Feast on Family

As I was reflecting on today’s readings I saw the theme of feasting…but not feasting on just any food!

We are to feast on wisdom….on true life: Christ!

When we do this then our moments of dryness in prayer and difficulty if life circumstances are more bearable because we have “life with in us!”!

Today reflect on what are you not only feeding your physical body but your spiritual body…..this is what will truly sustain you!

Many blessings and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

The Gift of the Assumption

She said yes!

She said she was enough!

She lived a life that the was the best version of herself!

She was MARY! The amazing mother of Christ!

Today as Catholics we celebrate the feast of her Assumption into heaven.

Years ago it was also the day we selected to baptize our beautiful baby girl to dedicate her and wrap her into Mary’s mantle. Ironically it was also my husbands birth moms birthday.

My prayer is as life in the Catholic Church is in an upheaval of pain once again, that we turn to Mary for healing and hope.

A mother wraps her arms around us and holds us when we are sad, when we are angry, when we want to give up.

A mommy says, “It will be okay…..we will get through this…”

And a mommy even gets angry and weeps with us but reminds us of the compassion and mercy and forgiveness that needs to be given to all!

I head out the door to celebrate mass with my beautiful daughter knowing God has it! Our prayers are the most important. And our not giving up when evil tries so desperately to overcome this world.

May you each find the joy of the Assumption today instead of the pain of the fall….

May you each find the oil and tapping that will support your prayer and pain….

And may we all be united in hope and healing!

My hugs and prayers always!

Kelly

PS…..

How often do you say yes to you?!

How often do you say you are enough?!

How often do you truly live your authentic life?!

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Holy Spirit: Show Me

The Holy Spirit is our first and number one advocate! The Holy Spirit is the example for us who are coaches, guides, advocates…to be that light and that support…..to never force or impose….only propose and pray!!!

Hope you’ll Join me today on Facebook for an amazing class full of fun and learning!!!

As always have an amazingly blessed day full of hope, healing and health!

And never forget: YOU ARE ENOUGH!

My hugs and prayers always…

Kelly

Essentially Empowered!

I pray your weekend is proving to be awesome….relaxing….not too much crazy back to school hustle!

As I have been writing this book…..it has been reminding me just how super important to continually fill myself up with goodness….prayer….EFT….using my oils…..empowering food choices…and intentional mindset.

But it also excites me because I have been able to really dig in and get involved with different people and entities.  We are going to be able to be of service and support to each other.

Internal work is a continual process….no one ever truly arrives!  This is not meant as a discouraging statement but rather an encouraging statement!  Meaning we constantly have the opportunity to:

BE THE BEST VERSION OF OURSELVES!!

I am so passionate about helping others understand and learn more about how essential oils can meet 80% of your health and wellness needs.

Your whole health: mind, body, soul, spirit!

This week I am offering 4 days with 4 different times a: SIMPLE ESSENTIALS 30 minute presentation that will empower you to start taking charge of your health.

You will gain transformation information to start your health journey of hope and healing!

What will you learn:
💧What is an essential oil.
💧How to use an essential oil.
💧Why to use essential oils, most importantly why sourcing matters.
💧What are the basic simple top 10 oils.
💧What are the two most popular ways to startup
💧How you can get started with me.

💜This presentation/class is about empowering you and informing you, so when you are ready to start your journey I’ll be here to support you, serve you, and bless you!

💜Until then I will hold all the intention of hope and healing for you!

💜I’ll be here to coach you every step of the way!

💧So let’s just start the conversation and learn what the heck all these oils are and how they can support your health….how they can transform your life!

So I hope you will join me one of the 4 days this week….because YOU ARE WORTH IT!

As always…please dear one remember….YOU ARE ENOUGH….and you are in my prayers…
Lots of hugs and blessings…
Kelly Frick

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CHAPTER 12: NAKED WITHOUT SHAME

Several months back I was able to finally attend a workshop…kind of like a day retreat…presentation by CHRISTOPHER WEST!!!

I truly felt like a school girl getting to meet her high school crush.  I have been an avid student of his information for over 15 years now!  He has shared the teachings of St. JPII in so many ways….to reach all all seasons of life….that he truly astounds me in his gifting.

