FINDING ME!

I have been pondering the last week about my desires for writing…my desires for blogging…my dreams and passions…

I’ve been really reflecting even more about what creates joy for me….what makes me happy….and owning who I AM!!!

I am a woman who loves to read.
I am a woman who loves to learn.
I am a woman who loves to paint.
I am a woman who loves to write.
I am a woman who loves to spend time with my daughter.
I am a woman who loves and adores her husband.
I am a woman who loves to just be.

My health for the last 9 months has had me really reflecting on all the things I love.  It has also had me reflect on all the things that I don’t necessarily love.

I have realized that somehow I have been slowly losing who I am?!  Kind of like Julia Roberts in “Run away Bride”….she didn’t know what kind of eggs she liked.  She always changed with each man, each friend, she was lost with who she was.

As I have been trying to figure out what is going on with my health: fatigue, unexplained weight gain, extreme moods, can’t sleep, can’t move, and sooooo much more….my health issues have actually helped me FIND ME again.

Somehow over the last 5 years of amazing blessings, challenges, discoveries, growths….I started to please too much and not nurture me….this is not good for me and not a good example to my daughter.

I found a fabulous nutrition coach who is going to help me figure out things and be my advocate with doctors and I feel even with family and friends.

Why family and friends? When a person is trying to nurture and care for themselves, family and friends can be the hardest to please or they can be the most critical, especially if you are trying to figure things out in an unconventional way.

Which brings me to…I found an amazing doctor who even after reading over all my stuff that has been going on for the last 9 months or so….he took one look at me and said he strongly believes I have a thyroid issue.  He said sooo much more but the gist is here was a man who believed me…who is willing to fight with and for me to get to the root of my health so I can feel whole and complete again!

I have learned even through all this I AM ENOUGH.   I will not let my frustrations with self or others sway me to not listen to my gut brain, my inner wisdom, my soul!

There are things about aging that are normal…But I love what Dr. Christiane Northrup says….how if you are feeling so icky….if you have aches, pains, etc….it’s not normal…we should feel alive….it is probably our hormones off…and there are many things we CAN do to help it…correct it….and heal it…

Thus as I am learning to heal…grow…and learn through all of this most recent challenge I have discovered I am going to be even truer to myself….

I will blog…write….when I want to…when it feels right….when it brings joy….not because of a sense of obligation….

I will get on facebook…twitter…pinterest….when I want to….when it feels right….when it’s not taking away from me…or family….not because everyone else does it and I feel peer pressured to do it….

I will not feel guilty that I am not doing enough for my daughter…my family….because what we do works for our family….I will not compare…I do believe I AM ENOUGH!!

Some of the wonderful things I have been learning about my health….is that my spiritual fasting has actually been very healthy for me.  I have allowed others around me to influence me in thinking that it wasn’t so good for me….so the last year or so I wasn’t doing any absolutes.  And here I am finding how it has not only been beneficial for me spiritually but also nutritionally.  But again…no more feeling bullied by others opinions and thoughts…I AM AND WILL DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR ME!

Women….the more you love, nurture, and care for you….the more you are able to love, nurture, and care for others!

Dynamic Daughters: Understanding Dysmorphic Disorder

Dys-what?

Okay so here is a summary of all I have learned….and I am going to highlight specific aspects and explain why….but if you want to understand this disorder even more there are lots of great resources out there.  And I will give you the the whole MIND, BODY, SOUL….connects at the end of this post.  But for now…..

Dysmorphic Disorder:

(follow the above link to get the full details….but below is a summary)

A type of chronic mental illness.  The individual has a perceived flaw that is either minor or totally imagined.  The point is they obsess over it.  They obsess over appearance and body image for hours a day.  This obsession impacts daily decisions.  There is never a satisfaction with their body.  They seek procedures: minor or major, to “fix” these flaws.  They may lean on excessive exercise.

