Fear No More…

I’ve been reflecting on WHY have I been PROCRASTINATING about what I said I was going to do two weeks ago…..start having you all be my accountability partners with writing this book…..THAT IS GOING TO BE SUCH A BLESSING for me, for you, for soooo many!

And the realization is….resistance, fear, vulnerability…and so much more!

Sometimes we resist what God is asking of us because the enemy has whispered lies of fear in our heads…..lies like: if you allow yourself to be that transparent you will be vulnerable to hurt, shame, pain, and so much more!  But those are LIES.

Now  recognize it could be as simple as laziness on my part….but I do know last week was super busy for me with my daughters theater stuff….and spring break this week….so I am able to recognize it’s not laziness….and it’s not a matter of not having the time….it was resistance….it was fear….it was realizing, even though I have shared SOOO much about myself to you all and to others….actually putting it into an order and reflecting on it and realizing all the little things I hadn’t remembered until I started to really do this….well it was a lot for me to handle.

THEN….I realized…..I was trying to live in MY WILL…..MY POWER…..and it was GOD who said for me to do this…..SO I NEED TO PLACE THIS IN HIS POWER….HIS WILL….and it will unfold as HE wants it to happen….and the continued healing it will produce will be profound!

Thus with NO FURTHER RESISTANCE….FEAR….OR SHAME….I bring you the INTRODUCTION of my story….the story that will one day….soon….be in a book :)….

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂


There are 3 profound moments in my life that stick out in my head that have contributed to the healing from my past sexual abuses and choices.

The first one was me driving back and forth to work each day for months listening to Christopher Wests, “Naked without Shame” book.  I had it on CD and I couldn’t get enough of what he was saying.  Even though there was so much of it that was truly beyond my comprehension because this was his very first teachings on theology of the body.  His first attempt to bring St. JPII teachings on how beautifully made we are and how our sexuality should be nurtured, respected, and loved, well it was lofty.  It wasn’t something very digestible.  Yet there was something within me that heard the truth.  There was something inside of me that felt all the shame, pain, hurt, and abuse melting away.  There was a freedom with these words and I wanted to know more.

The second profound moment would come over 10 years later.  A dear friend, Jennifer, asked me if for my Birthday gift she could give me a Splankna session.  She had been sharing with me about this for almost a year but I still didn’t fully grasp what it was.  I understood it had to do with dealing with healing, uncovering memories, etc.  But even after reading the book about it, I still wasn’t real clear on it.  I even had another friend, who is grounded in my faith of Catholicism help me to discern if it was something I should even do.  (More about Splankna in the end notes)  She was skeptical at first, which is what I was counting on, but after reading the book, she even said: it’s Christ centered, there is nothing I see wrong with it.  So I dived in and said yes to a session.

That first session of many many more to come unearthed a wound that I still had from the one time I did use my voice out loud and said NO to a sexual abuse situation and actually said something to others about it.  I really thought I had moved past that one. 

The second profound moment should really be broken into a two-fold because it was the session combined with essential oils that made me a believer.  After the session there were several oils that Jennifer recommended to help the healing process of that wound.  When I used those oils that day and throughout the rest of the week I had the most profound healing experience with the support of the oils in a way I had never felt before.

This is the thing, at that point I had been using essential oils for well over 5 years.  I knew their amazing physical support.  I had experimented with several different brands but I had NEVER experienced what I had experienced emotionally with an oil as I did with these oils.  That’s when I knew this brand (which ironically God had been planting a seed in me through this friend for about a year) was different.  It was truly truly going to provide the support I needed on this journey of healing: mind body soul spirit!

The third profound moment didn’t take nearly as long to experience, I believe it actually only took place about a year later when I attended a Healing the Whole person retreat with a totally different friend.  The second friend mentioned above, had attended this same retreat the year before and it had made such a profound impact on her and her life.  I personally thought I was going to learn more about the retreat and to be a vessel for others.  Oh wow my ignorance and even my silly pride of thinking God wasn’t going to show me exactly why I was there. 

When I first showed up to the retreat as we were checking in and being greeted by the retreat team I am staring straight at a very familiar face.  This was odd to me because I was attending this retreat NOT in the town I lived in at the time.  I was attending it miles and miles and miles away for the whole purpose to have anonymity.  I blog, I present, I do lots of things in the public, I am not afraid to share my life and story but I felt like I was supposed to be somewhere where no one knew me to have this weekend.  Well obviously God had other plans.