After the day was over my hubby asked if I wanted to wait in the line to get a book signed.  Part of me wanted to but part of me felt great peace in knowing our paths would cross again.

It was because of his bringing to light the teachings of TOB (Theology of the Body) from St. JPII that I am able to bring you the next chapter of my healing journey!!

May this chapter bring you Hope and Healing on your Health Journey…..and to remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

My hugs and prayers always,

Kelly

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CHAPTER 12: NAKED WITHOUT SHAME

Shortly after speaking up for myself I had changed jobs.  It was spring of 2002.  I was commuting about 30 minutes each day to work.  I decided I would finally start listening to an audio book that had been sitting on my shelf for almost a year: “A Crash Course in the Theology of the Body: Naked Without Shame” by Christopher West.  This book utterly changed my life.

It planted a seed of within me of KNOWING I was more than my body.  I WAS beautifully, wonderfully made, AND that our sexuality should not be a source of shame and pain.

I remember as I drove back and forth to work, how I truly did not fully comprehend what he was saying.  But  there was something so internal within me that felt such peace, such freedom.  I felt a part of my pain and shame willing to break free.  I felt part of me beginning the healing process that I had no idea needed to take place.

I knew there was something amazing in these teachings.  Christopher West was taking the teachings of (now Saint) Pope John Paul II had been sharing with the world for many years during his Wednesday Audience addresses.

There were two seeds that this book planted during my drive back and forth to work for many weeks.

Seed one:  I can love my husband and enjoy our union without shame.  That we TRULY were made for more than our physical form….our physical gratification of give and take.

Seed two:  When we have children this must be the foundation of our children’s upbringing.

At the time I honestly did not pay attention to the details of who was the pope who had delivered this information that Christopher West was bringing light to all of us to know and learn from.

But I don’t find it coincidental that it was the same Pope we would be experiencing that year at the World Youth Day in Canada.

What I especially don’t find coincidental was how my husband and I had been learning more about our faith and fertility because of our own challenges with trying to conceive.  We were able to finally see the wisdom of the Church of being aware of our fertility thus including God in ALL aspects of our life, including the bedroom.

I became so passionate about understanding our fertility and how God had wisely empowered us to understand our cycles, to monitor our cycles, to respect our cycles and our union as husband and wife, I became a fertility practitioner for a short period of time.

This was all God’s amazing plan in opening my eyes to my hurt and pain of my past traumas and choices.  This was God’s way of beginning my healing in a way that I couldn’t have even imagined.

Do you find yourself questioning: what is our sexuality all about anyways?  Why is it so confusing?  Why do I feel so much shame?

Let’s take a look at the blend of: Douglas Fir, Marjoram, Forgive

Douglas Fir:  We just recently used this oil with addressing dysmorphia.  Now it is time to have this powerful oil help support us with the generational healing of how our Sexuality has become distorted.  Remember, Douglas Fir is about generational wisdom.  When we have knowledge we can learn from the past.  We can break free from the destructive traditions and behaviors of our families past.  We can bring new life and new growth and healing into our own life as well as to those in our future.

Marjoram:  Healing isn’t an easy task.  It means we have to let others in, trust others, connect!  Deep down we desire to connect with others…to let others in, but it means we have to let our barriers down.  Because deep down we desire intimate connections.  We don’t want to sabotage our relationships.  Marjoram softens our heart to allow trust to take place, to not be overly protective.

Forgive:  Here we are introducing our first blended oil, meaning it has several oils in this one.  This blend is about renewing.  We must desire to not only forgive those who have done us wrong but to forgive ourselves in all aspects of life choices.  When trauma especially has taken place it can be difficult to not view life with a cynical view.  When we are bold and brave to forgive we are able to break free from anger, bitter, judgement, resentment, and blaming.  We are able to truly open ourselves up to not fear love.  To not fear anything life has in store for us.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Oh Heavenly Father….I am ready to break down the barriers of pain, shame, judgement, bitterness, and all those emotions that hold me back from true freedom…true living….I know I must let go of the past….to not let the past behaviors of mine and of others to dictate my happiness and wiliness to connect with others….especially those whom I love and want to experience the fullness of their love….by your grace I know I can overcome these barriers and find the freedom to forgive…..and Lord if there is any part of me angry with you, please open my eyes to it….and help me to restore my faith and love with you…..because I KNOW I NEED YOU…..AMEN.