Just some of the symptoms…

preoccupied by appearance
extreme self-consciousness
frequent examination of self in mirror or avoid mirrors
believe others notice you in a negative way
avoid social situations
excessive grooming
compares self to others
don’t want to be in pictures
obsess over specific body parts: face, hair, skin, breasts, muscles…etc

Causes:
Brain differences (structure or neuro-chemistry)
Genes – more common in a person who has a family member who has this condition.
Environment – life experiences, culture

Risk Factors:
This is just a short, very slimmed down explanation….
Some of the factors that increase risk of developing or triggering condition include:

relatives with disorder
life experiences: childhood teasing, trauma
personality traits
societal pressures or expectations
having another mental disorder such as anxiety or depression.

***Dysmorphia usually starts in adolescents and it affects men and women.

Why does this all matter to me?

I see more and more young women being bombarded by social media’s imagery of what a woman “looks like”….and how we “should” look like!

Even though we KNOW that there is airbrushing involved…there is some extreme things that are done…..and that the magazines, movies, shows, commercials….represent a very small percentage of the population….we are talking like less than 10%.

I recently read/heard that genetically speaking…there is only 1% of women who come by thigh gap naturally….born with it.

YET WE ARE OBSESSED WITH IT….all others who obtain in….do it at great costs…..

And further it is destroying the self-esteem and self-image in our young girls!

Which brings me back to Dysmorphic Disorder!

It is real…it has ranges, just like many other mental disorders.  Just like a person who may manage many other mental disorders, or a person who compensates with other mental “handicaps” of sorts….

Thus a person can have more severe cases than others….some may not have bouts come on all the time or infrequent.  Yet it is always there in the background.  It is how a young girl nurtures herself, and manages her daily stresses, daily influences that will make all the difference in my opinion.

Things that can help a young lady is to be in tuned with herself and admit when she needs help.

She needs to ask herself: how can I help myself?  Do I need to seek treatment? Or is this something I can manage with the help of a great confidant or support system?

Lifestyle/home remedies that can help:

Taking supplements/herbs that support the serotonin levels.
Learn more about the condition.
Pay attention to warning signs.
Avoid situations, even people that my trigger bad self talk.
Avoid: food, alcohol, drugs….substances that are going not support a nurturing mindset.
BE ACTIVE.  Yoga, walks, sprints, HIIT….are all great ways to keep the mind clear.

Other ways to support yourself/cope:

Write in a journal.
Don’t isolate yourself.
Stay healthy.
Read self-help books.
Join support groups.
Stay focused on goals.
Learn relaxation/stress management.
Don’t make important decisions when feeling despair/distress.

Prevention may not be possible but identifying if you are at risk and learning to truly love yourself early on can help.

Here are some great articles/self help/resources…
 to love self better:

Seriously, Let’s End the War with our Bodies

Understanding Body Types: How our Genes are a factor

A strong/amazing Woman not caring what Society Says she should LOOK LIKE

Remember…
ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

hugs, prayers, and lots of blessings,
~Kelly 😉

Dynamic Daughters: In Need of Energy!

ADRENAL FATIGUE! This is not something to play with.  There is so much information out there but let me tell you it is real.

In January my doctor pretty much gave me strict orders to lower my stress and to be in bed by 9 and not be up before 6.  He also said to do restorative movement not running or HIIT kind of exercising. I needed to reduce my caffeine and alcohol.  Blah blah blah…I listened pretty strict for the first month and then we entered into lent and again I was able to keep to the dietary needs and sleep but I started allowing running and more intense workouts to creep back into my life.  After Easter more red meat…more coffee..more wine…pushing the bedtime…and I found myself hitting a wall again.  
I started reading Dr. Sara Gottfried newest book on the hormone reset and the more I read it the more I thought about my adrenals; I started researching again.  
I realized I must truly give my body the rest it is begging me for.  I continue to be en-flamed.  And all  I’ve been reading about how if I don’t get my adrenals in full health before I enter menopause it will make that stage in life much more difficult. Thus I MUST not think of vanity right now but about health…true internal health!
Everything I’ve been learning about the symptoms and causes of adrenal fatigue make total sense to me.  It confirms for me that I did push myself too much  3 years ago. I can’t take it back. What  I can do is accept that I must do the right thing for myself now and be healthy: mind body soul. 
It’s the perfect opportunity for me to truly live a life of saying I love myself no matter what.  That I am still strong…still healthy…still amazing…even if I don’t ever run again. 
My trying to recover from Adrenal Fatigue has brought out healing and facing body images issues that have been freeing.  (More on body image and it’s relationship to Dysmorphic Disorder in a future post).