Then when I saw some of the other participants who were attending I was convinced I knew why I was supposed to be there.  I am sure at this point God was truly laughing at me.  But also surrounding me with ALL the angels and saints to hold me for the doozy I would feel and experience that weekend.

As the weekend unfolded I started to see clearly why I was there.  I started to see the pain, the anger, the hurt, but most of all the FEAR that the enemy had held me under for more years than I could count.  I had no idea I was so consumed by fear and all the names and colors fear was hiding and masquerading under until this beautiful soul sister, who I knew from my hometown, helped me see it clearly that weekend.

At the end of that weekend when Dr. Bob asked if anyone would like to come up to share any testimony about their experience I felt the Holy Spirit nudge me, I felt Jesus holding my hand, and I heard God say “Bring it to the Light”. 

Those three profound moments, events, gave me the courage to see, hear, feel, and speak the truth: That I had experienced sexual abuse over a span of about 20 years in one form or another.  And that I WAS BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  That my sexuality was to become un-distorted by my traumas.  That I had a right to stare the enemy in the eye and say: no more, you will not feed me anymore lies.

This book is about that journey.  I pray you will join me on this joyous journey.  Because trust me that is what it is.  I am not saying it won’t hurt from time to time, but the freedom to see the mark is too great of a delight to pass up.  To find freedom in your sexuality and heal is so profound that it’s worth some of the growing pains.  Because through that pain you find power.

I tried to figure out how I was to write this for so long.  Then God showed me clearly how to do this.  Each chapter will be dedicated to a specific experience or event that shaped and molded my distorted image of my sexuality.  Experiences that distorted my love for myself.  That distorted how God designed us to be. These will be the main ones that have impacted my self-worth in my head and heart.  It’s not all of them, I am sure, but they are truly the ones that I know layered the development of my distorted love of self and my sexuality.   Within each chapter I will share hope and healing.  I will include Saints, scriptures, and essential oils that can support that particular abuse situation.

Before we begin let’s understand the definition of sexual abuse.  How many of us think of all the horrific things only?  But did you know sexual abuse is: lude looks, sexual harassment, rape, pornography, exposure to sexual content at too early of an age, unwanted touches, unwanted sexual talk, and so much more.  If any of this has happened to you, you have experienced sexual abuse! 

Rest assured this book is not going to be about graphic descriptions of what took place.  It is about providing the right kind of details to create understanding of why any of us need to heal and feel whole from this sort of situation, trauma, and abuse. 

We were made for so much more than glossy prints, for others sexual lustful desires, and selfish acts of take.  A take that can be done physically, emotionally, mentally, and or spiritually.

Finally my greatest desire with this book is bring out the light of truth of what true sexual freedom is.  And to stomp out the lies the enemy whispers in our ears to keep us in the dark.  The lies of shame, the lies that we are dirty, the lies that our bodies are broken.  Be that light with me by using your voice to shout at the mountain top: I WAS MADE FOR MORE.  To shout in a building: I AM BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  And to shout while sitting: MY SEXUALITY IS A GIFT FROM GOD.

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There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!

Want to know more?

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Anger: God or Sin?

Anger can sometimes be a huge motivator.  We are not talking about the vengeful anger that is driven by sin….but the anger that is actually from God.  The anger that has us pause and want to have a voice for the innocent within this world.  The anger that turns us to not be silent about grave wrongs and injustices.


God has pressed upon my heart for many years to write a book.  But He didn’t give me direction.  I trusted that my not starting it wasn’t because I wasn’t motivated or lazy it was because I didn’t have its purpose, its passion, laid out yet.

Then last month He revealed to me EXACTLY the outline…..even got the introduction written.  I realized that He had been fine tuning me, disciplining me in showing up to write through this blog.  He also showed me how many blog writers end up taking part of what they have written over the years to turn into a book.  As well as many bloggers purposefully using their blog to be their “first draft” of their book to fine tune and get it to the final piece of art.

Needless to say I wasn’t fully heeding His words about the using this blog to fine tune my book….I was still trying to live in my will of thinking I needed to work on this book on the side, while writing here different yet similar content.

Then 2 things happened this week:

  1. Realizing that in a way, you all are my accountability partners of making sure I get this message of Hope and Healing out there.


  1. A horrible evil took place to someone I dearly love that saddened my heart so severely that I found myself weeping for almost 24 hours off and on…..and I still find myself weeping….

But now…..I’m angry!  I am angry the way God wants me to be…..angry to take action.

So what does taking action mean for me:  Using my voice to share MY STORY!