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Back to School: Power

I’ve been having so much fun on Facebook with a Back to School series….empowering and equipping our kiddos to love themselves and be the best version of themselves.

In this video I share all about how this months amazing gifts from dōTERRA supports our kiddos so beautifully.

Our kiddos have so much on their minds and in their hearts….and it can create yucky vibes and pressure within their system that’s just not healthy.

We want them to feel empowered. We don’t want them to feel like a victim ever. We want them to thrive!

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Did you watch and learn all about Litsea and Manuka?!? Aren’t they amazing!

I’ve been prepping for some empowerment workshops I was invited collaborate with for women and young girls. I’m excited to add these two oils to my collection to share with them!

So I just had to interrupt the book series here to share about this amazing great way to start your hope and healing journey in your health.

It would be such an honor for me to be your coach….your guide…your advocate. Im here to serve and bless you…..to share with you the beautiful amazing person you are….to be the best version of yourself!!

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Many blessings, hugs, and prayers always!!!

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Disordered: Mind, Body, Spirit

This was probably the hardest chapter to write so far!  Mostly because it is the area in my life that needs the most amount of healing still.  This is because it’s not just about me healing emotionally but because this involves a mental imbalance and it involves generational DNA.

I find it fitting and interesting that just this last week I had a trigger with dysmorphia.  I found myself obsessing, comparing, judging, and so much more.  Which reminded me: its a journey.  I MUST not give up.  I must not get lax.  I must not give into negative vibration.  AND I MUST continue to do the inner work to be the best version of myself to be that intentional disciple for others.

What was my trigger?  Social media selfies of friends.

I want others who don’t understand dysmorphia to maybe take a moment and see through our lenses for a moment and think before you post something.  And this is not just for us but for yourself as well.   Because every time we place ourselves out there to be looked at just for our physical flesh “accomplishments” we are making ourselves vulnerable to be coveted and lusted after.  Plus we are not building up the body of Christ by creating these temptations when we want to just vainly post our aesthetic accomplishments….

But please hear this…..this is not judgement…because I know some amazing people who post these selfies who truly don’t think they are doing harm….they think they are doing good….but let me help you see it from our lenses...

Dysmorphia sees:  I will never be that pretty….I am too fat….I will never be that thin….I am too short….I can’t go out with them because everyone will wonder why do they hang out with “her”…..I am ugly….there is something wrong with me…..I am not lovable….what did he/she mean by that comment?….

The mental chatter can be endless….

Those with dysmorphia do have a responsibility to minimize their triggers….but dear ones you do to!  We all have a responsibility as children of God to not lead anyone into sin….to not lead anyone deeper into their struggles.

So my challenge to you is to truly reflect before you post that selfie: is it going to draw your brothers and sisters in Christ closer to Him? or farther?  Is it going to draw YOU closer to Christ?  Is it helping or hindering your Christ walk?  Is it causing you to focus too much on your flesh and not enough on the spirit of your being?

May you all find this next chapter healing and full of hope….and may what I shared above cause us all to reflect in how we can truly be a better version of ourselves always….especially when it comes to being an intentional disciple!

My love, hugs, and prayers always!

Kelly 🙂

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CHAPTER 11: DISORDER

After speaking up it felt like I was finally free from being a magnet of sexual harassment and sexual grabs…..but very aware, actually hyper aware,  by this time in my life, the micro-looks of a pure look and a lustful look from ANY man.

I learned how to truly stay away from men, situations, and events that could make me feel vulnerable.  But by this time I was so self-conscience of my body that I still felt the need to “be perfect”  I just knew if I looked a particular way then maybe just maybe I wouldn’t attract the wrong men, I would love myself better, and I would finally find peace and freedom.

What I didn’t know was the years of being objectified had created a mental disconnect with my mind and body called dysmorphia. This actually took place at a young age.  There are many different factors that cause a young girl to develop dysmorphia at a young age.  This IS a mental condition that usually becomes obvious by the teen years.  A side note:  There is a huge difference between a girl just not liking what she sees in the mirror and moves on, versus dysmorphia.  With dysmorphia a girl looks in the mirror and doesn’t like what she sees and will go to extremes to change it.  Even avoid contact with others because she feels she is hideous looking.

