How many times do we start a conversation with how good something is BUT it could be better.
We say things like…
“The event was good BUT it was missing xyz.”
“Good job darling EXCEPT it is missing xyz.”
I love the gift IF ONLY IT HAD xyz.”
My house would be better if it had xyz.”
We start out thinking we are being positive or constructive YET we many times say a BUT, YET, EXCEPT, IF ONLY…..and so many more conjunctions that negate what we just said. Or take a positive thought down to a negative. Or at the very least expressing that things could be better rather finding peace, joy, contentment in the JUST IS!
Thus I give each and everyone of us a challenge for a day…two…a week (but let’s start with a day!)….to say each sentence without a BUT!
How much will your attitude toward life change!?
Do you think your JOY will become more heartfelt….more full….more peaceful!
The buts, yets, ifs, excepts…..hold us back from our full joy potential!!!
Many hugs and blessings my dear readers….family….friends….
I woke up this morning with the anticipation of lots of things I needed to accomplish and desires for the day. Then…
I went to check email…..take care of computer needs…etc….and well all heck broke loose….
My computer starts yelling at me….this obnoxious noise….a big blue screen warning me to call Microsoft support because of craziness going on with my laptop.
Thus I call…a wonderful young lady, Stephanie, is extremely helpful. She helps me understand ALL THE ISSUES that are going on with my computer. She takes control of it…..and looks at all sorts of things…..discovered I didn’t have enough security set up on my computer….6 hours later after a diagnosis, a clean sweep, and all sorts of other computer lingo it is discovered I had many very serious viruses…..and almost 1000 other non-virus issues but still issues that could create “breaches” within my system. UGH…..it ended up explaining some of the issues I had been having recently.
THEN…..I discovered some issues with logging into Facebook….like before….discovered what browsers are best for me….which ones are not safe, secure…..and which ones are having issues thus creating issues for me…..
Finally, I discovered there are some amazing technicians who really can talk to us non-computer types and help us understand things and not feel like an idiot. This technician was Antonio!
So I give a shout out to Antonio and all those technicians who are truly helpful and willing to continue to be helpful and not talk above us non-computer lingo persons nor talk to us as if we are inept.
Today, I ended up having to spend WAAY more money than I would have liked to have spent….having to use from my emergency fund because of true needs…..but heck that’s what that fund is for…..and obviously I needed to add a security program that needed to ensure this didn’t happen again.
What did I learn about this day?!
IT IS ALL OKAY!!!
I was able to just step back and realize I can’t control that my day was NOT going the way I intended with many things…..BUT I DID GET TO SPEND THE DAY WITH MY AMAZING DAUGHTER….LEARNING WITH HER…..HELPING HER…I GOT TO SEE THREE WONDERFUL FRIENDS…I AM ABLE TO NOW SIT AND LAUGH WITH MY WONDERFUL DAUGHTER AS WE ASSESS OUR DAY AND PLAN FOR TOMORROW! And truly that is all that matters…..the ONE ON ONE CONTACT WITH LOVED ONES…..the actual conversation with someone I have never met, never will meet, but who treated me like a human being not a computer.
Thus I continue to learn detachment from technology….social media….distractions. I continue to be convicted that I CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT THIS COMPUTER BECAUSE IN THE BIG PICTURE IT DOESN’T MATTER AND I REFUSE TO LET IT ROB ME OF MY JOY!!!!
Joy is being with real human beings.
Joy is putting pen to paper.
Joy is going for a walk in the fresh air.
Joy is studying side by side with my daughter.
Joy is laughing with friends.
Joy is snuggling with my hubby.
Joy is real…..JOY YOU CAN TOUCH, SMELL, FEEL, EXPERIENCE!
A computer can’t be or do any of that!
What is your true joy!?
Many blessings and hugs my dear readers….family….friends…..
I have been reading a fabulous book this last weekend (actually listening to it..lol) and it has had me reflect just as during lent what are the things that are most important to me…what gives me great joy???
This blog does!
Teaching my daughter does!
Being a wife to my wonderful husband does!
Keeping things simple does!
Sharing and connecting to others does!
But Facebook not so much….I have found over the last couple of weeks that I look forward when I write but I don’t when I go to FB….but I realized it was because I don’t want it on my phone….I want to be able to really walk away from social media and technology when I am with my family. When I am living life. For me if all the different apps are on my phone accessible I feel like I am being irresponsible with not checking or utilizing all my mind thinks I should be doing.
A really fun movie: MOMS NIGHT OUT….Like the mom in this movie,I find myself getting too intense and overwhelmed with things. And therefore, I am not showing and being that example to my daughter that I desire to be….which is to only do things that create joy in my life!
Thus, I have decided since Facebook doesn’t bring me joy like it does so many, I am not going to feel guilty that I don’t want to go to it all the time. I am not going to feel guilty if I don’t check it but on the weekends…or that I only post something that I want to share but don’t scroll down to see everyone else’s happenings!
After all JOY and peace in life is much more important to me, and I hope all of you, than being “connected” in all the different social medias!
Have a glorious evening….glorious week!
Many blessings and hugs,
Today I re-enter into the social media world for a brief moment. I choose to blog today because four years ago I wondered why I had to lay on a hospital bed to be wheeled away for my D&C from my miscarriage.
I had been able to experience the joys, fears, delights of my precious Sam for 12 short weeks, yet all the joy, all the lessons, all the amazing things that have taken place because of that loss, that experience, of that deep sorrow in my life…
Well…I am a better, stronger, richer, deeper person…woman…wife…mom…servant to God because of that pain..that sorrow!
I can’t be angry with God because ALL of my life’s experiences even those that caused me hurt, pain, sorrow or even harm….have all lead me to…love, redemption, peace, joy, gratitude, faith, hope, commitment, endurance…and so many more.
Take today’s date as an example:
Each year it has fallen on a day within lent. This year it is in Holy Week. I will enter the next three days with great appreciation, healing, hope, love, deep understanding of being a mom! One year it was Palm Sunday. Another year it was the Easter weekend the year we were asked to be god-parents to some dear friends children. Wow…that was a powerful year!
I feel so blessed to know my God so loved me that he gave us his only son! Now that is somehtng to live for!!!
Join me here for the next three days to prepare and celebrate the Triduum…to reflect on His mercy….His Joys and Sorrows….
Blessings, hugs, and lots of prayers always,
9 DAYS TIL CHRISTMAS!
Today we offer up this fast for…
For parents…remember it is about the joy of giving….not the number of parents under the tree….
…the more we share that joy and express our excitement in the giving the more our children will see our excitement of being self-less….it will catch on!
1 Lords Prayer
1 Hail Mary
1 Glory Be
Silently add any other intentions!
Spend about 5-10 minutes with the Lord!