Body Armor…part 2…

I’ve been reflecting a lot about my Monday’s posting about Grapefruit Essential Oil and loving our body.  

Since I have committed to taking Jui Juitsu classes it has meant lots of self care and even more internal, spiritual and emotional growth.

In the past when I did something physical with people, groups, etc… I would find myself comparing my body to others and even to myself.  It would be a mental mantra of: I’m not strong enough, not thin enough, not fast enough, not this, not that.  I would become obsessed with having to be “perfect” physically in order to accomplish the goal at hand.  I also have limited myself in the past of doing something because my mind didn’t feel I was physically “perfect” enough….yet…..

I would go through the mantra of “if only….then…..”…..and it was always about my body.

I now know that it was related very much to my body dysmorphia.

When I decided to commit to Jui-Juitsu classes, not just the videos I’ve been doing for over 6 months, but to actually “roll” with others…..I was excited… still am.   Yet, as the day came upon me to take the class I found myself fearing I would get too sore for my auto-immunity….concerned it would not be what was right for my body….I was giving it some resistance.  So I took it to prayer.

Why Lord am I resisting this change in my life?  A change that I prayed about before and YOU expressed it was right me.  It was time.  It would not hurt me physically anymore than if I didn’t have an autoimmunity issue?  So why am I making excuses to not go?

And God’s response was clear, beautiful, and healing:  Physicality!  Body shame, body judgement, body tension, body disconnect!

I realized through prayer this was my next level of healing from my past that MUST take place!  This next level of healing was through this VERY PHYSICAL art.  It would help me overcome the body shame that had rooted deep within me since the age of 8.  This would give me the opportunity to dig deep to be present and expressive in my body.  And to FINALLY have contentment and balance in my very own skin.

You see with any disorder, disease, dysfunction…..the key is to find the CONNECT…..to remove the “dis”…..to leave you with ORDER, EASE, FUNCTION…..HEALING!!!

I found myself gravitating toward Pachouli Essential Oil this last month and I now know why!  It’s the oil of Physicality.  It supports individuals in becoming fully present in their physical body.  It addresses all the negative emotions I listed above and it brings about all the positive support of CONNECTING OUR BODY AND SPIRIT!!!  WOW!!!  This oil was MADE FOR ME!!!

How about you!?

How can you release yourself from shame, judgement, tension, all things related to obsessing about your physical body!?  Sit with this….pray about this…..write about this…..connect and share below with your thoughts, comments, insight!!

Blessings and hugs dear followers….friends….family….

~Kelly  😉

www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Body (Armor) Honor…

Today I have the great opportunity to share on a Facebook Group about the essential oil Grapefruit.  This FB group is a private group for oilers to receive continual help/support about using essential oils and so much more.  This particular group comprises of many up-lines in this fabulous doTerra family.  This group is meant to share and learn from many leaders.

One of the leaders created an opportunity for a different oil to be featured for 16 days in March.  The 16 oils were already selected.  And us leaders were asked to volunteer if so desired to do a FB Live about that oil on a specific day.  When I saw Grapefruit was one of the oils….I KNEW I HAD TO PICK IT!

Why?!

Grapefruit is the essential oil that supports my dysmorphia!  I have shared many times here with you all about my healing and understanding of body dysmorphia; how it is multifaceted with triggers and causes.  But since one of the aspects has to do with brain chemistry it is something that I must armor myself about each and every day!

I armor myself with affirmations.  I armor myself with looking directly in the mirror and saying I LOVE YOU….YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!  I armor myself with nourishing food that won’t cause hormonal fluctuation.  I armor myself with prayer and renouncing ALL negative thoughts that are not from God that try to seep into my brain.

And I armor myself with GRAPEFRUIT essential oil!

Even if you don’t have dysmorphia do you find yourself ever:

  • hating your body
  • obsessing about food
  • excessive dieting
  • eating issues/disorders
  • anxiety over appearance

Do you desire to:

  • respect your body
  • meet your physical needs
  • have body acceptance
  • have a healthy relationship with food

Then maybe just maybe Grapefruit Essential Oil is the oil that could provide some support with your prayers for HONORING YOUR BODY!

Have you used Grapefruit Essential Oil?  Do you struggle with loving your body?

Sit with this…..pray about this….journal about it!  And connect with me by sharing below!

