My Darling Daughter was sick this last week. I try desperately to not become overwhelmed when this happens but I think it is a mama instinct to get concerned. And if I am honest with myself it is compounded in knowing she is my only egg in the basket. Yet my walk with the Lord ALWAYS brings that initial gut kick into reality and rationality. It is now a turn around that happens within the blink of an eye.
But what this last week has taught me is I am going to truly up my anti in getting better nutrition in her! I know you’re going to say, “Wait a minute Kelly you are a nutrition freak! How can your daughter not be super healthy!?” She distastes veggies. I mean truly you can not get them in her if her life truly depended on it. I am not exaggerating.
She loves sugar….sweet really. She says she loves sugar mostly (I am convinced) to get my goat, because she knows my opinion on the white death stuff….lol.
Okay all kidding aside. She eats good protein, she loves fruit, potatoes, nuts. But she also LOVES pizza and hamburgers….WITH CHEESE!! Now at home that’s not a big deal. I can ensure it is all with gluten free stuff, grass fed cheese…etc…..but outside of the home!? Well that is a different story.
Why do I not harp or put my foot down about it!? Because I refuse to have her become a statistic of an eating disorder. Too many young girls use food at their punishment or weapon of choice. All in the name of control. It is the one thing they control and CONTROL they do. Eating disorders destroy lives….and unfortunately can take lives.
Do I worry about her health?! YES. I know she has some intolerance’s and food sensitivities. And she is even starting to recognize and acknowledge that dairy really isn’t the best for her. She definitely recognizes that bread sends her to the bathroom pretty quick. She understands all of it. BUT she is a hormonal pre-teen who wants to still insert her will.
My solution!? I am going to up my sneakiness. I am going to start really taking advantage of the day she is out of the house each week to create food I know she loves (like muffins, breads, desserts, pizza, lasagna, etc) with some sneaky things stuck in. I have done this in the past but I hadn’t learned some of the fine art of doing it real well before. I am getting much better now. She is also becoming more receptive to trying different things.
My biggest thing is to not get overzealous and add too much. I’ve done that in the past and it backfired. And I will say nothing. I will just go about my business and not mention that the banana muffins she just devoured had cauliflower in them. (All my baked goods are done with coconut flour and arrowroot so they already are gluten free….it’s just a matter of adding more nutrition!)
Cheese is the big one I will have to figure out. Yet I think she is tired of her eczema and her throat getting thick with phlegm that she may very well be at the point of mostly walking away from that. Only time will tell. 🙂
Some may say my sneakiness is deceptive. It’s lying. For me I truly believe it is about love. I love her too much to argue about what she doesn’t want. I love her too much to not try to help her get good nutrition in her with whole real food; even if I have to be sneaky about it. I love her too much to sit by and wonder if her immune system will throw in the towel like mine did last year. I will be proactive and help her genetics have a fighting chance……but with love…not force….with AGAPE LOVE!
Once lent is over hopefully I will have some really fun “sneaky” recipes I can share with everyone. My desire is to inspire all of us to figure out how to get our pound of veggies in us each day!
Have a glorious Sunday!
Hugs and blessings always,