Dynamic Daughters: Understanding Dysmorphic Disorder

Dys-what?

Okay so here is a summary of all I have learned….and I am going to highlight specific aspects and explain why….but if you want to understand this disorder even more there are lots of great resources out there.  And I will give you the the whole MIND, BODY, SOUL….connects at the end of this post.  But for now…..

Dysmorphic Disorder:

(follow the above link to get the full details….but below is a summary)

A type of chronic mental illness.  The individual has a perceived flaw that is either minor or totally imagined.  The point is they obsess over it.  They obsess over appearance and body image for hours a day.  This obsession impacts daily decisions.  There is never a satisfaction with their body.  They seek procedures: minor or major, to “fix” these flaws.  They may lean on excessive exercise.

Just some of the symptoms…

preoccupied by appearance
extreme self-consciousness
frequent examination of self in mirror or avoid mirrors
believe others notice you in a negative way
avoid social situations
excessive grooming
compares self to others
don’t want to be in pictures
obsess over specific body parts: face, hair, skin, breasts, muscles…etc

Causes:
Brain differences (structure or neuro-chemistry)
Genes – more common in a person who has a family member who has this condition.
Environment – life experiences, culture

Risk Factors:
This is just a short, very slimmed down explanation….
Some of the factors that increase risk of developing or triggering condition include:

relatives with disorder
life experiences: childhood teasing, trauma
personality traits
societal pressures or expectations
having another mental disorder such as anxiety or depression.

***Dysmorphia usually starts in adolescents and it affects men and women.

Why does this all matter to me?

I see more and more young women being bombarded by social media’s imagery of what a woman “looks like”….and how we “should” look like!

Even though we KNOW that there is airbrushing involved…there is some extreme things that are done…..and that the magazines, movies, shows, commercials….represent a very small percentage of the population….we are talking like less than 10%.

I recently read/heard that genetically speaking…there is only 1% of women who come by thigh gap naturally….born with it.

YET WE ARE OBSESSED WITH IT….all others who obtain in….do it at great costs…..

And further it is destroying the self-esteem and self-image in our young girls!

Which brings me back to Dysmorphic Disorder!

It is real…it has ranges, just like many other mental disorders.  Just like a person who may manage many other mental disorders, or a person who compensates with other mental “handicaps” of sorts….

Thus a person can have more severe cases than others….some may not have bouts come on all the time or infrequent.  Yet it is always there in the background.  It is how a young girl nurtures herself, and manages her daily stresses, daily influences that will make all the difference in my opinion.

Things that can help a young lady is to be in tuned with herself and admit when she needs help.

She needs to ask herself: how can I help myself?  Do I need to seek treatment? Or is this something I can manage with the help of a great confidant or support system?

Lifestyle/home remedies that can help:

Taking supplements/herbs that support the serotonin levels.
Learn more about the condition.
Pay attention to warning signs.
Avoid situations, even people that my trigger bad self talk.
Avoid: food, alcohol, drugs….substances that are going not support a nurturing mindset.
BE ACTIVE.  Yoga, walks, sprints, HIIT….are all great ways to keep the mind clear.

Other ways to support yourself/cope:

Write in a journal.
Don’t isolate yourself.
Stay healthy.
Read self-help books.
Join support groups.
Stay focused on goals.
Learn relaxation/stress management.
Don’t make important decisions when feeling despair/distress.

Prevention may not be possible but identifying if you are at risk and learning to truly love yourself early on can help.

Here are some great articles/self help/resources…
 to love self better:

Seriously, Let’s End the War with our Bodies

Understanding Body Types: How our Genes are a factor

A strong/amazing Woman not caring what Society Says she should LOOK LIKE

Remember…
ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

hugs, prayers, and lots of blessings,
~Kelly 😉

Day 19: To Lean or not To Lean…

As you are getting closer to wrapping up your 21 Day Challenge to LOVING YOURSELF: MIND BODY AND SOUL….here is something to think about….

Being super lean isn’t always healthy!!!
This is so cool…it was from last year…
yet how perfect to reflect on the words…
ON JESUS!!
Do you struggle with wishing you could have six-pack abs?
Do you wish you could have striations on your legs?  Your arms?
Do you want veins popping out on your arms? Rounded shoulders?
For some being this kind of lean comes natural….for others it’s not part of their genetics.  This doesn’t mean a person isn’t healthy or fit or strong or fast….it might just mean that your body doesn’t “show it off” the way some others do.
A better way to determine good health…good strength..is for a person to love the body they are in…to not fight it!
I have read so many testimonies of women who have gotten super lean for competitions, for personal goals, for all sorts of reasons….and they ALL talk about the down side of getting too lean.
Besides the psychological down side there is the physical negatives.  It disrupts a woman’s cycles.  Okay yo may say “yes…no period!”…but when you disrupt this natural rhythm to your body you are messing with nature…your body…and in my opinion disrespecting God’s beautiful plan for our bodies!
It can effect so many things: hair, lubrication, libido, skin, energy, vitality, bone density, strength…etc..
Then there is the psychological…it can create a drug-like effect.  Therefore, when a woman isn’t in that super leaned out mode or cycle or goal…she can have feelings of being “fat”, even feelings of being judged by those around her.
She can have feelings of being “heavy”…and body distortions.
This can all lead to lack of self worth…lack of self-love…and even lead to food disordering.
When a person becomes obsessed with what foods are “good” or “bad”, they forget food is neutral…it has no moral tag.  Food can nourish us…or be gunky… but it is not evil.
Hormonal imbalances create all sorts of distortions within a woman.
So today as you near the end of your 21 Day Challenge really reflect on:
Are you a person who is naturally leaned out?
Are you putting unrealistic expectations on yourself?
Are you truly loving yourself properly to be able to go through physical changes that will or could create up and down emotions?

