#Me Too…

I am terrible with keeping up with what’s going on in the media, news, etc….  I have NO IDEA the who what where when why of the #me too.

What I do know is I saw it on a loved ones FB page and I chose to also share it.  After all, I know God has called me to make my life an open book for all.

Anyone who stumbles across my facebook page or here on this blog will learn 3 things about me:

  • I am passionate about empowering women.

  • I share about the connection of traumas and health.

  • I connect essential oils to ALL aspects of life: mind, body, soul, spirit.

 

 

 

I imagine the purpose of the #me too,  is to create awareness….I get it.

BUT….I think the #ME TOO….needs more!  It needs a voice, encouragement, details, action!

What do I mean?

I have learned over the years the more I talk openly about my sexual traumas, abuses, and choices (not every cruel detail, but not so vague as just a ME TOO)…..the more I speak about it… the more I heal.  Each time its a little different, depending on the circumstances, the person, will depend on the detail, the angle I recall.

Every time I am asked to speak at a women’s event to share my testimony.…it’s empowering…freeing.

Thus the enemy loses his clutches. His lies have less to no impact.  I am able to walk out from under the shadow of shame, feeling dirty, ugly, and so much more.

There are many things women CAN do to empower themselves to prevent and/or heal.

In addition to:

  • Prayer
  • Oils
  • Tapping
  • retreats
  • splankna
  • therapies

There are TWO things I think are absolutely a bedrock for women to feel empowered:

TOB:  The more a woman knows and understands the beauty of her human sexuality, the less likely she will fall for the lies to compromise her dignity.  When we are weakened in our mind about our body we are weakened in our spirit and body.  This makes us vulnerable to be used and abused.

BJJ: There is something very spiritual and empowering with this form of exercise, martial arts.  Short version you become VERY COMFORTABLE, EMPOWERED, IN THE UNCOMFORTABLE.

I have always loved intense workouts.  Having weight lifted since I was 18.  I love the  force of moving something; pushing my muscles and body in ways that I didn’t think possible.  I’ve loved the fluid stretching and core strength from Pilates.  I relish the stamina I receive from walking, biking, and when I use to run.  They have all gained me confidence in my mind body soul spirit journey of loving the body I’m in.  They have nurtured my healing and finding peace with my past….BUT….not ONE of them prepared me for protecting me.

I have taken defense classes and dabbled with other martial art modalities in the past….but NONE OF THEM….have what I believe BJJ has (in my opinion)….

When you train in BJJ: whether its with a video, a gym, with a gi, no gi, competition, no competition….each form of BJJ teaches you to find peace and confidence in being comfortable in the uncomfortable.

Let me explain….

you are laying on the mat, a person has you pinned….they are 2-3 times your size…sweat dripping on you…they are breathing heavy in your face….

you have a choice:

  • Panic, struggle, exhaust yourself…or…
  • pause…dig deep within to WAIT….find your opening….ESCAPE!

Because YOU CAN….YOU CAN DEFEAT GOLIATH!

It’s the same as the bible story….YOU OUTSMART THEM!

BJJ is not about brute force….it’s art….strategy….chess….

OWNING YOUR SPACE….confidence in your skin!!!!

When you combine TOB AND BJJ…

  • You can’t help but experience the amazing power of being A WONDERFUL WARRIOR WOMAN!
  • You can’t help but heal from trauma.
  • you can’t help but empower yourself/armor yourself against hurt, pain, trauma.

This duo has something for every woman.  I love that they have been there for me through my healing. 

I am no where near where I would like to be with BJJ….heck I’ve been an “in and out” student of it for a little over a year now but I see the power of it.  I have to be mindful about my inflammation and go slower with it than I would like but I KNOW it’s amazing power (mind, body, soul, spirit) that I don’t want to give up on my BJJ journey.

I love that this duo is powerful for my daughter. 

My prayer is that she WILL NEVER…

be a woman posting #ME TOO!!!

How about you?  What’s going to be your #hashtag going to read?  #HOPE? #EMPOWERED? #HEALED? #BELOVED? #CHERISHED #NOT A VICTIM? #WARRIOR

Sit…pray…oil up…tap…..and connect to your amazing healing and health of your mind, body, soul, spirit journey!

hugs and prayers always dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

Fear Your Dreams

Pursuing dreams and goals, they can be scary.

