My Wardrobe

Obviously I am on a theme this week….it didn’t start out that way….BUT since I have shared with you my love of research…..and SINCE studying and researching more about MODESTY right now as I work on putting together a MODESTY PROGRAM for 12-15 year olds…..well MODESTY IS ON THE BRAIN….

I have been evaluating my wardrobe again….

When we study the bible….each time we learn something we are then held to that knowledge.

When we peel an onion there is always another layer….

Thus as I read about modesty…..and figure out how I want to share things with these young ladies….I realize I still have some work to do on my wardrobe….I am not being hard on myself….I’m not saying I have anything overtly immodest….BUT WE CAN ALWAYS MAKE IMPROVEMENTS….in all things….life is about growth and learning!

Therefore today I am going to really look at each piece of clothing and ask myself:


I will ask:


I will ask:


This will be my focus today!?

What about you!?

Hugs and blessings dear readers…family…friends…..
~Kelly 🙂

Dear Ladies…Girls…Women…

Today I want to share with you how very precious you are….how beautiful you are JUST AS YOU!  

You don’t need to show off all your great success of losing weight by wearing less. 
You don’t need to take pictures of yourself to post it on Facebook showing even less of yourself to “show” how wonderful whatever helped you shift your lifestyle to making healthier choices.

Here is the thing….I AM NOT JUDGING YOU….I LOVE YOU.…I love you each enough to help you understand….YOU ARE PRECIOUS….I desire for you to not be looked at and undressed in the mind of men and women alike. 

The difference is when men are undressing you in their minds you are becoming an object in their mind…it is truly a scientific thing in their mind that they cannot control.  And the women who are looking you up and down are either comparing themselves,  judging you, and who knows what…the point being is it is not creating the nurturing nature of women being able to bond together and support each other.

So ladies, girls, women….PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE love yourself to look in the mirror and ask yourself….truly ask yourself:  WHAT MESSAGE AM I TRYING TO EXPRESS WITH THIS OUTFIT!?

I pray you read yesterdays posting and watch the YouTube video of WHAT GUYS THING ABOUT MODESTY!

Please understand MODESTY is not holding you back….instead it is elevating you up…creating true FREEDOM!!!

Ladies….girls…women I say all this because I LOVE YOU….I want you to know I UNDERSTAND wanting people to see all your hard work….BUT WHO DID YOU GET HEALTHY FOR?!  WHO DID YOU LOSE WEIGHT FOR?!  I pray it was to honor God…to respect your temple….to remember that your health has purpose.

Thus I pray you will LOVE YOURSELF AS GOD DESIRES YOU TO LOVE YOURSELF....with great dignity….great honor….great purpose.

So next time you look in the mirror….look deep in your eyes first….and say….I LOVE YOU…YOU ARE BEAUTIFULLY WONDERFULLY MADE.…the look at your outfit….and ask….what is my purpose in this outfit:  To honor God?  To protect the PURITY OF MEN….to honor my MODESTY….?  OR is my purpose to draw attention to my body!?

Thank you for reading this letter with the an open mind, an open heart, and the knowledge that I TRULY CARE ABOUT YOU.…I LOVE YOU WITH THE LOVE OF OUR AMAZING LORD AND I DO NOT WANT YOU TO BE USED….OR TO FEEL LESS THAN YOU ARE WORTH!!!