Day 9: Being a Minimalist

Today, I want you to think about being a minimalist with your supplementing.

Think:  LESS IS MORE!

When we forget what that word means…we forget to stay connected to what our body truly needs…what our mind truly needs…what our soul truly needs…

Heck…be a minimalist about so many things:

Food
Fitness
Supplements
Hobbies
Cloths
Books
Activities
Schedules

The only thing you should not be a minimalist about is your Faith…your Soul…but you know with that take the minimalist attitude in that: Don’t complicate it!  Don’t try to get fancy. Keep is simple and child-like…BUT with room for growth and learning!

Thus my challenge for you today with your supplements is:

Do you pick snack bars over taking the time to make sure you have a can of tuna or sardines, or beef jerky handy?

Do you take 10 different pills that could truly be reduced to 2 or 3 by cleaning up your choices?

Do you tap into stimulants rather than giving yourself sleep and down time?

Where can you cut excess that makes life simpler, freer, fuller, and save you some time, money, and energy!

Day 8: Supplimenting Soap Box

Here is my most recent thoughts…reflections…pondering on products that are geared toward weight loss rather health and wellness…

If a company, a person, an entity is truly interested in a persons health they they should strive to go out of business!

This is what I mean…
For example…does law enforcement like seeing criminals, crime, etc?
Wouldn’t a cop love to be out of a job because there is no crime?  I would hope so!!!
With that same thought in mind…wouldn’t a person or an entity selling products for wellness and health want to teach individuals how to get healthy, lose body fat, and have energy with as minimal of their products as possible….if not totally just be a support on nutrition without ever selling a product ever again?!
I think this is my biggest beef with so many products that are our there.  Do they really want people to learn how to nourish their bodies with real, whole food?  Are they willing to sacrifice their numbers to teach others how to empower themselves with changes in their food, lifestyle, stress, hormones….etc?!
There are some out there who are trying to do this…I have several friends who I KNOW teach great things to others and are constantly trying to learn as well…yet there are so many who sadly are not.   But I guess we can liken it to a doctor who is out of shape telling his patients to eat good, exercise and get plenty of sleep…
Why does this bother me?  Why do I even go on this tangent?  I don’t get anything out of this.  Go back to the why…because I care!
I care because I see so many people feeling desperate or unsatisfied with their health.  These emotions create a willingness within them to sacrifice basic needs or charging things on credit cards to receive their “magic solution”.
If a person can just take the time to understand the mind, body and soul of their health….THEY TOO CAN HAVE LASTING RESULTS…LASTING HEALTH….LASTING SATISFACTION…LASTING “WEALTH”…LASTING HAPPINESS!!!
All of this with real food, real knowledge, contentment….real savings!!!
Thus that is my big “beef”, my poke, my frustration at the world of packaged products.  I want all individuals to understand that if we are not meeting our nutritional needs with true, real food, then all that packaged stuff that is suppose to enhance your already real food eating, well its going to be wasted…
I want us to quit “buying” into the “promises” and advertisement!
This all concerns me because I am raising an amazing young lady.  She is old enough now to really notice these kinds of adds, this push for women to look “perfect”….this push for “weight loss” everywhere.  I want her to feel empowered enough to know that whole, real food is the way to feeling healthy, feeling balanced, and looking good naturally with the uniqueness that God designed her to be.
I want to know I have raised a young lady who will not feel the pressure to “look like everyone else”.
Will I have raised her to know and believe she is beautiful…just the way GOD MADE HER!!?
Will I have raised her to listen to her bodies needs through nourishing food, good sleep and following God’s wants and desires not the worlds.
Will I have broken the cycle of insanity thinking that we must all be twiggy to reach health and happiness?
The further insanity of over working?  Over training?  Criticizing oneself?  Eating too fast…too little…processed….supplementing to compensate…
Will I have raised her to know better than all the lies that are out there telling her what will make her feel right by societies standards.
Will I have raised her to trust her instincts, her gut, her God…
To know she doesn’t need any “magic” potion to feel amazing…beautiful…to be strong….to be healthy….
All she needs is:
GOD
Sleep…
Real Food…
Fun movement…
…and maybe then maybe some assistance to  support her already healthy lifestyle through herbs, minerals, essential oils…vitamins…things that are natural and not processed….
and lots and lots of SELF REFLECTION WITH GOD!!!

Thus, during your 21 day challenge of detoxing your mind, body, and soul….reflect on what suppliment is truly of help to you and your whole body health pursuits and which may be a crutch?

Day 4: Beware of Jump Squats

“I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.”
Philippians 4:13



Do you like feeling strong?

Do you like having strength?

Do you like a bit of shape with no jiggle?

Do you want feel like an amazing woman?

Then do jump squats!!!

But beware…you will gain curves…you will gain strength…you will feel strong…you will feel like a warrior!

If you don’t want any of these side effects…then never ever do a jump squat ever…lol!

Some other great health benefits to jump squats is you can get a work out done in less than 10 minutes and reap the benefits for hours, days to come.

It will increase bone density.

They will improve metabolism.

They can be done ANYWHERE!!!

Make it into a game with your daughter….your children.   How many jump squats can you each do in one minute.  When traveling you have to do 10 jump squats before you can get back into the car.  Jump squat your spelling words!  Do jump squats to Philippians 4:13!

Final benefit:

You truly can’t help but feel the MIND BODY AND SOUL connection when you do jump squats….I dare you to take the challenge and start doing just 10 jump squats each morning for the rest of your 21 days and see if you don’t feel the connection!

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