Swirling Sleep

My brain was swirling with ideas last night!  Oh my goodness!  I did get to sleep pretty good, but I did do lots of dreaming of an idea I have had for quite a while for women.  But this idea has been refining and getting clearer.

I love love love my daughter….and I love love love taking care of ourselves…..and I love love love sharing with others what I learn about health, nutrition, faith, etc…..

But what I love most of all… that has been a fire within my soul since I knew I was pregnant with my daughter… was empowering and training my daughter as she grew up to LOVE LOVE LOVE herself.  I remember all the questions she has ever asked…and still ask about her body, about herself, about God, about everything.

I have ALWAYS wanted her to feel so comfortable in her skin that she knows GODS love is SO much more important than anyone’s (especially societies) view on our looks!

I have ALWAYS wanted her to take care of her body nutritionally and physically so she can do the works GOD asks of her now and in the future.

I have ALWAYS wanted her to understand how we as women are uniquely and divinely made.  How our femininity is not a tool or a weapon to be objectified but an amazing power to be respected and protected.

I think I have been doing a pretty good job at teaching her all these things.  BUT I know I still have lots of work…..because I still have so much work on myself!   And that is good!

I have always believed mothers and daughters are connected on a level most people cannot possibly understand.  But with that, us mothers have a huge responsibility to not pass down baggage to our daughters.  I purposefully positioned my heart and soul on that mission the moment I had her.

So what I have realized I really really feel driven to do in any spare moment I have (lol!!!)….is to have gatherings with other women, moms……sharing the ways we can raise our daughters to be warrior women in the topics of: self love, health, nutrition, self care, modesty, changing hormones, our femininity, our sexuality, the tough stuff like eating disorders, depression, and soo much more!

I want to gather with other moms and women to share how some of these areas may need to be something we work on ourselves as well in order to model it well for our daughters.

I want to gather with other warrior women with the format idea of presenting a topic, sharing my favorite resources, how I have maneuvered things thus far and my plans/thoughts in the later years,  how life/society can influence our thoughts and choices, share my own life experiences with each of the topics, and then discuss, share, and learn from each other.

I started out last week with some very specific thoughts and dates with it….just as I have with many brain inspirations I have had in the past…..but I am learning to be still with God and listen…..but also to not procrastinate and use “listening” or “waiting for the right time” to be an excuse for fear….fear of failure….fear of the unknown….fear of…….who know!!?!?

Thus I will let this resonate within me a few more and then take action because I KNOW action is what GOD is asking of me right now….NOT sitting and waiting!!  ugh…lol…..

Have a glorious day…..and if there are any wonderful warrior women out there that this resonates within you please share!  I would love to know if you would be interested in having tea with me :)…either virtually or face to face!

Blessings always,
~Kelly 😉

PS….if you haven’t checked out or heard of the podcast I have a screen shot of….you really should she is amazing!!!

HE HAS RISEN…ALLELUIA…AND HE WILL HELP US…

RAISE DYNAMIC DAUGHTERS…TO BE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMEN!!!

As I reflect upon my last 40 days of lent I unplugged from facebook, pintrest, limited my email time so much that toward the end  of these 40 days I have just deleted many folders knowing that if I  needed the info it will be out there.

I started out my journey with the desire to strip away from distractions.  Distractions from being the best student of my Heavenly Father…distractions from being an attentive wife…distractions from being a present mom…distractions from being a well prepared teacher to my daughter and to others around me.

I let many on facebook know I would come back with my blog and facebook with 50 days of recipes entwining our mind, body, soul connection.  What I hadn’t accounted for was the impact being unplugged would make on my life.

I have been reading and learning things in a such a way that the realization came to me about how my truest passion is not just about our nutritional needs: how they effect our mind, body and soul…but if I were to dedicate only 2 hours a week to my blog after I have taken care of all my other responsibilities of woman for God, wife, mother, teacher….

What would I truly want to share on my blog…what is near and dear to my heart right now?!

Daughters…
Women…
Mothers…
Girls…

I want every daughter to feel dynamic!
I want every woman to know she is wonderful and she IS a warrior!
I want girls to not feel ashamed of their bodies.
I desire for women to truly love themselves.
I want girls to not compare themselves.
I desire for women to understand their hormones are effected by what they eat, but also by what they think.

