Perfect {Parenting}

NOT!!!

Let’s just get that out of the way…..there is not one of us that is perfect at parenting…at anything!

I soooo struggle with being a parent sometimes.  Add to it that I homeschool….I doubt myself ALL the time…..what get’s me through it?

I know it is all LIES!  When I am connecting to God each and every day……throughout my day always…..I KNOW AND SEE the lies the enemy is trying to feed me!

I recently had a battle with once again doubting I was enough for my daughter when it came to her education.  Some suggestions were made and I found myself getting defensive.  But since I have been doing so much inner healing work I was able to recognize the two fold prong the enemy was trying to get to me with.

He was using a person I struggle with.  A beautiful amazing person who never ever says words of praise to me.  Now since my primary love language is WORDS I have to remind myself all the time that not everyone realizes and knows how to use words constructively.  Add to it this amazing person and I haven’t always had the greatest of a relationship.  It has been rocky but I know because of God we are at a much better place than ever before.

So the 2nd prong was the topic of homeschooling.   I hope you are seeing the same thing I was able to recognize.  The storm of hurt and doubt the enemy was trying to brew.  And it almost worked.  After the conversation I wanted to think: why am I not enough for this person, why can’t I EVER receive a compliment of what I have done with my daughter and her education.  Why….why….why….

But I stopped……I saw what he was doing.  He wanted me to create a spiritual disconnect with this person.  To undo all the work we have done.  I was able to see that I still had my own work to do within me…..in KNOWING I AM ENOUGH!  God commissioned me to be my daughter’s mom…..and HE KNOWS I AM ENOUGH!!

Today unfold the lies the enemy has been feeding you about your abilities, your relationships….and sweep him out…..take it to God……let HIM redeem the wounds.  Don’t allow the lies to wound you anymore and don’t let the lies wound your connection to others!

This is definitely something to sit with….pray about….journal about…go to the oils to help you connect to your emotions you are feeling and tap about it to release the negative energy….finally share about it…..whether here or with someone you trust.  Darkness can not live in the light!

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

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Reminder:  Thriving Thursday tomorrow on Facebook!

What is your Why on Wednesday

Detoxes….cleanses….diets….fasts....

Yesterday I said I would go more into this today….so here I am…lol….

It’s all the rage these days to do a detox….or to plan on fasting during lent from sugar…..or to do a first of the year cleanse…..

I have been asked many times what my thoughts are on any of those…..and my response is “it depends.”

There is value behind any and all of those above…..BUT what is the PURPOSE.…what is the end goal?

A detox or cleanse can be very good and beneficial if you have been creating too much stress in your life and your noticing your body is getting sluggish.  Or you realize you REALLY want to make some life changes and it is a good jump start to a healthier life style.  And even those of us who eat really clean already but might inadvertently had a cross contamination while traveling or need to figure out some stuff about your health…..these can be beneficial.   A fast, especially a spiritual fast, can be amazing, eye opening, profoundly humbling…..when done for the right reasons!

This is my hesitation….my “it depends”…..

SOOOOOO many people (especially women) use those terms above as a way to self-punish.  When a person is thinking negative thoughts about themselves, not loving who they are, and say “I need to detox from all this junk!”…..or “I need to go on a diet because I am too fat.”  or “I’m going to fast during lent from (fill in the blank) and maybe I’ll lose a little bit of weight too…”   Those are all negative….non-loving statements.

Instead…..if I person says….”Ya know I’ve been feeling sluggish.  I realize I haven’t been taking care of myself as best as I can.  I think I am going to do a detox or cleanse to kick start my getting back on track to taking care and nurturing myself.”   or…..”I don’t want to diet…..I know I have not made some great food choices over the years so I am going to slowly implement some lifestyle changes and see how I feel from that.”  and…..”Lent is coming up…..maybe I will fast from TV and go for a walk in the evening instead to get some fresh air and take care of this amazing temple God has gifted me with.”

The difference is LOVE!

When a person chooses to do one of those above out of punishment….it is because they are not LOVING themselves.  They are not feeling worthy of themselves…..they are feeling many emotions but the one they are not feeling is love.

BUT…..when you can honestly look in the mirror and say...

I LOVE YOU….
YOU ARE AMAZING….
AND  I WANT TO TAKE BETTER CARE OF YOU…
...then there will be fruit from any of the above.