I also experienced disordered eating.  Depending on how I felt I would eat to punish or not eat to punish myself.  If I did eat something that I deemed “wrong” or “too much” well then I would work out too much.  You see I wasn’t real keen on the throwing up part.  Don’t get me wrong if I felt I had eaten too too much….I would occasionally force myself to throw up but I knew too much about our health to know that the acid destroys the esophagus and destroys gut health, and so much more.  So my purge of choice was beating myself up at the gym for hours at a time.

Some women because of pain and trauma of sexual abuse hide behind weight I chose to hide behind punishment.  If I could master the chiseled body…the perfect diet…..I would then no longer be a victim of sexual distortions!  And that was the distortion in my own mind, heart and soul!

Do you find yourself obsessing over food? Exercise? Your Body?  Does this obsession take on a life of it’s own in your mind?  Do you sometimes wonder if it’s bigger than you?

Let’s take a look at the blend of: Serenity, Patchouli, Douglas Fir

Serenity:   Disorders….especially dysmorphia has a person’s mind not being quiet, being overactive in the negative chatter.  Serenity brings about tranquility.  It reconnects you with your inner self to find peace within.  It opens you up to acknowledge the imbalance and find space to reflect on your personal healing.

Patchouli:  Plain and simple dysmorphia is about body judgement.  There is such a deep need to find peace to be truly present in your body.  This oil is so amazing in releasing deep issues of judgement and feeling dirty from sexual abuse.  It is the oil of Physicality so it connects your body and spirit to become deeply united.  It opens you up to appreciate the magnificence of your body!

Douglas Fir:  There are many things in a girl’s life that can cause dysmorphia.  One of them is generational.  Having a mom or family member who has dysmorphia increases the likelihood of inheriting it.  Douglas fir is about generational wisdom.  When we have knowledge we can learn from the past.  We can break free from the destructive traditions and behaviors of our families past.  We can bring new life and new growth and healing into our own life as well as to those in our future.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Oh Heavenly Father….I know that I know that I know I AM MORE THAN THIS BODY….this BODY has served me so well….it loves me by holding me, carrying me through the day….breathing for me…beating for me…yet I am mean to it….I look at it and judge it….I compare it…..I hide it in shame…please break me free from the bondage of the past generations who did the same….break me of the pain of my abuse and how I view my body….help me to remember I AM NOT MY BODY…but most of all grant me peace to be truly present in this body and to love it fully as you love it…..AMEN.

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FAMILY, FRIEND, OR FOE

I was pondering the whole onion analogy from the last chapter I shared with you all and was thinking about how even as I write this book layers are continually being peeled away.

There have been several situations that I truly had forgotten about….they had been buried deep away in my psyche.  Yet as I write and continue to heal I will have glimpses, reminders, flashes….and aha healing!

May this next chapter bring you peace and healing on your own health journey of HOPE AND HEALING!

My prayers always!!!

~Kelly 😉

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CHAPTER 10: FAMILY & SPEAKING UP

Age 22 was a huge turning point for me.   There was a side of my family my husband had not met yet.  So we planned a trip for him to meet them.  We traveled many states.  It was an amazing delight for my hubby.  He experienced true ranching early in the mornings and breathe in the world in a totaling different light.  It should’ve been an amazing experience full of great memories.  Yet it ended up being tainted in a way that I never imagined.

By this time in my life I was very good at recognizing a person’s intent.  A persons respect or disrespect of our physical body.  I had been blessed up to this point to have never felt uncomfortable or betrayed by family.

Yet that was about to end.  I was washing dishes one day during our visit when a very close family member comes up from behind and grabs my butt firmly, turns me around then grabs my breasts.  It happened so fast that I truly didn’t have the words or the know how to even comprehend what just had happened.  Mostly because there was TONS of family right there in the room.  Everyone in the kitchen laughed it off as if it wasn’t a big deal.  Making comments like “he’s just getting old… senile… doesn’t know what he’s doing.”  But that’s not true.  How can that be?  Something I do know from the work I have done and the women I have helped over the years, as well as the men I have watched, there isn’t a single man who doesn’t know what he is or isn’t doing when it comes to things like that.