I hope to empower moms to be excellent examples for their daughters to break the cycle of:

self hate
lack of compassion to self and others
comparing

…to be aware of all the crud their daughters are up against:

media obsession with thigh gap
eating disorders
mental disorders

…and to empower yourself as a mom so you can make a difference in your daughters life and choices with her:

sexuality
health
spirituality

Thus, my journey from Easter to Mothers day to Pentecost to…. has turned now a different path…not just Kelly’s desires and wants but truly God’s will and His path by using me to share all I have learned, experienced (good and bad) over my precious amazing life of 41 years.

Journey with me for 50 days as we dare to raise our daughters to understand their faith…
their hopes…
their love…

and how their, our experiences are connected to our…
mind…
body…
soul…
into their…our journey of womanhood.

***Tomorrow I will have a summary…the outline of  what I hope to share with you over the next couple monts of Raising Dynamic Daughters into Wonderful Warrior Women!  View it as a spring cleaning of sorts…a preparation and celebration of Motherhood for Mother’s day….and the patience and perseverance of Mary and the Apostles as they waited for Pentecost…the Holy Spirit to come down upon us to guide us…direct us…lead us here on earth!

Blessings, hugs…and so many prayers to all…
~Kelly 🙂

Day 8: Supplimenting Soap Box

Here is my most recent thoughts…reflections…pondering on products that are geared toward weight loss rather health and wellness…

If a company, a person, an entity is truly interested in a persons health they they should strive to go out of business!

This is what I mean…
For example…does law enforcement like seeing criminals, crime, etc?
Wouldn’t a cop love to be out of a job because there is no crime?  I would hope so!!!
With that same thought in mind…wouldn’t a person or an entity selling products for wellness and health want to teach individuals how to get healthy, lose body fat, and have energy with as minimal of their products as possible….if not totally just be a support on nutrition without ever selling a product ever again?!
I think this is my biggest beef with so many products that are our there.  Do they really want people to learn how to nourish their bodies with real, whole food?  Are they willing to sacrifice their numbers to teach others how to empower themselves with changes in their food, lifestyle, stress, hormones….etc?!
There are some out there who are trying to do this…I have several friends who I KNOW teach great things to others and are constantly trying to learn as well…yet there are so many who sadly are not.   But I guess we can liken it to a doctor who is out of shape telling his patients to eat good, exercise and get plenty of sleep…
Why does this bother me?  Why do I even go on this tangent?  I don’t get anything out of this.  Go back to the why…because I care!
I care because I see so many people feeling desperate or unsatisfied with their health.  These emotions create a willingness within them to sacrifice basic needs or charging things on credit cards to receive their “magic solution”.
If a person can just take the time to understand the mind, body and soul of their health….THEY TOO CAN HAVE LASTING RESULTS…LASTING HEALTH….LASTING SATISFACTION…LASTING “WEALTH”…LASTING HAPPINESS!!!
All of this with real food, real knowledge, contentment….real savings!!!
Thus that is my big “beef”, my poke, my frustration at the world of packaged products.  I want all individuals to understand that if we are not meeting our nutritional needs with true, real food, then all that packaged stuff that is suppose to enhance your already real food eating, well its going to be wasted…
I want us to quit “buying” into the “promises” and advertisement!
This all concerns me because I am raising an amazing young lady.  She is old enough now to really notice these kinds of adds, this push for women to look “perfect”….this push for “weight loss” everywhere.  I want her to feel empowered enough to know that whole, real food is the way to feeling healthy, feeling balanced, and looking good naturally with the uniqueness that God designed her to be.
I want to know I have raised a young lady who will not feel the pressure to “look like everyone else”.
Will I have raised her to know and believe she is beautiful…just the way GOD MADE HER!!?
Will I have raised her to listen to her bodies needs through nourishing food, good sleep and following God’s wants and desires not the worlds.
Will I have broken the cycle of insanity thinking that we must all be twiggy to reach health and happiness?
The further insanity of over working?  Over training?  Criticizing oneself?  Eating too fast…too little…processed….supplementing to compensate…
Will I have raised her to know better than all the lies that are out there telling her what will make her feel right by societies standards.
Will I have raised her to trust her instincts, her gut, her God…
To know she doesn’t need any “magic” potion to feel amazing…beautiful…to be strong….to be healthy….
All she needs is:
GOD
Sleep…
Real Food…
Fun movement…
…and maybe then maybe some assistance to  support her already healthy lifestyle through herbs, minerals, essential oils…vitamins…things that are natural and not processed….
and lots and lots of SELF REFLECTION WITH GOD!!!

