Why So Serious?!

Last week I was receiving a massage from a dear friend.  She is truly amazing at her gift.  She does a type of massage that is therapeutic (I honestly don’t remember what kind…sorry!) Over the years I have learned to appreciate how important massage is for not only self-care, but also for minimizing inflammation with Hashimotos.  An added bonus is every time I have a massage it aids the healing of my past sexual traumas.

Having had 20 years of different forms of sexual abuses occur had left my body and spirit depleted and uncomfortable with things like a massage.  I was never able to feel fully relaxed for a massage.  It meant I was vulnerable.  It meant my body was exposed.  So not only would my fight, flight or flee receptors kick in but my dysmorphia would trigger.

But now, years later, I am able to experience the gift and beauty of this amazing experience that is truly life giving for me!

Have you ever had a struggle with truly becoming comfortable with a massage or a situation where you felt you were physically exposed thus vulnerable?!

Keep digging deep in your spiritual and emotional healing so you can feel the fullness of the physical healing massage can provide.

Now lets move on to my next chapter of this book.  I have been reflecting so much on what the title should be….so if any of you have any suggestions I would love your input ;)….

As you’ll discover this boyfriend was a piece of work. And you know what is super sad, years later even after I was married I still found myself wanting to impress him, to show him I had made something of my life.  It was then that God truly looked me in the eye and said, “Do you really want to heal?!”

So this is what I pose to you as well:  Do you really want to heal!?  How can you make sure you are moving in a healing direction?

With that….may you find blessings of healing and hope with this next chapter….

Many blessings and prayers always,

Kelly 🙂

PS…I would love to add your healing petitions to my prayers.  Don’t hesitate to reach out to me so I can add you to my prayer list….

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CHAPTER 7: Why So Serious!?

2nd SERIOUS BOYFRIEND:  Have you ever had an experience, a relationship, where you truly wonder, “How on earth did I allow myself to be put into this situation?”  “Why would I allow myself to be treated so horribly?”  That was this relationship for me.  I honestly have no clue how or why I ever became attracted to this boy who was a year older than me.  And to add to it, he was truly mean and rude to me from day one.  Yet I think I truly begged for him to date me.  I know he was friends with several of my good friends.  I was a cheerleader, he was a basketball player. And we had youth group together.  Maybe it was all those different constant encounters that had him on my radar.

Thus, I entered a year of the most toxic and degrading relationship at the ripe age of 16.   The abuse from him was verbal and sexual.  He expected and demanded things from me that I felt I couldn’t say no to because I was desperate at this point to be loved “in all the wrong ways”.  He cheated on me continually yet I was so desperate for his love that I accepted it.  I compromised my faith for him.  It saddens me to know that hours before my confirmation I compromised my dignity just to please him. The shame of sinful behavior brought me even deeper into my self-loathing. The lowest point of this abusive relationship was when he forced me to perform things for him, holding me down telling me I owed it to him because he did me a favor by taking me to prom.  Then when he dropped me off at home he went out to be with someone else.

Because of this relationship I never even saw how going to a teacher for guidance would bring me into yet another vulnerable situation of being used and abused.  You see I was sooo naïve that I wasn’t sure if a girl could get pregnant if she hadn’t had intercourse.  I had a pretty good relationship with my science teacher.  I thought he was weird, but he made me feel special.  That should’ve been my first sign that something wasn’t right about him.  But I was so confused and hurt by this boyfriend that I often went to this teacher for help, guidance and an ear.  During one of the many times I expressed concern that I hadn’t started my period but I hadn’t had sex so surely I couldn’t be pregnant.  He shared how you didn’t have to have intercourse to become pregnant.  I freaked.  He said there is a way to know if a girl is pregnant without having to take a test.  He said there were physical signs that showed up around our breasts.  This is how broken I was, I said yes to showing him my breasts in the dark back lab room.