I know I am healthy.  I know I am beautiful.  I know I am amazing.  I have amazing strength.  I look great. 
I had to face the fact that between my bio-hacking experiments (more on that in another post) and my adrenal fatigue  has created a huge hormonal mess… I find myself not always feeling great about what I see.  
But this is where faith …tapping into my spiritual life… is vitally important.  Because I don’t let those negative voices sway me. I tell them to go away…I look myself in the mirror…I smile and I say: I am beautifully made!!!!!
And I am!!!!
God doesn’t make junk!!!
Thus, I will continue to live up to the promise I made my dynamic daughter over 12 years ago while she was still in my womb…to never ever speak negatively about myself.  To always show her through my life and love that we are defined not by what we look like but by our heart.  
And you know what if I have to never run again, never have caffeine or wine again, never stay up late again, and weigh a bit more than my mind thinks I should than that’s OK.  Because the picture of Health isn’t always what it appears to be.  
I love what Maddy Moon shared about how she experienced being at her leanest and how it about destroyed her.

AS we raise dynamic daughters to become wonderful warrior women we must be willing to always evaluate our own self…
What are the things that we value:
vanity over virtue?!
Ascetics over health?!
Pain over purpose!?

So I again say…I am okay with if I can’t ever run again.  And I will continue to show my daughter through my actions:
 I am a valuable amazing person just as I am!!!

I love my life….especially with all it’s challenges….all its hurts, pains, struggles….because I continue  to grow and learn from each experience.  And I continue to experience God’s amazing power through my weakness!

Ephesians 5:29


For no one ever hated his own flesh, 
but nourishes and cherishes it, 
just as Christ does the church.

ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

hugs, prayers, and lots of blessings,
~Kelly 😉

  

Dynamic Daughters: Only Joy!

 I have been reading a fabulous book this last weekend (actually listening to it..lol) and it has had me reflect just as during lent what are the things that are most important to me…what gives me great joy???

Writing does!
This blog does!
Teaching my daughter does!
Being a wife to my wonderful husband does!
Keeping things simple does!
Sharing and connecting to others does!

But Facebook not so much….I have found over the last couple of weeks that I look forward when I write but I don’t when I go to FB….but I realized it was because I don’t want it on my phone….I want to be able to really walk away from social media and technology when I am with my family.  When I am living life.  For me if all the different apps are on my phone accessible I feel like I am being irresponsible with not checking or utilizing all my mind thinks I should be doing.

A really fun movie:  MOMS NIGHT OUT….Like the mom in this movie,I find myself getting too intense and overwhelmed with things.  And therefore, I am not showing and being that example to my daughter that I desire to be….which is to only do things that create joy in my life!

Thus, I have decided since Facebook doesn’t bring me joy like it does so many, I am not going to feel guilty that I don’t want to go to it all the time.  I am not going to feel guilty if I don’t check it but on the weekends…or that I only post something that I want to share but don’t scroll down to see everyone else’s happenings!

After all JOY and peace in life is much more important to me, and I hope all of you, than being “connected” in all the different social medias!

Have a glorious evening….glorious week!
Many blessings and hugs,
~Kelly 🙂

Dynamic Daughters: Who are you?!

PROVERBS 31:10
WHO CAN FIND A VIRTUOUS AND CAPABLE (WOMAN)?
SHE IS WORTH MORE THAN PRECIOUS RUBIES.

I recently re-watched a fun movie “THE RUN AWAY BRIDE”.  Within the movie there is a part where Julia Roberts, the main character, is asked if she even knows what kind of eggs she likes.  Apparently she had always said her favorite way to have eggs was the way the current boyfriend liked his eggs cooked: scrambled, fried, omelet, Benedict…etc…..

This woman was always running from herself.  She changed for every man in her life.  Thus, never truly appreciating and understanding the beautiful woman God created her to be.

It doesn’t matter our age…we all go through seasons where we may need to be reminded to…
 stop – breath – reflect…who are we really ?!  
What is God asking us to do?