Thus, during your 21 day challenge of detoxing your mind, body, and soul….reflect on what suppliment is truly of help to you and your whole body health pursuits and which may be a crutch?

Day 3: Groove to the Gilmore Girls

This was on a shopping back for a business in Colorado…
….I loved what it said!

I have learned exercising, fitness, movement has cycles and I MUST listen to what my body needs.

I approach raising my daughter in a very similar fashion.  I take note of things she is interested in and use that to my advantage to accomplish a goal or growth opportunity I may want her to experience.

She recently has been interested in using her first morning hour before lessons to watch a bit of tv: Jesse, Once Upon a Time, or Gilmore Girls.

I have wanted her to have a bit more structured or consistance exercise in her every day life.

 I have always enjoyed working out first thing in the morning before she wakes up.  I usually work out while praying my rosary or watching something insirational or educational or both :)…..

Out of all that….ah…..the birth of my outside of the box approach of her recieving what she wants while I recieve what I want….and we get to do it together…bond…and have a built in support system for each other.

I have embraced the shift of my morning and am enjoying having the opportunity to remember to take each opportunity to learn and grow with and from each other.

So…this is what my morning looks like for now…who knows how long this season will last…but for now I love it…and am embracing it….

Upon waking I have been praying my rosary while “walking” throughout the house sweeping, mopping, laundry, dishes….meal prep.   This gives me a great way to warm up my body with nice simple movement, get some household things done, all the while remembering how Mary truly walked away from her will inorder to live and breath ONLY God’s WILL!  What a beautiful and lovely way to start my day.

Then once I wake my dynamic daughter….I set up our living room for our movement/workout session to Gilmore Girls….or Jesse.   It’s perfect.  It allows us to do a HIIT kind of workout.  We rotate between the mini trampoline, stepper, weights, and/or body strength movements.  I set the timer for 2 minutes and we have to rotate between stations every 2 minutes.  We proceed to watch, laugh, move, sweat, and have lots of morning moving fun!

What can we all learn from this?

What do you like doing first thing in the morning?  Can you add even 10 minutes of movement/strength in a HIIT fashion workout that gets you breathing heavy, moving fast, gaining strength and raising your body temp!?

Do you watch the news?   Set a timer for 1 minute jumping jacks, 1 min push ups, 1 min. lunges….repeat 5 times….you’ve accomplished 15 minutes of a simple work out, caught the news and are ready to conquer the world.

Do you have to run around first thing in the moring getting kiddos ready, making lunches, convinced you don’t have time for strength….a working out?!

From room to room, do lunges instead of walking.  Do 10 burpees at each kiddos bed; jumping jacks while you are waiting for your coffe to brew.

When you make movement a normal part of your life, you feel normal, you feel alive, you find yourself not focusing on negative thoughts and not obsessing about unhealthy attitudes toward yourself.

Huge bonus to all of this?  You are setting an excellent example for your children (especially daughters)  how to love yourself and do something for yourself that includes them in your everyday life….your everyday way of nurturing yourself: MIND, BODY, AND SOUL!

Todays scripture to focus on is also a prayer….reflect on….

HAIL MARY….FULL OF GRACE….THE LORD IS WITH THEE….BLESSED ARE YOU AMONG WOMEN….AND BLESSED IS THE FRUIT OF YOUR WOMB….JESUS….

HOLY MARY….MOTHER OF GOD…PRAY FOR US SINNERS…NOW…AND AT THE HOUR OF OUR DEATH…..AMEN!!!

WALK THE WALK FOLLOW UP!

I had every intention to just write out my Spartan goals and plans to share with everyone who would like to join me in this challenge.  Whether you join me physically or would just like to follow my plan to become Spartan ready.  BUT…

Today, as I walked for Life…for Love…for my faith…my family…it allowed me to reflect on many things.  One of the thoughts was definately about how our fitness, our health, is and should be so intwined with our faith.  Heck it had me reflecting on how I would love to do “The Way” walk….talk about a challenge!