Many blessings and hugs my dear followers….friends….family…

~Kelly 🙂

www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

Generational Healing…

What is generational wounds!?

My mom always had books about healing the family tree….or would talk about writing a book to heal the generations and for her children to be blessed….

I have always been exposed to the knowledge that generational stuff can be passed on.  Most of us think of it as temperaments, traits, character….even health.   BUT have you ever thought about spiritual stuff!?  Things like why do I have an anger within me that I have NO IDEA where it is coming from!?  WHY DO I FEEL xyz!?  And you have done digging, you’ve done healing, yet you just can’t put your finger on it!?   THAT’S GENERATIONAL JUNK IN THE TRUNK!

Thus I have been realizing that there is some serious generational stuff I must help my soul figure out to come to rest for the sake of myself as well as my future generations.

There are many generational things I think that need to be worked on but the ones that really stand out are:

1.  I must heal from the generational scar of not feeling worthy.  My mom has never felt good enough and because of that I have a tendency to let that manifest.  And I struggle with it….even though I KNOW IT IS NOT MY NATURE.  I KNOW IT IS NOT TRUE.  

2.  Body….my mom has NEVER liked how she looked.  She has never been satisfied with her body.  This has created an unrest in my body’s energy that was passed on to me from within the womb.  I was blessed enough to make sure that was not passed on to my daughter while I was pregnant with her.  I have always spoken loving thoughts about myself…..BUT my health stuff HAS brought some of this generational stuff to the forefront and I am needing to figure it all out.

Now understand….this is not to CALL my mom out….THIS IS TO BRING TO THE LIGHT WHAT NEEDS TO BE HEALED.……because when we keep things in the dark……it can’t grow….it can’t get stronger…..it can’t HEAL!!!

This journey of life is amazing…..and if we are willing to speak out and do the hard stuff then life is SOO MUCH MORE AMAZING AND PEACEFUL!!!

Many blessings and hugs dear readers….family….friends…
~Kelly 🙂

Swirling Sleep

My brain was swirling with ideas last night!  Oh my goodness!  I did get to sleep pretty good, but I did do lots of dreaming of an idea I have had for quite a while for women.  But this idea has been refining and getting clearer.

I love love love my daughter….and I love love love taking care of ourselves…..and I love love love sharing with others what I learn about health, nutrition, faith, etc…..

But what I love most of all… that has been a fire within my soul since I knew I was pregnant with my daughter… was empowering and training my daughter as she grew up to LOVE LOVE LOVE herself.  I remember all the questions she has ever asked…and still ask about her body, about herself, about God, about everything.

I have ALWAYS wanted her to feel so comfortable in her skin that she knows GODS love is SO much more important than anyone’s (especially societies) view on our looks!

I have ALWAYS wanted her to take care of her body nutritionally and physically so she can do the works GOD asks of her now and in the future.

I have ALWAYS wanted her to understand how we as women are uniquely and divinely made.  How our femininity is not a tool or a weapon to be objectified but an amazing power to be respected and protected.

I think I have been doing a pretty good job at teaching her all these things.  BUT I know I still have lots of work…..because I still have so much work on myself!   And that is good!

I have always believed mothers and daughters are connected on a level most people cannot possibly understand.  But with that, us mothers have a huge responsibility to not pass down baggage to our daughters.  I purposefully positioned my heart and soul on that mission the moment I had her.

So what I have realized I really really feel driven to do in any spare moment I have (lol!!!)….is to have gatherings with other women, moms……sharing the ways we can raise our daughters to be warrior women in the topics of: self love, health, nutrition, self care, modesty, changing hormones, our femininity, our sexuality, the tough stuff like eating disorders, depression, and soo much more!

I want to gather with other moms and women to share how some of these areas may need to be something we work on ourselves as well in order to model it well for our daughters.

I want to gather with other warrior women with the format idea of presenting a topic, sharing my favorite resources, how I have maneuvered things thus far and my plans/thoughts in the later years,  how life/society can influence our thoughts and choices, share my own life experiences with each of the topics, and then discuss, share, and learn from each other.

I started out last week with some very specific thoughts and dates with it….just as I have with many brain inspirations I have had in the past…..but I am learning to be still with God and listen…..but also to not procrastinate and use “listening” or “waiting for the right time” to be an excuse for fear….fear of failure….fear of the unknown….fear of…….who know!!?!?