I am not sure why, maybe because it finally was family that had crossed the line, but I shared it with my husband.  It was too obvious to me that it was wrong that I didn’t feel like hiding from shame anymore.  I didn’t feel like I had done anything to warrant the advances.  Not like I had deserved any of the previous abuses but it was like the wool was finally pulled from my eyes.   My husband being angry was an understatement.  How he never said anything to this family member I have no idea.

Therefore when years later a similar situation took place I was finally ready to use my voice, to speak up for myself in a very bold way.  I had been working on a project with other youth ministers in our area.   I was in my mid-twenties.   After a long morning of planning and prepping for a big trip to take our youth on, we took a break. Ironically it was a trip to take our youth to Canada.  It was for World Youth day to “meet”, see, experience (now saint) Pope JPII!!!

When all the other youth ministers had left I had stayed in the room to visit with the lead youth minister to go over some details.  He grabbed my butt saying how I was looking good.  I was so taken aback.  I felt betrayed on so many levels.  He was a person I trusted not just because we knew each other, but because our families had gotten to know each other.  I had been helping him and his wife with different areas in their marriage.  And he was someone who was being trusted with our youth.   I took the counsel of a dear friend and a priest who both supported and encouraged me to speak up and file a report.  I felt so much guilt I felt such shame and blame.

I was so concerned with what would people think when and if they ever knew!?  I felt responsible for possibly destroying a marriage, a family.   He was removed from the position and this made it very real to me.   It took some amazing people supporting and counseling with me to help me not take on his shame and blame.  This was probably the next level of my healing because of the individuals who were there to support me and hear my voice and believe my voice.

What is super interesting to me is my very first Splanka session that ever took place (I will be dedicating a later chapter to learn all about Splankna) revealed this incident as the one I needed to heal from first.  I found it so interesting that the one time I had actually spoken up and boldly about being wronged was the one that was needed to be worked on first.  Of course knowing and understanding healing as I do now it is clear why.  Which is interesting that I didn’t recognize it right away, especially since I do have a background in psychology.  It is as simple as: we are onions.  And this was the first layer that needed to be peeled in order to get to the deeper, rooted wounds and scars.

Has a family member or close friend left you feeling robbed of your innocence; have you been aggressive in ambitions to avoid a healing path?

Let’s take a look at the blend of: Ylang Ylang, Cumin, Lemongrass

Ylang Ylang:   When abuse takes place within the folds of your own home it robs your innocence in a way that can be paralyzing.  Your Inner Child freezes and starts bottling up anger.  Ylang Ylang restores that innocence, in all situations really.  It is a powerful oil to release emotional trauma and bottled up anger.  It remedies the heart by reminding you of your intuition of what the heart knows.

Cumin: Abuse can get buried deep down and an individual can become obsessive and overly ambitious about work, careers, even ministry.  But it is all smoke screen to address the underlying fears.  Cumin surrenders us to not be attached to the outcome.  Even the outcome of speaking up about a wrong.  It addresses the underlying fear of not being valued.

Lemongrass:  When we are violated in all situations a cleansing needs to take place.  When it’s with family the cleansing is different, there can be hesitation.  A desire to brush it under the rug.  Lemongrass gently pushes us to enter into healing, to move forward without hesitation.  And reminds us to be committed to a healing path.  All the while cleansing our energy and our spirit.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father….heal my heart from this wound…..especially the wound of this person dear to me (insert name of family member or friend)….I trusted them….they betrayed my trust….I know I need to speak up yet I fear I will not be heard….I even fear they won’t love me anymore!   Help me to erase that fear…to overcome that fear….and as I begin my healing journey that I also lift them for their healing.   They too need healing.  After all why else would they think that their actions could possibly be okay?  Change their heart to turn to you……and heal my heart to be open to all the beauty YOU have for me to experience.  I desire to experience love in a childlike free, way.  I know with your help and grace I can and am free of free.  I am cleansed and healed!  Now I need to bring it from the head into the heart…..that is where I need you Lord.  In your most precious name….AMEN.

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Back on Track…

I’ve been so very aware of how beautiful and grown up my daughter is and looks recently.  I think it is because she is the age I was when I started dating and when I started to really make choices that mucky-ed the water between the moments that were true abuse and the moments that were choices because of the abuses.