As I was reflecting and praying during Mass after communion, I became emotional, and then again as the details were being laid out for the walk I became emotional.  I knew why.  I knew it was because for me each and every January from now on will not just be because I am standing up and giving a voice for all the unborn, the unknown….but because I KNOW intimately one of those unborn.

Four years ago during a very cold January I discovered I was pregnant and couldn’t believe it.  The excitement, then the fear, then all the other emotions that came with it, were short lived because twelve weeks later there was no heart beat.  For me, every January the Walk for Life: Mass, walk, and rosary will be very personal.

Each year I have the opportunity to celebrate the beautiful life that had been growing inside of me.  I  have the opportunity to continue to heal and grow from that loss.  Each year I recieve the opportunity to peel away a different layer of the healing.

The first year the healing was just for the loss of who I would never hold.

The next year it was for the loss of never physically carrying a child in my womb again.

Last year was for the loss and of truly forgiving myself.   You see my heart had not been open to being pregnant.  Even though I had struggled for years to have our daughter.  And then to even try to concieve again.  But….I had become “use” to the fact that we would never be pregnant again.  Thus, when we had found out we were pregnant I was not at a place in my life  I felt I could handle it.  I wasn’t open to the beautiful life growing inside of me.  I felt shame, guilt, and terror for all that I was feeling.  After all, I have always made it loud and clear how pro-life I was and am.  Yet, here I was wanting my will to be imposed and not God’s when I was pregnant.   I struggled with the 12 weeks of trying to figure out what next….when I went into that 12 week appointment and there was no heart beat, I felt numb.  Then tremendous guilt.

Therefore this years tears were for healing and realization of having truly forgiven myself for feeling any responsibility of the miscarriage. Tears were shed in joy and a promise to only live in Gods will no matter the sacrifice.  Because His will is the only way to true Joy and Happiness.  And tears because I had truly forgiven myself and loved myself again.  Tears because I knew because of that pain, because of that shame, I would never ever take any single life for granted ever ever again.
Tears of true freedom.

We all can get set in our ways.  We all can have moments of going through the motions.  We all can be pushy with our will.  BUT….thank GOD for his grace, HIS mercy, HIS love….

Thus ironically how this may not make sense to some reading this….but I realized any challenge, bio-hack, personal goals (Mind, Body, and or Soul)…..MUST be only with God’s will in mind, not my schedule…my agenda….my obsessions….ONLY HIS.

It doesn’t matter if others may think I am weird or out there because HE knows my heart.  Only HE knows what I do, I do with HIM at the head and heart of it all!

I finally not only feel truly free of guilt and shame….I not only have forgiven myself….I not only love myself….I also do not compare…..I do not compare myself to others….I do not compare myself to myself of past…I KNOW I AM AN AMAZING BEAUTIFUL WOMAN WHO IS CONTINUALLY GROWING, CHANGING, LEARNING, EXPERIENCING…I feel tru freedom of the type of detachment that HE asks of us!!!

It is okay to have done something for many years and feel called into a different direction….it is okay to do something for a short period of time and realize it is not the right fit…it is okay to put things on hold to meet other needs…it is okay to want to have one physical goal one year and a different one the next…it is okay to learn something about nutrition one year and shift goals and focuses the next….it is okay to think I am going to teach my daughter one curriculum one year and totally bag it for a different one the next….and it is totally okay to love the skin that I am in because HE made me….and HE is counting on me to love me….so I can love HIM….so I can teach my daughter how to LOVE!!!

AND THAT IS WHAT I AM HERE FOR……

I am here to create a fabulous ripple of life and love for her….not by just my words but by my WALK!!!

I AM AND I WILL WALK THE WALK FOR HER!

I hope this helps even one person out there struggling with shame, guilt, confusion, lack of self-love.  It is for you I write and share this.  It is for you that I allow myself to be vulnerable and a book for all to read!

And it is because of HIS WILL that I find the courage to do all HE asks of me.