My story of sexual brokenness and distortion through my abuses, rapes, and own choices.  By me being silent and not getting off my butt to write this book I am as the quote goes…. “the only way for evil to conquer (win) is for good men to do nothing….”  Or something like that…..I am terrible with quotes :)…..

So starting next week…..and who knows how often, but I am convicted to share with you each week a chapter of the book….so a chapter maybe spread out through several days…..I am not sure yet…..I guess it just depends on how long each chapter is.  Since I have the introduction already written I will probably start with that next week…..

But I do know there will be life stuff going on in the middle of things I will want to still share so I will probably post those in-between as well…..and I will distinguish in the title or in the first line which it is…..but my focus will be the book and getting this message out there for women to be empowered!

With that……

Do you know someone who has been hurt, abused, raped…..the innocence of their sexuality distorted and used for evil?  If so…..please share with them this blog to help them walk through the healing process.  Encourage them to find help: professional, spiritual, personal.  Be an ear for them!  And don’t ask too many questions….just be that rock for them….and get them to talk to you…to someone!

Please have an amazingly blessed day.  And when you find GOD convicting you about something, feeling anger toward an evil, don’t let it become a sin, instead let it become your motivation to be the change of HOPE in this world!

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

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Hearts of Ashes

Happy Valentines with Ashes!

I’m going to save the story of my daughter asking, “Is there ANYTHING ELSE about our family I should know?” for next week!!! J

Instead I want to visit about how there is never a coincidence with God! J….He knows what He is doing!!!

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There may be many Catholics who are bummed that Valentines falls on Ash Wednesday….and some who may decide to say the heck with it, I’m going to celebrate Valentine’s day anyways…and by the time you read this you may have already decided that yourselfJ…

But I want us to ponder on something…

What better way to celebrate Valentines but to begin this journey of LOVE for 40 days.  In 40 days we will celebrate just HOW MUCH CHRIST LOVES US!

I thought of all sorts of things to share here today but instead I wanted us to  just pause and think about  how absolutely awesome it is that we receive this gift of an amazing love journey this Lenten season.

What way are you going to bring more love into your life this lent?

  • Give up fear?
  • Give up anger?
  • Give up resentment?

Oils to support you on this journey:

  • Fear: Juniper Berry, OnGuard, TerraShield, Wild Orange
  • Process fear out with any of these oils….opening you up to FAITH!
  • Anger: Cardamom, DDR Prime blend, InTune, Melissa
  • Process anger out with these oils….opening you up for internal stillness and calm.
  • Resentment: DigestZen blend, Lemongrass, AromaTouch blend, Peppermint, Breathe blend.
  • Process resentment out with these oils to open your heart up to understanding.

Today take a moment to reflect if any of these emotions resonate with you?  Are they something you can or should work on this lent?

Sit with this…pray….journal…oil up and tap into LOVE!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

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Are you ready to start a whole health journey?! When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to connect first with a phone call or Zoom call? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

13 Reasons Why: Hope & Deep Blue


Have you watched this show!?  I never felt compelled when this show came out to watch it….mostly because I have been disappointed by every Netflix original thus far.  They ALWAYS have content too explicit for my taste.  I absolutely DO NOT like watching sexual scenes. It is such an affront to how beautifully wonderfully made we are.  It objectifies us and reduces GODS beautiful gift to us to something that is deemed as entertainment by the film/tv industry.

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I will try to stay on topic….lol….

I watched this show for 2 reasons:  a friend of my daughters watched it so I thought if I watched it I would have a way to continue to connect with her and have meaningful conversation.  And I knew if anything it would be something to blog about….lol.

Oh my goodness gracious.  I had NO IDEA what I was instore for.

This show rocked my world in a very good way.  Now I am truly not advocating to watch it.  As a matter of fact I think the writers and producers got a lot of things wrong….but I think they did get some things right.

So let’s cover what was wrong first:

Besides the beyond over use of language…..especially F***, it was sexually graphic.  It made me VERY uncomfortable especially the TWO RAPE SCENES!!!

There was NEVER an option or choice of hope portrayed for these kiddos because faith was NEVER mentioned…not even to mock Christianity.

What was right…..and why it rocked my world…

This young girl becomes the target of sexual abuse (touches, pats, leers, groping, comments, and rape) all because of a terrible picture taken in the wrong “light of angling” that portrayed her as “not a good girl”. 

This show was able to eloquently show how continual layers of being treating like a sexual object impacts a person profoundly to finally feel like nothing….to feel unworthy….to feel shame….to freeze in moments when we should fight or flight…..to question our own worth.

