SINS OF THE FATHERS

I was laughing inside when I read my email on Sunday that the free oil this month was BREATHE!  How absolutely fitting because here I go with Chapter 1!

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Chapter 1: 

SINS OF THE FATHERS

Before I get into my own trauma I want to share with you: I do NOT blame my parents.  They did the best they could with what they did have.  They didn’t have resources and amazing things like Christopher West teaching Theology of the Body.  Because well honestly Saint Pope John Paul II’s Wednesday teachings were barely taking place.  And they were being sucked into the lie of the sexual revolution.  And as many good wonderful Catholics, they were taught to suppress, ignore, and hide your sexual desires. After all good Catholics, good Christians, didn’t think about our sexual health. Thus, HOW could sexual health, non-the-less true sexual understanding of how beautifully wonderfully made we are, even be understood!

Then you compound it with their own traumas, wounds, distortions, and missing the mark of what Eros and our sexuality is really all about, it was a recipe for disaster.  But I am not here to tell their story.  It is not mine to tell.  Yet their story did have an impact on my life.  Therefore sharing this part is important to understand because their story does matter.  Stories they hadn’t even shared with me until I was much older.  Now I do believe there is a time and a place in sharing our stories with our children.  I also believe there is a matter of the extent of the information.  But there is a problem when we don’t share our journey with our children.  We think if we don’t talk about it, well it won’t affect or impact another person, but it does.

A baby in the womb hears, feels, senses EVERYTHING!  Our spirits are connected.  So my mind may not have known what my father was struggling with but my spirit knew.   It impacted me.   My mom may have thought she was shielding me from the ugliness of how evil had touched her in a profound way by not sharing it.  But my spirit new and it impacted me.

Again I say, because my parents didn’t have the equipment of TOB (Theology of the Body) to help them remember how beautifully wonderfully made they were, they chose to believe the lies from the enemy that they were ugly, they should hide in shame, they should NEVER speak about their sins, their wounds, their experiences to their children because that will cause sin within them.  And that is exactly how the enemy likes it.  He likes our hurts, pains, and sin to be in the dark.  Therefore when we don’t communicate (communion), we divide.  Think of Adam and Eve.

Now let’s take a journey with an oil blend to help you on your own healing and hope journey of sexual abuse, trauma, and/or past choices of sin.

BLEND: Patchouli, Eucalyptus, Lemon

Patchouli is the oil of physicality.  It reminds us to become fully present in our physical body.  It aims to connect our spirit with our body, to appreciate our body.   We can’t get more disconnected with our spirit and our body than through sexual trauma and sin.  If anything we have a raging battle within us to not connect because when we connect we will hurt, we will sin.

Eucalyptus is the oil of wellness.  This oil encourages us to be responsible for our health.  This means our spiritual health as well.  Do you ever find yourself feeling a shortness of breath or a tightening in your chest when you have a flashback of a trauma?  Do you find the same sensation when you think of all the missed mark choices you made concerning your sexual health?  Those are promptings of your spirit to stop hiding from your sexual health and start healing.  To seek out the hope and promise Christ gave us.

Lemon is the oil of Focus.  The only way we can truly heal is to be mentally present.  Lemon strengthens us to calm our fears of not feeling good enough.  It will cleanse your negative talk of feeling tainted and dirty.

Two great ways to use this blend is topically or aromatically.  You can just use the diffuser alone for inhalation, but when you use them topically as I am going to share, you will experience them in both ways: topically and aromatically.

Place one drop of each in your palm with some fractionated coconut oil.  Rub together cup your hands together, bring to your nose and inhale a deep breath.  Experience the scents together.  Feel them enter into your cells, your mind, and your spirit. Do this 3 times.  I always like putting the remainder of the oils on the bottom of my feet and on any body part I feel is holding onto negative emotions that day.  Usually I know this by what body part I feel drawn to rub the oils on.  Examples would be my adrenals, my heart, my thyroid and even my breasts.

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…what trauma or past sexual choice have I made that I need to bring to the light, that I need to become fully present into my body and spirit to bring about true healing.  Help me to be responsible with my health and cleanse me of all my negative talk.  Help me to have the courage to visit with my parents and ask them about their sexual past if I don’t know anything about it.  The more I bring my stuff to the light and encourage them to bring their stuff to the light, the more I will defeat the enemy.

Thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  Thank you for the Holy Spirit’s constant prompting and guiding me on this journey.

I end with asking my guardian angel to continue to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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“My God, My God…”

I had an “aha” moment as I was sitting down to write some more on my book!

