How many of you LOVE this statement!?!?!
I don’t know about you but it just makes me feel all sorts of warm and fuzzy inside when a person says this to me! It really encourages me to want to open up to them and feel vulnerable. It causes me to stop and think oh yes this person REALLY LOVES ME because “they told me so!”…..
Okay so I know that was all a bit passive aggressive…lol….but there is a point…
We live in a world where we are bombarded with EVERYONE’s opinion and EVERYONE is willing to speak (with their one mouth)….but NOT LISTEN (with their TWO ears!)…..
Recently a situation took place in my life that really rocked my world for about 20 minutes….but once it was all said and done….I realized the reason I was so shook up was….
- Not because I was going to have to deal with the work the situation caused…
- Not because of all the tapping and oiling up I was going to have to do to eleviate the negative experience….
- Not because it happened at all….
No what rocked my world that truly brought me to tears was the FEAR of HEARING:
I TOLD YOU SO!!!
I DID NOT want to hear those words come from people who claim to love me, in a time where I felt most emotional and vulnerable, when I NEEDED LOVE AND COMPASSION MOST!
What many of us don’t realize and don’t think about when those words are said is….
- The person receiving that negative statement already is internally beating themselves up about whatever it is.
- They already are reassessing how something could have been done differently.
- They are trying to process and heal possibly from an experience.
- And they need love and support more than ever.
- They need to feel safe not scrutinized.
Now since we can’t prevent others, especially “loved” ones from using hurtful verbiage toward us we can do the next best things:
- We can pray.
- We can journal.
- We can tap.
- We can use specific oils.
- And we can forgive: them and ourselves!
All of these release the negative emotions surrounded from the experience as well as the hurtful words. It allows us to not hold those negative emotions, negative currents of energy to get locked into our physical body to cause any physical harm.
So what DID I DO!?
When the incident occurred the first emotion that popped into my head I started tapping on it right there at the location. I didn’t care what people thought as they observed me. What’s awesome about tapping is in a public situation you don’t have to do the full formula you can tap on specific spots.
After I tapped a round with my prayer, I selected an oil to help facilitate the tapping as well as bring my system back into balance and focus on the task at hand.
Through the next round of tapping… that is when I discovered my true fears from the situation….I was then able to concentrate my next round of tapping with that intention.
As we enter into the Holiday’s, Thanksgiving being next week, there may be situations like this that come up. And we may feel like our boundaries are being infringed on.
Because honestly I think….”I TOLD YOU SO”….is a lack of respect of boundaries….as well as unloving.
So since some people don’t know how to NOT VOMIT their junk on us…..WE MUST SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES….to protect ourselves….to protect our health and well being….OUR SPIRIT!
Empower yourself today, this week, next week, always…..to set healthy boundaries so you don’t have to fearing hearing the dreaded: I TOLD YOU SO!
As always….pray….journal….tap….and oil up!
Blessings, prayers and hugs…
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