It wasn’t until years later that I would realize that what my boyfriend had done to me, how he forced me on him is rape.  And it didn’t take me too long to realize that the science teacher I had trusted truly had used me and this was a form of sexual abuse/misconduct.

In walks our next blend of: MARJORAM, BERGOMOT, HELICHRYSUM

If you have a past trauma like this, then opening yourself up to trust others, to not fall into limiting beliefs, and to restore confidence in yourself through the pain can feel overwhelming if not impossible.

MARJORAM: will assist you in trusting others again, to remember it’s okay to feel safe with another person and to not sabotage a relationship based on past wounds.

BERGAMOT: pure and simple will open your heart to accept yourself and to close the door on limiting beliefs.  Especially the limiting belief that you’re not worthy of real love.

HELICHRYSUM: will address the intense deep wounds and pain of being abused and/or raped.  It reminds you to have the strength to transform your life, to have hope in your healing, and to know you are worthy!

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

PRAYER:

Heavenly Father, you remind me in 2 Kings 20:5 that you have heard my prayers and seen my tears, you will heal me.  I have nothing more to fear.  I need not fear living this amazing life to its fullness.  The pain of abuse and even personal choices are washed away by your precious son’s blood.  I WILL open my heart to accept YOU in assisting me during this process to gain the confidence to heal and trust others to be fully present in this amazing life.  I am transformed by your love and mercy.  Thank you Lord for the strength to transform, accept, and connect!  Amen.

SWIMMING in SHAME & ANGER

Isn’t it interesting how when you are working on things…either you have greater revelations or the enemy tries to come down on you!  Anymore when I find myself procrastinating about something I know it’s the enemy not wanting truth out there.  And when I am wrestling with something it is because I feel God’s prompting but I am trying to do it my way…..lol….

This last week was full of amazing graces and gifts….I had some amazing aha moments about business, family, faith, healing….so much.

I was visiting with a dear friend just yesterday and today about how sometimes when a person doesn’t deal with their emotions on something it is because they don’t want to address the emotions because it means they will have to feel those emotions.  And when you think you have already gone through something you don’t want to go through it again.

I have found that in order for me to be truly transparent and authentic with my sharing about this healing and hope through my sexual past of abuses and choices I had to be willing to truly put myself back into that place.  To relive it.  And that’s not fun.

It’s especially not fun for my poor husband, because that means I will be struggling with wanting to be warm and receptive to him.  But…..because of God’s amazing love, Jesus’s amazing mercy, and the Holy Spirits guiding hand I am able to see and understand I don’t have to separate and distance myself.  I can feel all I need to in order to share the fullness with you and still feel all the amazing love I have for myself and my husband….and truly celebrate how far I have come on this journey!

So with that being said….here is the next chapter of this amazing journey of healing and hope :)….

My you be blessed beyond measure….and find amazing hope and healing in your own journey….

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Chapter 2:

SWIMMING WITH SHAME & ANGER:

Do you have moments in your life that are so clear to your mind’s eye?  Moments where the background stuff is fuzzy, blurry, but other details within the same moment are crystal clear, and even seem in slow motion.  That is this memory.

This memory has ALWAYS had those distortions.  And with those distortions the enemy used it to start twisting my feelings of self-worth.

I remember it was summer, I was eight years old, and there were about 6 of us girls.  I can see the house.  It was a friend who lived in town but on the outskirts of town because they had open fields around them.  Her aunt who was her same age lived right next door.  I remember thinking how super cool to have family right next door to you, to go to anytime. I also thought it was kind of neat that her aunt was her same age.  I remember the layout of the house as us girls walked through the house: the living room, through the kitchen, to the den to get to the back yard where the above ground swimming pool was at.

I don’t remember why we were all together that hot summer afternoon.  Was it after bible camp?  Were we all just together just because?  Who knows!?  I do remember this young girls older, teen brother, was home.  As all of us came running into the house giggling and excited that we were going to change to play in the pool, he was there.  I don’t remember why and how he was able to convince us girls we needed help with our bathing suits, but he did and this is where the memories become razor sharp in some areas, slow motion in others, and blurry in the distance.

