My darling daughter asked me this question a few weeks ago….”How’s your Love Tank?”
I have raised her on many concepts but one of them is being in touch with how we give and receive love…..ie: our Love Languages. If you don’t know much about the 5 Love Languages you must check out Gary Chapman’s books….website.…everything by him!
Anyways….back on track…lol….
I realized…yes she was genuinely asking about me…..BUT she was also giving me a hint that HERS wasn’t doing so great!!!
I was able to reflect and realize that since we had set some pretty amazing financial goals as a family for 2019……well I had been cutting corners in lots of ways…..and excited about all we had accomplished already in January…..BUT….
The problem was……
My daughters TOP…..we are talking HIGH SCORING……top Love Language is: GIFTS!!!
Now some may have a misconception that those who have GIFTS as their number one love language are materialist or they need big things…..or lots of things…..
what they need are those random…..unexpected….truly ‘thought of them’ sort of things…..
That means when I am doing my grocery shopping and I see a treat I KNOW SHE WOULD LOVE…..I should throw it into my cart…..
It means when I am at the office store and I see a silly sticky note pad that I know she would just light up about……I SHOULD GRAB IT….
These things added up would amount to truly only a few bucks a week…..
BUT I became too focused on our 2019 financial goals….and being purposefully intentional to get our new year off to an amazing start that I overlooked the fact that I went from doing little things like that each week to NOTHING…..for almost 4 weeks…..
You might ask: WHAT THE HECK DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH!?
Since our true full picture health is: mind, body, soul, spirit connected…..WELL….
IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH OUR HEALTH…..AND IT HAD EVERYTHING TO DO WITH MY DAUGHTERS HEALTH!
When our love tank is filled up….we are more resilient to our mental chatter…..
We are able to think clearer about our physical choices. Things like higher vibration food…..movement and exercise that makes us feel alive. Better sleep…..less stress…..a better armor to physical, environmental, and emotional toxins.
And these all feed into each other….it becomes a cycle of worthiness….a cycle of what we think….we do….it forms our choices….forms our belief system….and then feeds back into our thinking.
Now sometimes we have to be purposeful in our food, exercise, and sleep choices to help our mental thought process….sometimes we have to just DO IT…..so our mind can be helped….
But can you see how it is a cycle of which came first: the better lifestyle choices or the better thinking…..that improved our health!? I think its a combination of both….
Yesterday I shared a video on just that…..worthiness….mindfulness:
I was super proud of her boldness….and willing to be vulnerable…..to reach out and in a gentle way let me know she was feeling depleted…..especially with all the other pressures going on in her sweet young life!
We corrected it…..had some super fun spontaneous shopping days….of really just going and being together and having tea……grabbing a few goofy things from the dollar section of a few select stores…..and just filling each other up!
I also didn’t forget yesterday when I was grocery shopping to make sure and grab this cute little container with some chocolates in it…..she loves chocolate…and she loves little containers…cost me $2….so worth filling up her love tank!!
So my question for you is: Have you noticed a loved one who has been acting a bit different…..maybe not quite themselves….and you can’t quite figure out why?
Maybe their LOVE TANK needs to be filled! Maybe their love tank is feeling a bit depleted.
Need some help figuring it out?
Here are some suggestions….
If a persons primary love language is words….and they seem to be more sensitive to your comments or suggestions recently…..it could be that you haven’t been giving specific encouragement recently to them. You either have just made a general compliment or have just kept conversation at a minimal.
***Try diffusing Lavender to create calm connected communication.
If a persons primary love language is time……and they start complaining you guys don’t do anything together….or acts like you are rejecting them when they make a suggestion to do something….then they are needing some serious one-on-one time……give them some true uninterrupted eye contact…..a walk…a cuddle on the couch.
***Try diffusing Ylang Ylang…sometimes we take life too serious and we need to connect with our inner child to take TIME to truly connect with our playfulness.
If a persons primary love language is service…..and they start really acting irritated about the condition of the house….or displeasure of things not being done for them….then they need to be poured into by asking what task you can help them with….what would help them best that day….actions speak very loudly to this person.
***Try diffusing Motivate to connect with the desire to serve one another well.
If a persons primary love language is touch….now we are NOT talking sexual touch….this is totally affirming non-sexual touch…..cuddles, hugs, holding…..ironically if your loved one normally is the one who reaches out for hugs and cuddles but has been resisting, pulling away, or becoming clingy then their love tank needs some filling up. Just so much as pausing in the middle of going about your routine can do wonders….grabbing them by the hands pausing and looking deeply into their eyes and say “can you use a hug?!….I would love to give you a hug!” It expresses to that person your respect for permission to enter their space as well as your desire to fill up their tank.
***Try diffusing Passion to create that warm connection with each other.
And if you persons primary love language is gifts….and they start acting like they never get anything….or get what they want….seem pouty and you want to respond back, “do you know how fortunate you are? How many other people, children would give to be in your shoes? How many people go without?”…..PAUSE….DON’T SAY THESE THINGS…..because they aren’t trying to be selfish…heck they aren’t being selfish…..they truly just need to be filled up….and it can be as simple as something as having them pick out a plant….or bring home that little something you saw them eyeballing a few weeks ago….or surprising them with fries (a sure winner to my daughters heart!! lol)
***Try diffusing Frankincense to connect with the ultimate gift giving of Christ.
As always….take a moment to sit….pray…tap and oil up….
Many blessings and prayers always,
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