It showed how well intended adults sometimes don’t think about their wording and put blame on the victim, which causes even more doubt and shame.

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My best suggestion to parents if they are curious about this show is watch the extra episode which is 30 minutes it explains the show and why they developed it the way they did.  I think these topics are important to address with our kiddos I just think that this show really missed out on the Christian element!

Now… this is why I loved and hated this show….and why it rocked my world She was me!  And if it weren’t for my faith….I may have felt the same hopelessness she felt.

By the time I was this girls age I had already endured so many pats, leers, and more that I was numb to it all.  After all the 70’s and 80’s were all about sexual expression, freedom, revolution right!?  So it was believed a girl should feel flattered that men and boys “noticing” her right?!

This show not only provide great research for me but it also provided continual healing.  But I am an adult.  My concern for some young girls who watch this show is it could re-traumatize them or even scandalize them.  But that is just my opinion. And that is for their parents to hopefully get involved and decide if it is something they should watch, watch with them, and discuss especially if their teen has already watched it.


It seems like I use the HOPE oil a lot….lol…..but I really love how it can truly lift a person out of feelings of overwhelm, loss, and so much more.  I paired it with DEEP BLUE during this time to soothe the wounds (the flash backs) it was provoking.  I was very grateful to have the support of these 2 oils….and many others!

Have you watched 13 REASONS WHY?

What were your thoughts?

Do you have a similar experience?

Sit….pray….journal…oil up…tap….and connect with me about it!

Essential drops of love and prayers always,

~Kelly 🙂

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Console my Broken Heart

My heart is breaking.

I had so many things I wanted to share with all of you this Monday.  But I will save them for another day :).   Because there WILL be another day…lol.

Yesterday our parish priest shared how our Bishop is moving him to a different parish because he is needed there.  My heart breaks because we just got here.  I have truly fall in love with this priest in such a short four month period.  When he broke the news yesterday, my eyes welled….and I could barely speak about it during the day.  It created such a deep loss within me.  I went to Console and Bergamot to support me.

It had me pondering WHY!?  Why did I feel such loss?  And then it hit me….I HAD FULLY, VULNERABLY, WILLINGLY, FINALLY LET SOMEONE  INTO MY LIFE WITH NO GUARD, NO HESITATION!!! 

The realization that it hurt so deep was because I truly loved this man and all he has to give to his church, his congregation, with no reservation.  My wounds of past vulnerabilities had truly been healed.  And that gave me great joy.  

Then I had to remind myself to have that Godly detachment.  And again…I had accomplished that as well.  I was able to recognize that we cannot cling to things and people, only God is our true rock…..YET we are to love others with our WHOLE heart, mind, soul….this is not always easy…..right!?  Especially when we are wounded!

YET….I did it!  And that gave me amazing joy and peace!

So when you find yourself clinging to someone or something, reflect on why?  Give it to God.  And when you find yourself feeling great loss, give yourself the grace to to heal and move forward yet remember we must only cling to God!

As always….sit…pray…oil up…and tap through your day!!

Drops of blessings and hugs dear ones!

~Kelly 🙂


PS…..Last week was abundantly full with my darling daughters theater schedule and this week will be as well due to it being production week, so there will more than likely be only one posting this week, but who knows…lol.  I am also going to stop trying to figure out the right “formula” of when and what to write for you all because that’s not being true to me, thus not true to you all!  But more about that soon ;)……Til then….

Have an amazingly blessed week!

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Stay {Still}

We are here!

We are in Georgetown!

I look forward to SHARING soooo much with you soon as I explore….as I connect with ALL the amazing little nuances of this town!

But today….

I will guide the movers where I need what, in which room.

I will breathe in my new home!

I will pray over my new home!

I will sit and stay still in my new home!

Do you need to stop and sit still with change in your life!?  To take it all in?  To appreciate all it has to offer you!?

Sit with this…pray about this…journal about this….and connect/share with me about this!

Many hugs and blessings dear followers…family…friends…

~Kelly 🙂


Serenity {Find Rest in the Lord}


That is what I’ve been trying to feel for about 2 to almost 3 months now since we decided we were moving to the Austin area.

Well we went to Georgetown last week and found a home!  Bought a home!  Going through all the closing process and now finishing up the packing in our Amarillo home.

It all feels like a whirlwind.  A very blessed whirlwind, with one hiccup:  our Amarillo home hasn’t sold!  It has been very frustrating for my hubby.  There has been homes in our area that have sold within weeks of being on the market.  He has had a hard time not letting go and trusting God’s hand in all of it.