I have moments when I find myself falling into the temptation of fear.  It tries to mask itself with all sorts of tricks but ultimately it is fear.

Fear:

  • I won’t reach my goal.
  • I am going to neglect my family.
  • I’m not going to meet my daughters needs.
  • I’m being selfish.
  • I’m going to mess it all up.

But then I STOP…I reach for several oils.  I first use Forgive while I tap and pray.  I have God remind me He placed these dreams and goals in my heart and head because its HIS mission that He has placed there.

By me reaching these goals, I will be breaking the doubt and bondage of generational junk.

  • God is teaching me this is my path for Him and this path WON’T create division between me and my daughter or husband. 
  • He is showing me I don’t have to fear dreams and goals! 
  • I don’t have to fear my family will be hurt or angry with me.
  • I don’t have to fear I’m not equipped because HE HAS equipped me.

I am blessed to have the two greatest cheerleaders: my daughter and husband.  They don’t doubt what God is calling me to do…..and they DON’T ever feel like I put anything before them!

As a family we pitch in to take care of the house, each other, and we each pursue our individual dreams and goals together!

After I have oiled up, tapped, and prayed through all that I feel: Peace…Serenity.  I am able to relate to the serenity prayer in a deeper more meaningful way.

What do you need to relinquish…to find your Peace and Serenity?!

Sit with this….oil up….tap….pray….connect :)….

Many blessings dear beloved ones….

Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

 

I Love My Cop

Since I opened the door on Monday to share with you that my hubby is law enforcement.  I want to share with you something that I am most passionate about when it comes to law enforcement.

Their emotional well-being!!!

I remember when my hubby went through the academy one of the trainers suggested to all the “cops” to buy the book:  I LOVE A COP…..and have their spouse read it.

Well we did: buy it and read it!  Being a Sociology major with a concentration in Psychology and Criminology I knew I wanted to know even more how a cops mind works and how I as a spouse could support him.  This was one of the best books we ever read early into his career.

Some of my frustrations I have had over the years with all law-enforcement agencies is the lack of emotional/psychological support.  Oh sure if they get into a shooting they are required, mandated, to see the in house “shrink”.  But to just go see a therapist in house to keep the mind clean, to vent, to stay emotionally stable….well that is taboo.  It is something that could go into their records.  It is something that could effect advancements or opportunities within the job.

This is my interpretation:  We want you to open up and share with us your feelings when you have to take a life on the job, but don’t have feelings and emotions when someone cusses you out because you gave them a ticket.  Don’t have feelings when a drug bust could have gone wrong.  Don’t have feelings when you have to tell a mom that her 2 year old didn’t survive the accident.  Don’t have feelings….stuff…stuff….stuff them down!

We expect our law-enforcement officers to not have feelings….to be SUPER HUMAN…..or better yet not human really.  And the thing is they are.  They are just as much: mind, body, soul, spirit as you and me!

Now I know I am not going to be able to change the system the way it works currently in my life-time.  I totally do hope there will be a day that a police officer is able to go to and is actually required to see a therapist at least quarterly, in order to keep their emotions cleaned out.  But until that day happens, there are some things police officers CAN do to support their emotions.  There are ways they can recognize and acknowledge they MUST get that junk out!

Now prayer is helpful….going to church is extremely helpful…..exercise helps tremendously….but God gives us modalities and tools to help us with that prayer…to help these officers unleash these emotions so they don’t get locked inside and create more harm for them: mind, body, soul, spirit!

There are 3 things I would highly highly highly recommend an officer put into practice:

Essential Oils and Tapping are something an officer can do on their own and avoid the stigma.  But Tapping can also be helpful with a coach to work through some more difficult stuff or to get the hang of putting it into practice.  Splankna is something that is done with a practitioner but provides amazing clearing of emotions.

Just like prayer, exercise, healthy eating and sleep habits……using essential oils and tapping take time and practice to putting them into a daily routine.

But the question is this:  wouldn’t it be healthier for an officer who just encountered a rude person go to their patrol car afterwards and “diffuse” some oils in their hands, place the oils on acupressure points, and tap that negative emotion right then and there, rather than bottle it up and the next person who is a jerk to them maybe gets some of that anger or frustration.  Or worse they become disconnected from their family because they keep feeling and experiencing only the negative of the world.