Yet I have such peace because I know with my entire being that no matter what life throws at me or at her GOD IS BIGGER than it all.  So I truly don’t walk in fear anymore of anything!

I am able to truly experience the gift of JOY even in the midst of anything!

The next chapter of my book is the turning point of the story…..I MET MY AMAZING HUSBAND!  Oh there were still abuses that unfortunately took place for several more years….but now I had hope.  Hope that it would all end!

May this chapter provide healing and hope for you with your past abuses, traumas!

Many blessings and prayers always my dear one!!

Kelly 🙂

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CHAPTER 9:  A LIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DARKNESS

I was 18 when I met my husband.  We met shortly after I had completed boot camp.  I laugh to this day when I share the story of how upset I was with God for having introduced him to me so young.  I had plans.  I had my check off list of all I needed to do and accomplish before I was to meet the man I was to marry.  But really when I look back at it, I was hiding from the possibility of a true relationship.  I pretty much was at a place in life where I really wanted nothing more to do with men.  I had actually only started to have a glimpse during boot camp of sexual harassment and pressures, but enough to pretty much decide I really wanted NOTHING more to do with men.

So when I met my husband and I knew he was who God intended for me, I was scared!  Somewhere deep down my spirit knew it meant I was going to have to do some internal work and I wasn’t ready for it.   The work started even earlier than I could have imagined.   My darling husband and I connected with deep conversations pretty early on.  We felt free to talk and debate just about everything.  So it wasn’t too surprising to me when he asked me about my 1st sexual experience.   When I described it to him, he is the one who validated I had been raped. It was freeing to hear it out loud what I thought was true but there was so much confusion within me that I just didn’t know.  I had so much shame and hurt.

He was the beginning of ME feeling whole and feeling cherished and protected, but it came with baggage as well.  I felt I had to prove I wasn’t broken goods; that he wasn’t going to be saddled with someone who couldn’t be a wife in all manners.  So once again I allowed boundaries to be crossed.  Now since he was not raised the same way I was about faith and waiting for marriage to experience certain things crossing boundaries was not an issue for him.  He was the first man I said yes to.  I knowingly crossed the line before marriage. And it created yet another layer of shame and fear.

Even though I had met my husband at 18 it didn’t mean I was all of a sudden free from abuse and pain.  Between the ages of 18-22 I experienced probably some of the most overt of sexual harassments, looks, and comments.  The unwritten rule in the military, at least what I was taught as a woman by other women, was to not create issues or ripples unless you were truly raped, touched, or groped you were to take it  and deal with it.  Yes they had sexual harassment policies put into place but it truly felt like a he said/she said type of situation.   So even though these were some of my worst years of experiencing sexual harassment they were also my best years because I had my husband.  No I didn’t share with him all I dealt with, mostly because I didn’t fully understand the extent of it.  By this point in my life I was so numbed to this type of treatment I usually brushed it off.  Or so I thought I was brushing it off.

Has your past experiences left you feeling fearful, hopeless, and rigid?

Let’s take a look at the blend of: Peppermint, Lemon, Orange

Peppermint:   When sexual harassment becomes something your body thinks is “normal” or can’t change, it can difficult to give into fear, to feel intense pain, to feel heavy hearted.  Peppermint reminds us we do have the strength to face emotional pain.  However we must not over use it to escape from the pain, we must process the emotions so we can open our hearts to optimism and hope.

Lemon: Joy is foreign to a person who has trauma to process.  It’s easy to get lost in despair and hopelessness when your body has been used and abused.  Lemon not only opens us up to feel joy again but creates a clarity to focus on the Light of our life experiences rather than the dark.

Wild Orange:  It can be easy to become rigid and lack a sense of humor after sexual harassment.  Walls can go up wondering if every joke, every hug, has a double or underlying meaning.  Wild Orange reminds us we can be playful, we can be spontaneous.  Not every hug or joke is tainted.

Diffuse these three oils together or create a roller bottle so you can place them on pulse points.  These are especially powerful oils to tap with.  They will encourage amazing emotional release through your prayer and tapping.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, open my heart to not view every experience as the potential of something bad….remind that when I am with my husband I can be free, I can enjoy myself, I can experience our intimate relationship without fear….AMEN!

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