This is important for us as adult women to do because it helps us then be able to model good habits, morals, practices to our daughters.

It is further important for our daughters to continually armor themselves with great bible verses that speak to them and empower them about being a woman.  The more they immerse themselves in this truth the more they are going to be able to stand strong and resist the losing of themselves among their friends, their peers, and those they date.

My daughter knows she is a fried egg white kind of girl.  I want her to not only stand true to herself but I want her to not be afraid to say it loudly, strongly, firmly!

ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

hugs, prayers, and lots of blessings,
~Kelly 😉

Dynamic Daughters: Made to Crave

Genesis 25:29-34(NIV)

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32 “Look, I am about to die,” Esau said. “What good is the birthright to me?”
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So Esau despised his birthright.

“Made to Crave” is a fantastic book that speaks to the heart of a woman.  The author walks us through how we as women have specific struggles, going back to Eve!

What is especially awesome is…
 she co-wrote a teen version of this book.

I started reading this book with my dynamic daughter because I wanted her to know and feel empowered by being aware of how tricky the devil can be with creating “cravings” for other distractions to lure us away from Gods beautiful, perfect plan for us.

The  authors beautifully explain how our cravings for stuff, food, comparing, shopping, wrong kind of love can lead us to poor choices…choices that don’t put GOD first!

The bible story of Esau above is an excellent example of how we can get distracted for our immediate desire, want…and not keep our eye on the prize.  Where our  daughters are concerned the prize is them staying strong and keeping their virtue intact in a world full of constant contradictory messages of instant gratification!

Teach your daughter to have a game plan when faced with a situation that goes against her teachings, against her faith, against her virtue.  Teach her to write out her plans, rehearse them in her head, have an accountability friend, one just as committed to living a virtuous life as she is.  And empower her with amazing books that reference God’s word like this one, MADE TO CRAVE, in order to constantly strengthen her armor!

ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

Hugs, prayers, blessings…
~Kelly 🙂

Dynamic Daughters: The Princess and the Three Knights

1 CORINTHIANS 13:4, 7

LOVE IS PATIENT, 
LOVE IS KIND.
IT DOES NOT ENVY,
 IT DOES NOT BOAST, 
IT IS NOT PROUD.
IT ALWAYS PROTECTS, 
ALWAYS TRUSTS, 
ALWAYS HOPES, 
ALWAYS PERSEVERES.

I have pondered many times when my dynamic daughter is of the age to “date” what type of boy would I want her to date?  What is even my definition of dating?  What is even the purpose of dating?  Do I want her to date?  What are my expectations?  And how will my husband be able to survive the “dating” years…lol!

I look back at my years of dating.  And I now understand with great respect the impact that dating can have on our soul.  I can reflect on if I had to do it all over….I don’t think I would have wanted to date exclusively with anyone.  I don’t even know if I would have wanted to have kissed anyone before my wonderful hubby.  I am not saying that is the course of action everyone should take…I am just saying after all I have learned about God’s beautiful design for us with our sexuality…I don’t think I would want to risk even one kiss to someone else!

But that is the beauty of hind-sight, growth, wisdom….it doesn’t excuse us from mistakes, from paths that we should have steered away from…instead it allows us to reflect, seek God for forgiveness, and truly learn from them….thus giving us the opportunity to choose the simpler yet narrower path!

It brings me back to when my daughter is at that “magical” age of “dating”….

I really would rather her not want to date….
BUT….I am hoping that all the tools I have been teaching her about her sexuality…God’s beautiful design for us….and open communication….she will come to the conclusion at a younger age than I did….
….THAT DATING EXCLUSIVELY IS TOO INTIMATE…unless a person is really seeking to find their soul mate…..they really shouldn’t play with fire! Again this is my opinion…my path….my beliefs!   I just know how beautiful and amazing love is when we seek it with God’s plan rather than our physical desires.

So….if and when my daughter chooses to date I pray she is able to see the wisdom of this beautiful story about THE PRINCESS AND THE THREE KNIGHTS by Karen Kingsbury.

Three knights have to prove to the king they are worthy of the princesses hand in marriage.