Do you know a police officer in your life who could benefit from any/all of these powerful modalities?  Pray about it?  Share this information with them.  Encourage them to take their emotional health into their hands.

As always…..many prayers and hugs for all of you dear beloved ones….

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

***If you or someone you love would be open to learning about how essential oils and/or tapping can support their/your emotional and physical health please email me at kellyfrickconnect@gmail.com or you can private message me on Messenger from my Facebook Page at:  KellyFrick:Connect……1st calls are usually 30-40 minutes….totally free!

 

 

 

The Blue Line of Prayer

Last Monday as I read a blog post from one of my favorite bloggers, I remember smiling at the beauty of her words relating to the previous days evil events that took place in Las Vegas.

And then….I was saddened by her post later in the week.  How she had been criticized about what she had said.  Yet she took a gracious way of reminding us all that HE has UNFAILING LOVE FOR ALL OF US!!!

Including the shooter. (These are my words not hers!)

I am sure I TOO risk backlash from this statement….I am sure I risk others being ugly about it.

I want you to understand something though….I do not say this lightly.   I agree that what this shooter did was ugly….it was evil….but we must remember we were not designed for  evil.  We are pawns when it comes to evil like this.  It is extremely sad that this shooter allowed his sins, his weaknesses, to cripple him in a way that he gave way to being played by the enemy.

BUT…..God loves him the same way he loves you and me.  I totally understand this is hard for most people to digest….to stomach.  We want someone to blame, to hate, to curse for the hurting families.  Yet we forget we can pray for both!  We can pray for those who lost so much that dark day in Vegas…..AND….we can pray for the soul of that man.  Because his soul needs it.

Now I am going to shift gears on you for a moment but I promise, you will be able to see me connect the dots…

There are approximately 1 million law enforcement officers in our country out of approximately 323,000 million people.  So there are 1 million families that are close enough to understand the impact that this kind of evil has on the victims, the shooters, and the officers who put themselves in harms way.

Again I say….I DO NOT TAKE THIS LIGHTLY…..I am a woman who has stakes in this journey of life just like each of you.  I also have the perspective of being a wife of a law enforcement officer.

I know what it is like to hear about my husband putting himself in harms way to save others.  I know the toll it takes on his mind, body, spirit, SOUL when he has purposely put himself out there to seek out the evil to keep us safe.  I know the look of disbelief he will give me when I say there is more good than evil out there.

And I know my husband doesn’t always agree with my willingness to offer up prayers in the evening for men, like this shooter, when he (my husband) has just said prayers for all the victims and their families.

Here is the connection:  How are our hurtful words any different than pulling a trigger.  Again don’t yell at me…..but think about it…..a wound is a wound.  Those who wrote ugly things to this young girl because of her blog post were angry and hurt and wounded.  They chose to act before they used the amazing brain God gave them to do no harm.  They chose hate and fear instead of love and mercy.  So did that shooter.

The difference:  Vegas, there were true physical casualties.  BUT…..there ARE spiritual and emotional casualties of peoples hurtful words.  And we are SOO quick to dismiss that….to justify our actions and words out of righteous feelings.

God’s unfailing love is for ALL OF US!  He desires us to connect to HIM in all situations, all pain, all anger, all hurt.

So today…..before you choose to blast me for this posting….please reflect and pray about what healing needs to take place in your life?  Who has hurt you, that needs forgiving? You have you hurt that needs forgiveness?  Who needs unfailing love!?

If you find this difficult…..it’s okay….we are human!  The beauty of being human is we can use the tools God gives us to help us work out these feelings.  We can go to prayer…..meditation….scripture…..tapping (EFT)…..and essential oils!

May you find peace and hope in the middle of all this turmoil.

As always…..you are in my prayers and thoughts dear beloved ones….

Kelly 🙂

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

 

Seasons of Change

Change is in the air!

I’ve been reflecting on this fall and how our schedules have been changing!  I’ve been loving the idea of sitting on the couch, reading, writing, and drinking a cup of tea as I plan out all the fun Thanksgiving and Christmas plans, gifts, etc!  Which has me thinking…if I love sitting back in the evening checking up on reading blogs, Facebook, emails, and the newest magazine that came in the mail……well then you all probably do too ;)…..