Blessings and hugs to all of you!
~Kelly 🙂

"WALK THE WALK" Saturday 17, 2015

I want to go for a walk this Saturday, January 17th, 2015 with my daughter and many many other women, ladies, girls, families, all sorts of amazing people who want to walk for…

FAITH…
HOPE…
LOVE…

PURPOSE…
HEALTH…WELL BEING OF: MIND BODY AND SOUL!

Let me explain….

I have found it interesting how there is always this debate about division of church and state….there are debates about keeping our faith out of government….debates about how can our faith have anything to do with our health…our finances…our sex life….but it is all related….it all is connected!

Thus, this Saturday I am looking forward to sharing a Saturday morning with my daughter celebrating my faith in Mass.  Joining her for some fresh air to walk afterwards….to walk not just for physical health but to walk for LIFE.

We will be walking for the health and awareness of just how precious LIFE IS….to remember God gives us one life to be a witness for HIM….

As my sweet wonderful budding lady grows and learns, I hope to pass on to her to remember everything is connected….we need to remember the MIND BODY AND SOUL of LIFE….

…to remember our LIFE is about our FAITH…our FITNESS…even our FOOD…and our FUN…

With LIFE, we have FAITH…we have HOPE…we have LOVE!!!

JOIN ME…bring your daughter, son, sister, brother….someone who is near and dear to you…someone you want to get to know…grow with….make a difference….


JOIN ME…to celebrate MASS…
JOIN ME…to walk for LIFE...
JOIN ME…to bond and make a difference…
JOIN ME…to change this generation…the next…
JOIN ME…to make good ripples…
JOIN ME…to help that special person in your life choose LIFE….for a lifetime!!!

FINALLY…

JOIN ME…to “walk the walk” with our daughters….

…to raise a daughter full of pride, joy, hope, dignity of her faith…her growing womanhood…her beauty as a true woman….a woman not afraid to go against the grain of this culture of death…a culture that lacks self-respect….

Women can rule…can be strong…can be amazing…can be beautiful…

…in a dress…with dignity….with respect for their bodies….with grace….

If you want to learn more about this Saturday’s Mass and Walk for LIFE…check out the Diocese of Amarillo’s RESPECT LIFE ministries website HERE….to learn more details….

…and or…psst….take a close look at my picture it has all the details too :)….

Hugs and prayers always to all who read and share with me on this blog…and in life!!

~Kelly 🙂

Phat Pats on Friday!


“You sure are Phat!”…or….

“Man, she is Phat!”

When I lived on the East Coast,  I had no idea what that meant at the time.  Had to ask a coworker what it meant.  I remember being horrified that these statements were considered  compliments by the men who would throw these out to women.

My least favorite was, “She has a Phat a**.”   It would make me cringe when I heard that being referenced toward or about a woman and her derriere!  It just seemed derogatory, unrespectful, and truly not a compliment.  I don’t care what planet a man comes from a woman DOES NOT want to hear that!

Comments that focus on our physicalness takes away the dignity and true beauty of how and why we were created.

Some men don’t even realize they do or say things that can be considered disrespectful, demeaning.  It is a two-fold issue.

We as women have not helped with our whole attitude of : 
I am woMAN, hear me roar louder than you…
 I CAN DO IT, I DON’T NEED YOU….attitude!

 Thus, men seeing us less and less in a feminine way, and more and more as an object.

This has had me thinking about pats!  Sometimes our husbands do things that to them they think is a term or a gesture of endearment, of love, and we may cringe, or pull away or feel frustrated.  Why is that?  What is the root behind that less than loving reaction.

I realized for me my husbands pats would bring back memories of being objectified rather than respected and loved with true dignity and nurturing of my femininity.

I will explain.   🙂

My sweet hubby can be in a wonderful loving mood, come into a room, pat me on the bottom and I will cringe either internally or externally.  Either way I don’t like it.  To me it has always been like fingernails on a chalkboard.   I have tried to view it as I know he intends it to be: a loving gesture.  A gesture saying, I see you, I love you, I want to be with you!

I realized recently…I finally understand why I don’t like it.  It brings back memories of being objectified as a young girl growing up, and as a young woman out on my own.

The youngest memory I have of every being patted on the “back” was when I was 10.  I was at a swim party with a friend.  Her older brother was helping us untwist our bathing suit straps at the pool.  When he was done he swatted our fannies saying “okay it’s straight”.