I remember being in the den my back to this tall young man, the sister off to the front of me as she is grabbing her towel and stuff and giggling with her aunt who is dropping things and grabbing things.  The other 3 girls were already out in the backyard.  I look out to the side and I see laughter and brightness, but it feels so dark and cold in this room.  I remember his hands taking forever to tie the strap at my neck and how his hands just lingered on my neck and back.  I don’t remember if I also had a clasp but I do remember his hands going down my back almost to my waist.

I honestly do not know what or why within me knew it was wrong, that his touch wasn’t a touch of innocence or of helpfulness, but of lust, yet I knew it wasn’t an innocent touch.  Years later during a Splankna session with my dear friend Jennifer I was able to discover that this was probably when one of my first unholy vows that was made.

You might ask: how can an eight year old possible make an unholy vow? The unconscienced mind does many things to protect us.  What I do know is in that moment my innocence was stolen, it was forever altered.  My subconscious stored the fact that there are ways we are looked at and touched that are not holy; that can make us feel uncomfortable.  Ways that are full of lust and not love.  And that we have a choice of speaking up and speaking truth against the distortion, the wrong or we have a choice to remain silent, to shush the prickling gut sensation that is shouting THIS IS WRONG.

But I was eight!!!  And understanding fight, flight, and freeze wasn’t even remotely in my vocabulary of understanding yet.

So what unholy vow did I make?  What did I learn in my Splankna session many years later?

I learned I vowed that no one I loved would EVER feel this way, used and looked at as an object.  And when he slowly turned me around to adjust my straps and to make sure everything was snuggly in place I looked up at him and I saw pure anger and rage.  And that is when I took on his emotions of anger and rage, as well as the transfer emotions of my moms of shame and pain.

Remember we are all connected.  And within that moment all that my spirit and body already knew about my mom, but my brain did not, was absorbed thus my vow was sealed, and I didn’t even know it.

I remember clearly during that Splankna session the realization of having taken on my mom’s pain and shame; and the anger and disgust my spirit saw in that boy.  I was able to realize, as an adult, his anger and disgust was directed at me and himself.  His inner core was angry at robbing this young girl of her innocence and creating confusion for the satisfaction of his lust to just have a touch.

I also remember during that session how amazingly freeing it was to have the root revealed.  Free to release the emotions I had experienced and didn’t understand for so many years. The freedom to understand that I had taken on the emotions of others with my spirit and body.  I had believed the enemies lie that it was my burden to bare and if I NEVER wanted someone I loved to feel the same confusion, shame, pain, and anger I would keep my mouth shut.

This was the beginning of what would become 20 years of more exposures like this but so much worse.  I had no idea what my body and spirit was going to be going through over the course of 20 years, all I did know was: I wasn’t the same.  Yet, at 8 years old I knew something wasn’t right.

This was, also, probably the beginning of when I developed dysmorphia.  Dysmorphia is a brain disconnect of how we view and see ourselves in the mirror.  Dysmorphia is not just a girl wanting and wishing she looks different.  But a true disconnect in the brain from what is viewed in the mirror.  There are many triggers.  The 3 main ones are: 1. a trauma, usually sexual, that takes place at a young age, 2. A mother or female influence in your life that has a dislike/distorted view of their body, and 3. A chemical imbalance of specific hormones that don’t feed the brain the right messages.  I have all three of these triggers.  Which of the 3 came first I do not know, but I do know it is a continual blessing for me to look myself each day in the mirror and renounce the lie the enemy tries to throw out at me.  I have the honor to look myself in the mirror and see past the lies to the truth that God has planted there: I am enough!  I am beautifully wonderfully made.

This brings us to the oils that can support you during this journey of healing and hope.  If you have experienced a similar situation, whether at a young age, older, once, twice, over the course of years, you too need healing and hope through your sexual trauma.  Because this is trauma.  It is trauma to your entire senses.  It is trauma to know something isn’t right and yet feeling you have no control, no power, to do anything about it.

Oil Blend:  Grapefruit, Cilantro, Fennel

Grapefruit is the oil of honoring one’s body.  When a person who has been abused, especially a girl, her view of her body is forever distorted.  She doesn’t look at her body the same again.  It is distorted by the lens of the lust that was projected on her.  She starts judging her body and blaming it for betraying her.  Grapefruit comes in and encourages her to not be cruel to her body through extreme exercising, dieting, and distortions of the truth.

Cilantro is the oil of releasing control.  When we make unholy vows we are saying extremes like: NEVER, EVER, and that’s the window for the enemy to play, because I has us become obsessed or attached to patterns or toxic thinking.  We don’t release the trauma that has been buried deep into our mind, body, heart, soul.  Cilantro releases our mental strain to bring to the light our true self.  We are able to shed the trap of the lies the enemy has been whispering into our ears.

Fennel is the oil of responsibility.  Abuse and trauma is NEVER the fault of the victim, the receiver, but we do have responsibility of how it dictates our life.  We can become disconnected to our natural signals.  Weakened sense of self and a lack of passion for life.  Fennel reminds us to not go to food to numb the pain, or to go to extremes, such as, eating disorders to “disappear” because we want to hide in shame.

These oils are all great for internal (I only advocate internal use with doTERRA oils), topically, and aromatically.

INTERNALLY USE:

Each of these are great in water or culinary dishes.  A drop of Grapefruit and Fennel make a wonderful refreshing water.  A drop of Cilantro is great in guacamole or in a salad dressing.

TOPICAL USE:

Place one drop of each in your palm with some fractionated coconut oil.  Rub together cup your hands together, bring to your nose and inhale a deep breath.  Experience the scents together.  Feel them enter into your cells, your mind, and your spirit. Do this 3 times.  I always like putting the remainder of the oils on the bottom of my feet and on any body part I feel is holding onto negative emotions that day.  Usually I know this by what body part I feel drawn to rub the oils on.  Examples would be my adrenals, my heart, my thyroid and even my breasts.

AROMATIC USE:

In a diffuser use one drop of Cilantro, 5 of Grapefruit, 1-3 of Fennel.

One final thought before we end in prayer.  You can also use tapping (EFT) as a way to help release the emotions of the traumas.  Use tapping in mediation, in prayer, or even on the go.  It is a powerful tool God has given to us to support us on this healing journey of hope!

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…every time someone in my past has looked at me or touched me in lust rather than love…..I release them from my pain, my hurt, my anger.  By releasing them I am opening myself up to greater healing….I am opening myself up to release the trauma that has been buried with in my very soul. Through opening myself up to forgiveness I am reconnecting myself to be passionate about life.  I am taking responsibility of NOT let this trauma, abuse, experience to dictate my take and love of life.

I continue to thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  And when I look into the mirror and only see the lies the enemy tries to sell me, I thank you for the Holy Spirit’s constant vigilance in encouraging me and revealing the truth to me.

I end this prayer with asking my guardian angel to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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SINS OF THE FATHERS

I was laughing inside when I read my email on Sunday that the free oil this month was BREATHE!  How absolutely fitting because here I go with Chapter 1!

chapter 1

 

Chapter 1: 

SINS OF THE FATHERS

Before I get into my own trauma I want to share with you: I do NOT blame my parents.  They did the best they could with what they did have.  They didn’t have resources and amazing things like Christopher West teaching Theology of the Body.  Because well honestly Saint Pope John Paul II’s Wednesday teachings were barely taking place.  And they were being sucked into the lie of the sexual revolution.  And as many good wonderful Catholics, they were taught to suppress, ignore, and hide your sexual desires. After all good Catholics, good Christians, didn’t think about our sexual health. Thus, HOW could sexual health, non-the-less true sexual understanding of how beautifully wonderfully made we are, even be understood!

