Feeling Fabulous on Friday

I remember the first piece of clothing I ever altered growing up.  It was a red and white polka dot summer dress.  It had wide straps that crossed in the back with this large bow of the same material.  It wasn’t an A-line, it had gathering for the seem at the waist for the skirt part of the dress.  I loved this dress when I found it on the clearance rack of what ever store I had been perusing.  The problem is it was 2 sizes too big.  But the price was great! It was under five dollars!  I couldn’t pass it up.  My thought was even if I totally mess it up I at least have only spent five dollars and I can always use the material for something.

I have never sewn clothing from a pattern or from scratch.  That requires way more disciple and rule following for my type of artsy mind.  I have always enjoyed seeing something I have and tweaking it.  Or seeing somethings potential.

The last 5 years I fell out of the habit of altering and sewing stuff for myself.  I still love looking for my bargains either at department stores or thrift shops but trying to find something that sparks that perfect joy or that wonderful fit is sometimes not so fun.

As I have become more aware of self-love, self-care, and owning only things that spark joy I have been finding myself leaning toward altering things again. I have realized there are some clothing I really like but I don’t like how the manufacture designed it to be.  If it’s on the clearance rack and I really like it and the only thing holding me back is because it is too big then I am going to evaluate if I am capable of the alteration job I would want to do to make if feel fabulous!?

That is what I did yesterday for a about an hour and I loved every minute of it.  I really love the smooth material of yoga or running pants but it seems like any more you can’t find ones that are made like jogging pants style.  They are all designed to cling and fit tight to your body.  This is just not what I want to wear.

 A while back I found a couple of yoga pants on crazy clearance but they were too big, especially in the waist.  But I really liked how they felt and fit.  I decided to bite the bullet and get them.  For several weeks I kept pinning the waist or rolling them til I could do what I really wanted to do.  The day finally came I was able to sew them and tailor them to my body, my shape, my life!  AND THEY MAKE ME FEEL SO HAPPY….THEY TRULY SPARK JOY!  Not just because of the way they make me feel, but because of the opportunity to also delve back into a craft I once loved dearly and had let fall to the way side.

Thus my message today has many layers…lol…

1.  Only own clothing that makes you feel fabulous.  That reminds you how amazing and beautiful you are RIGHT NOW!

2.  Only own clothing that spark joy to ensure you see nothing but the amazing and beautiful being you are RIGHT NOW!

3.  Rediscover a lost art, talent, craft, hobby, whatever……THAT SPARKS JOY IN YOUR LIFE….and dig in…don’t put it off….start doing it again today!

I think these 3 things are so pivotal with self care and self love…..especially for women!

Our society has brain washed us about sooooo many things but I think the number one is setting us up to compare ourselves to other women all the time.  Whether it is the model in a magazine or on a billboard.  Whether it is the mom who seems to do it all and have it all.   Many of us have fallen for this lie and trap, at-least once in our life,  to think we are not ENOUGH because we don’t have the measurements to fit into a particular brand.

I say you’re not the wrong size, the company got it wrong so you have to just move on to the next brand, company, or dare to create your own size that is catered…tailor made just for you!  Made to put a smile on your face, a skip in your step, and a flutter in your heart when you look in that mirror and say HELLO GORGEOUS YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Have a fabulous Friday….and remember you are amazing….I know I am…..especially in my new “K” Brand of pants :)…..

Blessings and hugs,
~Kelly

PS….today’s book picture is a unique and amazing book about health and wellness.   Here is a man who truly was able to get into a woman’s mind and peel away the layers of what stops so many women from succeeding with health goals.  His book is I believe a fabulous way for women and men to start seeing health and nutrition in the whole body experience and to therefore learn how to truly love yourself and to create a habit of self care.   I had the amazing pleasure to meet him several years ago and he is truly an amazing man!

Selfies: 10 pound follow up!

JANUARY 2015 – gotta love my daughters mirror!

I’m not a huge fan of selfies….

Yet, I was refelcting the other day of the time when Sarah Fragosa wrote a fabulour post “Own It”.  She was able to show all her hard work in the posting.

I recently shared about the difference of ten pounds and how it can or can’t look on a body.  I realized sometimes a person can talk and talk and share but another just won’t believe it unless they see it.  Oh how very doubting Thomas of us, right….lol!