 From then on I was always conscience of it. I was always aware, sensitive to how men/boys may do things that are truly not honorable.  

 When I bussed tables at 12 and 13, the old men drinking coffee for hours on end reaching out to “hug” you and “praise” you for your diligence of always attending to their coffee; and as you left their table with your coffee pot they would draw their arm away from your waist to then give a slight tap a bit lower than your waist.

After football games in high school, boys flicking their sweaty nasty field towels at you.  But where at you….of course your bottom….well because of course that is the only spot on your body that could handle a towel flick without it burning for eternity.  But the point being is they probably did it cause they knew they couldn’t get away from actually touching a girls bottom so it is the next best thing.   Oh and this happened ALL the time in the military for me!

I never felt prepared or adequate on how to handle these situations.  How to say “Don’t”, “NO!”…..”You have no right!”

Instead, I would sheepishly smile and pull away as quickly as possible and try to avoid that person or situation.  I never knew or realized how much it was chipping away at my self love, my dignity, my armor!

***At this point some reading may be thinking….what’s the big deal…no harm, no foul….ah lighten up….blah blah….

I AM TELLING YOU FROM A WOMAN’S PERSPECTIVE…AT LEAST FROM MY POINT OF VIEW:  THIS IS NOT OKAY!  IT IS NOT APPROPRIATE LOVE ACTIONS!

It wasn’t until years later after many other situations of being torn down in different ways mentally, physically, spiritually that I finally found my voice.   I was again put in a situation where a married man acted beyond inappropriately toward me.   It wasn’t just a pat, it was a squeeze!  He was a person I respected, worked close with, and admired.   I was confused and unsure.

I was wisely counseled by a friend and a spiritual director to speak up.  This was big for me.  This was hard for me.  It meant I had to create ripples.  I had to “hurt” someones feelings.  I had to say something that would definitely make someone not like me.  I would be altering this persons life.

BUT….I did it!  It was one of the hardest and FREEING things I ever did!

It was my journey of finally truly starting the process of  healing from other past hurts, abuses, pains!

This began my passion of building myself up.  Of building other women up.  Of truly becoming and respecting this self that God intended me to be!
To be fabulously feminine!

Thus, I vowed when I had my daughter, I wanted to teach her God’s love, God’s way we should be respect, God’s way of being loved: truly loved!

I know as a parent I can’t “protect” her from ever being victimized.  From ever feeling objectified. But, I can work my hardest to armor her properly; To teach her how she should be respected and loved.  My husband, her daddy, can take her out on “dates” and ensure she experiences how a woman, a girl should be treated.

We all have our part, our responsibility, in ensuring we are all treated with dignity, with respect, with AGAPE!

This is what I want for my daughter.

The beauty about my “phat pat” journey is I don’t look back and think bitter or angry or defeated thoughts!  I know God took those experiences in my life and made them good.  I grew, learned, and healed from them. Making me  much more aware of why we as women must demand respect for our core of being a woman….a true woman!  And we can do it with dignity, with grace, and with authority.  

When we do this we are excellent examples to ourselves, other women, to our daughters! 
 And that to me is a sure fire way to minimize and lower the statistics or chances of my daughter ever being victimized.  

She is an amazing strong warrior who right now knows she is made beautifully.  She knows how she should and shouldn’t be treated.  She knows how to speak up and demand respect.  I want to ensure she stays that way!  

If my journey helps me be a better teacher to her in this matter…
If my journey gives me the tools to make her stronger and more apt to say “No!” to inappropriate objectification….
…then I find nothing but beauty and glory in my journey!!!

  It is my journey.  But I do not want it for her!  I want her to stay as unblemished as possible!

Men:  Please do your part in guarding not only your eyes, but also your actions in ensuring you are truly respecting the dignity of women around you…..especially the special women in your life!

Women:  I beg you….command respect for your physical self so you can have respect in your mental health and a peace with your spiritual health!

I would love to hear your thoughts….your story….
Growing and learning together strengthens us…..and sharing is the most healing, empowering, strengthening action you can ever do!

Flex your healing power today to strengthen YOUR armor for Christ!

Blessings and prayers always,
~K 🙂

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