Then you compound it with their own traumas, wounds, distortions, and missing the mark of what Eros and our sexuality is really all about, it was a recipe for disaster.  But I am not here to tell their story.  It is not mine to tell.  Yet their story did have an impact on my life.  Therefore sharing this part is important to understand because their story does matter.  Stories they hadn’t even shared with me until I was much older.  Now I do believe there is a time and a place in sharing our stories with our children.  I also believe there is a matter of the extent of the information.  But there is a problem when we don’t share our journey with our children.  We think if we don’t talk about it, well it won’t affect or impact another person, but it does.

A baby in the womb hears, feels, senses EVERYTHING!  Our spirits are connected.  So my mind may not have known what my father was struggling with but my spirit knew.   It impacted me.   My mom may have thought she was shielding me from the ugliness of how evil had touched her in a profound way by not sharing it.  But my spirit new and it impacted me.

Again I say, because my parents didn’t have the equipment of TOB (Theology of the Body) to help them remember how beautifully wonderfully made they were, they chose to believe the lies from the enemy that they were ugly, they should hide in shame, they should NEVER speak about their sins, their wounds, their experiences to their children because that will cause sin within them.  And that is exactly how the enemy likes it.  He likes our hurts, pains, and sin to be in the dark.  Therefore when we don’t communicate (communion), we divide.  Think of Adam and Eve.

Now let’s take a journey with an oil blend to help you on your own healing and hope journey of sexual abuse, trauma, and/or past choices of sin.

BLEND: Patchouli, Eucalyptus, Lemon

Patchouli is the oil of physicality.  It reminds us to become fully present in our physical body.  It aims to connect our spirit with our body, to appreciate our body.   We can’t get more disconnected with our spirit and our body than through sexual trauma and sin.  If anything we have a raging battle within us to not connect because when we connect we will hurt, we will sin.

Eucalyptus is the oil of wellness.  This oil encourages us to be responsible for our health.  This means our spiritual health as well.  Do you ever find yourself feeling a shortness of breath or a tightening in your chest when you have a flashback of a trauma?  Do you find the same sensation when you think of all the missed mark choices you made concerning your sexual health?  Those are promptings of your spirit to stop hiding from your sexual health and start healing.  To seek out the hope and promise Christ gave us.

Lemon is the oil of Focus.  The only way we can truly heal is to be mentally present.  Lemon strengthens us to calm our fears of not feeling good enough.  It will cleanse your negative talk of feeling tainted and dirty.

Two great ways to use this blend is topically or aromatically.  You can just use the diffuser alone for inhalation, but when you use them topically as I am going to share, you will experience them in both ways: topically and aromatically.

Place one drop of each in your palm with some fractionated coconut oil.  Rub together cup your hands together, bring to your nose and inhale a deep breath.  Experience the scents together.  Feel them enter into your cells, your mind, and your spirit. Do this 3 times.  I always like putting the remainder of the oils on the bottom of my feet and on any body part I feel is holding onto negative emotions that day.  Usually I know this by what body part I feel drawn to rub the oils on.  Examples would be my adrenals, my heart, my thyroid and even my breasts.

Let’s end this chapter with prayer:

Heavenly Father…what trauma or past sexual choice have I made that I need to bring to the light, that I need to become fully present into my body and spirit to bring about true healing.  Help me to be responsible with my health and cleanse me of all my negative talk.  Help me to have the courage to visit with my parents and ask them about their sexual past if I don’t know anything about it.  The more I bring my stuff to the light and encourage them to bring their stuff to the light, the more I will defeat the enemy.

Thank you Lord for being there always for me, for sending me your Son to remind me how beautifully wonderfully made I am.  Thank you for the Holy Spirit’s constant prompting and guiding me on this journey.

I end with asking my guardian angel to continue to be by my side, for Saint Michael to continue to protect me from the snares of the enemy, and for our most precious blessed Mother to wrap me in her mantle to make me invisible to the enemy.  In Jesus’ most precious body and blood I am strengthened and set free each and every day…..AMEN!

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My website is http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick 

There are several great ways to start!  Let’s schedule a welcome call with you and get you some FREE welcome goodies mailed right away!

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#Me Too…

I am terrible with keeping up with what’s going on in the media, news, etc….  I have NO IDEA the who what where when why of the #me too.

What I do know is I saw it on a loved ones FB page and I chose to also share it.  After all, I know God has called me to make my life an open book for all.

Anyone who stumbles across my facebook page or here on this blog will learn 3 things about me:

  • I am passionate about empowering women.

  • I share about the connection of traumas and health.

  • I connect essential oils to ALL aspects of life: mind, body, soul, spirit.

 

 

 

I imagine the purpose of the #me too,  is to create awareness….I get it.

BUT….I think the #ME TOO….needs more!  It needs a voice, encouragement, details, action!

What do I mean?

I have learned over the years the more I talk openly about my sexual traumas, abuses, and choices (not every cruel detail, but not so vague as just a ME TOO)…..the more I speak about it… the more I heal.  Each time its a little different, depending on the circumstances, the person, will depend on the detail, the angle I recall.

Every time I am asked to speak at a women’s event to share my testimony.…it’s empowering…freeing.

Thus the enemy loses his clutches. His lies have less to no impact.  I am able to walk out from under the shadow of shame, feeling dirty, ugly, and so much more.

There are many things women CAN do to empower themselves to prevent and/or heal.

In addition to:

  • Prayer
  • Oils
  • Tapping
  • retreats
  • splankna
  • therapies

There are TWO things I think are absolutely a bedrock for women to feel empowered:

TOB:  The more a woman knows and understands the beauty of her human sexuality, the less likely she will fall for the lies to compromise her dignity.  When we are weakened in our mind about our body we are weakened in our spirit and body.  This makes us vulnerable to be used and abused.

BJJ: There is something very spiritual and empowering with this form of exercise, martial arts.  Short version you become VERY COMFORTABLE, EMPOWERED, IN THE UNCOMFORTABLE.

I have always loved intense workouts.  Having weight lifted since I was 18.  I love the  force of moving something; pushing my muscles and body in ways that I didn’t think possible.  I’ve loved the fluid stretching and core strength from Pilates.  I relish the stamina I receive from walking, biking, and when I use to run.  They have all gained me confidence in my mind body soul spirit journey of loving the body I’m in.  They have nurtured my healing and finding peace with my past….BUT….not ONE of them prepared me for protecting me.

I have taken defense classes and dabbled with other martial art modalities in the past….but NONE OF THEM….have what I believe BJJ has (in my opinion)….

When you train in BJJ: whether its with a video, a gym, with a gi, no gi, competition, no competition….each form of BJJ teaches you to find peace and confidence in being comfortable in the uncomfortable.

Let me explain….

you are laying on the mat, a person has you pinned….they are 2-3 times your size…sweat dripping on you…they are breathing heavy in your face….

you have a choice:

  • Panic, struggle, exhaust yourself…or…
  • pause…dig deep within to WAIT….find your opening….ESCAPE!

Because YOU CAN….YOU CAN DEFEAT GOLIATH!

It’s the same as the bible story….YOU OUTSMART THEM!

BJJ is not about brute force….it’s art….strategy….chess….

OWNING YOUR SPACE….confidence in your skin!!!!

When you combine TOB AND BJJ…

  • You can’t help but experience the amazing power of being A WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN!
  • You can’t help but heal from trauma.
  • you can’t help but empower yourself/armor yourself against hurt, pain, trauma.