My hugs and prayers always dear readers….family…friends…
~Kelly 🙂




Once upon a time a young lady lived in a land full of beautiful hills and amazing peace.  
She was in love; or so she believed.  She and this boy came from such different back grounds, different lifestyles, and different beliefs.  Yet, this did not stop her from loving him.  Wanting to please him, and be there for him.
She was heartbroken when he had to leave the peaceful land for a noisier place.  She vowed to visit him soon.  She kept to her promise.  She ventured to the noisy, darker land to see her love.  That is when things went very wrong.  Her love, during that visit, was abused.  Her trust was broken.  Her innocence was stolen.  She came home to the beauty of her land: confused, hurt, and deeply scarred.  Her land didn’t seem beautiful anymore.
She began to doubt simple truths in life.  She began to doubt even herself.  Her ability to understand dark from light, good from bad, right from wrong.  After all, she pondered, if she could allow such darkness to take over, surely she mustn’t be all that bright of a light.
You see, when darkness took place that fateful day, it wasn’t the obvious, insidious kind of evil we all know to stay away from.  IT was the kind that lures us.  The kind that slowly boils and you never realize it has taken hold of you until at the moment you see it and you are so confused.  
She knew and knows this young man was not evil; he did not intend evil, but he allowed his wants to overtake him and evil to influence his mind, to take what was not his.  To steal a gift that wasn’t his to take.  
Over the years the young woman has reflected and realized maybe, just maybe, (at least in her case, her situation) she wasn’t so clear.  Maybe just maybe her no wasn’t loud enough, wasn’t out loud, wasn’t strong, wasn’t there.  What if….
BUT…NONE OF THAT MATTERS….that is the true gift she has learned.  It truly doesn’t matter.  She may not be clear of the events of that day but it will not be her prison.  It will not be her darkness.  The past is the past and she will not let darkness cloud her love for life.  She knows in her heart, that boy, a man now, never intended to hurt her so deeply, to rip her spirit.  He was motivated by a selfish, fleshly want, and allowed himself to not be led by the Holy Spirit.  And she was motivated by pleasing and fear of rejection.
This young lady took years to unravel the web of darkness; to shed light on this darkness; to feel worthy of being loved.  In the midst of her unraveling and healing a rogue knight came into her life.  He was rough around the edges but she saw a glimmer of internal light he wasn’t even aware of.
He helped her melt away the confusion, the pain, the fear, the hurt, the darkness.  Yet, each year she still felt a cloud engulfing her during a particular time, a particular month, a particular day.
Then one year, on that dark memory of a day, she discovered an amethyst.  Some may find this an ordinary gem, but she knew this gem would shine brighter than any she had ever seen.  God presented this beautiful amazing gift to her to replace the dark cloud of those memories.  He wanted to erase that dark day, those feelings…with light, with a reminder that HE loves her!  That she is beautiful.  From evil and darkness, God CAN conquer!  Purity can arise, can outshine and replace the dark.
That is exactly what this beautiful amethyst did.  Each year that passed by, this precious gem grew, got brighter; the darkness became smaller and less important.
One Year, the amethyst turned colors to a glorious Ruby.  That Ruby lasted about 5 years. It was a deep, passionate reminder how Christ shed His blood for us because he LOVES US.  She IS worthy of love.  She IS amazing.
Then, one year that ruby turned into the most brilliant deep sapphire.  It radiated, glowed, sparkled and shone with such brilliance, there was no room for darkness to reside any more.
It created a space in the woman’s heart to realize she not only forgave that boy of past, but there was room for him in her heart to love him, to pray for him.  She prayed he was having as beautiful and blessed of a life as she was.  She truly loved him.  Loved him for, also, being a child of God.
That sapphire continues to shine even brighter each year.  That sapphire is a reminder of Mary’s purity, a reminder of Joseph’s silent strength, of Jesus’ pure sacrifice and undying love.  And a glorious reminder of God’s forever mercy and grace.
This story is truly a story of FAITH HOPE AND LOVE.
LOVE….I do love my life!!!
I adore my knight!  He surrounds me with security, trust, and peace!
My sapphire is the most amazing gem.  I can’t help but feel my breath get caught in my throat every time I look at her.
How and why God felt me worthy to be trusted with such a precious gift, I do not know, I do not question.  
I love, laugh, and live with abundance of joy and light!
I know that shame lives in darkness.  Satan wants us to live in shame, fear, regret, guilt.
We must choose to step away from the darkness into the light.  Because that light is so glorious, so warm, so inviting.  
THE LIGHT wants us to feel nothing but:


Blog at

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: