Friday {Family}

Yesterday’s repost had me thinking…

Friday’s…family….first!


  It’s the first Friday of the month.  My daughter and I join another family where we do service to connect with home bound people to bring them groceries as well as bringing them human contact….connection!

Who are you going to connect with today that isn’t on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, any social media?!  But instead face to face.  

Let’s be each other’s accountability partners in this mission to start connecting more face to face  with others. 

So let’s oil up, pick up the phone, and go grab some tea in this Family First {face to face} Friday!

How are you going to spend your Friday? Family? Face to face? Or Facebook?

Sit with this….pray about this….write about this….share and connect with me below!

Many hugs and blessings dear followers…family….friends….

~Kelly ūüėė

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick 

To Tech or Not to Tech….

I have been pondering a great deal recently on how much TIME we waste on technology and devices.¬† Even (gasp) me here on my blog.¬† LOL….Actually I don’t see this so much as a time waster because it is my “art”, my craft, my way to relax…..I am journalling….just for anyone to read…..why….well because I know it is what I was called to do.

BUT.…..I have to always remember what is my priorities…..what comes first?!¬† My vocation of wife with the calling of being mother and teacher.¬† Thus any gifts and talents and rest time must be balanced and put into perspective.

As I eluded yesterday about my cousins….I love how they truly unplug.¬† They aren’t a “slave” to the next text coming in……or latest posting on facebook.¬† They understand GOD created us to be connected physically to one another.

Now I KNOW so many of US are going to argue…..BUT I AM CONNECTING to others that I would have never connected with or even known otherwise if it weren’t for social media.¬† I am being able to connect and help people in ways that were never possible.¬† YES AND NO….is what I say.¬†¬† We can all rationalize and justify our over use of technology….but it is just that…..EXCUSES……because WE CAN SURVIVE WITH OUT IT!

GASP….DOUBLE….TRIPLE GASP!

I know I know….so many are going to say….no we can’t.¬† Take even the social media aspect out of it….what about shopping….banking….corresponding….information……

All those forms of doing are still available without technology…..actually going into a bank…..into a store….the post office…..the newspaper……

Another argument can be well those are all a form of technology.¬† Yes I guess so because technology is about progression….improvements…..

BUT how far is too far.

Those are the questions I ponder.

Thus this month I am going to really reflect on my computer use.¬† How much of it is “robbing, cheating” my family out of me time!”¬†¬† How much of my social media time is taking away from my first responsibilities and priorities.¬† And how much of it is taking me away from stuff I would really rather being doing anyways but I am willing to be a sheep and follow the crowd instead of saying you know what I REALLY DON’T CARE!!!

Those are my thoughts…..maybe this month I will just spend time here on my blog each day for a few minutes and then call my computer time good for the day.

Maybe this month I will be a better example to my daughter and say you know what all devices are turned off and put away from 9-3 and then 6pm til next morning.  Maybe the only window of time should be between 3pm and 6pm.

OH but Kelly how is anyone going to get a hold of you….your phone….well that’s something I will have to think about….and ponder….but tell me this how many of us go to our phone to check a message…..text…..and end up on facebook or email!?

Thus I ponder TO TECH OR NOT TO TECH!?

Have a fabulously blessed day!

Many blessings and hugs dear readers…..family….friends….
~Kelly ūüôā

BALANCE

Facebook…twitter…Pinterest…Google+…all social media….email…computer searching…blogs…electronics….etc….

It is all about BALANCE!

If there is anything I have learned (again…lol…you would think I could figure some of life’s lessons out by now) it is about balance.

I have really enjoyed knowing that FB isn’t an option…it is freeing. ¬†Yet, I have missed being able to just touch bases with a few of my friends during the week. I know this is their mode of conversation and I don’t want to miss out on saying hello.

I also find myself thinking about a recipe I want to share on my Food~Fitness~Faith private group.  Or I read a great article about daughters and want to share it with the Dynamic Daughters private group.