This duo has something for every woman.  I love that they have been there for me through my healing. 

I am no where near where I would like to be with BJJ….heck I’ve been an “in and out” student of it for a little over a year now but I see the power of it.  I have to be mindful about my inflammation and go slower with it than I would like but I KNOW it’s amazing power (mind, body, soul, spirit) that I don’t want to give up on my BJJ journey.

I love that this duo is powerful for my daughter. 

My prayer is that she WILL NEVER…

be a woman posting #ME TOO!!!

How about you?  What’s going to be your #hashtag going to read?  #HOPE? #EMPOWERED? #HEALED? #BELOVED? #CHERISHED #NOT A VICTIM? #WARRIOR

Sit…pray…oil up…tap…..and connect to your amazing healing and health of your mind, body, soul, spirit journey!

hugs and prayers always dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

Sharing on Sunday….

This week I have spent sharing about MODESTY.

I am going to keep it short today because my desire is if you haven’t had the chance yet to read this weeks postings you will be able to take the time today…..and if you haven’t had the chance to watch any of the YOUTUBE videos I linked…please do so!

We have the opportunity  to make a change…to create an awareness….to learn and share of what modesty is truly all about.

Let’s learn to be a bit more humble…to experience shame in our clothing….not shame in a condemning sort of way but shame in that when we see too much skin showing we blush….we become embarrassed…..not desensitized to what societies standards are for our sexuality….our dignity…our modesty.

Many hugs and blessings dear readers…family…friends….
~Kelly 🙂

Skin and Summer…

I recently was visiting with my daughter more about our modesty. How with summer here it is hard to not want to wear less because we are hot.  We also visited about the video I posted earlier this week about what boys see….and how they struggle…..and to understand our responsibility as women.  She is so grown up because she TOTALLY GOT IT…..

But…how does a bathing suit fit into all of this because it’s summer and swim wear is about as immodest as we can get.

I loved this 10 minute YOUTUBE.  This young lady gives the history of the bikini and some solutions she has come up with.

BUT FOR ME….I have realized I understand now why I have never enjoyed swimming….why I have never felt comfortable at pools….WE ARE WALKING AROUND NAKED.  It doesn’t matter how modest our suits are I feel exactly like what the gentleman said in the WHAT GUYS THINK ABOUT MODESTY.….I feel a huge responsibility of not causing men to sin.

What do you plan on doing this summer about your suit!? Your skin!? Your sexuality!?

Blessings and hugs dear readers….family…friends….
~Kelly 😉 

Life Matters…..

As I continue to raise my daughter with an awareness of her amazing sexuality…..who she truly is….how GOD designed her….AND WHY!  I have been really reflecting on the pro-life issues and movement and how much it has changed since I was very involved with many organizations years ago.  It is not that I am not still invovled….just on a smaller scale and more in the back ground…..and more on specific occastions and situations not a weekly involvement. 

Then I realized my daily prayer for life issues is no small token.  It is truly an important part of this fight.  My daily conversations with my daughter about life issues, sexuality, morality, chastity, modesty….it is all another way I am helping on the battlefield of life issues.

I use to have lots of great resources concerning LIFE NEWS…..things that are near and dear to me….the defending of the most innocent…vulnerable…those who are truly unable to defend themselves! 

THE UNBORN!

Then recently I was looking up some information and came across this amazing website.  I love how it REALLY gives you lots of great info.  It is shocking to me how much stuff they are able to dig up about pro-life issues (those for and those against….or should I say those who have less of a respect for life)…..

If this is a matter that is important to you….you may find this site worth subscribing to for updates (check it out here).

Thus I leave you with this thought on Thursday:

Are you fostering and nurturing a life attitude in your heart, your home, your life!?  Or are you skirting the topic because it’s uncomfortable?  Are you spreading a ripple of TRUTH AND LIFE…..or lies and darkness!?

hugs and blessings dear readers…friends…family…
~Kelly 🙂

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