Today: He burns to be with you!

Merry Christmas!

Take a moment on this day to sit and breathe in the beauty of what we are celebrating…..who we are celebrating….and why we are celebrating!

You are all in my prayers always!!

Hugs and blessings…

Kelly 🤗💧💜🎄

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2019: His will or mine?

I’ve been taking some much needed self care time!

Time to reflect….ponder…and dream!!!

I’ve been filling up journal pages faster than I can write…..so when I’m not writing on paper I’m writing in my head!

Some of what I’ve been writing and reflecting on is 2019….

How do I hope to be the best version of myself?

How do I plan on reaching some pretty big goals?!

And how do I plan on making sure I’m constantly surrendering to His will and not mine?

I don’t have all the answers or thoughts written out yet….but that’s what I’ve been up to the last two weeks and well I plan on continuing through this month to get laser focused on the essentials of a truly WHOLE-life-giving 2019!

Have you set your 2019 goals?

Have you taken the time to unplug from all distractions so you can be alone with the Lord and hear His thoughts for you?!

How can you live an authentic, transforming 2019?!

Sit…pray….tap….and oil up!!

My hugs and prayers always,

Kelly 🙏💧💜

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Feast on Family

As I was reflecting on today’s readings I saw the theme of feasting…but not feasting on just any food!

We are to feast on wisdom….on true life: Christ!

When we do this then our moments of dryness in prayer and difficulty if life circumstances are more bearable because we have “life with in us!”!

Today reflect on what are you not only feeding your physical body but your spiritual body…..this is what will truly sustain you!

Many blessings and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

The Gift of the Assumption

She said yes!

She said she was enough!

She lived a life that the was the best version of herself!

She was MARY! The amazing mother of Christ!

Today as Catholics we celebrate the feast of her Assumption into heaven.

Years ago it was also the day we selected to baptize our beautiful baby girl to dedicate her and wrap her into Mary’s mantle. Ironically it was also my husbands birth moms birthday.

My prayer is as life in the Catholic Church is in an upheaval of pain once again, that we turn to Mary for healing and hope.

A mother wraps her arms around us and holds us when we are sad, when we are angry, when we want to give up.

A mommy says, “It will be okay…..we will get through this…”

And a mommy even gets angry and weeps with us but reminds us of the compassion and mercy and forgiveness that needs to be given to all!

I head out the door to celebrate mass with my beautiful daughter knowing God has it! Our prayers are the most important. And our not giving up when evil tries so desperately to overcome this world.

May you each find the joy of the Assumption today instead of the pain of the fall….

May you each find the oil and tapping that will support your prayer and pain….

And may we all be united in hope and healing!

My hugs and prayers always!

Kelly

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How often do you say you are enough?!

How often do you truly live your authentic life?!

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Truth & Trust = Hope & Healing

I’ve been having some symptoms with my physical health coming up recently but hey has been well….frustrating the daylights out of me!

So yesterday I was praying and asking God: what do I need to be doing? What oils have I not thought of? What emotion having I not tapped on? What have I not addressed?!

He gave me part of the answer yesterday but then told me wait….

I was like ugh…how long do I have to wait!!!!!

Then this morning as I was doing my morning prayers, reading the daily readings and gospel…..I open my email and see which two oils are the BOGO….and I about weeped with joy and peace.

Because HE knew that these were the two I literally needed!

We all want to hurry along healing but as many years as there is of hurts pains and trauma we have that many years of emotions to clear out. This doesn’t mean we stay stuck in the muck.

It means we are patient and loving to ourselves. It means we give ourselves grace. It means we walk with the truth that our yoke May feel heavy but His burden is light!

Soooo…

I got a bit well…personal… on my personal Facebook page today…lol…

I did this because…..

If there is anyone who you think can use this message of hope and healing through sexual trauma please share this and pass it along!

Maybe you know someone who could really use the encouragement and reminder of how beautifully wonderfully made they are!