Thus, here it goes…

This picture is of me when I met with Jason Seib back in July.

JULY 2014 – 

Last week I took the two pictures on the right with basically the same outfit.

I share this because WOMEN….GIRLS….LADIES….and even men…..I want you to understand YOU ARE NOT THE VALUE OF THE NUMBER ON THAT SCALE!!!

JANUARY 2015 ~side shot…

Don’t let that rediculous tool take hold of your happiness!  I  truly do not care what that number says.  That number will not, does not, define my happiness.

I don’t care if I am not “twiggy” this year….or ever again…..we are all unique and beautiful and amazing!!!

How about a unique and different kind of challenge; one that has nothing to do with how you exercise, what you eat, what you want to change physically…..

What if instead… for 21 days you challenged yourself to truly love yourself exactly where you are at!?

What if, first thing in the morning you said:

GOOD MORNING…
YOU BEAUTIFUL AMAZING CREATURE OF GOD!
YOU ARE AMAZING!
YOU ARE STRONG!
YOU ARE LOVED!

Then pick movement that inspires you.

Eat with passion not punishment.

The cool thing is you could start your 21 day LOVE MY BODY, LEARN FROM MY BODY, LISTEN TO MY BODY….this SUNDAY, January 25th!  And complete it as a Valentines gift of love to yourself!!!

Google Marc David.  He is a great resource to help you shift your mindset about eating for your body, mind, and soul.  Check out all he has to say about the psychology of food.  He has a fabulous book, “The Slow Down Diet: Eating for Pleasure, Energy, & Weight Loss”.   An excelllent read.

And then there is Dr. Sara Gottfried….she has a fabulous podcast….THE HEALTH BRIDGE….helping others learn and understand the psychology behind food as well as the hormones that effect our mind, body, soul experience of food, fitness, and fun!

I feel committed to help you with this journey so I will post something for 21 days, starting on January 25 thru February 14.  I will post something short each day that will be encouraging, loving, inspiring for you  on this journey of change….in all the different ways to love yourself through mind, body, soul experiences….whether it be with nurishing recipes, health changes, movement, encouraging scripture,  great reads…..and so much more…

Join me for 21 days to not only change your body, but change your mind, to enlighten your soul!   

What better gift to give yourself for VALENTINES DAY but to start loving yourself RIGHT NOW….EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE AT!!!

Mind Body and Soul of 10 pounds!

Snack break:

cut zucchini in rounds about 1/3 inch thick, spoon some pizza sauce, sprinkle with an aged, organic, grass fed cheese, season with salt, garlic, onion powder, basil, oregano…broil in oven at 425 for about 10 minutes or until brown bubbles :)….
Okay on to the “meat” of the post:
I felt challenged this summer when Jason Seib suggested that if I was one of his clients he would put 10-20 pounds of muscle on me.  I personally was at a good place with loving myself, loving life, and not taking it personal when a person thinks I am too….anything….
I really wasn’t at a place of wanting to invest a bunch of money and time into weights or gym membership or even geeking in the science of making it happen without becoming obsessed to ensure I truly put on only muscle and not any excess fat.  I basically didn’t want to become a  gym rat.  Been there, done that, didn’t want to go back to it!
But…I did know soooo much more about nutrition than in the past….I did understand the concept of shorter/harder workouts for bigger, better, lasting results.  I also understand the science of “building muscle” doesn’t mean bulky.  IT means getting, stronger, leaner, more powerful.  BUT….it can be painful.  I really don’t like getting sore.
Thus I didn’t set out to do this challenge, but I figured I was back up to having healthy, healed joints.  My bone density back up from the previous summer.  The more the challenge spun in my head the more I found myself wanting to see if it was possible with body weight, a few kettlebells, and a few hand dumbbells.  Before I knew it, I was committing myself to kettlebell workouts, Metabolic workouts, lots of pull ups, lots of deep squats, lots of multi-muscle routines.
Result…I did it!  I put on 10 solid pounds of muscle with no sacrifice of gaining body fat.  I learned what the term skinny fat really means.  A person can have body fat that doesn’t show on the outside but can have lots of fat and gunk surrounding the organs and internal stuff….that’s not good.   The fat we may see on a healthy person, that is on the outer layer or mixed with our muscles is much healthier.
There is a dark side to building muscle.   Actually it is all in the perspective and the desired goal and look a person may have….as a woman seeing the body fat in a different way can gunk up the mind about what looks “healthy”……(more on this in a future posting!)  This has not been an issue for me for quite some time.  I have truly internalized how we are all uniquely made. Our bodies are complex creations that the visual result is a combination of genes, nutrition, hard work….and LOVE!!!!   The whole buzz term recently of looking good naked for me isn’t about the ascetics as much as it is about the heart!  When I walk by a mirror naked do I cringe or do I see the amazing being God created me to be….to be naked without shame!
What I really found as the only draw back is that carrying ten extra pounds for running is harder.  Let me explain….I am only five foot, one inch….thus even five extra pounds can feel heavier when running…now add ten pounds and it can feel like mud during some of my runs.  I am discerning if I want to try to “burn” off some of the muscle?  Is running really that important to me?  After all I get a great rush and feel really strong with my sprints….it is just the longer distance runs that are not as fun right now cause I can definitely feel it in my joints.
I have found I need to figure out how to strike a balance between the best of both worlds…being able to move boulders and run like a gazelle….so maybe the balance is be like a cheetah?!  
I will reflect on this and think about what next physical challenge I want to give myself for 2015….I think being a cheetah would be pretty cool!!  
BUT….most important for me is as I am passionate about taking care of my physical health…..I MUST also take care of my mental and spiritual health….because it is a dance with the three…it is a melding of the three when we take that out of context and don’t see the value of all three and how we are made then that is when we become imbalanced…when we become obsessed…when we don’t find love and happiness in our everyday challenges and goals.
What type of animal would you compare yourself to physically and why?  I would love to hear about it.  Leave a comment below.
Hugs and prayers always,
~Kelly 🙂