Which by the way….I am sooo sorry I didn’t get a posting out last week!  Lots of amazing life taking place but unfortunately couldn’t sit still enough to share about it! But I will soon….I promise!

March 28 2018

So back to the book….

I was reflecting on my desires to share my story with each chapter.  Within each chapter I will share a wound of my sexual history: an abuse and/or a choice.  The chapter will then also have a bible scripture or saint quote to help anyone with that type of healing as well as an oils blend to support that area in your life….and heck mine!

Which as any writer knows….trying to figure out any order, flow, rhythm with writing….fluidity….well can be a challenge sometimes.  At least for me…..because I have to sometimes see the connections the strands of ideas in my head before I write them down.  There are many times I have written and rewritten things in my head before I even get them down on paper to start the process of 2-10 more edits!

Then it hit me…..that’s what I said this blogging this year was going to be for!  Right!?  I was going to just start spending my mornings writing my book and sharing the parts as they come here on this blog.  And it will all work itself out!

So why oh why have I still hesitated to get it out…..I’ve shared with you parts….pieces…..you all know my heart if you have read any of my blog posts.  So why!?

I think it being holy week is a perfect answer to my why.  Particularly Sunday’s Psalm….  “My God, My God why have you forsaken me!

Now let’s be clear…..I do not feel that way…..anymore!   I never actually felt that way through any of my sexual abuses, I actually felt it was me……my fault…..my flaw that attracted such use and abuse.  For others to see me as an object to be “toyed” with.

BUT…..there have been times as an adult as I have been going through this healing journey that I have had to get real and truly get angry.  Angry for the little girl in me who had her innocence robbed.  Anger and hurt that God didn’t just jump in….after all couldn’t he have?!

By me getting REAL with my emotions….my anger…..my fear….I was FINALLY having a TRUE relationship WITH MY MOST AMAZING GOD!  A God who HAS NOT ABANDONED ME.  A GOD who was right there beside me, holding me, weeping for me, knowing that each of these men were HIS creation just as I was.  They too were made in the image and likeness of Him…..yet they were NOT honoring the temple within them.  They were giving into sin.  They were listening to the whispers of the enemy.  Thus missing the mark of holiness.

Yet….all they need to do is repent and they too can be set free.  Which means I pray they have or do repent.  Because each of them deserve, just as much as I do, to see God in all His amazing glory and beauty up in heaven one day.  To be able to partake in the Feast of the Lamb!

But this is the kicker:  I do not rely on my peace and my healing and my hope to be in their repentance.  I released ALL of them years ago!  I pray for them regularly and have found amazing love in my heart for them.

So this holy week as we enter tomorrow into the Last Supper, Good Friday, Holy Saturday, then Resurrection Sunday (Easter)……

I ask you: What is your cry to the Lord!? 

Have you gotten REAL with Him, just as Jesus did on the cross!?

When you do….then you will TRULY have a relationship….communion….a connection that is profound!

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

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Fear No More…

I’ve been reflecting on WHY have I been PROCRASTINATING about what I said I was going to do two weeks ago…..start having you all be my accountability partners with writing this book…..THAT IS GOING TO BE SUCH A BLESSING for me, for you, for soooo many!

And the realization is….resistance, fear, vulnerability…and so much more!

Sometimes we resist what God is asking of us because the enemy has whispered lies of fear in our heads…..lies like: if you allow yourself to be that transparent you will be vulnerable to hurt, shame, pain, and so much more!  But those are LIES.

Now  recognize it could be as simple as laziness on my part….but I do know last week was super busy for me with my daughters theater stuff….and spring break this week….so I am able to recognize it’s not laziness….and it’s not a matter of not having the time….it was resistance….it was fear….it was realizing, even though I have shared SOOO much about myself to you all and to others….actually putting it into an order and reflecting on it and realizing all the little things I hadn’t remembered until I started to really do this….well it was a lot for me to handle.

THEN….I realized…..I was trying to live in MY WILL…..MY POWER…..and it was GOD who said for me to do this…..SO I NEED TO PLACE THIS IN HIS POWER….HIS WILL….and it will unfold as HE wants it to happen….and the continued healing it will produce will be profound!

Thus with NO FURTHER RESISTANCE….FEAR….OR SHAME….I bring you the INTRODUCTION of my story….the story that will one day….soon….be in a book :)….

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

Introduction

There are 3 profound moments in my life that stick out in my head that have contributed to the healing from my past sexual abuses and choices.