Let’s spread hope and healing….because that is the way we are going to take our true health back. That is how we are going to connect our physical and emotional health and watch the fireworks of our health skyrocket!

Click this video to uncover the lies behind our sexual huts and traumas!

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And in this video I talk about the physical and emotional connection of Frankincense and Jasmine for our liver health!

Yes our liver health! We hold anger in our liver! When we have trauma….we have anger! We must cleanse that out!

Let’s heal! Let’s spread hope! Let’s shine! Let’s be the best version of ourselves so we can be the intentional disciples God created us to be!!!

What is holding you back from your healing?

Sit…pray…..write….tap….and oil up!

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Many hugs, blessings, and prayers….ALWAYS!!!

Kelly 🤗💧💜

Bossy Boys

It’s been soo weird going back through all of this junk to write this book!  Because this is the thing….I don’t hate nor dislike ANY of my abusers.  And actually I have them ALL on my prayer list.  I truly lift them all up in prayer and with love.  True love.

I’ll admit part of me has wanted to retreat in fear that I am going to make someone angry, be accused of hurtful things, etc…..but that is exactly what the enemy wants.  I have not ever included anyone’s names purposely.  Because this isn’t about them.  This is about my healing, my journey, and me helping YOU.

And really these men, boys, in my life were just as much a victim, a pawn.  They had their own wounds to heal from.  And we all have choices on how we heal or hide from our wounds, our sins, our hurts.

So I hold nothing but love in my heart for these boys.  I didn’t just arrive to this love….it took time…but I am so grateful for how free I feel today in knowing that my 20 years of all forms of sexual abuse DO NOT DEFINE ME and that I am able to truly see HOW BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE I AM!!

I pray this chapter (below) will create healing in your health journey, especially if there is any aspect of it that speaks to your heart!

Many blessings and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

chapter 5

CHAPTER 5:

BOSSY BOYS

When I was 12 I had the opportunity to start earning a little bit of money busing tables.  It was a small town.  My mom was friends with the owner of the restaurant.  Add to it, it was the early 80’s who knows what the child labor laws were.  I grew up going to this restaurant all the time.  So it wasn’t a huge stretch me working there eventually.  My brother did odd jobs off and on for my parents in their business but I didn’t want to work for my parents.  I loved the hustle and bustle of the restaurant.  It again was a great place to observe people and listen to conversations.  I really admired the head waitress and wanted to work with her.  Now the owner had two boys who were friends with my brother.

These boys were truly wild.  They were mean and sweet all in the same breath.  I had fun hanging out with my brother and his friends most of the time.  I soon discovered that like my brother’s other friend, they too were exposed to porn.  But the porn they had access to was not only everywhere, their house, at the restaurant, in their dad’s truck, but it was pretty hard core stuff for in the 80’s.

Like I mentioned, these boys were intense.  When they could be really sweet but when they fought it was like nothing I had ever witnessed before.  I truly would get scared sometimes being around them.  Not wanting to ever be on their bad side.

Now I loved working there at the restaurant but it was also a home away from home for me.  I would hang out in the back room even when I didn’t have a shift.  There was always great snacks there and a tv room and privacy.  My parents printing business was sometimes too loud for me and this back room was a nice place to study, write, think and take naps.

The problem was sometimes when I took naps there I would be woken by someone touching me.  I would lay there frozen praying they would just stop and go away.  I knew it was one or both of the boys.  And having seen them fight before I would find myself wondering if I would be the target of them “beating” on me if I resisted.  But there was also another thing that held me back.  A sensation that confused me.  I didn’t understand it.  In hindsight I am able to understand we were made for desire and it is a natural physical response to want touch. The problem was their touches were not from God they were from their own abuse of being exposed to porn.  This went on for a while before I realized they weren’t going to stop, so I no longer had a safe escape in the back room.  This also created another layer of shame and ugliness I felt about myself.