Thus I will let this resonate within me a few more and then take action because I KNOW action is what GOD is asking of me right now….NOT sitting and waiting!!  ugh…lol…..

Have a glorious day…..and if there are any wonderful warrior women out there that this resonates within you please share!  I would love to know if you would be interested in having tea with me :)…either virtually or face to face!

Blessings always,
~Kelly 😉

PS….if you haven’t checked out or heard of the podcast I have a screen shot of….you really should she is amazing!!!

Dynamic Daughters: Ascending into Greatness…Glory…Girl Power!

I believe in God, the Father Almighty, 
Creator of Heaven and earth; 
and in Jesus Christ, His only Son Our Lord, 
Who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried. 
He descended into Hell; the third day He rose again from the dead; 
He ascended into Heaven, and sitteth at the right hand of God, the Father almighty; from thence He shall come to judge the living and the dead.
 I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy Catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body and life everlasting. 
Amen.



The Apostle’s creed is one of the many prayers that reminds me how beautiful I am! Today we celebrate the Ascension  of Christ into Heaven.   As you have any struggles in your life lean on this amazing prayer to remind you that Christ did all He did for us so we too can ascend from the depths of our own sins, fears, weaknesses….and so much more!

Thus I wanted to follow up from last weeks posting about Dysmorphic Disorder.  I wanted to share with all of you why I am so passionate about it!

Dysmorphic Disorder is one of the many things that have molded me to be the WARRIOR WOMAN I am today!

Growing up I always knew my minds eye about my body wasn’t quite right but I trusted and had faith that what I “saw” was not true.   I trusted that God doesn’t make junk.  but….it hasn’t always been easy.   Even with a great faith and great trust and belief…I still would have moments. 

And still do from time to time…the difference is now being 41….the moments are so far and few in-between than what they were when I was 13…15…17….21….25….30….

How have I survived it? 

 I trust…I constantly  rely on my faith.  
 I constantly am digging into my faith and growth to make my armor that much stronger. 
So what does it feel like for a person with dysmorphic disorder?
This is what it always has felt like for me….like I mentioned in previous post every person who has this has a different degree.  I am blessed and fortunate to not have it so severe that it prevents me from wanting to live life to its fullest.   But it does have is beautifully blessed challenges.  
I have always chosen to see the blessing behind it rather than the burden.   I believe it is how I have grown stronger in my faith.  It is truly a huge reason why I committed to never ever speaking negatively about myself or even think negative thoughts about self with having a daughter. Especially with knowing it is something we can pass on.

Some of my youngest/earliest childhood experiences formed my disorder. (Read this post for earliest memory)…
Always being objectified has formed me to be who I am. And I am grateful for it because it has made me committed to teaching young girls to be strong…love themselves…to guard themselves…to learn about the true freedom of chastity and modestly….and the beautiful freedom we obtain when we learn theology of the body. 
What does dysmorphia look like for me:
Knowing that I am beautiful…I am healthy…yet having moments of not feeling just right. 
Moments come on even stronger when someone gives my body attention that I find especially objectifying rather than being looked as a daughter of Christ.  There is a difference between a chaste compliment and feeling like a porter steak.  
I remember when I was in the military not enjoying the attention my curves would attract.  I lived in an area that the curvier you were the better.   Women could truly feel comfortable in their own skin yet the attention made me want to have the least amount of curves possible.  
I actually never felt uncomfortable in my skin when I was really having problems with my hormones (my pcos) and I was at my heaviest.  When I looked in the mirror I saw a daughter of Christ.  But I also know that I had 7 solid years of strengthening my spiritual armor and living a true love of self for my beautiful little growing girl.  
Then I figured out some health stuff through a spiritual journey and lost 30-32 pounds.  I started to receive lots of attention for it that made me very uncomfortable.  Yet I still felt strong in my faith.  I still felt strong in my self worth and body image. 
Then I had my miscarriage. Between healing from that mentally physically, spiritually I started to throw myself into my passion of research and biohacking my health, nutritionally and physically. (More on biohacking in the future).  The problem  is as I got excited about each biohack and personal challenge the more I wasn’t guarding my self love as well.  I found myself starting to compare again and find value in the mirror and scale.  I pushed myself hard on my runs because it was a great mental and spiritual escape to heal from my loss. But it was also an easy way for me to unconsciously want to widdle away to nothing… to become that hanger for clothing.