And an interesting thing I realized even though I was being much more productive with house work in the morning without going to FB and not burning up my reading time or lesson planning in the evening….I was transferring some of the time to trying to figure out Google+ for my blog. ¬†I was using email even more.

Balance…that is what any and all of it is about.
NO different than treats, alcohol…exercise…sleep….work…play….etc.

We can’t feast on cake all day. ¬†Just like we can’t drink every night (or shouldn’t). ¬†We can’t work 20 hours a day and think we won’t suffer from it.

BALANCE!

Thus what I can take from my FB experiment is this:

1.  I will make sure house hold stuff is completed and checked off in the morning before I hop on to FB or any media or search or even writing for my blog or Examiner and before I wake up my daughter.

2.  I will not do any of it during learning and household hours.

3.  I will make sure if I am taking a break from a task that I time myself and respect the timer when it goes off.

4. ¬†I will ensure my media time is productive…making connections…loving….not just random reading….and scrolling for lost minutes on end!

Balance with boundaries…self-control…and discipline…that is what life is truly all about!

I love how life constantly gives us opportunities to always grow and learn!

Blessings and hugs to all!
~K ūüôā

Many Many Many thoughts on Monday!

Okay so my mind is swirling with a million thoughts I want to share with everyone, anyone on this Monday! ¬†Therefore….this journal…blog…thought entry might just be all over the place….so beware!

1st:
The discovery of scheduling a posting was quite interesting last night…thus the 8 am posting to see if it really went out when I was writing and researching at midnight last night :)….I know I know I know I should have been asleep but at least I actually respected my need for sleep and didn’t get up until 8 am!

2nd:
I was listening to the podcast of Balanced Bites #102….and I loved the advice given to a post partum woman who was trying to loose her pregnancy weight. ¬†How she was being basically too hard on herself. ¬†One of the ladies quoted another ladies posting on her blog/site about how she strives to work with her body. ¬†And what she eats she makes a conscience decision. ¬†Thus eliminating any emotional baggage. ¬†If she eats a piece of cake she says: I am going to eat this cake and know that it may make me feel not so great…or I know it has no value but I will enjoy this with my child. ¬†But if she thinks she is going to turn to it because of an emotional thought or whatever, then she does not eat it. ¬†She doesn’t eat or do anything that is going to create guilt or emotional baggage.

I LOVE THAT! ¬†Mostly because that is how I strive to live….even more so this last 3 years since I have found my wonderful new lifestyle!

Here is a very real in time example….I enjoyed watching a movie yesterday with my wonderful daughter. ¬†She wanted popcorn….I love popcorn. ¬†I have wonderful organic popcorn that I can pop for her fresh and put coconut oil on it…sea salt…and she loves it that way! ¬† BUT it is a grain….I made a conscience decision that I would eat some of it with her….

Did I pay for it? ¬†Oh yes…I within 30-45 minutes felt the gas swell my belly….it hurt soooo bad…..and today my knees are swollen and really really really hurt….but I don’t do it often….was it worth it? ¬†Yes and No! ¬†Worth knowing that my daughter felt joy and fellowship…no cause I hurt…..but I also know I will get it out of my system with patience…..BUT it did actually encourage me to search for other Paleo’s who may have some alternative suggestions for popcorn lovers! ¬†(This is probably the only grain that I really love and miss!)

I found some really fun recipe ideas with cauliflower….you must do a pintrest search!

3rd:
I love homeschooling….I love unschooling….I love Charlotte Mason….I love the phases and ideas and concepts behind the Classical style of education….I LOVE LEARNING with my daughter!

We had such a wonderful day of learning! ¬†It got me to thinking….why do we think everything has to be separating? ¬†Subjects? ¬†Life? ¬†It is so funny because it is probably why I lean more toward Charlotte Mason and Unschooling styles because I don’t see Math as just 1+1=2…..I see: ¬†if you buy this for this amount and that for that amount then you spend xyz….and that leaves you with “abc” ¬†from your budget….where do we want to put the remainder? ¬†In this fund, that savings, this toy…??? ¬† Or what about how did this historical event relate to our faith time line, and how about lets write this bible scripture to then edit…critique and work on our Language Arts!