FRIDAY’S FIGHTING CHALLENGE OF A LIFE TIME!

I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts during the holidays….months and months ago…

 I absolutely loved what Jason said about challenges….whether it is a paleo challenge or any other type of challenge.

The question we should all ask ourselves is why are we doing a challenge?  Is it to get healthy?  Is it to lose some weight?  Is it to lose body fat?  Is it just to see if we can do it?

Having been on this lifestyle journey of living real, eating real, being real started about 4-5 years ago.  I never thought it would truly change my life but it has.   What is great is I have learned something new each week, each month, each year, and each day!

So for me what may have started as a spiritual journey of a Daniel Fast and pray…..brought me to where I am today with my mind, body, soul, well being of living Paleo.

Thus what really spoke to me about the 69th podcast of theirs, that took place on Christmas Eve, is that I too see friends and family who have a scale goal….or say they are going do something with their eating/diet/exercise for a specific designated time frame.  But then what?  Do they go back to sloppy eating and then get frustrated because they put back on all that weight and then some?

What breaks my heart is how they have now broken their metabolism.  They have to work even harder the next time.  They have broken their spirit; now they are disappointed or frustrated with themselves.

I’ve been there in the past.  Living Paleo has changed that so much for me.  Have I hit some rough spots during this journey?  Of course.  Just because we learn a healthier way of living doesn’t mean that life just becomes easy.  It doesn’t mean temptations aren’t there.  It doesn’t mean I don’t have a meal, or a day, or even a week where I make choices that I may not be so happy about the outcome the next day or next week.

But the difference is I MAKE THOSE CHOICES WITH A CONSCIENCE DECISION!

So whether I choose to have a piece of cake at a wedding to celebrate that couples union, or I have too many drinks over the holidays…..I knowingly make a choice that I may not feel so great in my mind and gut the next day…..thus I have to decide if I am willing to wait out it clearing through my system to get my hormones, my mind, my body back into balance.

There is not stop and start…on and off…..challenge or no challenge for me…..it is Paleo Power all the way for me!

Now for me a challenge is more of a: do I want to try to train to be stronger for a couple of months, or do I want to increase my speed on a run.   Heck I have been even pulling more away from running so much and really adapting what is talked about on Marks Daily Apple.

I know it is not easy for any of us who have struggled with weight due to genetics, poor eating habits, or hormones…..but it is possible to abandon the “sad” (standard american diet) way of living….and truly live 100% authentic!

Thus my CHALLENGE to every friend, family member, EVERYONE….is to quit yo-yo-ing…..and start eating, exercising, praying for life….forever!

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