hold them and say:

  • I am SO SORRY your hurt was so great that you felt you had to flee.
  • I am SO SORRY that you felt you would not be heard.
  • I am SO SORRY you felt you couldn’t seek out someone else within the church to provide you comfort, encouragement, love, mercy….

I know I can’t change the past for these wounded but I pray they/you will one day be able to face the traumas and hurts felt from the Catholic Church.  I pray they/you find healing and peace.  I pray they/you have the personal relationship with Christ they/you sought after.  I pray they/you are being an instrumental disciple as He has called us all to be!

Today,  if you have left the Catholic Church, or left church period, I pray you take a moment to sit with your “why’s”.  Reflect within and ask:  Am I ready to heal from this wound?  Am I ready to break free from this bondage of pain?  Am I ready to be ALL HE CREATED ME TO BE!?  Some oils that can help you through this are: Console, Forgive, Hope, Deep Blue, Peace.

As always…sit…pray…oil up…..and tap about this….:)

Many drops of blessings dear beloved ones….

~Kelly 😉


PS…..Are you open to learning how essential oils can support you?  I would be love to help you on this healing journey…..I would be honored to be your wellness/oils coach on this journey!  Message me through facebook, email, phone….let’s get started today!

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Enough Already…

I am enough!!!

I will have to probably repeat that mantra…my affirmation…FOR THE REST OF  MY LIFE!!!

It is my weak link…my access point for the enemy.

It’s not that I don’t know it…I DO!!!

It’s not that I don’t feel it…I DO!!!

It’s not that I don’t believe it…I DO….most of the time….

And there in-lies the problem…my weak point…my access point where the enemy whispers his disgusting lies!!!

I had a difficult hour last week when the whole day had been beautiful, wonderful….then….in a blink of an eye… all came crashing down on me.  It was my amazing wise, 40-year-old-stuck-in-a-14-year-old-body, daughter that had me reflect on what was really going on internally.

We talked about hormones…periods…emotions.  Her statements and questions were basically directed to the fact that: just because I don’t still have a period my body system still has hormones.  She was right.

She sensed I needed ClaryCalm and Serenity.  I laughed cause I don’t really like the smell of ClaryCalm.  Its too floral for me.  But if there is anything I have learned about the essential oils when we don’t really like a smell….especially if we have a negative reaction to it….it may mean our body REALLY needs it!

My daughter was soooooo right….

It stirred up emotions of continual healing from losing Sam.  Sam should’ve been born 6 years ago around this time.

A year later I needed a hysterectomy.  Therefore, present day I don’t experience the beautiful signals our beautiful female bodies will naturally share with us about our hormonal cycle.  Before the hysterectomy I charted my bio-markers.  This allowed me to see my estrogen build up and rise, then drop off.   Actually for me I was able to see the dysfunction of being estrogen dominant.

Our bodies are beautifully made.  They are continually talking to us.  Our bodies share with us how to take care of them, how to be healthy and strong.  Yet, I don’t have that ability anymore.  Even though my hormones are still doing something inside.  I don’t have the bio-markers to guide me anymore.

This is a reminder that I won’t carry any more children.  How can I possibly be enough for my hubby…my daughter…for God…oh the lies our enemy tries to fill in our heads.

The monthly blend, ClaryCalm, is the oil of vulnerability.  NO WONDER why I DON’T like the smell of it!!!

Who likes to feel vulnerable….IT MEANS WEAKNESS…..but that is a LIE!!!

What it really means is being open to true warmth and love in relationship.

My daughter had wisdom with this oil that she didn’t even know or understand.  But her spirit knew….and her connection and bond to me was supporting me and sharing with me what I needed to know to support myself and to continue the healing process.

This blend helps release emotional tension from the ovaries; to release suffering and dread.  We as women tend to have this surround our periods.  but since I don’t receive a period I have this build up of hormonal emotions that I don’t have bio-signals for anymore.

This can cause me to want to be even more guarded and closed.  Add to it loss, past traumas with men, and shame….but….that’s the beauty of continual healing…

God reminded me through my precious 14 year old that ClaryCalm is what I need to support myself.  I need to continue to grow in vulnerability, grow in healing, grow in knowing I AM ENOUGH.

I WILL learn a new way to monitor my hormones and with patience I will find a balance.  After all God has shown me so many other things through essential oils, tapping, plant based living, and so much more….I KNOW He will help me find a new way to find my hormonal rhythm…naturally…HIS WAY!!!

Do you struggle with feeling enough?  Do you need to open yourself up to vulnerability?  Hormonal balance? 

Seek out God’s rhythm for you!

He will remind you just HOW ENOUGH YOU REALLY ARE!!!

Sit…pray…journal…oil up….tap…and most important seek God through all of it!

As we connect one drop at a time to WHOLE health….mind body soul spirit…

you have my hugs and blessings always…

Kelly 🙂


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