Coaches need coaches too!

This week I attended a fabulous 3 days of learning, growing and supporting with other homeschooling parents.  It gives us like minded parents/educators to continue to grow and nurture our learning to be all we are made to be for our kiddos.

The speaker/presenter was amazing.  She tried to say she was a teacher but she is so much more.  She radiated all the qualities of a transformation speaker.

we weren’t even there for 30 minutes and I felt enveloped with amazing love, acceptance, and joy to be there.

Then the cold water was thrown on my face.  OK not literally, figuratively.  This amazing leader had us move into different group circles.  We got situated. I sat, I scanned the faces, just becoming familiar with my new surrounding.  Then in my view, a view I would not be able to avoid because she was just to the left of the speaker, was the most stunning chiseled woman/mom.  She truly could’ve just come from a photo shoot.  I’m not talking a waif like thin body.  I’m talking about a strong defined muscled body.  A body that could be in a fitness competition.  She was petite, beautiful, and EVERYTHING I struggled with, coveted for so many years because of the dismorphia.

I’m not going to lie.  It was difficult to give my full attention to the speaker.  It was in those first moments I had to first renounce many negative emotions.  But then I experienced amazing light and peace.

I remembered she too is a child of God.  And she too probably has a struggle, maybe even a struggle with something right now so I lifted her in prayer.

I also remembered I must honor and respect the dismorphic brain.  It doesn’t mean to constantly live under the label but to not think it just goes away.  Just because I don’t have a trigger moment for months and months doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be vigilant and caring for myself.

I had to coach my own self in a way that I recently coached someone else.  I visualized: what if I did look like that?  Would I be any happier than I am right now?  Would I have greater peace and love of self?   With amazing clarity the answer was NO.

I was able to remember this physical body is not my identity.  This body is temporary.

I felt IMMORTELLE in the sense that I TRULY LOVE THE SKIN I AM IN!

I coach others to transform their lives with self care and self love.  I advocate whole health wellness of mind body soul through the support of essential oils.  And I too still need coaching.

We ALL need coaching.   Heck every profession needs their own professional help/support .  Doctors need doctors.  Police need policing.  Financial advisers need advising.  Moms need moms.  Coaches need coaches.

Transformation is about continual growth.  Engaging your whole self into learning, inspiring, motivating…..being.

Do you need coaching?  Do you need transforming?

Sit with this…..pray about this…..journal about this…..share/connect with me about this…..

Many blessings and hugs my dear followers……friends…….

~Kelly 🙂

10 Oils {Self Love}

I hope you have LOVED learning about the TOP 10 OILS!

I have definitely LOVED sharing with you all my LOVE for these oils and why!

Recap on each oil:

  • Lemon – focus and connect to the joy of self love.
  • Lavender- being honest with self and express love.
  • Peppermint- clearing space for self love.
  • Melaleuca- empowered by respecting my self love needs.
  • Frankincense- Connecting to the truth of self love.
  • Oregano- Flexible to be open to self love.
  • DigestZen- Nourishing self love.
  • Deep Blue- Embracing self love.
  • Breathe- Courage to fully embrace self love.
  • OnGuard- Strength to have the integrity to protect your self love.

Which oil is going to support your SELF LOVE journey the most!?  Why not empower yourself with ALL 10 OILS!  What better change to express SELF LOVE to YOU!

Sit with this….pray about this….journal about it….share and connect with me about this below!!

Many blessings and hugs dear followers….friends….family….

~Kelly 😉

Self Love with OnGuard

The worst energetic parasite can sometimes be our own self!

When we don’t say NO to someone when our inner voice is SCREAMING NO….we are depriving ourselves of LOVE!

When we don’t think for our self and believe the LIES of pressure from the outside world….we are depriving ourselves of LOVE!

When we are feeling attacked by others germs (physical and emotional)…we are depriving ourselves of LOVE!

SELF LOVE is about:

  • setting healthy boundaries
  • having integrity
  • feeling protected
  • being independent
  • finding strength

How can you find your voice of SELF LOVE with OnGuard?

Sit with this…pray about it…journal about it….share and connect with me below in the comments!

Blessings and hugs dear followers….friends….family….


Self Love with Breathe

Breathe in how beautifully….wonderfully made you are!