We all make transitions, changes, and the key and challenge is to honor it.  To not force it but to also not ignore it.

I have realized I want to shift from writing in the mornings to writing in the evenings.  To shift from Wednesday and Saturday morning to Monday and Thursday evening.  Who knows it might be just right for this season in my life….in your life :)…..

I could buckle with fear and say to myself, “But everyone has gotten use to my routine of Wednesday and Saturday morning?  Will they want to read Monday and Thursday evening?”  “Will I lose you all?”  BUT THAT IS FEAR…..and I don’t live in the fear realm.

After all I would propose that the reason why anyone reads what I write is because they see the authenticity behind my words.  They hear my heart.  They feel my passion.  Well if I am transitioning in when I feel passionate about what I write then that is when I should write….correct?!  And if I force a writing schedule that doesn’t work for me anymore and is lacking authenticity, heart, and passion….well then I have lost my voice and I will lose you anyways!

So starting next week my postings will come out Monday and Thursday evenings!  Perfect for beginning our weeks and wrapping up our week to prep for some amazing family time for the weekends!

I think I will also be transitioning my Facebook Live’s….but that’s for another day to ponder….lol….

What have you been wrestling with as this fall season has fully arrived and is shifting our perspectives and schedules?!  Is there something you’ve been putting off to do?  Or something you have been wanting to change but been afraid to because it may upset someone?  It may feel weird?  Or it may be out of character of you?

Instead embrace the change!  Change allows our spirit to shift.  Allows our minds to sharpen.  And allows our bodies to be challenged.   Finally it opens our soul to the possibilities of soaring!

As always remember to always take a moment each day to….

…sit…pray…oil up…..and tap….:)

Many drops of blessings dear beloved ones….

~Kelly 😉

http://www.my.doterra.com/kellyfrick

PS….Wednesday evening 7:30 pm join me on Facebook at Kelly Frick:Connect for a Live event Connecting the Drops of our whole health: mind, body, soul, spirit through the amazing support of essential oils!

 

DEFINING MOMENTS

Sexual Traumas

Infertility

Miscarriages

Grandmother’s Death

Autoimmunity Issues

These all have been my focus to empower women to:

LOVE THEMSELVES

TO BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES

TO CARE FOR THEMSELVES

I finished a book recently that is a unique….a totally different way of looking at Hashimoto’s.  Most of the books out there approach it from the nutritional and lifestyle aspect of it.  There are some really great ones out there.  But NONE of them came from the aspect of healing from traumas.  Reading this book was like reading bits and pieces of my own life.  And you know what…..there is actually some studies out there showing the correlation…..basically what so many of us who have been diagnosed with Hashimoto’s have…..we are all connected in some common topics.  Topics like personality, traumas, etc.  I found this beyond fascinating.

But the one connection that compelled me the most was the correlation to sexual trauma.  There is a HUGE statistic showing this to be in the history of  most Hashimoto’s cases.

So when you hear sexual trauma what do you think!?

Rape….molestation…..harassment…..trafficking…..we think the really ugly obvious evils of it!  But what about the pat on the butt from a family member.  The too long linger of hands down a back from a “friend”.  The hug that presses in, in such a way that you feel like you need a shower.  What about the boyfriend convincing you that there is something wrong with you if you don’t do “some” things in the relationship.  What about the date who says you please me or I will take you home.  What about the generational abuse or sin you didn’t even know about that your spirit knew and was absorbing.

A sexual trauma is an affront on our true sexuality….how we were made and created to be!

The beauty of our sexuality has been under fire…..under attack from day one….literally….Adam and Eve.   Because of that we don’t see how the subtle “little things” really are lies….they ARE big things.

I remember so many moments in my life that I KNEW within me I was being “sexually assaulted” but the world viewed as just harmless pats, or humor, or part of the “real world”…..those are lies!  Because for every lie I believed led to me keeping my voice quiet…which led to what many view as “real rape”…..but rape is an assault on our sexuality.  Which let me to not loving myself…..and not making so great of choices…..which led to greater shame….which left me vulnerable to further sexual assaults….sexual traumas…..