The first one was me driving back and forth to work each day for months listening to Christopher Wests, “Naked without Shame” book.  I had it on CD and I couldn’t get enough of what he was saying.  Even though there was so much of it that was truly beyond my comprehension because this was his very first teachings on theology of the body.  His first attempt to bring St. JPII teachings on how beautifully made we are and how our sexuality should be nurtured, respected, and loved, well it was lofty.  It wasn’t something very digestible.  Yet there was something within me that heard the truth.  There was something inside of me that felt all the shame, pain, hurt, and abuse melting away.  There was a freedom with these words and I wanted to know more.

The second profound moment would come over 10 years later.  A dear friend, Jennifer, asked me if for my Birthday gift she could give me a Splankna session.  She had been sharing with me about this for almost a year but I still didn’t fully grasp what it was.  I understood it had to do with dealing with healing, uncovering memories, etc.  But even after reading the book about it, I still wasn’t real clear on it.  I even had another friend, who is grounded in my faith of Catholicism help me to discern if it was something I should even do.  (More about Splankna in the end notes)  She was skeptical at first, which is what I was counting on, but after reading the book, she even said: it’s Christ centered, there is nothing I see wrong with it.  So I dived in and said yes to a session.

That first session of many many more to come unearthed a wound that I still had from the one time I did use my voice out loud and said NO to a sexual abuse situation and actually said something to others about it.  I really thought I had moved past that one. 

The second profound moment should really be broken into a two-fold because it was the session combined with essential oils that made me a believer.  After the session there were several oils that Jennifer recommended to help the healing process of that wound.  When I used those oils that day and throughout the rest of the week I had the most profound healing experience with the support of the oils in a way I had never felt before.

This is the thing, at that point I had been using essential oils for well over 5 years.  I knew their amazing physical support.  I had experimented with several different brands but I had NEVER experienced what I had experienced emotionally with an oil as I did with these oils.  That’s when I knew this brand (which ironically God had been planting a seed in me through this friend for about a year) was different.  It was truly truly going to provide the support I needed on this journey of healing: mind body soul spirit!

The third profound moment didn’t take nearly as long to experience, I believe it actually only took place about a year later when I attended a Healing the Whole person retreat with a totally different friend.  The second friend mentioned above, had attended this same retreat the year before and it had made such a profound impact on her and her life.  I personally thought I was going to learn more about the retreat and to be a vessel for others.  Oh wow my ignorance and even my silly pride of thinking God wasn’t going to show me exactly why I was there. 

When I first showed up to the retreat as we were checking in and being greeted by the retreat team I am staring straight at a very familiar face.  This was odd to me because I was attending this retreat NOT in the town I lived in at the time.  I was attending it miles and miles and miles away for the whole purpose to have anonymity.  I blog, I present, I do lots of things in the public, I am not afraid to share my life and story but I felt like I was supposed to be somewhere where no one knew me to have this weekend.  Well obviously God had other plans.

Then when I saw some of the other participants who were attending I was convinced I knew why I was supposed to be there.  I am sure at this point God was truly laughing at me.  But also surrounding me with ALL the angels and saints to hold me for the doozy I would feel and experience that weekend.

As the weekend unfolded I started to see clearly why I was there.  I started to see the pain, the anger, the hurt, but most of all the FEAR that the enemy had held me under for more years than I could count.  I had no idea I was so consumed by fear and all the names and colors fear was hiding and masquerading under until this beautiful soul sister, who I knew from my hometown, helped me see it clearly that weekend.

At the end of that weekend when Dr. Bob asked if anyone would like to come up to share any testimony about their experience I felt the Holy Spirit nudge me, I felt Jesus holding my hand, and I heard God say “Bring it to the Light”. 

Those three profound moments, events, gave me the courage to see, hear, feel, and speak the truth: That I had experienced sexual abuse over a span of about 20 years in one form or another.  And that I WAS BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  That my sexuality was to become un-distorted by my traumas.  That I had a right to stare the enemy in the eye and say: no more, you will not feed me anymore lies.

This book is about that journey.  I pray you will join me on this joyous journey.  Because trust me that is what it is.  I am not saying it won’t hurt from time to time, but the freedom to see the mark is too great of a delight to pass up.  To find freedom in your sexuality and heal is so profound that it’s worth some of the growing pains.  Because through that pain you find power.

I tried to figure out how I was to write this for so long.  Then God showed me clearly how to do this.  Each chapter will be dedicated to a specific experience or event that shaped and molded my distorted image of my sexuality.  Experiences that distorted my love for myself.  That distorted how God designed us to be. These will be the main ones that have impacted my self-worth in my head and heart.  It’s not all of them, I am sure, but they are truly the ones that I know layered the development of my distorted love of self and my sexuality.   Within each chapter I will share hope and healing.  I will include Saints, scriptures, and essential oils that can support that particular abuse situation.