Did you know that when you are struggling with letting go of grief and pain you are feeling unloved!  And self love is sometimes the hardest to find.


We hold on to:

  • sadness
  • grief
  • despair
  • distrust

Today I challenge you to to find the courage to be fully open to:

  • embrace life
  • care for yourself
  • love yourself

How can you BREATHE in how amazingly beautiful and wonderful you are?  How can you  BREATHE in LOVE OF SELF today?!

Sit with this…..pray about it….journal about it….share and connect with me in the comments below!!!

Blessings and hugs dear followers…family…friends…

~Kelly 🙂




Self Love with DigestZen

When we take on too much we start neglecting our self-care.  We start biting off more than we can “chew”.

We stop doing those little things that support care and balance….like:

  • Tea with a friend in the afternoon.
  • A long detox bath even in the morning.
  • Sleeping in.
  • Reading for hours and hours.

We have so much life and love to give to others.  To be amazing ripples.  It is a MUST to take time to care for yourself… stop each day and “digest” how amazing you are through some sort of self care ritual.

When you feel overwhelmed….lost of “appetite” for life and self care…overstimulated…DigestZen to the rescue!

Do you need to nourish yourself with care and love!?  How are you going to start putting in a daily practice of self love!?

Sit with this…pray about this…write about this…share and connect with me below about this!

Many hugs and blessings my dear followers….family…friends…

~Kelly 🙂



Self Love with Melaleuca

Melaleuca supports a persons immune system.  I have found it interesting that here is an Essential Oil that assists purification of our body…system…..supports our emotional system with protecting us from toxic relationships.

Which we have to think about why do we put ourselves into toxic relationships!?  Why do we allow others to cross over boundaries?!  Lack of self-love!

When we have a healthy self-love we set health boundaries with others.  We create respectful connections with others.  We feel empowered, resilient.

Do you need Melaleuca to support healthy boundaries?!  To love yourself to respect and honor your connections to others!?  And thus strengthen your body and spirit immune system!

Sit with this….pray about this….write about this…..and share/connect with me in the comments!

Many blessings and hugs dear followers…friends….family….

~Kelly 🙂

Self Love with Peppermint

There are mornings I just don’t feel buoyant.  I don’t have my joy.  And when I don’t find my joy I struggle with self-love.  My aches and pains that are a side effect of the Hashimoto’s can feel intense, heavy, unbearable.

Yet, when I grab for my Peppermint Essential Oil I find myself feeling like I can take on anything.  I don’t want to avoid the difficult.  I find the energy to say YES I AM BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE!!!

Do you find loving yourself to be painful or difficult?!  Do you need to feel optimistic and renewed?!

Sit with this….pray about this….write about this…..share/connect with me in the comments!

Many blessings and hugs dear followers…family…friends…

~Kelly 🙂

Self Love with Lavender

Do you ever feel:

  • Unlovable?
  • Unimportant?
  • Unheard?
  • Rejected?
  • Fear of being yourself?!?

Why are we so cruel to ourselves?  Why do we not love ourselves to see how amazing we are!?  Why do we not see how important we are?!  Why do we even reject ourselves?!  And why oh why do we fear being ourselves?!

I love how Lavender Essential Oil supports all these and so much more!  When I use Lavender I am reminded to relax and see I am important.  I am able to remember that my voice must be heard.  I am able to look in the mirror and remember: YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEAR!!

How do you need to love yourself better with Lavender?! Using your voice? Being yourself? Knowing you’re important?

Sit with this….pray about this….write about this….share/connect with me below in the comments!

Many blessings dear followers…friends….family….

~Kelly 😉

Self Love with Lemon

Sometimes our energy is lacking.  Our focus is fuzzy.  And our mind needs to detox.

Lemon Essential Oil is helpful with cleansing the gut, cleansing our kitchens, and amazing for making lemon-blueberry muffins!

BUT… is a great oil to support focus….mental clarity….energy.   What happens when we don’t love ourselves properly we lack focus.  Focus on the things that are important like being able to be present in the moment.  Self love needs clarity that we ARE WONDERFULLY BEAUTIFULLY made.   When we focus our energies on self-love then we can find the joy in ALL situations.

Does your self love need a little bit of focus and zest?!

Sit with this…..pray about it…..write about it….share/connect with me below in the comments!

Many blessings and hugs dear followers….friends…family…

~Kelly 🙂

My Story Begins….

Last week I promised you I would share what I had prepared for the interview that took place.  So below is what I put down on paper.  It was just notes I made to myself to organize myself….the interview did not in anyway shape or form go according to how I wrote it out…..but it is still a great starting place to start filling in all the gaps to write and share with others who have been hurting to find amazing joy in the life they are living NO MATTER WHAT!!!

My notes:


Disordered eating


Self love







Growing up….

I was the kid with the homemade sandwiches with sourdough bread, sprouts, homemade mayo, chicken (that we butchered and grilled up)…

Sugar was not allowed in the house.

My story began when I was probably about 8, if not even earlier (if you believe in generational hurts)….but about 8 was the earliest I remember.

But I will start with the current part of my story….

I met laura Ricci about 5 or so years ago.  I actually knew of her from church and there was just something amazing about her spirit.  I wanted to get to know her.  As I was going through my own spiritual journey and learning things about my health and life that had me making changes to eating clean….and realizing that food is meant to be one ingredient…..I was hearing about Laura’s story and I had to know more about this amazing woman.  So I invited her over for tea about 3 years ago.  We visited.  I think she had just started her nutritional coaching certification.  And I was wanting to hear all about it because I really wanted to do that but I knew I wasn’t at a place in life to pursue something like that.  We shared about nutrition…she even asked me some questions and I was given the gift of having a seed planted within my soul…a ripple with this amazing woman who I only hoped would grow from there.

Fast forward…..about 2 years ago my health started to take a nose dive….all the conventional docs I was going to were not giving me answers…my labs were “normal”….I was told I was just too stressed….too little sleep….blah blah….

I was use to bio-hacking my life and health…..but I was tired of not having answers…..

I hit my wall….when there was a week where I was sleeping 12 hours at night and still naps in the day…..I knew something had to give…..

I remembered Laura had just finished her certification….so I contacted her…..I told her I wanted to see her as a nutritional coach.  I wanted to employ her services.

She helped me unfold my root causes…..she led me to Dr. Vennell who helped me figure out my thyroid/adrenal issue…and eventually uncovering that Hoshimoto’s was at the root of all this……

My system was shutting down….not because of my nutrition but because of the stress in my life…..

You see I had experienced three great losses (stresses on the mind body and especially soul) in a very short period of time about within 16-18 months I had lost a baby at 12 weeks,(after having struggled with infertility once again),  lost the grandmother I was very close to, and had needed a hysterectomy for serious medical reasons.

I had preached self-care to everyone but wasn’t practicing it.

But really my thyroid storm of the 3 events wasn’t the only thing that caused it… had been brewing for years….I just didn’t realize it….or better really…..I wasn’t listening to what my body was telling me…

What I have always known but was getting a very up close and personal reality check about health was that our physical body IS connected to our mind and spirit….and eventually our bodies have a breaking point.  Our physical body will say hey you need to nurture the soul….the mind….

A part of me knew all this because shortly after my miscarriage I started blogging.  It was very therapeutic for me.  Plus for several years before that God was having me share parts of my story, my past, more and more with others….to create hope….to see amazing healing and love through even some not so great stuff….

I had in the middle of this a breakthrough; I was following several podcasts and had heard the phrase body dysmorphic and disordered eating…..

Which brings us back to my true beginning story….

When I was between 8 and 10 that was my first experience of being objectified by a boy/man….it was at that age I was inappropriately touched by a friend’s older brother while “helping” me tie my bathing suit.  That was just the beginning of such abuses…..and further moments of being objectified by boyfriends, co-workers, men in many situations and walks of life… put me in a situation of not always trusting my instinct….as well as not always making the greatest of choices because after all I was basically being told I am only valued by my body.

Add to that I had a mother who didn’t speak lovingly about herself.  She was critical about her physical body.

Dysmorphia is where a person doesn’t see correctly what the mirror is showing them…..there is truly a chemical imbalance in the brain.  It takes place at an early age…..usually brought on by a role model who doesn’t practice good body image love…..a trauma (usually of sexual nature) at an early age…..and or a chemical imbalance usually low levels of serotonin and other stuff.  There are several other signs but these are the key three….I have all three which set me up at an early age for it.