I want to share with all of you an amazing friend who started her own blog…..and she is doing exactly this!  She is asking herself her WHY? She is choosing to make better choices for herself because SHE KNOWS SHE IS AN AMAZING WARRIOR WOMAN for Christ and she desires to be even better!

Check out her blog:  LETTERS FULL OF LOVE…..you won’t be disappointed….you will be inspired….and you might just realize about your WHY?!

Have an amazing Wednesday…..

I hope to hear WHAT IS YOUR WHY? Please leave comments and questions below.  I love hearing from you all!

Hugs and prayers always,
~Kelly

BOOK/LISTEN OF THE DAY:  Today it is not a book but a podcast :)…..I realized most of the time I will feature a book but there are times that I really have a podcast I want to feature or shout out about….so today I want to share, once again about LOVE YOUR BODCAST.  Podcast #42 and 43 address this topic especially.  See if it resonate within you.  I love love love this podcast….I especially love looking through the list of choices and seeing which one that day really speaks to me.  Which one has a message that I need be reminded about what an amazing Warrior Woman I am!!!


MOVEMENT/EXERCISE FOR TODAY:
Yesterday afternoon once hubby got home we went for a fabulous walk before dinner.
This morning my usual push-ups, kickbacks, stretches to get my day going.
I forgot to mention on Monday….once my rosary is completed I then start a podcast of Joyce Meyer and then Parenting on Purpose.  They are great fuels for me to move/workout to.  But find what sparks joy for you to move!
Thus once I was on the mini trampoline I realized I wanted to just alternate walk/jog.  I held 2# weights and would “walk” for a few minutes, then tighten up, pump arms really good and increase speed almost like a sprint for about a minute….then walk/jog again to gain breath.  20 minutes….done!  Stretched…..rolled up mat and ready for my tea! 🙂

It’s a Wonderful Life on Wednesday

I do love playing with words!  Especially the days of the week and my last name I have no idea why.  But I get a little smile and giggle growing inside of me when ever I pick a title for my blog post!  Or when I am going to use my name or anything that starts with the letter F (except that particular word that we all know….)….

Anyways….that was a total side note of what I really wanted to share this morning.

Which is….

I LOVE MY LIFE!!!!

And I am finally at a place in my life where I don’t feel like I have to apologize or feel guilty for not wanting to “do more”….or the opposite to feel guilty for wanting to “do something”.

I have realized the guilt or apologizing in the past was my own pressures I had put upon myself….usually induced by looking out too much and comparing myself to “the rest of the world”.

I am not there anymore….AND THAT BRINGS GREAT PEACE!!!

Take yesterday as a beautiful illustration.   I woke.  I prayed.  I moved.  I wrote.  I did lessons with daughter.  I cleaned house.  I visited with a friend while cleaning house!  I took care of bills.  I cooked a fabulous dinner, if I do say so myself :)….lol.  Went on a walk with hubby. We played games as a family.  I cleaned up the kitchen while family took care of living room “project Christmas take down”. Prepared for today.  Read in bed by 9 (a bit later than I would have liked).  But still had lights out for me by 9:30/9:45.

 IT WAS PEACEFUL….IT WAS BEAUTIFUL….IT WAS WONDERFUL!

Now I am not saying there were no challenges in the middle of all that.
Daughter procrastinated with lessons.
Bills were reconciling some issues on the phone….ugh I hate the phone!
Evening took a bit longer than intended.
Had 5 things on list that did not even get looked at!

BUT…..in the middle of it all I realized I LOVE MY LIFE.  Truly un-apologetically love my life!

I also realized something.  You see we had planned on going out to a community training/information program 6:30-8:30 on how to respond to an Active Shooter attack.  I really wanted to go to this…and still do.   But as the evening unfolded I saw it was just not going to work out.  I didn’t get anxious or perturbed because it helped me realize something.  I LOVE OUR EVENING TIME AS A FAMILY.
I have grown accustomed to our evenings being low key this last year mostly because of my health.  I need to keep my cortisol as low key as possible for my adrenal health.  Planning things in the evenings, going out, even having people over can sometimes ramp up my hormones and make it very difficult for my body to get back into a healthy rhythm.

Which had me realizing that all my big thoughts about having an evening gathering for friends to learn more about daughters and or health/nutrition are a beautiful wonderful goal and dream but if they are meant to happen this year it won’t in the evenings.  God will provide the right timing and the when so I continue to care for my health and do HIS WILL not force MY WILL.  And it is about HIS TIMING not my timing!!!!