They are given several tests, challenges, obstacles.

What I love about this story book is how it teaches little girls that our “knight” isn’t always the boldest, the strongest, the handsomest….but our true knight is the most VIRTUOUS…CHIVALROUS!

When a man puts our needs ahead of his wants, desires….THAT IS A MAN!!!

It is NEVER too late nor is your little girl ever too old to read this story and have the message strongly ring in her heart what the bible verse above teaches about TRUE LOVE!!!

ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

Hugs, prayers, blessings…
~Kelly 🙂

Dynamic Daughters: Breakfast Pizza!

GENESIS 1:27,31…
GOD CREATED PEOPLE IN HIS OWN IMAGE; GOD PATTERNED THEM AFTER HIMSELF; MALE AND FEMALE HE CREATED THEM…THEN GOD LOOKED OVER ALL HE HAD MADE, AND HE WAS THAT IT WAS EXCELLENT IN EVERY WAY.

“A healthy self-image is seeing yourself as God sees you – no more and no less.”
 – Josh McDowell

I have a very picky eater!  But as I have posted before, I refuse to create food as a battlefield!  Thus, I choose to find ways to nurture our relationship, nurture our health, and respect each other!

My amazing warrior girl LOVES pizza and muffins!

I have been on a quest for the last year to create whole, real food, nutritious baked goods and pizza that she really enjoys and doesn’t ask for the bakery or takeout!

Today I share with you a yummy Breakfast Pizza that became a huge hit for her.  It was a wonderful Friday dinner for us since we have committed as a family to abstain from meat on Friday’s as our way of reflecting and remembering the amazing sacrifice Christ made for us.

BREAKFAST PIZZA

I used a small cast iron skillet for this one. 
 I think it was the little 5 inch one!? 
 I whisked up 3 eggs
 with about 1/4 cup of bone broth,
 1/4 cup of coconut milk, 
1 tsp of garlic powder.  
I put a heaping tablespoon of coconut oil in the pan on medium heat. 
 Pour the eggs into the pan. 
Once I saw it getting firmer around the edges and the bottom…
I then transferred the whole pan into the oven at 350 degrees…
 for about 5-10 minutes.  
Basically until I saw it getting firmer. 
Before it browned I pulled it out.  
That is when I put the organic pizza sauce, or one I have made from tomato paste and seasonings, 
sprinkled with cheese, 
put back into the oven until the cheese has melted to satisfaction.

And there you go…add whatever toppings you want!  
For me I put olives, mushrooms, spinach, peppers….lots of yummy-ness!

How does this nurture my daughters soul?  
She sees me wanting to  create things  she enjoys eating and is still nutritious for her.  Because I know the more balanced I can help her keep her hormones, the easier this roller coaster of pre-teen and womanhood will be!  (Check out Dr. Sara Gottfried’s HORMONE RESET DIET, to learn more about how we as women can understand our hormones better, thus being able to help our daughters understand the hormones in their bodies!)

Thus, this meal will give her great protein to satisfy and keep her insulin balanced.  All the different healthy fats in it will create a satiety to help think clearer.  And the whole experience is enjoyable!

Blessings, prayers, and hugs always,
~Kelly 🙂

Dynamic Daughters: "Soul Surfer"

FEAR NOT!!!

Check out this link in ALL scriptures relating in not fearing!

My favorite one I lean on a regular basis is:

Psalm 56:3
WHEN I AM AFRAID,
 I PUT MY TRUST 
IN YOU!!!

In the movie “Soul Surfer”…I remember the conversation the parents had in the car after they got home form the hospital…

The dad ponders…what now?  The mom reminds him, just like when they brought home their first baby, they knew nothing, so they took it one day at a time, and they learned together.

I think the largest challenge with raising a daughter, a child, is to not give into fear.  Don’t fear the unknown.  Instead embrace it.  Feed your mind with as much great material but when your daughter throws you a curve ball don’t run from it.  Face it had on…even ponder if it’s something that needs work on within your own self; and be honest with her always!  Don’t’ avoid the tough questions.  If you show her you’re human and vulnerable, she will come to you even more.

ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

Hugs, prayers, blessings…
~Kelly 🙂

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