But God helped me….he purposed in my heart to never believe the lie of the “carnival” mirror.

Fast forward about 5 years into my marriage we discovered I had serious infertility issues.  I learned NFP to better understand my body…..and that began the next level of self-care…..self awareness of our mind body soul connection and taking charge of my health….my whole health.

It took us 5 long hard years to become pregnant.  We learned my difficulties were because of PCOS and a severe bicornate uterus….and so much more….let me interject here…..I also had eczema which PCOS and eczema are both autoimmune conditions…..autoimmunity likes company… I truly was a breeding ground for the Hoshimotos….

Once I was pregnant I purposed myself….my heart….with God’s help to not pass on to my unborn child dysmorphia or disordered eating…..(at that time I didn’t even really realize I had a disordered eating issue…’s not like I ever didn’t eat or that I punished myself with food but I didn’t have a healthy relationship with food because of what I saw in my parents…..they used/use food to self-sooth, boredom, and for emotions….)

But the big thing for me during my pregnancy was to think only loving self-care thoughts.  I promised to never speak negatively about my body in front of her, around her, to her, or ever to anyone even if she wasn’t around…..I would break that cycle.

I am proud to say I have been able to keep that promise.

Now the dysmorphia did try to rear its ugly head after my miscarriage…..but I was able to work through it and do some amazing healing from it.

How I discovered the disordered eating was really an issue or the potential of an issue is as I have had to do different elimination diets to get to the root cause of my inflammation to help heal from the Hoshimoto’s…..I would find myself feeling guilty eating something that is healthy but maybe not so great for my body…..or I would find myself wanting to sooth as I saw my parents……and that is when I truly realized the power of nurture versus nature.  And heck I studied that in school specifically being a sociology/psychology major.

Because of it all, I have been able to come out stronger…..I have been able to realize when I was having to not only eat super clean but do periodic elimination diets to figure out my inflammation….I have been able to create a better relationship with food and even better with body.

I have to add that another huge key during this last year has been learning about the amazing gift of SPLANKNA… dear friend Jennifer Glenn introduced it to me…..and it is an amazing experience to help a person uncover healing that they may not even realize needed healing…..if I could, I would do a Splankna session every week!

I have put so many things into practice this last two years besides the clean eating journey I started in 2010…..that most would say I am beyond hippy dippy….lol…..but that’s okay…..I love waking and doing my prayers and meditation then yoga with my daughter…..later a workout based on the true inner feeling of a HIIT workout or a walk….

I feel even more  passionate about teaching young girls and women to LOVE the body they are in… love self….to know and see the beauty they ARE…..that they are enough right now.

I have taught my daughter from little on about the beauty of her human sexuality  How she is more than her physical body….that we must care for our body’s….respect it…nurture….and nourish it properly but we must care for the whole body: mind body soul.   And our soul is the first.  WE must be in harmony with the three to thrive.

Just recently I realized I wanted to do more to help others, especially girls and women to truly love themselves no matter where they are at in this journey of love. I am involved with a fabulous group through church to help share and learn about the beauty of our human sexuality…..and how God designed us for amazing beauty.

But I also realized it needed to be understood at the core of self….it needs to be reached to all the woman and girls who need to just understand and know and believe they are enough….they are beautiful.

I realized that through all I’ve been learning with meditation, nutrition, essential oils and so much more I was ready to utilize not only my formal education/degree but my non-traditional training.

I realized I want to provide one on one and or small group self-care life coaching. 

My dream is to have learning lunches where I can have group sessions/gatherings and share the different ways individuals can care for their whole body: spiritually, emotionally, physically….

Teaching many different ways to achieve the whole body health approach.  And to connect individuals with the professionals and practitioners to meet their specific needs.   By understanding a person’s temperament, where they are at in their self-care journey, and even what their love language is… I can better help them find who they can benefit from as well as what I may have in my tool box of knowledge to empower them to learn to love the life they are living!

We all need help to stop the hurt to move to healing to thriving!

***That was the end of my notes for the interview :)…..

What hurts do you need to heal from!?  Can you find the joy in the middle of your jolt!?  Take a moment today to sit, reflect, pray, write, meditate….and then decide to THRIVE!

Many hugs and blessings always,

~Kelly 🙂

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