I have also realized that my random encounters at the grocery store, after church, on the phone, or even technicians coming to the house for one thing or another….and here on this blog…..these are all opportunities to share.  They have been, still are, and will continue to be.  And that all brings me peace and great energy.

I get excited meeting women (and men) at Natural Grocers or where ever who are struggling and frustrated with their health.  Then we talk for almost an hour I can see the hope in their eyes.  I can see we have been good for each other at that moment.  That gives me energy that gives me a skip in my step.

So who knows what else I am suppose to be doing with all this crazy knowledge and these desires within but I do know that as long as I keep being who God designed me to be and follow HIS WILL, I will be what I am suppose to be.  I will succeed.  I will make a difference.  I will touch lives!

Final thoughts is about two podcasts I listened to this week (so far) which really brought this message home to my heart.

I listen each day to PARENTING ON PURPOSE.  And one of the things I love in his message there is a continual theme of…..FAMILY FIRST.  In one of the episodes he (I am totally forgetting his name….sorry)….he talks about how we must resist the temptation to get caught up in the worlds idea, society’s mentality, of what our children should be doing doing doing.   Family time, family responsibility, communication, service…..these are ALL more important than how many things do we have our children signed up for, how high are their grades, how many places can be jam pack into our day.   This podcast always resonate in my heart because it is what I believe dearly.

 I am here to raise a Godly child who whats to be for God, and not “perform” for the world!

The other podcast was this morning: LOVE YOUR BODcast.  The particular podcast I listened to was an older one, but the guest spoke out loud a truth that has been in my heart this whole last year.  It was so edifying and beautiful.  Ironically the guest is the woman who is the creator of UNAPOLOGETICALLY STRONG.   She stated there was a shift in her mental attitude toward herself, her body, when she realized she didn’t care anymore about the aesthetics of her body….what she cared about was being able to carry her children, play with her children, do amazing strong things with her body.  AND THAT I GET….THAT I LOVE….AND THAT IS SOOOOO WHERE I AM AT!!

I love being able to do my pushups, my assisted pull-ups, my kettle bells, my squats….anything that helps me move and feel strong.

I DON’T CARE what the rest of society says I should be doing with my child, my family, my time, my goals, my health, my body…..IT’S NOT THEIRS TO CONTROL.  IT IS MINE TO LIVE……and LIVE IT I WILL!!!

So there is my WONDERFUL LIFE!!!

I find such peace and joy knowing I AM ENOUGH!!!

I DO NOT have to apologize or feel guilty for loving a simple life of not running around crazy in the evenings, of not wanting to jam pack so many things in my day that I don’t get to sit and sip my tea, of not wanting to miss out on my daughters years at home, and not wanting to miss out on continuing to grow and learn with my husband.  

And not wanting to miss out on what God may have to share with me because I was TOO busy DOING rather than BEING!!!

Have a gloriously WONDERFUL WEDNESDAY!!!
blessings,
~Kelly 🙂

PS…today’s book is about working through forgiveness of past hurts, abuses, pains, etc…..it can be about someone else in your life you need to forgive or even yourself.  You may not think you have anything to FORGIVE….but once you start to delve into the book and workbook you realize there are things, unresolved hurts, that can hold you back: MIND BODY AND SOUL!…..Things that can and do effect your whole health.  I loved this book when I did it.  It really opened up my eyes on how to truly LIVE the LORDS PRAYER!!!  And really I think forgiveness (of self and others) is a huge key to living a wonderful un-apologetical life!! 

Dynamic Daughters: Parenting on Purpose

PROVERBS 22:6

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

This podcast/website is a powerful 15 minutes to gain confidence and encouragement in raising kiddos.

What is even more exciting is that there is a week long, 5 episodes, that are dedicated specifically to raising daughters.

Here is a summary of the 5, 15 minute, segments:

1.  The difference from raising boys.
2.  Modesty
3.  The power of words.
4.  The role of Dads
5.  The gift of Time.

There is truly nothing more I need to say with this posting.  These podcasts will truly speak for themselves.  Strengthen your armor this week by listening to one a day as you are driving to work, going for a walk, or relaxing in a bath!

ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

Many blessings, hugs, and prayers always…
~Kelly 🙂

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