Which brings me back to WOW…..if this beautiful little butterfly organ sitting on my vocal cords is trying to make a noise it must be for a reason!  How many women are afraid to speak up and even about a lude joke out of fear of offending someone or being considered a prude?!  I was one of those.  And that is wrong….we must stand up and say NO to any sexual offense.  And we know what they are!

So my defining moments of my health journey is definetly linked ot my history of sexual traumas and choices over the span of 20 years and I KNOW it is related to my health.  My beautiful butterfly finally said: enough….I will not be quiet anymore…..enough of the shame…..enough of the neglect….enough of the silence……

And thus my beautiful butterfly spoke: through my body….so my spirit could be heard and heal!

What is your butterfly saying to you!?

Sit…pray…write…oil up…tap…

Hugs and blessings dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

The Opposite of Love…

 

…is NOT HATE as so many of us would like to believe it is….

It is FEAR!

Trust me I have LOTS of experience in this area…lol….or not so funny really!!!

I had NOOO idea the journey I was going to take and learn about fear last year….after all I ALWAYS thought of myself as FEARLESS!!!  But some amazing things I have learned are mind blowing and SOOO relevant to this mind, body, soul, spirit connection and journey.

First, did you know that our brain (our mind) cannot hold love and fear in it at the same time (Dr. Caroline Leaf talks a lot about this in many of her books!)!?  So if we are fearing in our mind….how is this NOT going to effect our body….our soul….our spirit!?

Fear = irrationality =immobilizing us.

Why do you think Christ said soooo much: DO NOT BE AFRAID!  He KNEW how powerful fear can be and when we are living in fear we are not living in love!  But HE PROMISED us: I WILL BE WITH YOU!  He gave us this reassurance.

Fear says: flea, deny, hide, freeze, you are a failure, don’t commit, you are rejected……and so many more lies…..it can have a powerful hold on us because of the unknown!   It can cause us to build walls around us….to “protect” ourselves from all those lies!

But that’s what it is: a lie!  One great big huge horrible no good LIE!!!

We are all called to greatness!  When we push aside fear just as the disciples did, we are able to break free of the fear and fulfill our mission…our calling….our purpose!

What if the disciples had remained in fear?  Instead they felt the Holy Spirit breathe truth into them and remove the fear!

Instead we can cast out that fear, conquer that fear with: LOVE!!!

Love is the presence of God….love is GOD!  It is full of strength and courage!

Fear only takes….love only gives!

When we fear we forget: who made us, who loves us, what HIS PLANS ARE FOR US!  We become our own stumbling block.

What if today we truly embraced: mind, body, soul, spirit…..THE DIRECTIVE CHRIST GAVE US: DO NOT BE AFRAID!?!

Sit…pray…write….oil up….tap it away…

Many hugs and blessings dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

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Forgiveness {love}

There was a time in my past when I made a choice to allow words….hurt feelings…..to come between me and God!

How?

Because of how I internalized a conversation and allowed the negative lies to spin I chose to drink many many glasses of wine throughout the day.  Even knowing it would effect my health….even knowing it would prevent me from getting to Mass!

Now I could have stayed in that pain….those lies…and beat myself up even more with shame….and more lies from the Enemy….instead I picked myself up.  I turned to my amazing loving FATHER and asked for forgiveness….which I knew He already gave me….and I forgave myself.  That was the biggie!

In the past I would have taken it to confession but would have still beat myself up over it.  Well that is allowing the enemy to win.  He wants us to forget that our heavenly FATHER forgives us…..loves us….has open arms for us.  You see when we stay stuck in our own shame, hurt, pain….then we repeat the action, the sin, the negative…..and we create more shame…more hurt….more pain….and then we believe the lie that we are not redeemable!  AND WE ARE!!!

Next time you find yourself beating yourself up over:  too much spending, overeating, missing church, too much drinking…..STOP…..give it directly to GOD…..confess to it…..be honest out loud to yourself and to God……and CONNECT to HIS AMAZING LOVE AND GRACE!!!

Sit…pray…write…oil up…tap it away…

Many blessings and hugs dear beloved ones…

~Kelly 🙂

http://www.mydoterra.com/kellyfrick

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