As people would comment about how thin I was the more self conscious I became.  The more I wanted not be noticed.  After my hysterectomy I probably pushed myself my hardest  because after all if I couldn’t have any more children what did it matter what I looked like.  I became so lean that I could have been in some of those competitions Maddy Moon did and talks about….but it wasn’t what my body wanted to naturally be.  I may have looked “good”…but I wasn’t healthy…Mind, Body, or Soul!!!

The stresses of the last 5 years are what led me on my journey of adrenal fatigue and on this… journey of being even stronger mind body and soul than I ever have been in my life.  
When I started doing exercises body weight training to specifically start rebuilding my bone density and muscle growth/strength I would have moments of not liking what I was seeing.  After all I got use to an unrealistic 97 pounds for my body.  I was born to lift heavy.  I was born to be strong.  I was born to be me…I was born to love myself in all sizes all shapes…all seasons of life.

This is where GIRLS GONE STRONG has been amazing for me!  Reminding me how beautiful we all are.  Reminding me to walk the walk I talk!

So what does my dysmorphic look like for me today at 41?
I look in the mirror and smile!   I ignore whatever chemical imbalance is trying to lie to me…If a negative image is conjured from a past hurt or comment I say I forgive and pray the Lord’s Prayer with great compassion….
I think age and my spiritual life has given me a great gift to realize and know I am more than the sum on that scale or that distorted clown mirror that sometimes likes to rear its ugly head!   I am more!!!
With adrenal fatigue I have had to really learn how to nurture and love myself even more.  I have had to really tap into understanding that my mind body soul health is more important than looking as ripped as I possibly can.  That I am judging myself when no one else around me is.  It is truly in my head and I have let it go.  
As my beautiful daughter is budding into a young lady I am so grateful for God and His continual work on me.  

He shows me how to grow, learn, and heal.  

Therefore giving me the opportunity to be the best example to my daughter of what it means to be a wonderful warrior woman.  
ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

hugs, prayers, and lots of blessings,
~Kelly 😉

Dynamic Daughters: Understanding Dysmorphic Disorder

Dys-what?

Okay so here is a summary of all I have learned….and I am going to highlight specific aspects and explain why….but if you want to understand this disorder even more there are lots of great resources out there.  And I will give you the the whole MIND, BODY, SOUL….connects at the end of this post.  But for now…..

Dysmorphic Disorder:

(follow the above link to get the full details….but below is a summary)

A type of chronic mental illness.  The individual has a perceived flaw that is either minor or totally imagined.  The point is they obsess over it.  They obsess over appearance and body image for hours a day.  This obsession impacts daily decisions.  There is never a satisfaction with their body.  They seek procedures: minor or major, to “fix” these flaws.  They may lean on excessive exercise.

Just some of the symptoms…

preoccupied by appearance
extreme self-consciousness
frequent examination of self in mirror or avoid mirrors
believe others notice you in a negative way
avoid social situations
excessive grooming
compares self to others
don’t want to be in pictures
obsess over specific body parts: face, hair, skin, breasts, muscles…etc

Causes:
Brain differences (structure or neuro-chemistry)
Genes – more common in a person who has a family member who has this condition.
Environment – life experiences, culture

Risk Factors:
This is just a short, very slimmed down explanation….
Some of the factors that increase risk of developing or triggering condition include:

relatives with disorder
life experiences: childhood teasing, trauma
personality traits
societal pressures or expectations
having another mental disorder such as anxiety or depression.

***Dysmorphia usually starts in adolescents and it affects men and women.

Why does this all matter to me?

I see more and more young women being bombarded by social media’s imagery of what a woman “looks like”….and how we “should” look like!

Even though we KNOW that there is airbrushing involved…there is some extreme things that are done…..and that the magazines, movies, shows, commercials….represent a very small percentage of the population….we are talking like less than 10%.

I recently read/heard that genetically speaking…there is only 1% of women who come by thigh gap naturally….born with it.

YET WE ARE OBSESSED WITH IT….all others who obtain in….do it at great costs…..

And further it is destroying the self-esteem and self-image in our young girls!

Which brings me back to Dysmorphic Disorder!

It is real…it has ranges, just like many other mental disorders.  Just like a person who may manage many other mental disorders, or a person who compensates with other mental “handicaps” of sorts….