It all is related….it all works together rather than separate!

Which brings me to…

4th:
Why I think it is impossible to separate our FAITH…FOOD…FITNESS….AND EVEN OUR FINANCES…OH AND WHAT ABOUT FUN….oh yeah and FAMILY!!!

It’s impossible….because each affect (yes affect…influence) each other….

I love how if I am truly thinking about what God would want me to do than I am going to take care of my body physically and mentally….and that means not going to any extremes. ¬†I will not be lazy with it and allow it to become unhealthy….but on the flip I will not become so obsessive and legalistic that I strive for vanity and appearance….which then in turn becomes about our finances….in how much are we willing to spend to make sure we are healthy (with balance) and thus turning to real food….not quick fixes….or processed gunk!

5th:
I LOVE WHERE I AM AT IN LIFE!

I have such an interesting life story….mine isn’t necessarily any more special or scary or sad or horrific than the next person. But it is mine. ¬†Some of it is worse than someone else’s and better than another persons. ¬†BUT it is my story….and it is what formed me….it is how I am who I am today….AND I LOVE IT!

I love being able to see God do amazing things in my life and not get frustrated or angry at Him because of the bumps, challenges, learning lessons!

In the last 3 years I have challenged myself in more ways than I have ever in the past…and even had myself be my own lab rat to see how some things may react in my body and with my mind.

From how can IF (intermittent fasting) fit in with my paleo lifestyle… and to what extent….to supplementation….thus leading me to learn even more about quality of supplements….to if I even need supplements…to training a specific way to see if I can achieve a certain goal…to restricting calories and how does it make me feel….to losing and/or gaining 5 -10 lbs to see how it may or may not affect my run, my sleep, my mental health….

Which has all lead me to….

6th:
I love myself!

I love exactly where I am in life! ¬†I love being healthy. ¬†I love being aware and making conscience decisions about my entire health: mind, body and soul! ¬†I love knowing that I am okay with being Paleo…not eating bread, sugar, dairy, gunk….and drinking a glass of wine most nights the week!

I am way ok with having some softness around my hips and legs…I am okay with the wonderful laugh lines between my eyes and around my lips.

I am okay with not worrying about what is suppose to happen next week or even tomorrow.

I am okay with if someone wants to be angry or upset or even frustrated with me.

I was listening to a podcast (again from BalancedBites…hehe…and from Paleo Lifestyle and Fitness)…and I love how they encourage people (especially women) to love themselves! ¬†To quit critiquing those little minuscule flaws that ¬†no one else sees! ¬†To not be afraid of having some body fat….to not be afraid of having curves…to not be afraid of food….real food! ¬†To not put your adrenal glands through the ringer….and to possibly evaluate if you are under eating!

This topic is so dear to me because I see it over and over….throughout the years….

Even at my heaviest with all my health issues I actually really loved myself during that time in my life! ¬†I knew I was a child of God…I knew I probably needed to figure some things out with my health but I knew I was active….and taking care of myself to the best of my ability at that time. ¬†And I have learned so much…..

So no matter what I may be going through in life….whether it is challenging myself physically, mentally, spiritually I know God loves me thus I MUST LOVE MYSELF!

This brings me to my final random thought….

7th:
I have enjoyed the discipline of not allowing myself to get on FB during the week last week other than Sunday because I accomplished soo sooo much more in the morning than I probably ever have….

It is so easy to justify that I am posting on one of my private groups…I am helping spread good ripples…plant seeds….learn from others….be informed…stay in touch…..

But it can easily become one of those habits that you think your must post and share cause otherwise how are they going to know….or….what if I don’t read that one post then I won’t know….or that person will be mad at me if I am not on FB checking to see what they said or sent me…..

Have I missed being on FB? ¬†YES AND NO! ¬† I love the discipline of saying I’m not going there today….but I miss when I have an idea I want to share that I have to keep it to myself….but maybe that is the point?! ¬†Maybe not every thought we have is meant to be broadcast-ed.