I stayed working at that restaurant from the ages of 13-18.  I just never allowed myself to be in the back room ever again with the boys.  But my year’s waitressing just further exposed me to pats, grabs, lingering hands and innuendos while I poured refills of coffee to the “grumpy old men” club during the mid-morning or mid-afternoon.  They would do these things in the middle of me pouring when I was at my most vulnerable because I never wanted to spill, make a mess, or burn any of them.  This reinforced my unworthiness and shame.

Console, Marjoram, and Clove together will provide the comfort to unburden our pain so we can truly stand up for ourselves to trust ourselves to connect with others.

Console:  Sometimes we can feel anxious that an abuse will reoccur.  We aren’t able to find comfort. We need to grieve the loss of our innocence.  Console helps us unburden these pains.  To see our WHOLENESS through God’s eyes.

Cloves: This oil of Boundaries encourages us to let go of a victim mentality.  To stand up for ourselves.  To have the courage to say no.  It is especially helpful for breaking patterns of abuse.

Marjoram:  We were created for connection, community.  Trust is important to feel connected, to participate in life.  But when we have experienced an abuse, a trauma, that has shifted our heart and mind toward others, it is hard to truly feel connected.  Marjoram will open our hearts and soul to make the connection to trust, to heal.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, I TRUST IN YOU! I don’t need to hold on to this pain, the anxious feelings that I will continue to be hurt.  I can be open to receive others love and still maintain healthy boundaries.  Boundaries doesn’t mean I am closed off from connecting to others as you designed us to.  Instead my boundaries are to ensure I am loved and treated as you desire us to be loved and treated.  I am beautifully and wonderfully made.  And I WILL NOT LET ANYONE TELL ME OTHERWISE, NOT EVEN MYSELF.  In your most holy name I break free from the burden of pain.  I am not a victim.  I do TRUST IN YOU.  Thank you….I love you….amen!

Black Pepper: The Cross

When we abandon all our vices…our control…our additions to sin, hurt, pain,and shame…we are left with…

His amazing power, love , grace, and mercy!

How can black pepper help you put your heart in His hands today?!

Sit…pray…write…tap…and oil up!

Many blessings always…

Kelly 🙂

***Traveling this weekend has me stepping back and reflecting on the beauty of life even more so than usual! Not taking for granted the little things, as well as humbling myself to His plans and His will always…especially with traveling!

SWIMMING in SHAME & ANGER

Isn’t it interesting how when you are working on things…either you have greater revelations or the enemy tries to come down on you!  Anymore when I find myself procrastinating about something I know it’s the enemy not wanting truth out there.  And when I am wrestling with something it is because I feel God’s prompting but I am trying to do it my way…..lol….

This last week was full of amazing graces and gifts….I had some amazing aha moments about business, family, faith, healing….so much.

I was visiting with a dear friend just yesterday and today about how sometimes when a person doesn’t deal with their emotions on something it is because they don’t want to address the emotions because it means they will have to feel those emotions.  And when you think you have already gone through something you don’t want to go through it again.

I have found that in order for me to be truly transparent and authentic with my sharing about this healing and hope through my sexual past of abuses and choices I had to be willing to truly put myself back into that place.  To relive it.  And that’s not fun.

It’s especially not fun for my poor husband, because that means I will be struggling with wanting to be warm and receptive to him.  But…..because of God’s amazing love, Jesus’s amazing mercy, and the Holy Spirits guiding hand I am able to see and understand I don’t have to separate and distance myself.  I can feel all I need to in order to share the fullness with you and still feel all the amazing love I have for myself and my husband….and truly celebrate how far I have come on this journey!

So with that being said….here is the next chapter of this amazing journey of healing and hope :)….

My you be blessed beyond measure….and find amazing hope and healing in your own journey….

chapter 2 blend

Chapter 2:

SWIMMING WITH SHAME & ANGER:

Do you have moments in your life that are so clear to your mind’s eye?  Moments where the background stuff is fuzzy, blurry, but other details within the same moment are crystal clear, and even seem in slow motion.  That is this memory.

This memory has ALWAYS had those distortions.  And with those distortions the enemy used it to start twisting my feelings of self-worth.

I remember it was summer, I was eight years old, and there were about 6 of us girls.  I can see the house.  It was a friend who lived in town but on the outskirts of town because they had open fields around them.  Her aunt who was her same age lived right next door.  I remember thinking how super cool to have family right next door to you, to go to anytime. I also thought it was kind of neat that her aunt was her same age.  I remember the layout of the house as us girls walked through the house: the living room, through the kitchen, to the den to get to the back yard where the above ground swimming pool was at.

I don’t remember why we were all together that hot summer afternoon.  Was it after bible camp?  Were we all just together just because?  Who knows!?  I do remember this young girls older, teen brother, was home.  As all of us came running into the house giggling and excited that we were going to change to play in the pool, he was there.  I don’t remember why and how he was able to convince us girls we needed help with our bathing suits, but he did and this is where the memories become razor sharp in some areas, slow motion in others, and blurry in the distance.

I remember being in the den my back to this tall young man, the sister off to the front of me as she is grabbing her towel and stuff and giggling with her aunt who is dropping things and grabbing things.  The other 3 girls were already out in the backyard.  I look out to the side and I see laughter and brightness, but it feels so dark and cold in this room.  I remember his hands taking forever to tie the strap at my neck and how his hands just lingered on my neck and back.  I don’t remember if I also had a clasp but I do remember his hands going down my back almost to my waist.

I honestly do not know what or why within me knew it was wrong, that his touch wasn’t a touch of innocence or of helpfulness, but of lust, yet I knew it wasn’t an innocent touch.  Years later during a Splankna session with my dear friend Jennifer I was able to discover that this was probably when one of my first unholy vows that was made.

You might ask: how can an eight year old possible make an unholy vow? The unconscienced mind does many things to protect us.  What I do know is in that moment my innocence was stolen, it was forever altered.  My subconscious stored the fact that there are ways we are looked at and touched that are not holy; that can make us feel uncomfortable.  Ways that are full of lust and not love.  And that we have a choice of speaking up and speaking truth against the distortion, the wrong or we have a choice to remain silent, to shush the prickling gut sensation that is shouting THIS IS WRONG.

But I was eight!!!  And understanding fight, flight, and freeze wasn’t even remotely in my vocabulary of understanding yet.

So what unholy vow did I make?  What did I learn in my Splankna session many years later?

I learned I vowed that no one I loved would EVER feel this way, used and looked at as an object.  And when he slowly turned me around to adjust my straps and to make sure everything was snuggly in place I looked up at him and I saw pure anger and rage.  And that is when I took on his emotions of anger and rage, as well as the transfer emotions of my moms of shame and pain.

Remember we are all connected.  And within that moment all that my spirit and body already knew about my mom, but my brain did not, was absorbed thus my vow was sealed, and I didn’t even know it.

I remember clearly during that Splankna session the realization of having taken on my mom’s pain and shame; and the anger and disgust my spirit saw in that boy.  I was able to realize, as an adult, his anger and disgust was directed at me and himself.  His inner core was angry at robbing this young girl of her innocence and creating confusion for the satisfaction of his lust to just have a touch.

I also remember during that session how amazingly freeing it was to have the root revealed.  Free to release the emotions I had experienced and didn’t understand for so many years. The freedom to understand that I had taken on the emotions of others with my spirit and body.  I had believed the enemies lie that it was my burden to bare and if I NEVER wanted someone I loved to feel the same confusion, shame, pain, and anger I would keep my mouth shut.

This was the beginning of what would become 20 years of more exposures like this but so much worse.  I had no idea what my body and spirit was going to be going through over the course of 20 years, all I did know was: I wasn’t the same.  Yet, at 8 years old I knew something wasn’t right.

This was, also, probably the beginning of when I developed dysmorphia.  Dysmorphia is a brain disconnect of how we view and see ourselves in the mirror.  Dysmorphia is not just a girl wanting and wishing she looks different.  But a true disconnect in the brain from what is viewed in the mirror.  There are many triggers.  The 3 main ones are: 1. a trauma, usually sexual, that takes place at a young age, 2. A mother or female influence in your life that has a dislike/distorted view of their body, and 3. A chemical imbalance of specific hormones that don’t feed the brain the right messages.  I have all three of these triggers.  Which of the 3 came first I do not know, but I do know it is a continual blessing for me to look myself each day in the mirror and renounce the lie the enemy tries to throw out at me.  I have the honor to look myself in the mirror and see past the lies to the truth that God has planted there: I am enough!  I am beautifully wonderfully made.

This brings us to the oils that can support you during this journey of healing and hope.  If you have experienced a similar situation, whether at a young age, older, once, twice, over the course of years, you too need healing and hope through your sexual trauma.  Because this is trauma.  It is trauma to your entire senses.  It is trauma to know something isn’t right and yet feeling you have no control, no power, to do anything about it.

Oil Blend:  Grapefruit, Cilantro, Fennel

Grapefruit is the oil of honoring one’s body.  When a person who has been abused, especially a girl, her view of her body is forever distorted.  She doesn’t look at her body the same again.  It is distorted by the lens of the lust that was projected on her.  She starts judging her body and blaming it for betraying her.  Grapefruit comes in and encourages her to not be cruel to her body through extreme exercising, dieting, and distortions of the truth.

Cilantro is the oil of releasing control.  When we make unholy vows we are saying extremes like: NEVER, EVER, and that’s the window for the enemy to play, because I has us become obsessed or attached to patterns or toxic thinking.  We don’t release the trauma that has been buried deep into our mind, body, heart, soul.  Cilantro releases our mental strain to bring to the light our true self.  We are able to shed the trap of the lies the enemy has been whispering into our ears.

Fennel is the oil of responsibility.  Abuse and trauma is NEVER the fault of the victim, the receiver, but we do have responsibility of how it dictates our life.  We can become disconnected to our natural signals.  Weakened sense of self and a lack of passion for life.  Fennel reminds us to not go to food to numb the pain, or to go to extremes, such as, eating disorders to “disappear” because we want to hide in shame.

These oils are all great for internal (I only advocate internal use with doTERRA oils), topically, and aromatically.

INTERNALLY USE:

Each of these are great in water or culinary dishes.  A drop of Grapefruit and Fennel make a wonderful refreshing water.  A drop of Cilantro is great in guacamole or in a salad dressing.

TOPICAL USE:

Place one drop of each in your palm with some fractionated coconut oil.  Rub together cup your hands together, bring to your nose and inhale a deep breath.  Experience the scents together.  Feel them enter into your cells, your mind, and your spirit. Do this 3 times.  I always like putting the remainder of the oils on the bottom of my feet and on any body part I feel is holding onto negative emotions that day.  Usually I know this by what body part I feel drawn to rub the oils on.  Examples would be my adrenals, my heart, my thyroid and even my breasts.

AROMATIC USE:

In a diffuser use one drop of Cilantro, 5 of Grapefruit, 1-3 of Fennel.

One final thought before we end in prayer.  You can also use tapping (EFT) as a way to help release the emotions of the traumas.  Use tapping in mediation, in prayer, or even on the go.  It is a powerful tool God has given to us to support us on this healing journey of hope!

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…every time someone in my past has looked at me or touched me in lust rather than love…..I release them from my pain, my hurt, my anger.  By releasing them I am opening myself up to greater healing….I am opening myself up to release the trauma that has been buried with in my very soul. Through opening myself up to forgiveness I am reconnecting myself to be passionate about life.  I am taking responsibility of NOT let this trauma, abuse, experience to dictate my take and love of life.

I continue to thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  And when I look into the mirror and only see the lies the enemy tries to sell me, I thank you for the Holy Spirit’s constant vigilance in encouraging me and revealing the truth to me.

I end this prayer with asking my guardian angel to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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