Before we begin let’s understand the definition of sexual abuse.  How many of us think of all the horrific things only?  But did you know sexual abuse is: lude looks, sexual harassment, rape, pornography, exposure to sexual content at too early of an age, unwanted touches, unwanted sexual talk, and so much more.  If any of this has happened to you, you have experienced sexual abuse! 

Rest assured this book is not going to be about graphic descriptions of what took place.  It is about providing the right kind of details to create understanding of why any of us need to heal and feel whole from this sort of situation, trauma, and abuse. 

We were made for so much more than glossy prints, for others sexual lustful desires, and selfish acts of take.  A take that can be done physically, emotionally, mentally, and or spiritually.

Finally my greatest desire with this book is bring out the light of truth of what true sexual freedom is.  And to stomp out the lies the enemy whispers in our ears to keep us in the dark.  The lies of shame, the lies that we are dirty, the lies that our bodies are broken.  Be that light with me by using your voice to shout at the mountain top: I WAS MADE FOR MORE.  To shout in a building: I AM BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.  And to shout while sitting: MY SEXUALITY IS A GIFT FROM GOD.

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Are you ready to start a whole Hope Healing Health journey?!

When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  

My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick 

There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!

Want to know more?

Email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com

Anger: God or Sin?

Anger can sometimes be a huge motivator.  We are not talking about the vengeful anger that is driven by sin….but the anger that is actually from God.  The anger that has us pause and want to have a voice for the innocent within this world.  The anger that turns us to not be silent about grave wrongs and injustices.

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God has pressed upon my heart for many years to write a book.  But He didn’t give me direction.  I trusted that my not starting it wasn’t because I wasn’t motivated or lazy it was because I didn’t have its purpose, its passion, laid out yet.

Then last month He revealed to me EXACTLY the outline…..even got the introduction written.  I realized that He had been fine tuning me, disciplining me in showing up to write through this blog.  He also showed me how many blog writers end up taking part of what they have written over the years to turn into a book.  As well as many bloggers purposefully using their blog to be their “first draft” of their book to fine tune and get it to the final piece of art.

Needless to say I wasn’t fully heeding His words about the using this blog to fine tune my book….I was still trying to live in my will of thinking I needed to work on this book on the side, while writing here different yet similar content.

Then 2 things happened this week:

  1. Realizing that in a way, you all are my accountability partners of making sure I get this message of Hope and Healing out there.

And….

  1. A horrible evil took place to someone I dearly love that saddened my heart so severely that I found myself weeping for almost 24 hours off and on…..and I still find myself weeping….

But now…..I’m angry!  I am angry the way God wants me to be…..angry to take action.

So what does taking action mean for me:  Using my voice to share MY STORY!

My story of sexual brokenness and distortion through my abuses, rapes, and own choices.  By me being silent and not getting off my butt to write this book I am as the quote goes…. “the only way for evil to conquer (win) is for good men to do nothing….”  Or something like that…..I am terrible with quotes :)…..

So starting next week…..and who knows how often, but I am convicted to share with you each week a chapter of the book….so a chapter maybe spread out through several days…..I am not sure yet…..I guess it just depends on how long each chapter is.  Since I have the introduction already written I will probably start with that next week…..

But I do know there will be life stuff going on in the middle of things I will want to still share so I will probably post those in-between as well…..and I will distinguish in the title or in the first line which it is…..but my focus will be the book and getting this message out there for women to be empowered!

With that……

Do you know someone who has been hurt, abused, raped…..the innocence of their sexuality distorted and used for evil?  If so…..please share with them this blog to help them walk through the healing process.  Encourage them to find help: professional, spiritual, personal.  Be an ear for them!  And don’t ask too many questions….just be that rock for them….and get them to talk to you…to someone!

Please have an amazingly blessed day.  And when you find GOD convicting you about something, feeling anger toward an evil, don’t let it become a sin, instead let it become your motivation to be the change of HOPE in this world!

Essential Drops of love, hugs, and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

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Are you ready to start a whole health journey?! When you start with me you’re not just receiving oils.  You receive personal care, coaching, support, private content and so much more!  My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick  There are several great ways to start up!  I will schedule a welcome call with you and get you some welcome goodies mailed right away!  Want to know more?  Or want to connect first with a phone call or Zoom call? email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com so we can schedule a 20-30 minutes to address all your questions/wellness goals!

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