But, yesterday as I was cleaning and getting ready for a showing that was cancelled I thought: what could be the root, the issue, what’s holding this house in limbo?  I have thought is was my hubby and all his type A personality and him having to work through trust issues and control issues with God.  Of course we all have these same issues just in varying ranges and degrees.

What I have realized through prayer and reflection is I could be the cause of our house having an energy or spirit of being held back.  Okay stay with me.  I know so many of us are able to rap our brains around the mind body soul spirit of a being.  But is there really a spirit or an energy of a thing?  I think it is the link to the being, us, that will create or attach energy thus good or bad spirit to an item or a thing or even a place.  So let me explain….

I have been and still am beyond excited about this move.  BUT being the introvert and highly sensitive person I am, this home has provided 10 plus years of security and SERENITY for me.  It has been where all my friends can come and gather and fellowship.  I am person who doesn’t like big crowds or gathers; but at my own home I LOVE IT!

Now my body and spirit are going to have to start over,  process new people and new places all at the same time.  Where as in my home I get to be me.  I will have that at my new home but it will take time just like making new friends will take time.  I also have to give up my security, my SERENITY, of people who know me and love me for all my amazing quirkiness.  I love being quirky, I love being me.  I need to remember that I can still be me even somewhere else.  Those in Georgetown will get to know me too and I will find my familiarity, my peace, my SERENITY there too!

So to my Amarillo home:  If I have held you back in anyway: I am so sorry.  If I have clung to you rather than God: I am sorry.  And if I have said or done anything to not allow good energy or spirit to flow from you when someone looks at you: I am sorry.  I’m going to miss you.  I will lean on my SERENITY OIL to support me in this process of saying goodbye and to thank you for holding so much love and laughter for over 10 years!

What do you need to find some calm, some SERENITY with?  Do you find yourself having emotional overload, agitation, restlessness, anxiety, or disconnected?   How can you find your peace, calm, tranquil and connected spirit in a situation?

Sit with this….pray about this…..journal about this….share and connect with me about it!

Many hugs and blessings dear followers….family…friends….

~Kelly 🙂


Planting Seeds

Last week I took a much needed break to reconnect with my darling daughter.  We connected with her lessons, our oils business, and our family plans for the upcoming move.   We have been trying to not get too itchy about waiting for this move to happen.  We know it’s happening but all the details are still being worked out, which requires patience.  Which also means we’ve been tapping into LOTS of different oils for support with the ups and downs of the emotions.

Patience is not always easy.  But through it there is always fruit!  This reminds me of the guest speaker at the Mother/Daughter Brunch we attended on Saturday.   This speaker shared how we are called as parents to plant seeds…a variety of seeds…..with the help of a variety of helpers (family, friends, like minded individuals).  This with the hopes, prayers, desires for even a few of the seeds to one day take root.  I loved what she said.  I saw how just as we plant seeds within our children there is an oil for each of these seeds.  There is an oil for each challenge.  I am so grateful to sow seeds with loved ones within my daughter.  And I am just as grateful to have the support of Essential Oils to help me and her along the way.

What seeds are you planting in your children?

  • Love?
  • Mercy?
  • Forgiveness?
  • Faith?
  • Compassion?

Sit with this….pray about it……write about it…..share/connect below with me about it!

Many blessings and hugs dear followers…family….friends….

~Kelly 🙂

Breathe in the Possibilities…

I had a slight giggle within me when I opened my email on April 1st to read what the free oil of the month was going to be and what the discounted product of the month was to be with doTerra.

I giggled because it was fitting….it is so something God would do!

The free oil of the month (with a 125pv order before the 15th) is a 5ml of DigestZen.  And the product of the month is 10% off of the Breathe stick.

With all the life changes we are embarking on with uprooting our family from a town and home we have been in for 10 years, I am going to definitely need the support of Breathe and DigestZen.

It’s interesting because many people think of DigestZen just for it’s physical support of upset tummy, indigestion, etc.   But the emotional aspect is similar.  When our tummies are upset it’s because something hasn’t processed right.  Well emotionally, DigestZen supports the emotional needs of taking in new information.  To be open to new experiences.  New possibilities!

Breathe supports our respiratory physically…..but emotionally it deepens our connection to life.  It helps us see how to embrace life to have the courage to be fully open!


What is going on in your life that could use some support with having the courage to be open to new possibilities?

Sit with this….pray about this…write about this….share below with me about this!

Many hugs and blessings my dear followers….friends….family….

~Kelly 🙂



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