SOOO….what is a girl to do who really actually is an introvert at heart….but feels God calling her to share things….to be open…honest…vulnerable….in hopes of helping others who may feel like they are the only one feeling what they are feeling or someone who really needs to hear or know something!?

BALANCE!!!  That is what it is all about!  BALANCE!!!

Blessings….hugs…prayers!!!

September Sunday!

I am beyond excited today!!!

It was extremely hard for me to contain myself to not get up and just start writing/blogging but I practiced some good discipline….lol….after all if I am spending all my time blogging well that sort of defeats my “fasting” from Facebook, right!?

Well today is September 1st! ¬†Thus the beginning of my new chapter…my new challenge…in life. ¬† I had a dear friend last week express how she loves how I am continually challenging myself. ¬†I laughed cause I am sure many people think I am just bonkers. ¬†But I can’t help it…it is my nature :)!

So anyone who is new to reading this…I have chosen to “unplug” from many modern conveniences during the month of September. ¬†The point of it is to challenge myself in re-evaluating time management, as well as true necessities in life.

I have many stores that are within a mile of where I live that allows me to truly get everything and anything I could possibly need to manage a month of responsibilities and then more. ¬†I can grocery shop, household needs, clothing, reading, spiritual….you name it I truly have it within arms distance.

Therefore, I cannot drive for any shopping this month. ¬† I decided to add the element of only getting onto Facebook but once a week on Sunday for approximately an hour ( a little in the morning….and any follow ups in the evening).

What’s my point….my purpose? ¬†My purpose is to slow down again….to remember there is a time, a place, a season for things.

I thought it was fitting for me since I just recently made some pretty big changes in my life that I will be sharing with you all over the next month.

I wanted to really start my new chapter with a renewed sense of time and needs.

Needs: ¬†about 3 years ago I did this whole purging of stuff from our home and in the process it was a wonderful cleaning of the mind. ¬†But just as prayer is a practice and discipline you must do each day to not get rusty, it is easy to find yourself starting to slip into old habits of holding on to stuff you really don’t need and/or buying stuff you really don’t need.

Thus, the purpose behind only walking is to examine while I am shopping I have to realize I have only a backpack….and how heavy do I really want to fill it….what in my basket is a true need and what is a want!

Time: ¬†We have become spoiled and taken it for granted that we can just jump into our cars and zip from this place to that place. ¬†And sometimes we get so caught up with going going going that we forget just how long it may take to do something or get somewhere….thus over budgeting our time. ¬†We all suffer from this. ¬†We add stress to our bodies, our minds, our souls. ¬†We take time from our kiddos….our friends. ¬† We become impatient with other people around us….less loving….less compassionate because by golly we have places to go, people to see, things to do!!!!

Thus, by walking it reminds a person: how bad do I really need to go to the store….how much time do I spend in the car zipping from store to store….and possibly not managing my time as well as I thought I was.

Both of these tie into the added element of Facebook. ¬† We all know FB can be a huge time sucker and it really isn’t a need….we can survive without it!

Do not get me wrong….I love being able to connect with dear friends, family on FB. ¬†I also enjoying reading about other like minded people with some of the things I follow on FB. ¬†But we can become obsessive and even egotistical when we spend too much time in anything that is that sort of setup of open dialogue. ¬†We can obsessively check who read a post. ¬†We can egotistically think we are the only ones who can offer certain thoughts, or wisdom, or information. ¬†It is always good to give ourselves a check and balance.

I am not sharing something that is foreign to anyone. ¬†I am just willing to be out here, a vulnerable, open book for all to see and read! ¬† NONE of us are perfect….and anyone reading this who may find themselves saying I don’t ever get obsessive or egotistical about my FB posting (or anything in life) is lying to themselves because we are all vulnerable to it. ¬†And we all need to check ourselves from time to time!

Okay well…..I think that is enough for now….I have the sweetest little girl who is ready for me to play with her! ¬†And that is one date I do not plan on being late for :)….

Blessings and prayers to each and everyone of you!

Blog at WordPress.com.

Up ↑