Thus a person can have more severe cases than others….some may not have bouts come on all the time or infrequent.  Yet it is always there in the background.  It is how a young girl nurtures herself, and manages her daily stresses, daily influences that will make all the difference in my opinion.

Things that can help a young lady is to be in tuned with herself and admit when she needs help.

She needs to ask herself: how can I help myself?  Do I need to seek treatment? Or is this something I can manage with the help of a great confidant or support system?

Lifestyle/home remedies that can help:

Taking supplements/herbs that support the serotonin levels.
Learn more about the condition.
Pay attention to warning signs.
Avoid situations, even people that my trigger bad self talk.
Avoid: food, alcohol, drugs….substances that are going not support a nurturing mindset.
BE ACTIVE.  Yoga, walks, sprints, HIIT….are all great ways to keep the mind clear.

Other ways to support yourself/cope:

Write in a journal.
Don’t isolate yourself.
Stay healthy.
Read self-help books.
Join support groups.
Stay focused on goals.
Learn relaxation/stress management.
Don’t make important decisions when feeling despair/distress.

Prevention may not be possible but identifying if you are at risk and learning to truly love yourself early on can help.

Here are some great articles/self help/resources…
 to love self better:

Seriously, Let’s End the War with our Bodies

Understanding Body Types: How our Genes are a factor

A strong/amazing Woman not caring what Society Says she should LOOK LIKE

Remember…
ARMOR YOUR DYNAMIC DAUGHTER WITH FAITH, HOPE, AND LOVE….TO FEED HER MIND, BODY, AND SOUL….TO BECOME THE WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN….SHE IS DESTINED TO BE!

hugs, prayers, and lots of blessings,
~Kelly 😉

Hormones: The Mind, Body and Soul connection!

As I have been reading Sara Gottfried’s book “The Hormone Cure”, I reflect and think….ugh..

Why did I not have this book when I was a young adult not understanding why my periods were more painful than all my other friends would describe…!?

Why did I not have this book when I was going through all my infertility issues?!

Why did I not have this book when I would look in the mirror and my past self would tear myself apart even when my body was perfectly normal, perfectly healthy?

Why did I not have this book when I just didn’t understand how my heart knows one things, my mind is thinking another, and my body is totally doing it’s own dance!?

BUT….I do have this book now….and it has given me great insight on how to continue to manage my hormones.  Really how to help my mind, body and soul travel through this amazing journey of life!

I really loved how when I looked up some of the hormonal issues I have endured with for years, such as PCOS, the book really explained some of what my mind was doing because of my hormones!  One of the really eye opening and freeing revelations was how one of the side effects of PCOS is a distortion of body image.  That even when a person looks in the mirror and knows they are beautiful because God made them…..that even when a girl, a woman, is feeling great about herself….that her hormones will betray her by sending signals to the brain trying to convince your heart that you are less than….that you are not beautifully made!  

It was interesting reading how the studies and years of recording/researching has been able to support this information.

Thus, my point is girls, women, who find themselves being overly critical of themselves….being unloving of self…should evaluate if they are possibly dealing with some hormonal issues that are influencing their negative self-talk!

For me, this realization is freeing because even as I have always tried to have loving self-talk, it has been a wonderful journey to get to where I am at, but I still have days or moments.  Reading the science behind it helps put just one more plate of armor up to ward off dark thoughts.

After all dark thoughts are NOT from God….He loves us EXACTLY AS WE ARE.   Thus, when you find yourself being negative about yourself….stop….shout out “Go away Devil…there is no room for you in this ‘home’….only GOD can reside here!”

I believe that everything is connected: mind, body, soul!  Therefore in this situation, this string of thoughts, as I am sharing about hormones….some may say well it is just about my hormones, what does my soul…God have to do with it?  I say everything!  I say we can’t have one without the other.  Thus if there is light in this world…there is dark…but that’s a conversation for another day…..today I will stay with hormones…with loving self….with making the connection between the two in a whole…mind, body, soul perspective!

Do you think my thoughts are extreme? Overzealous? Over exaggerated?  I would love to hear your thoughts.  

Til next time….remember life is an amazing journey….love EVERY aspect of it!  Love every challenge,   Love EVERYTHING about YOU!

Blessings,
~Kelly 🙂

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